The Damaging Myth of Self-Help [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Feb 24, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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Welcome, everybody. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling books Emergence and The Abundance Project. I’m really excited to talk to you today about something that is, I think, one of the most damaging ideas in self-help and spiritual teachings, and that is this whole idea that everything should be flowy. I’m going with the flow. If things are hard, you hear people say, it might be a sign from the Universe it’s not meant to be. No. That is not the way the Universe gives signs.

If that was the case, nothing would have ever gotten done. You think it was easy for Lincoln or Elon Musk or Steve Jobs or Walt Disney or Thomas Edison or Jesus or Buddha or Krishna? Find one individual that’s ever done anything of value that it wasn’t really, really fricking hard, and that the hard, the challenging element of it, is what forged their characters in the fires of their own transformation. I dare you to find one example in history, including your Uncle Joe, who did something valuable that didn’t have to work hard.
We get this message, and we’ve been conditioned in a lot of the spiritual New Age airy-fairy kind of thing that tells us when it’s hard, when the doors don’t open and the windows don’t open, that must mean it’s the wrong path. If you have a desire, if that desire is still burning, you’re still on the right path. It’s because you were designed to get stronger through challenge, to build resilience. It’s time to get rid of our wishbone and get a backbone and let go of this magical thinking.

If you go to a gym, and you’re going to build your body up, do you go, let’s remove all the weights, because I don’t want to sweat? If it’s hard and sweaty, it must be the wrong workout routine. Of course not. It’s hard. Your muscles tear, but that causes them to grow back stronger. That’s how you were designed. If you go to a school, do you go, the only criteria is that it has to be easy? I can’t have any tests that I don’t know the answers to yet. It can’t have to cause my mind to have to work too hard and struggle. Of course not. You wouldn’t learn anything.

I talk about the 10 reps. If you go to the gym, and you can do 10 reps, which one is the hardest? People will say, it’s the first one, because I had to get my butt to the gym. Some will say it’s the tenth one, but actually, it’s the eleventh. It’s the one you can’t do, the one you think you can’t do. That’s the hardest one. Guess where all of the growth happens? In the eleventh rep and beyond. There’s no growth in the first 10 reps. That’s maintenance.

So, not only were you designed to do hard, but if you want to grow and have the life of your dreams, you must always find your edge, your eleventh rep. If you want to have what others don’t, you must be willing to do what others won’t. You were designed to do hard. When you do hard on purpose, with a vision, you will activate and develop your muscles, mental, emotional, physical, energetic, financial, creative, relational. You’ll get stronger and stronger and stronger, and your instrument will become a coil that can carry more capacity. You’ll go from being a 100-watt light bulb to being able to carry 1,000 watts. Because if you don’t work it out, if you open to 1,000 watts, it’s going to blow your coil out. But if you get strong by doing hard on purpose, you will develop the capacity for unlimited expression and abundance.

Until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny. 

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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The Commitment Code [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Feb 17, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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Welcome. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling books Emergence and The Abundance Project. I am super excited to talk to you about what I think is one of the most important principles that we can ever master and one of the most missing pieces to people that can’t quite make progress, get momentum, and succeed. I call it the Commitment Code. It’s all about commitment. You might be somebody that has got a lot of ideas, and you just don’t know which one to do, or you might be somebody like me. There’s a lot of things you’re interested in, and you’re afraid, if I choose one that might be the wrong one, and then I’m going to miss out on the others.

Sound familiar? That was me years ago. I had abilities at many different things. My mom, God bless her, told me when I was young, “Derek, you can do anything you put your mind to.” It turned out she was kind of right, and it was a curse, because then it was like, which one should I focus on? I used to wish I only had one interest, one passion, and I had many. After struggling for so many years doing a little bit of a lot and making a little bit of progress, but never quite getting momentum, I had this deep realization that that was my way of playing it safe. That was my way of really not trusting life. That was really a daily affirmation. I don’t trust life. I don’t trust myself, so I’m going to have a lot of irons in the fire, just in case life doesn’t really have my back, and just in case I’m a complete idiot, and I’m picking the wrong thing.

I realized that was what I was creating. I was constantly praying and affirming that unconscious prayer, that I can’t trust myself, and I can’t trust life. It said, pick a lane. Pick the thing that has the greatest charge, and if you give your all, if you commit to it fully, even if it’s the wrong thing, it will still eventually guide you to the right thing. As the old axiom says, to he or she who is wrong in mind, they do can do all the right things, it’s still going to turn out wrong. But to he or she who is right in mind, meaning they are sincerely committed. They believe. They trust. They could even the do wrong things, and it will still turn out right.

So, I basically decided that the Law of Emergence for me was the thing that had the most juice for now, and I made a commitment. For the next 18 months I was going to only focus on this, no matter if I got scared, tired, bored, if I fell under the shiny object syndrome, if I was sure something was better, or I was fumbling and stumbling and failing. No matter what, I was not going to stop. This might be aging me, but it reminds me of Young Frankenstein. The Gene Wilder character is in the room with the monster, and he tells Igor, “Don’t let me out of the room, no matter what.” He goes in there, and one second later gets scared and is banging on the door, “Let me out.”

That’s what happens when we commit to something. Everything, all the reasons why we didn’t commit, come up. I’m not good enough. I’m unworthy. Who the heck do I think I am? This is stupid. This isn’t working. They’re stupid. They’re not working. All of that is going to come when up you close the lid on the pressure cooker and start cooking. It’s called a chrysalis. It’s called a crucible of transformation.

As a result of doing that work, absolutely every reason that I was afraid of not making it, every reason why I hadn’t made it, my lack of focus, my lack of discipline, my lack of follow-through, procrastination, all the ways I diluted my power to play it safe, all of that came up, sure enough. Because I made that commitment, I got to do the work and heal and release and integrate all of the unconscious patterns, the hidden shadows. So, not only did I have more money and more possessions at the end of that 18 months, but I had more of me finally come out, and I had a greater possession of myself. I had developed the character of the kind of individual that is successful.

This is the key thing I want you to understand about commitment. Your conditions don’t determine your destiny, your character does. That’s why Confucius said, “All men are alike. It is their habits that separate them.” Conditions don’t determine destiny, character does. Your character is made up of your habits. Your habits are created by what you commit to consistently, and your commitment is based on your core value and vision. So, you want to have a strong vision anchored in your deepest values, and then you want to commit to a path and a practice for a period of time, no matter what. Remember that old thing, to the moon or bust? That’s what you want to do. When you do that, you will develop the character that puts your success on autopilot.

To Your Emergence!

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Derek

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How to Say Yes to Your Yes [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Feb 10, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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Welcome, everybody. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling books Emergence and The Abundance Project. I’m really excited to talk to you today about a phrase that I say a lot. It is really the foundation of everything I teach and the foundation of how I teach others to enroll people into their work. It’s called say yes to your yes. It’s the yes to success principle. It comes from really the Emergence principle or the Law of Emergence, a principle that I coined.

I’ll just back up for a minute to help you understand, if you don’t already, what is Emergence. What does is this really about? I talk a lot about the acorn, and the oak is already in the acorn. The apple tree is already in the apple seed. The butterfly is already in the caterpillar. When the conditions are right, the full potential of the seed emergence. When the conditions come into alignment with it, it emerges. When the acorn is feeling something, if it had consciousness, it’s like, there’s something more for me. It’s looking out at the field of oaks, and it’s feeling there’s something more. That feeling of something more, that resonance, is its yes. It’s the evolutionary impulse. It’s the emerging impulse. Sometimes it becomes an urgency of emergence.

For you, it might be that you see somebody, you meet somebody, or you hear about a book, or you hear about a program, and you know there’s something there for you. You don’t know exactly what it is always, but it’s this feeling. It’s this inner desire. It’s this inner resonance. It’s this something wants to unfold. I used to call it there’s a movement going on. That’s your yes. The way that we are meant to progress and unfold is by getting in touch with that yes, getting in touch with that desire, that resonance, which you get clearer and clearer on the more you do the work and pay attention and practice saying yes to it. Getting clear on it, and then saying yes to it. Getting clear on it, and then stepping out on it. Getting clear on it, and then going for it. Not waiting for the outer conditions to look like you’re being supported.

Because here’s the key, we’ve been conditioned backwards. It’s like, I’ll take the time to do the things I really care about when I have more time, or I’ll invest in my education or growth when I have more money or when the economy is better or when my spouse agrees or when my parents agree. I’ll go for this dream when I know I’m good enough. It’s exactly the opposite. The way life emerges is you feel the yes. You feel the resonance. You say yes to it. You step out on that invisible bridge, and something is activated, and something begins to unfold. Then that will bring up whatever else in the way. Then you step out on it, and it unfolds.

As you do that, you don’t sit down and write your book because you’re inspired, and then you wait to feel inspired. You do the thing you know you want. You activate the inspiration. You don’t just go to the gym when you feel like you’re ready to get pumped, and you have all the energy. You say yes to that desire to be in shape, and you activate the energy. You don’t just wait to feel loving, and then you love somebody. You know you want to love. You say yes to that yes, and you love, and you activate more love. That’s how it works.

Yes to the yes. Whenever I’m enrolling somebody in any program, I’m only doing two things, helping them get clear on their yes, and then helping them have the courage to say yes to their yes. Whenever I’m coaching somebody on anything, helping them get clear. What’s your yes in this relationship, this job, this area? They get that feeling, that resonance. Then helping them to have the courage to say yes, step out on that invisible bridge, and let life do the heavy lifting. That’s how your life unfolds. That’s how you get in alignment with the evolutionary of principle of life.

So, until next time, live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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Why Fear Is Your Best Friend [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Feb 3, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling books Emergence and The Abundance Project. I’m just so excited to talk to you today about this very important topic. I think it’s one of the most important topics, and that’s fear. I feel like there should be some music, or like the Jaws duh-nuh, duh-nuh. What I like to say is I want you to know why fear is actually your best friend. When you understand the reality that life is whole, that’s it’s not divided, that there really aren’t opposite powers competing against each other, good and evil. That’s just the polarities, the yin and the yang, the dark and the light, but they’re really two aspects of a whole. When you understand that, you realize everything is always conspiring for your good, if you know how to read the signs or have spiritual literacy or understand the signals in your body.

Fear is a critical one, because fear, other than the instinctual fear, like you’re walking down an alley, and you get a cold feeling in your body, and you duck into a little café, and then you read the next day that somebody was mugged. There’s that instinctual fear that we want to absolutely always honor, but then there’s the fear of doing things or the fear that we’re going to fail, or the fear that we’re not worthy or valuable or lovable, or we’re going to make a mistake, fall on our face, or we’re not going to be able to pay our bills. That fear is a signal. It’s telling you that you’re believing a lie. Always.

Fear points to a lie that you’re believing, like I don’t have enough. I can’t afford it. I’m going to go broke. Nobody loves me. The lie points to a deeper truth, a principle, a truth principle. Like I’m broke, I don’t have enough points to a spiritual principle that really and truly you have infinite abundance, that you are supported, and you are supplied like all of nature. So, fear points to a lie that directs you back to a truth that you are being called to apprentice under. Instead of I’m afraid I’m going to go broke, and then you get really busy trying to make money, and basically your daily practice becomes worry, worry, struggle, struggle, worry, worry, struggle, struggle, and you just manifest more worry and more struggle, because you think that there’s something wrong.

When you understand that the fear is pointing to a lie that’s pointing to a truth principle that you are being called to apprentice under, now you take your attention. Say, thank you, fear, for showing me my lesson for the day. Then you look at the truth, and you practice that principle. You practice it through affirmation, through meditation, through contemplation. Then you say, if I believed I truly was abundant, I truly was supported, how would I show up today? How would I treat myself today? What would I do today? Now you’re bringing yourself back into alignment, and as you take that action you begin to activate the innate abundance. You begin to bring forth what is seeking to emerge from you, and your life goes to a new level.

So, whenever you’re feeling fear, you don’t want to react to the fear. It’s like falling into the quicksand. If you react too quick, it’s going to pull you deeper. You look at the fear as a signal. You ask, what’s the lie it’s pointing to? Then you go, what’s the deeper truth that it’s calling me to apprentice and practice under? Then you ask the question, if I believed this truth, how would I treat myself today? How would I treat others today? How would I show up today? Then you practice that. If you do that day after day, you will activate and integrate a whole new level of wealth consciousness or health consciousness or love or whatever you’re working on and step by step take your life to the next level.

Until next time, remember, live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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Do I Need To Know Business To Be Successful [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Jan 27, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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Welcome. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling books Emergence and The Abundance Project. I’m just so glad that you’re here right now, as I’m just in this conversation that really lights me up, around being a thought leader and what it means, what it looks like, how to do it, and how to do it in a way that you can make a living, so you can keep funding your vision and not have to be distracted by so many other things. One of the common questions that comes up is because a lot of thought leaders are heart-centered spiritually inclined. They’re creators. They’re more visionary. One of the questions that comes up is I’m not an entrepreneur. I’m not a businessperson. I don’t have a business. I don’t know how to run a business. I don’t want to run a business. I hate technology. Whenever I open a spreadsheet, I have to lean up against something, so I don’t slip into a coma, or I find myself at the freezer eating Ben & Jerry’s Chunky Monkey. What am I going to do? Maybe that was a little too much information I revealed about myself there.

Here’s the thing. I didn’t know anything about business. I rejected business. My dad was a businessman growing up. I was an artist, and I used to joke that my artist heart and his business head never met. He thought Pearl Jam was something you put on toast, and I thought DOW Jones was his business partner, Mr. Jones. The last thing I wanted to do was build business. I talk about this in other videos, and I really want you to understand. I didn’t know how to do any of this. What I did know was who I really was and why I was really here. I got clear on how my life had prepared me for something very specific through doing the Life Code process that I developed. I’m going to show you how to do the same.

When I got clear on that, and I began to speak from that unique message, that unique gift, that unique life’s work that had been hidden in my life story, even though I didn’t know what I was doing, and I really didn’t, I just shared it. I just posted. I got on calls and spoke about it, and people came in droves, because it turns on this homing beacon that makes people realize you have something that I want or need. It sells itself. They ask you, how can I get it? Where can I get it? Where do I sign?

So, that’s the first thing to understand. Life is much more simple than we’ve made it. The Universe isn’t going, I’d love for you to be a successful thought leader. I’d love you to monetize your gifts, but you’re going to have to get an MBA. You’re going to have to learn about business. No. Just like the oak tree is already in the acorn, and the acorn doesn’t have to go into oak tree school. It just has to surrender to the soil and allow the conditions to meet it. When those conditions match the seed of purpose in you, everything you need will emerge. In your seed is your clients, is your readership, your audience, is the knowledge you need, is the guidance, the direction, the clarity, the right action, the abundance. It’s already in you. You brought it all with you.

I really want you to hear that. You’re not missing anything. Everything you need to be all that you were created to be, to be it successfully, to make money, to make a difference, you brought it with you. I’m going to show you how to begin to bring it out. You don’t have to know technology. I’ll show you the things you need to know, and I’ll show you how to learn them step by step. More than being the sage on the stage, I’m going to be the guide on the side, so that I can help you discover your leadership, help you discover your authority, help you discover just how powerful you are, and help you to learn to no longer lean on the resources, but to lean on the Source, this Source of wisdom and power and genius and abundance within you. I’m telling you, when you get tapped into that it is game on, and you can tell fear it’s game over. I’m telling you what I know.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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How do I know if I’m on the right path? [Podcast]

by sublimity-001-main | Jan 20, 2020 | 2020, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business

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It’s often hard to know if the guidance we’re getting is coming from our ego or our spirit. We have so many ideas and possible directions to go, but no clear way to discern what’s right. In this podcast, I break down the process from finding your right path — and creating the kind of momentum that you need to succeed!

To Your Emergence!

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Derek

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