(BONUS EPISODE) Always Be Planting: How to Harvest Your Past and Seed Your Future

(BONUS EPISODE) Always Be Planting: How to Harvest Your Past and Seed Your Future

Greetings, my fellow Emergineers, it’s great to bring you another very important topic, ‘Always be Planting: How to Harvest Your Past and Seed Your future.’

The first thing to understand is that you’re always planting, and you’re always reaping what you’ve planted in the past.

The thought, the word, the action, the seeds you’re planting in this moment are the potential fruit of your future moments, and every now moment is the fruit of your past planting. There is no other element that enters into the equation.

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As you sow, so shall you reap. I don’t reap what you’ve sown, and you don’t reap what I’ve sown.

As you begin to realize that, you can take full responsibility for this moment because this moment can’t be more or less than what you’ve sown or planted before. This means that nobody else has ever or can ever determine the quality of this moment, the fruit in this moment, but you.

The good news is no matter what harvest you find yourself with right now, whether it’s a harvest of sweet fruit or sour and bitter fruit, or just a lot of weeds, that you can always begin to sow a whole new crop. You’re never stuck with whatever’s just there. You can absolutely begin sowing again.

I invite you to identify one area of your life that may needs a little cultivation. Does it need watering, weeding, feeding, or seeding?

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(Bonus Episode) ASK DEREK – Why Aren’t My Prayers Answered?

(Bonus Episode) ASK DEREK – Why Aren’t My Prayers Answered?

This is a very powerful and personal question that I’m sure many of you have had. I’ve certainly been asked it many times and have asked myself this many times…

From the Emergence model and the perennial truth teachings, whatever is missing is what you’re not giving. The whole of ultimate reality is in your soul and your consciousness.

So if you are praying for something, trying to get, attract, achieve it or draw it to you, and using prayer either as a supplication or beseeching of something outside of you, you’re already praying amiss, because true prayer is an activation.

Prayer is an opening through and as which you get to express more of the infinitude that is within you. You’re never praying for anything, you are praying from the thing itself. You touch reality.

The core idea is that it’s already here, and I’ve used the radio analogy a lot to help explain this… The music is already broadcasting right where you are, but it’s not manifest until you tune your dial into the vibrational frequency of the station where the music is playing. When your vibration matches the vibration of the station, that station becomes manifests. It’s a manifest-station.

The music was already broadcasting. It wasn’t in the future. It wasn’t in the distance. It wasn’t even potential. It was potential in terms of your experience, but it was actual in terms of the dimension in which that music was broadcasting that actuality became manifest when you came into integrity with it vibrationally.

You must come into integrity; you must pray believing you already have in order to receive it. If you pray not believing you have it, it still gets activated, but you can’t receive it yet until you believe you have it.

As I’ve talked before, every sincere prayer, desire, and affirmation you’ve ever said, in that moment, that potential, seed of possibility, is activated. It’s deposited, but now the work is that you must come into alignment with it.

Listen to the podcast episode above for the full explanation and learn how you can put it to work in your life TODAY.

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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Derek Rydall here, and welcome to another episode of Ask Derek. As part of the Emergence series, we’re diving into this very powerful and very personal question that I’m sure many of you have had, and I’ve certainly had it asked me many times and have asked myself many times – Why aren’t my prayers answered? Again, I need to make the disclosure that when I talk about prayer and God and Biblical quotations and all of that, this is not a religious or dogmatic or doctrinal conversation. It’s always a conversation about principle. Praying is based on principle. In fact, when it doesn’t work, it’s because we’re not in league or in integrity with the principle. Now, that doesn’t mean that there’s not an element of devotion and that your heart and your body and your whole soul is not involved in all of this. That is indeed part of the principle, too.

One of the principles, of course, of manifesting is you must create the congruent conditions for that seed of potential to grow. If the soil is not cultivated in a way that is congruent with the kind of seed, that seed doesn’t grow or doesn’t thrive. The same thing is true with us. One of the elements of creating the conditions for your life to thrive has an element to do with devotion and feeling and all of that. When I say this is all about principle, I don’t mean it’s all clinical and dry, and that there’s no heart, emotion and soul involved, because indeed that’s a part of the principle of congruent conditions. I just want to make that clear. We’re talking about prayer. For some of you, you may like to pray. Most Americans and a large percentage of the world’s population does, in some way, pray. A great deal of individuals don’t really know what prayer is, don’t really do it in a way that is effective. That might seem like a very bold statement when you really begin to understand Emergence. So I’m going to break down a few reasons why your prayers aren’t answered.

One of the main first reasons is that from the Emergence model, remember, whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. From the Emergence model, and just from the model of truth, the perennial truth teachings, the Kingdom of Heaven is within you. Nirvana is within you. The Tao is within you. The Atman is within you. The whole of ultimate reality is in your soul and your consciousness. If you are praying for something, trying to get it or attract it or achieve it or draw it to you from some God up in the sky or from some person, place or thing out in the world, and you’re trying to use prayer either as a supplication and beseeching of something outside of you or to use it as a practice or a law to try to get, achieve or attract, you’re already praying amiss, because true prayer is an activation. It’s the practice of touching the nature of your being. It’s the practice of touching the thing you are seeking. Through that touching of it, activating of it, steering that divinity into activity, striking that mystic chord of memory and allowing that which was always in you but was latent to now become active.

Prayer is an opening through and as which you get to express more of the infinitude or as the poet, Robert Browning said, the imprisoned splendor already in you. That’s why I say you’re never praying for anything, you are praying from the thing itself. You touch reality. You touch love and then you pray love. As the native American statement goes, You don’t pray for rain; you pray rain. You pray rain. The whole rain dance idea is the idea that they’re getting into a vibrational match with the mental, emotional, spiritual, physical condition as if they already have the rain, as if the rain has already soaked the ground and the seeds were already sprouted, and the harvest has already come. They’re celebrating it. If it’s going to work, that’s what has to take place. It’s a celebration that the rain has come, that the harvest is full, that the fields are white unto harvest, and all is fulfilled and well and wonderful. Now, let’s dance and affirm and celebrate that life is totally for us, that the rain and all of nature is working in harmony. Do you see the difference?

That’s why Jesus said, When you pray, pray believing that you already have it, that you may receive it. That wasn’t a metaphysical trick to attract it. It was a mystical truth that you already have it. Clearly, it wasn’t a beseeching of some God outside of you. If Jesus was teaching that there’s a God separate from you, why would he say pray believing that you already have it, that you may receive it? What would that matter? If I’m asking somebody for something, could you give me a bit of information or a name, or something, somebody separate from me, would I need to first know that I have it before I ask for it? No. If it was separate from me, I would ask for it and get it. He’s giving us a lesson in principle. He also said the Kingdom of Heaven was within us, which is a shocking missed opportunity by the vast majority of good-hearted, good Christian, God-loving, or God-fearing people. They don’t even understand that most basic principle that Heaven is within you. That’s what the man actually taught. I mean if we just got that much, if we just got that basic foundation that he said the Kingdom of Heaven is within you. It’s not a place; it’s a state of consciousness, and we know that he also taught that when they’re like when it’s going to come; what’s it’s going to look like? He said, It will not come by observation. It will not be lo here or lo there, for behold the Kingdom of Heaven is within you, and the Kingdom of Heaven is at hand now, but having eyes, you cannot see; having ears, you cannot hear it. This is what the great mystics and masters have been teaching us, all of them, that it’s already within us, and it’s already here now. It’s just that it’s here incorporeally or invisibly or vibrationally or spiritually.

All of these tools and techniques are not to attract or achieve something, but to make that which is always happening manifest. That’s the real meaning of manifestation. It’s making that which is already now visible, or tangible, or audible. It’s not about making something that isn’t suddenly be. That’s an impossibility when you understand Emergence or the quantum field or mystical truth teachings. You can’t make something that isn’t coming to be. You can only make that which already is manifest. Now, understand when I say that which already is, it’s not like there’s this realm of perfect forms and there’s like Ford Mustangs and Mercedes Benz and Ferraris and beautiful houses in Mulholland Drive – no. It’s spiritually, because spirit is infinite and eternal. It’s not in time or space. The spiritual ideas and forms are not human forms. So, it’s not like there’s a bunch of cabbages and kings, and castles and things in consciousness. It’s a Divine idea or pattern and a vibrational frequency and a quality. It’s a unique expression of the love, and the joy, and the peace, and the qualities of reality. All of that is already here according to your uniqueness, your unique pattern. When you pray love or pray joy or pray abundance, it’s going to manifest that love, joy, and abundance that is already here, but according to your unique pattern. Like pushing a bunch of pure pasta substance through a pasta machine, and it comes out very different depending on the filter you’ve got on the end, okay?

Now, I may be really going down the rabbit hole for you now. You’re like, I just want to figure out why my prayers aren’t getting answered, and you’re like tripping me out here and talking about pasta makers and going from Jesus to pasta makers. That’s quite a broad spectrum of metaphors and analogies there, Derek. Hopefully you’re having a little fun; you’re getting it from a lot of different angles. The core idea is that because it’s already here, and I’ve used the analogy a lot, which is just such a great analogy, of the radio. The music is already broadcasting right where you are, but it’s not manifest until you tune your dial into the vibrational frequency of the station where the music is playing. When your vibration matches the vibration of the station, that station becomes manifests. You have a manifestation, right? It’s a manifest station. The music becomes manifest. It was already broadcasting. It wasn’t in the future. It wasn’t in the distance. It wasn’t even potential. It was potential in terms of your experience, but it was actual in terms of the dimension in which that music was broadcasting that actuality became manifest when you came into integrity with it vibrationally. This is what Jesus is teaching when he says, Pray believing you already have that you may receive. This is where prayers are answered, when your prayer is an attaching of ultimate reality, of the thing you want and an activation of it, but not in any way, shape, or form seeking something separate from you.

Now, I’m going to do a sidebar or a caveat to this. It doesn’t mean that those prayers on your knees, in those darkest hours, when your back is against the wall and your heart is breaking and your body is aching and your bank account is empty and all of that, that you cry out God, somebody, if there’s anybody out there, help. It doesn’t mean that those aren’t answered. I want you to understand this. Those are activating something too. However, most of the time, they’re activating the potential, but you have not yet created the congruent condition internally for that potential to manifest. It’s like that gets answered and deposited in your Divine trust account, but it does not yet get released to you until on some level you come into integrity with it. Does that make sense? Because it’s the same principle, you must come into integrity; you must pray believing you already have in order to receive it. If you pray not believing you have it, it still gets activated, but you can’t receive it yet until you believe you have it. Do you see that? As I’ve talked before, every sincere prayer, desire, affirmation, your back against the wall, you’re like there’s going to be a better way, please show me a better way, in that moment, that potential, that seed of possibility is activated. It’s deposited, but now the work is that you must come into alignment with it.

Now, an important thing to understand – because it’s been activated, now it’s going to start trying to move you into alignment with it. It’s going to start working you and trying to transform you, and what that can start to look like sometimes is things you used to do don’t work anymore. There’s an increasing amount of pain and suffering when you think the same old thoughts or do the same old habits. Why? Because you’re living in a world and trying to manage life in a paradigm that’s smaller than the paradigm or the possibility or the potential that you’ve activated. It starts to work on those structures mentally, emotionally, physically, vibrationally that are no longer congruent with what you’ve activated. You may not even remember you activated it. You are on your knees in a dark hour when you said, Oh, God, please help. Somebody help me. I need to figure out a way to have more abundance. I need to figure out a way to heal my life, whatever. Now that’s working on you, at first, it might seem like, Why hast thou forsaken me,because things are getting worse, but what’s happening is you’re still trying to hold onto the old structures when you’ve activated a larger life, okay?

Now, that’s also why even we pray aright, even when we pray from the place of integrity, when we pray believing we’ve already got it, things can sometimes seem to get worse before they get better. We don’t understand that the answer to our prayer is coming by means of transformation. You pray to be more patient, and you pray and you touch the vibration of love and patience, and you know it’s done. It’s not a beseeching prayer. It’s not a supplication prayer. You know it’s done. Well, the Universe doesn’t necessarily just go, pop, you’re patient. In some cases where you’ve really activated it, you’ve really caught it, you might have a moment where there’s a dramatic shift in perception and an old structure is just disintegrated, and you’ve got it. That’s more the exception to the rule. The principle usually means, now you’ve activated it, you came into alignment with it, now still you’re going to find yourself in circumstances where you’re going to have to work out the muscle of patience. Suddenly, you’re in rush-hour traffic every day, and you’re angrier than ever before and you’re like, What went wrong with my prayer for patience here? Well, nothing. You’re being now called to go into training into the inner workout room of the Universe where you do resistance training. You’re lifting the weights of rush-hour traffic and lifting the weights of that integrated anger and frustration and victimization. You’re now coming back to that prayer for vibration and continuing to re-anchor the patience or the peace, until you embody it. Because in this world to manifest at a certain level, we have to exercise that particular quality until we have built it in, until we’ve grown in in the very sinew of our being.

That’s why sometimes our prayers don’t seen answered. That’s why some of our problems are actually answered prayer. They’re giving us that opportunity to train and to own it and to embody it. Again, sometimes, if the fire of that moment of realization is strong enough in prayer, it can be so powerful that it just where it was this red as crimson, now it is as white as snow. In other words, in a holy instant, you’re redeemed. Those structures are dissolved and transmuted and redeemed. Absolutely, that can happen. With a deep enough prayer and meditation practice, that can perhaps happen more often. In the majority of the cases, in all that I’ve seen and experienced and historically speaking, it’s a process. The prayer is like you planted the seed. You planted it in fertile soil by knowing it’s done. You watered it and weeded it and fed it and shined the light on it. Now you let it do its thing. That begins to gestate and germinate, and over a period of time it eventually breaks through the surface and reveals that new bud and that plant, and eventually the flower and the fruit.

Now, another little side sort of piece to this is that sometimes we’ve prayed a prayer, and we’ve prayed it powerfully, and then because it doesn’t manifest quickly enough, we go and we dig that seed up. We go, Did I plant this right? We looked at it, pulling up other roots again, and we actually stopped the process. You never pray, try to go back, and pray the same prayer a second time. Well, it doesn’t mean you don’t pray about the same thing a second time, but it’s not a second time, it’s a brand new first time. If you really feel the Divine impulse to know the truth and to pray, and it’s moving through you, you pray it again, but it’s the first time again. If you are trying to go back and pray your prayer, and then you’re looking for the results and the fruits, and then questioning it and doubting it, that’s like you’re pulling up the seed vibrationally. If you’re inspired, because it’s still pushing your button, and it’s still bothering you, the issue, and you’re inspired to go back in and know the truth again and do the work to touch ultimate reality and own it, that’s the first time again. You might have to do that a thousand times, but that’s not a thousand different prayers.

I want you to hear this. That’s not a thousand different prayers; that’s the same prayer and maybe by the thousandth time, you actually finally get it. Then, bam! The manifestation happens or begins to happen. Because true prayer, in its most literal and fundamentalist sense of principle, when you’ve truly done it completely, it’s done. It’s done for eternity, meaning you’ve touched ultimate reality, you’ve activated the timeless, dimensionless, eternal nature of the truth of your being. Now, that’s unfolding throughout all eternity. Nothing can stop it. What God has wrought, no man can put asunder. Heaven and earth may pass away, but my world shall never pass away. This is speaking of the principle. When you touch reality and activate reality, that prayer is ongoing forever until it fulfills itself. The sooner you get to say the prayer over and over and over again, and it’s the first time every time, but you’re activating the same prayer. Again, I hope this isn’t too far down the rabbit hole, and this was way more than I planned on getting into at the most basic level to understand why your prayers aren’t answered.

It’s because A, you’re praying for instead of praying from, or, B, you are praying the prayer but then mentally or emotionally or your physical habits are not congruent or in integrity with the prayer you’re praying. You’re praying for abundance, and then you go on and have conversations and thoughts and feelings of lack, limitation, worry, doubt, fear and your mental or physical habits are those the person in lack and limitation. You are not in integrity. You are a house that is divided. You are serving two masters – God and Mammon, the truth and the lie, abundance and lack. Do you see what I mean? You’re a house divided, and a house divided cannot stand. It has no structural integrity. That’s why the prayer is not manifesting. You have to come into integrity with it. The other thing why it doesn’t appear to be answered is it’s working you. It’s developing you. It’s transforming you. It’s redeeming you so that you become a fit and strong enough instrument to manifest that prayer.

I invite you to listen to this again to see where you fall on this scale and to begin to reengage your prayer life with another level of fervor and devotion and precision, because it’s principle. It’s not personal. It’s not luck; it’s law. You want to begin to engage, and not with just a blind faith or a blind devotion, but with a level of conscious methodology. Life doesn’t just happen; it happens just. It happens through law, so there is love, and there is law. The devotional absolute commitment and connection is beautiful, and you want to make sure you’re practicing in principle, because you could be the most loving good person but if you’re not in principle, it’s not going to work. It’s like I’ve used the analogy you could be a most loving good person, but if you don’t know the laws of buoyancy and you dive into a deep lake, you’re going to drown. If you’re a loving good devotional person, but you get in in a plane and try to fly it but you don’t understand the laws of aerodynamics, you’re going to crash. If you stick your finger in a light socket, you’re going to get electrocuted, because you’re not in integrity with the laws of electricity. It’s not personal, it’s principle. Understand the principle, practice it. I hope this has served you. Until next time. Remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.

(Bonus Episode) Why You Can’t Get What You Don’t Have

(Bonus Episode) Why You Can’t Get What You Don’t Have

There’s life and there’s life experience, and life (which is a synonym for God, or love, truth, universal power, spirit, etc.) is all that there really is.

Life is forever unfolding and expressing. It’s giving of itself everywhere, maintaining and sustaining its own perfection eternally.

You are a unique individualized expression of this infinite life. You and the truth of you is already a done deal. You’ve already made it. You’ve already arrived. You’re already a success. Your life is already fulfilled.

You’ve already made it. You’ve already arrived. You’re already a success. Your life is already fulfilled.

This is the fundamental truth of all being.

But we’ve been conditioned to believe that life is an outside-in game, that we are separate from life, from each other and from all the things we want. So much of how we’ve developed and conditioned our mind, emotions and our body to live in this world are based on beliefs and concepts that are contrary to the way life really operates.

The mechanism by which you experience this infinite, eternal pattern of good, is by your own conscious awareness of it.

In order to express something, you have to already have it. In order to have something in your life, you have to express it.

You cannot experience what you’re not willing to express. You cannot express what you don’t consciously have, or as the Law of Circulation says, you cannot give what you don’t have; you cannot keep what you don’t give, and you cannot sustain what you don’t receive. It’s circulating, but it has to come from within you.

Listen to the podcast episode above for the full explanation and learn how you can develop that inner consciousness of having in your life TODAY.

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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the best-selling book, Emergence. It’s just such an honor and pleasure to be with you again on this journey of emergence as we take this deep dive into the core universal success principles. Those principles that when we align our life with them begin to naturally, organically and even effortlessly bring forth our greater potential in every area of our life. We’re talking today about why you cant get what you dont have. Why you cant get what you don’t have? It’s interesting that so many of these spiritual principles are so ironic and counterintuitive when you first hear them. Obviously, it doesn’t immediately make sense to say that you cant get what you don’t have, or I could even say you can never have what you don’t already have. It’s purposefully ironic, and also it’s just the way these tend to sound to us because they are counter. It’s not so much that they’re counterintuitive. They’re counter programming. They’re counter cultural conditioning. We’ve been conditioned to believe that life is an outside-in game that we are separate from life and from each other and from all the things we want. So much of how weve developed and conditioned our mind and our emotions and our body to live in this world are based on beliefs and concepts that are counter, literally contrary to the way life really operates.

Most of what weve learned is unfortunately 180 degrees in the opposite direction of how life was actually designed to work. It’s one of the reasons that there is so much pain, suffering, lack, and limitation on this planet. In fact, when you look at the word evil, its live spelled backwards. So, when you live backwards, or live in opposition to the natural principles, you create, you manifest, you experience what the world calls evil and all of it’s many forms and faces. Why you cant get what you dont have is because theres life and theres life experience, and life which is a synonym for God, or love, or truth, or universal power, higher power, the great spirit. By all these different names, it’s the same thing. This one infinite, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent spirit, this one infinite intelligence that is giving off itself everywhere, that created everything out of its own being and is maintaining and sustaining its own perfection eternally, thats all that there really is. This ground of being, this order, this harmony, this wholeness, this perfection, but its nature is infinite, immortal and eternal, so its forever unfolding. It’s forever expressing. It’s already done. It’s already here. Its already now. This is what one of the master teachers, Jesus, meant when he said that theyre asking when is heaven going to come and what its going to look like, and he said, It will not come by observation. It will not be lo here or lo there, meaning its not going to be over there or over here. It’s already at hand. It’s already within you. He was saying it’s not in the future, it’s not in the distance, it’s already here.

Heaven is another name for ever-expanding good, for the realm of wholeness and harmony. It’s already here he said, but having eyes you see not, having ears you hear not. Elsewhere, he said, Do not judge by appearances. He was saying that all these things youre seeking for, all these things you’re wanting and needing, youve already got it. Its already here, but because you’re judging by appearances, and appearances dont tell you the truth, they just tell you what your belief is. They are projection of your relative perception of the infinite perfection. I’ll say that again, everything that appears is a relative perception of the infinite perfection. There is this infinite perfection. This infinite is life itself. It’s already whole. It’s already complete. It’s already done. It cannot be improved upon. It cannot be diminished. There’s nothing separate or outside of it that can enter in to corrupt it ordestroy it. Life is love, peace, joy, beauty, abundance, wisdom, genius, harmony, order, all of the good of the universe is. It uniquely is knowing itself as an infinite variety of ideas that you are one of.

You are a unique individualized expression of this infinite eternal life. You and the truth of you is already a done deal. You’ve already made it. You’ve already arrived. You’re already a success. Your life is already fulfilled. As it says in the Bible, Who by taking thought can add one cubit to their stature? What God has wrought, no man can put asunder. This that is true about you is eternal, is enduring, can never be destroyed, diminished and can never be improved upon. It’s complete. Its perfect, okay? This is the ground of all being. This is the fundamental truth of all being. Behind every appearance, there is an infinite immortal, eternal activity of truth, a perfect pattern of infinite potential, of infinite expression, of infinite idea. You cannot make stuff happen. You cannot add anything to life, but this infinite life is always enfolding, okay? That’s the foundation.

Why is it true that you cant get what you dont have? Because you do already have it, but the mechanism by which you experience this infinite, immortal, eternal pattern of good that is your true self, the way you experience it is by your own conscious awareness of it. Thats the mechanism by which infinity unfolds. If there wasnt a mechanism, there would just be all infinity expressing everywhere and there would be no experience. Like if you take a camera, and you open the aperture and just leave it open, there will be no picture. Itll capture no image. It will just be flooded with light. Itll overexpose it, and there will be nothing to look at. It opens up for a split second, captures a little bit of light, a little bit of the scenery, projects it on to the film, you develop it or put it on your computer, put a frame around it, whatever youre going to do with it, and that is a picture and an experience of reality. The same is true for your consciousness. Within you is the whole Kingdom of Heaven, the whole of Nirvana, the whole of the Tao, the Christ consciousness, the Buddha field, the whole quantum field, infinite good of every name and nature. Its uniquely composited as a divine idea that is unfolding as you, but it cannot be experienced and expressed except to the degree that you are available and aware of it.

This is why the Scriptural passage says, You shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free. It doesnt say the truth just makes you free; you have to know it. Lets be conscious of it. As Ive used the analogy, youre surrounded by electricity, truly infinite energy, but it doesnt do you any good until you develop the structures to harness it, and you plug in. The same is true with our consciousness. Were developing the inner structures to capture or to hold more and more of this infinite energy of our being, this infinite pattern of our perfection. We are consciously activating and expressing and allowing it to flow out of us into experience and expression. In order to express something, you have to already have it. In order to have something in your life, you have to express it. You cannot experience what youre not willing to express. You cannot express what you dont consciously have, or as the Law of Circulation says, you cannot give what you dont have; you cannot keep what you dont give, and you cannot sustain what you dont receive. Its a circuit. Its a cycle. Its circulating, but it has to come from within you. You have to have a sense of having. It also says in the Bible, To he who has, more shall be given, and it shall be multiplied. To he who has not, even that which he has will be taken away. This is a statement of consciousness. Its talking about the have consciousness.

Again, this is not religious. If youve never listened to me, I have to say this. These are not statements of religion when I use scripture, whether its Buddha or Jesus or Quan Yin or Shankara or Lao Tzu or whoever. Its principle. Its not personal. Its not religious in the old sense. Its principle. Religious in the true sense, because religion comes from a Latin word religios that means to bind one back, the same term used for ligament, the thing that binds your muscle and bone together. The truth of religion is meant to bind us to the truth of our being. When I use all these scriptures its because of its profound power and truth. In the great scriptures of the world, weve just got to get beneath the dogma and the doctrine and the cultural idioms and understand it in our current context. Thats what Im trying to do here when I share all this.

Elsewhere, Jesus says, When you pray, pray believing that you already have it, that you may receive it. To he who has, more shall be given. It will be multiplied. Pray believing you already have, and you will receive. Take no thought for your life, but seek first the Kingdom of Heaven within you, and all those things will be added. All of these are telling us we need to make that inner connection. We need to develop that inner consciousness of having – I have, I am, I can, Im able. Its already done. Only when we are in the state of having can we get more of that, can we experience more of that, because that consciousness of having is literally the substance of the thing itself that weve now become available to, and it begins to clothe itself in form. If you imagine your ideal life, and you really feel into how you would feel and how you would be showing if that was true, and you look at where you currently are, how you currently feel and how youre showing up, youll see the gap between there in the feeling tone, the gap in the sense of having and the sense of being. Then, you begin to create a plan to bridge that gap. Its not a plan to go make a bunch of stuff happen. Its a plan to make yourself more available to that which is always happening, and therefore make it welcome. Its a plan to begin to generate the feelings, the mental, emotional, vibrational set point of already having, already being, already happening, and then begin to live into that. Express that. Walk and talk and dance and sing in that vibration even before, and especially before, the appearance is there. If you wait for the appearance to change, youll be waiting forever, because whatever youre waiting for, youre waiting with and youre weighing it down, because from the emergence perspective, whatevers missing is what youre not giving.

If you want more to come in to your life, you have to let more life come out of you. If you want something different to come in your life, you have to let something different come out of you. If you want more love, peace, joy in your life, you have to let more love, peace, joy come out of you. Again, the only way you can only let more love, peace, joy come out of you is if you are activating a sense of having more love, peace and joy. You begin to stand in that belief, in that feeling tone, and then live into it, and then you begin to generate more and more of a field, a morphic field, an attractor pattern of love, peace, joy or whatever the quality is. According to your plan, your pattern, your true purpose, those qualities clothe themselves in form. People will say, Wow, you have more money or more opportunity, or more health, or relationship, or whatever and youll know that you dont have more of that, youve just accessed and activated a greater awareness of that which youve always had and which they have as well. You just accessed and activated more of an awareness of having. That awareness, which is the substance of all experience, begins to manifest. Remember, manifestation is not about making something happen that isnt happening. Its about making that which is eternally happening manifest, visible, tangible, audible, and sensible. Thats all. You cant manifest anything that doesnt already exist. Its impossible, because nothing can appear in life unless it already exists in consciousness. You are manifesting. You are making manifest, making visible that which is going on all the time invisibly.

Again, as I’ve used the analogy of the radio many, many times for those of you that have heard me talk, ad nauseam perhaps, but it’s a great analogy. That is that your favorite music is already broadcasting right where you are. Music, information, but it isn’t manifest until you tune the dial of your radio to the frequency of the station where it’s playing. When your frequency matches that frequency, so that you’re now on the frequency where that music is broadcasting, that station becomes manifest. In other words, you have a manifest-station. It wasn’t happening in the distance of the future. It was happening now. The distance wasn’t a distance of time and space; it was a distance of frequency. The frequency gets generated through your feeling, through your belief, through your feeling and other elements like your environment, your actions, your words. All of that contributes to the feeling tone, contributes to the frequency, either dialing it up the dial or down the dial, either tuning you into K-RICH or K-LACK.

So, its all about having a state of having. I know this is hard. Believe me. It’s particularly hard, because its so completely opposite of how weve been conditioned. We’ve been so conditioned to look to our appearances to determine how we feel. It’s so ingrained, especially when youre struggling or suffering, you dont have enough money and the bill man is knocking on your door, and the landlord is threatening eviction, all of which I know, or physical things are going on with your body, or your relationships are in turmoil, or you’re alone, or whatever. I’m telling you, you already have all the wealth, and the health, and the abundance, and the peace, love, joy, and companionship, and that you have to come into a state of having and feeling that its already done and living, and moving, and having your being in that. You’re like, Derek, thats really, really hard. I mean I got to pay my bills. I just need to pay my rent. My back hurts. My wife and I are fighting. Im alone and lonely. It’s not working. That’s the other thing. You do it for a while, and you start to have moments and glimpses of feeling powerful and abundant, and in love, and it has nothing to do with your condition. You recognize youre generating it which is the first step of liberation.

When you really see, I have the capacity to generate anything, any feeling, regardless of condition, you start to wake up from the illusions that your conditions are causing your feelings, because they never are, ever. Not even ever. So, you start to realize that, but then what happens is you hit a threshold and you start to go, Well, its not working. So, you’re feeling, but then youre looking outside of you for the result. Its like planting a seed and going, its not working, and digging the seed up over and over again. Eventually, you kill it. You lower the vibration until its not able to create that critical mass and manifest. This is a very common challenge. Here’s the reason why its happening in terms of your esoteric or spiritual evolution. The truth is that life is spiritual and invisible, energetic or vibrational.

The truth is that you are a spiritual or energetic, vibrational being. You’re not a material being, and you’re not living in a material world. You’re entertaining a material concept of things, but you live in a spiritual Universe, and you are a spiritual being. Everything you could ever want, hope or desire or need is spiritual. Ultimately, you’re being called to awaken to that and to consciously live in a spiritual Universe. As long as youre looking to the material forms, which are just the effect, old thoughts, a mirror of the past, the wake of a boat, that has no power whatsoever, as long as youre looking to those to determine whats real or true, you’re just looking at an old photo on the wall of some old past experience as if thats going to have some power to determine your life. You’re looking to the wake of the boat and expecting it to drive the boat, but it doesn’t. The energy presently being activated in the boat and the steering presently going on by the captain of the boat, thats whats driving the boat, not the wake. Your appearances are not driving your life. They are effect. They are a movie; they’re a projection. They have no substance and no power, but we give it the substance and power by looking to them and judging by appearances and reacting to appearances and letting them determine how we think and feel and move.

Its a complete illusion, because they never had a power over us. Were being called to learn how to live spiritually, to think, speak, feel and move not based on any appearance, but based on the highest truth of our being that we can master. Im going to think and feel, walk and talk based on the highest truth that I know, not just for a little while. Im not going to do that until it becomes my subjective habit, until no matter what the appearances are. Im not reacting to appearances. Im responding from the highest truth of my being. Then, the appearance is changed. Youre being called to develop your soul senses, your ability to see in the dark, to see in the soul, to live from the spiritual reality of your being. When you hit those thresholds, and youve been doing some of this work and its not appearing to work, its like the bamboo tree analogy where the roots are growing and growing and growing, and nothing seems to be happening on the surface. It takes years, and eventually in a matter of a couple weeks, it grows eight or nine stories.

Now, Im not saying its going to take you years but when its not happening right away is because you havent yet completed the root system. Youre being called to develop it. You cannot be tempted to judge by appearances. The sign of growth and progress is not that the situation changes, but that your reaction to it begins to change. The spectrum is at first youre in complete reaction – fear, anger, lack, whatever. As you do this inner work, you start to get free from that, and the reaction is less and less, or its duration is shorter and shorter. Like getting yourself into physical stamina where you have a quicker and quicker recovery rate. Eventually, youll reach a point where its neutral. You dont feel good or bad about it, your buttons arent pushed anymore, a very, very powerful sign. Then you start to move on the other side of it where you start to have a sense of gratitude, joy, aliveness, love, abundance even though, again, the condition hasnt changed yet. So, youve gone from a negative reaction to neutral position, to a positive response or radiation independent of the situation. At some point, that reaches critical mass, and it begins to manifest, but you know youre really changing when your response to the situation is expansive and positive, or its becoming less and less negative and becoming neutral.

As I like to say, when life squeezes an orange, all that comes out is orange juice, because thats all thats in it. When life squeezes you, what comes out? When a situation squeezes you, what comes out? When you dont have the money or the relationship goes sideways or the body goes sideways or the job gets lost or the things doesnt work out, thats life squeezing you. Whatever comes out wasnt caused by the squeeze; it was caused because it was whats within you, just like the orange. If I squeeze an orange, I dont cause orange juice to come out. I dont cause the orange juice to be in it. Im creating a condition where that which was always in it can come out. When life squeezes us, what was already there comes out. If what comes out is fear and anger, and sadness, and grief, and shame, and guilt, and lack, and revenge, and reaction, its nobodys fault. Not even yours, by the way. Its just the fact that thats whats in you. Life is squeezing you to show you whats in you so you can purify it. You can purify your intention and your beliefs and your perceptions, and gets stronger and stronger and more anchored in the truth of your being. Eventually, life can squeeze you any which way, and all that comes out is love, truth, power, poise, confidence, generosity.

Thats what were on the path towards. It starts with realizing that life cant give you anything. Life cant take anything away. No situation or condition is the source or cause of your life. You must take a stand in your own inner kingdom, your own inner Universe of wholeness, and do the work to embody the sense of having. I have, I have, I can, I will, I’m able, its already done. Im going to stand there and talk to myself and have conversation and activate feelings and take actions, all of which are in congruence with that truth. How long? Until I’m living in a state of whatever is the quality that I think I would have that the condition was changed. You know that youre free regardless of conditions, and then the condition changed.

As long as you are looking to conditions and internally, you have a state of I don’t have, it’s not happening, it’s not working, something’s wrong, I’m wrong, there’s not enough, I’m not enough, and then you do in all kinds of stuff to make stuff happen, you will keep manifesting your inner state of not having. Remember to he who has not, even that which he has will be taken away, because youre just manifesting and magnifying a state of not having, and so you get a greater and greater demonstration of not having. Even if you manifest a bigger paycheck, you end up being broke at a higher income bracket and having even more stress and anxiety than ever before. You must stake your claim to realize and embody a state of having, a state of it’s already done. This is one of the greatest secrets. Its not easy.

Another analogy I talked about, when a racecar driver is taught how to drive and deal with when the car hits an oil slick and spins out towards the wall, everything in your body wants to look to the wall, believing that if I just keep my eye on the wall, I wont hit it, but in fact, if you do keep your eyes on the wall, you will hit it, guaranteed. You have to do what at first seems counter and look away from the wall, look towards where you want to go. Thats an analogy to dont look at the problem, dont look at the condition, but look towards where you want to go. Look to the vision. Look to the highest thought, belief, idea. Get into that feeling state, even while your car is sliding towards the wall, even while your life seems to be sliding towards a problem. Im not saying ignore the problem, don’t do anything about the problem. I’m talking about an inner state, first and foremost, that your inner vision is directed towards the highest vision, towards the highest thoughts and feelings, towards the finish line. There’s a crucial moment. Basically, why this works with the car is that your hands follow your eyes, so if you look towards the wall, your hands keep steering to the wall. If you look away from the wall, your hands start steering away from the wall.

The same thing with your awareness. Your mind energy goes where attention flows, or energy flows where attention goes. Even when you turn your hands and you look away from the wall, theres a period in some cases, sometimes many cases, where the car is still sliding towards the wall, because it has momentum and its slick. Youve turned, and youre still sliding towards the wall. It can be very tempting to not have the courage or the patience and to look back towards the wall again and go, It’s not working. It’s not working. I have to look at the wall. Then, slam, you hit the wall. If you look, keep looking away, its sliding to the wall, you’ve done everything right, you’re doing the work, you turned your hands, you turned the wheel, but its still sliding towards the wall, but you keep your vision, you do not look at the wall, you do not get pulled down by that, at some point, the wheels catch and the car pulls out of that spin. The same thing is true with our internal momentum, the mental, emotional, vibrational momentum. At some point, it catches and we pull out of that spin. If we get impatient or afraid, and we look at the problem, we stir by back into it again vibrationally.

Now, is it guaranteed that if you look away from the wall youre never going to hit it? No. Absolutely not a guarantee, but it is a guarantee that if you look at the wall, you will. If you keep your attention riveted to the problem, you will keep creating more of the same. Even if, through sheer will, you manage to resolve that one problem, it will pop out twice as hard, twice as bad, because youve manipulated appearances, but you havent fundamentally changed your consciousness. You haven’t evolved. Problems can never really be solved, but they dissolved as you evolve. You have to have your attention on the vision, on expansion. As you expand beyond the paradigm of the problem, the problem can no longer survive in that. The solution lives outside of that problem paradigm, so when you expand into that larger paradigm, you expand into the solution.

It’s challenging. You’ll never hear me say this isn’t challenging, but you have to have the courage, conviction, commitment and ultimately some level of discipline and that includes support and other people to remind you, so that when youre spinning, you have a practice that brings your attention back to the vision, back to the truth. You have the practice that activates the inner feeling tones that you want to feel, that develops the inner vision, the inner awareness, beliefs, and it has you taking constructive action. So that your way of life is consistently moving towards an ever greater state of having, of being, of it’s already done, I’m already it, life is working together for my highest good. That gets integrated. It gets embodied. You pulled out of the spin. You’re back on track. Youre moving fast with momentum, and you cross the finish line. Then, you begin another race and another opportunity to grow and expand.

This is the principle. You can’t have or get what you dont already have. You have to take a stand and stake your claim in developing your consciousness of I have, I can, I will, Im able, its already done. Stand in that and feel that, and develop that as long as it takes, by the way, because whats the alternative? To fall back into the belief that you dont have and to feel really bad and depressed and down and lacking so that you can just manifest more of that? Honestly, if it takes you a day, a week, a month, a year or more to develop a state of consciousness of having, its worth it. That is an investment that pays reach dividends. This is what it means when the biblical scripture says,Lay not up your treasures on earth where rust and moth shall corrupt and thieves shall break in and steal, but lay up your treasures in Heaven where rust and moth cannot corrupt and thieves cannot break in and steal. It’s telling you, dont make appearances your Source. Don’t judge by those things, because that will just be eroded and taken away, but turn within and make that contact with the real source and lay up your treasures there. Build an inner state of consciousness there. That consciousness you will take with you forever. Whatever you build on earth is relative, and it will ultimately go back to dust. Whatever you build in consciousness, you have forever. You’ll take it with you, even when you leave this place. That’s why if it takes you a year, honestly, even if it takes you a lifetime, youve built something that you own now forever.

I  invite you to this journey and this path of developing a state of I have. I hope this has served you. If you have not yet registered, please register for this podcast so that you can get ongoing support and activations and healing support and the cutting edge best practices around how to really find your passion and live your purpose and make an impact and an income doing the thing you are born for, and making that deeper connection to the source of all creation, all power within you. Just sign up to register for this podcast on iTunes. If you want more additional support and downloads, go to derekrydall.com. Go into the free resource section, grab some of the free downloads. Go register for the blogs. You will get an additional material. None of it costs you a penny, where I can really support and help you master emergence and master these principles so that you can create a life you are born for.

If you haven’t yet grabbed a copy of my book, Emergence, the best-seller, you can go to www.getemergencebook.com. When you click on the Amazon or Barnes & Noble button, and you buy the very inexpensive copy of that book, I’m going to give you $1791.00 in free bonuses and support, including a month of the Emergence Academy where you’ll get live coaching with me as well. So I can really help you make this stuff real and take a quantum leap in your life. Again, I hope this has served you. If you’ve been inspired, tell a friend. Refer to a friend. Teach this to somebody within the next 24 to 48 hours and you will embody it even more. Share it with friends and loved ones and clients. Remember whatever you give, you keep. The more you give and serve and help others achieve the things you want, the more you will have them for yourself. Until next time. Remember to live authentically, love unconditionally and follow your destiny.

(Bonus Episode) Why Going With the Flow is Wrong

(Bonus Episode) Why Going With the Flow is Wrong

We hear the expression “I’m just going to go with the flow” a lot from heart-centered, spiritually-minded people, or even those who are just trying to have less stress in their life.

In many cases, this is a stall tactic or an avoidance tactic. It’s an egoic defense mechanism – what it really means is, “I’m stressed out”, “I’m burned out”, “I’m overwhelmed”.

Going with the flow is not always good on certain currents. If all you do is go with the flow, you’ll get caught in the crosscurrents or go over a waterfall! You need intention and you need to row, too.

What’s moving many of us in many moments is a flow based on our shadows, wounds, coping mechanisms, defense mechanisms, and values conflicts. It’s all the ways we’ve learned to get by, to survive, to get what we think we don’t have and to not lose what we’re afraid somebody is going to take away.

There is a flow, a current of energy in our life. But just going with that flow is not going to take us where we want to go.

Once you are more deeply rooted in the truth of your being, if you have a deep spiritual practice where you are meditating and praying and connecting to that source on a daily basis, then you will feel this flow begin to use you and move through you.

Then, going with the flow will feel like you’re letting go of resistance and letting go of fear and being willing to be used and taken down this river of life, even though these fear patterns may be telling you “Be careful, don’t do it.”

Listen to the podcast episode above for the full explanation and learn how to put this into practice in your life TODAY.

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(Bonus Episode) Why ALL Your Beliefs Limit You (And What You Should Do Instead)

(Bonus Episode) Why ALL Your Beliefs Limit You (And What You Should Do Instead)

In the self-help, self-improvement arena, we put a lot of stock in our beliefs. At a certain level, it’s important to improve your beliefs and thoughts. It’s important to do the inner work, to take back control of your mind and reprogram its patterns and conditioning.

Step-by-step, we can uplevel our thoughts, our beliefs, and our emotional fuel, so that we are ultimately running on high-octane thinking, feeling and believing. This helps us move out of the victim state, where we believe we’re being acted upon by the world of experiences — where we believe life is happening to us.

It’s important to move from being a victim to a creator, where we see that the world isn’t victimizing us — our own thinking and the subsequent habits that come from our thinking is the real cause. We learn certain strategies — the law of mind and creation, visualization, affirmation — as well as other tools to regain control over our beliefs.

This is a critical first step on the path to personal freedom. Without this, we will remain in a perpetual cycle of reaction to circumstances that keeps us stuck — and even makes things worse. At this stage, we let go of being a victim and become a creator. Life is no longer happening to us, we are happening to life.

At this stage, you are controlling your conditions by what you are thinking, believing and consciously feeling, and are now manipulating situations consciously. At this level, it may or may not be for your highest good or for the good of others — you can create all kinds of conditions through the power of the law of mind, but it’s still in the realm of duality, of good and bad, up and down. That’s always the challenge at that level – you’re still operating with your human will and all of the conditioning and value systems that come with that.

Eventually, that doesn’t work as well as it used to. You manifest a things but aren’t fulfilled by them, or it even makes things worse. You manifest a bigger paycheck, but end up just broke at higher income bracket! You get a bigger house, but feel even less at home. You manifest a new relationship, but end up in the same arguments. You get all that stuff, but unconsciously, or consciously, you’re still afraid it could all go away.

To continue to activate your potential, you need to move to the next level, where you realize life is happening through you, that there’s a bigger idea than your human mind can conceive — and you need to surrender to it. This is the realm of vision, visionaries, and true innovation. This is where you become a channel, an instrument for an idea that is beyond your current paradigms, beyond your thinking, and beyond your beliefs.

You open up and become available to an evolutionary impulse that has something to do with the expansion of your soul and of humanity. You begin to develop mental, emotional set-points that are vibrationally aligned with your highest vision. This is where the magic starts happening, this is where Grace kicks in. As the saying goes, “God responds to you by corresponding to its nature in you.”

As you move through these stages, you begin to realize that life is not about manipulating, adding, attracting, or improving anything — it’s about waking up to a wholeness and perfection that is already here, waiting for the right conditions to emerge. We move out of mere metaphysics — which is still often about manipulating appearances — and onto the path of mysticism, which is about touching Ultimate Reality and letting IT govern, guide, and direct our life — because we realize that there is an Intelligence that created everything and It knows how to run the show better than we do!

Unlike traditional success teachings, religious teachings, and most self-improvement or metaphysical teachings — which are based in the world of duality and seek to change appearances — the mystical path is about transcending all thinking, all believing, all identities, all pairs of opposites, all attempts to merely improve our conditions, and to wake up to who we really are, what’s really going on, and why we’re really alive.

The result of that expanded awareness is that we pop out of our stories and beliefs, and all the limitations they contain. The result of that is an expanded awareness that must begin to manifest itself as what the world calls improved experiences and conditions. The difference is that you know you didn’t make them happen, you made them welcome — so you don’t feel like you have to use all your energy to hold them in place. The change is real and lasting.

It’s not an easy path to walk. We’ve been so conditioned to believe we must manipulate appearances to be happy, safe, and free, and that our mind or body is what’s controlling things. But that’s false. There is a larger order, a deeper intelligence, a perfect pattern that is already here, already complete. Nothing we think or believe can improve upon it or make it happen. But when we let go of our agenda and open up to the mystery, this larger possibility can emerge in ways we could never imagine.

I invite you into this next level of living by asking, “Who am I beyond all of my stories, beyond all of my beliefs? Who would I be and what could I do if I didn’t have any story or beliefs? What’s really here, what’s really true, and what’s really possible that I can’t presently see because of my beliefs?”

Contemplate this. Meditate on it. Journal about it. And watch as a whole new vista of possibility begins to emerge!

You can also listen to an in-depth podcast on this subject, where we break it down and talk about how to put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer!

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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Welcome. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the best-selling book, Emergence. It’s just great to be with you on this journey of Emergence, which is really about tapping into that Divine potential, that pattern of infinite perfection planted in the soil of your soul and creating the right conditions in your life so that that inherent good can unfold in your life like never before. You are meant to unfold naturally, as natural as the rest of nature, without struggle, without striving and even without overly thinking. Ultimately, your entire destiny of greatness could unfold without you taking thought for your life. If we could just get clear enough and still enough and connected enough, that which is already true about us would just begin to emerge just like nature. It would show up as inspired ideas. Those inspired ideas would transmute themselves into inspired conversation and compelling right action and ultimate achievements. It would all unfold without the process we have come to know as thinking and cogitating and struggling and straining and trying to make things happen which is not really normal or natural at all.

We are meant to unfold and feel like life is living us. When you’ve been inspired with some kind of idea and you didn’t think up the idea, the idea thought you. It’s like you’ve ever been praying and suddenly feel overcome by this devotional energy, and suddenly you’re no longer praying but something is praying you. You’re like an instrument being used. It feels so exhilarating, and you might find yourself forgetting to eat. You’re at the piano composing or at the computer writing or suddenly teaching, and this information is flowing through you, or whatever the case may be. You could be making love. You could be educating and loving a child. You could be playing sports, but suddenly you humanly aren’t doing it, you’re being done by something. That something is a higher pattern and activity that is always going on, and you’ve suddenly come into alignment with it. There are thoughts that become evident that are inspired, and they transmute into all these different levels: speech, action, expression and condition, but you’re not thinking them, you’re not doing them, and you’re not making them happen. You have become a place that has made it welcome. At the very bottom, that’s really the essence of Emergence. We’re really working to become those clear transparencies through and as which life can fulfill itself as us. We can become like a branch on a tree of life that bears witness to the life of the tree, to the leaves, the flowering and the fruit. You’ve had that experience most people have and imagine living like that all the time. That’s ultimately our aim.

The topic today is why all your beliefs limit you and what you should do instead. Especially in the self-help, self-improvement realm of things and even beyond that, we’ve come to really put a lot of stock in our beliefs. Obviously, there are relative levels. At a certain relative level, it’s important to improve your beliefs. It’s important to improve your thoughts. It’s important to do the inner work, to take back control of your mind and reprogram the patterns and condition your mind. That’s a very important step that moves you out of the victim state. When you’re a victim, you think you’re being victimized by the world of experiences, that things are happening to you, but what you’re really being victimized by is your own beliefs and your own programming. It’s appearing as circumstances and situations and your reaction to them in this perpetual cycle that just keeps repeating itself over and over and over again. That’s the victim state. You just learn to cope, manage and control your way through that. Then, eventually, you come to learn certain tools and strategies, the law of mind and creation, and then begin to adapt visualization and affirmation and various tools to start to regain control over your beliefs. That’s a powerful step. You move from being a victim to being a creator. Life is not happening to you, now you are happening to life. You are a creator. You are a manifestor. You are controlling your conditions through what you are thinking, believing and consciously feeling. You are now manipulating situations consciously.

At that level, it may or may not be even for your highest good or for the good of others, you can create all kinds of conditions through the power of the law of mind, but it’s still in the realm of duality, of good and bad, up and down, and it’s still up and coming from the ego and the conditioning of the mind, parental fantasies, peer pressure, societal conditionings, and the current values of the culture you’re in. If it seems to be that the highest value of the culture is having lots of money in a big house and a nice car, you’re going to use your mind power, your beliefs, and your emotions to manifest those kinds of conditions, which may or may not be for the highest good of your soul, or even the highest good of your family or of those that you care about. It might even hurt other people. That’s always the challenge at that level is that we’re still operating on our human will and all of the conditioning and value systems that come with that. Eventually, that doesn’t work even as well as it used to, or you get to manifest a bunch of stuff and get a bigger paycheck, but you’re just broke at higher income bracket. You get a bigger house, but you feel even less at home. You manifest a better relationship, but you end up in the same arguments. You get all that stuff, but you’re just unhappy and unfulfilled. Unconsciously, or consciously, you’re still deeply afraid that it could all go away. You’re right, because you are primarily the one doing it all.

Eventually, you move into the third stage, which is where you realize life is happening through you, that there’s a higher life. There’s a higher pattern. There’s a higher ideal. This is the realm of vision and visionaries and true innovation. This is where you become a channel, an instrument for an idea that is beyond your current paradigms, beyond your thinking, and beyond your beliefs. You open up and become available to an evolutionary impulse that has something to do with the evolution and expansion of your soul. It has something to do with the real reason why you’re here, because you’re not here merely to move deck chairs around on the Titanic. You’re here to discover, uncover, and express something unprecedented. In some way, big or small, you are an unrepeatable nomina in the mind of God of the Universe. A nomina is a Divine idea, versus phenomena, which is a transitory expression of that nomina. You are a Divine idea that has never happened and will never happen again. There’s something about your life that you’re here to express and reveal that is unprecedented.

In stage one and two, you can’t access that, because you are either being a victim in a consensus state of self-defense and self-preservation and reaction, or you are a creator and you are constantly trying to manipulate conditions to create a life based on your current beliefs, your current conditioning, value systems, etc. In stage three, you are now becoming a channel for something bigger, a channel that is beyond your thinking, beyond even your own identity, and beyond your beliefs. Ultimately, you even let go of the idea, because there’s still a sense of a personal self. There’s still a sense that you are doing it for your own good or for the good of those that you care about, and there’s still a level of a personal self. You still believe, on some level, you have a separate life to protect, to preserve, to perpetuate, to prop up, but, eventually, you have to let go of even that, even that sense that you have any separate life apart from the one life.

You’re moving to stage four, where you realize that life is no longer happening to you; you’re not happening to life. It’s not even merely happening through you, but life is happening as you. You are life expressed. You are a branch of the tree. You are not separate from the tree. You are a ray of the sun, a wave on the ocean. You are a unique individualized expression of life. You are the way life expresses itself. There is no you. You have no life separate from the one life. That’s the purest, most complete space in which the true glory of life, the Christ consciousness, the Buddha consciousness, and the highest ideal can begin to manifest and unfold as you. There’s no end to that, because it’s infinite. So it’s forever unfolding, and perhaps has even greater and greater stages. Those are fundamentally the core four stages we move through.

While it’s important to work on is our beliefs. The next level to working on creating strong beliefs is developing beliefs that are congruent to our highest vision. You begin to move out of merely having strong beliefs, religious beliefs, spiritual beliefs or cultural beliefs and beliefs to try to merely survive, like believing that all of your needs are met, or believing that you’re abundant, or believing that you’re rich or healthy or whatever, and instead you begin to move to, Well, here’s the vision that’s seeking to emerge through me, this higher idea for my life. Now, let me develop my beliefs to be congruent with that. That’s the next level with your beliefs.

You begin to develop a belief system: mental, emotional, vibrational matched points, or vibrational match, to this highest vision. That allows you to tune in to that vision and become vibrationally aligned with it. God responds to you by corresponding to its nature in you. Now you are becoming as it says, Be perfect even as your Father in Heaven is perfect. In the Biblical context, what that means is to get a little bit closer to thinking and feeling and ultimately acting the way you would act, think and feel if you were God, if you were Divine, if you really were whole, complete and perfect, a unique infinite individualized expression of life. You begin to shape your beliefs to be even closer and closer to that. That’s a more refined version. Again, all of this is wonderful, powerful and usually necessary, but it’s still a staircase. It’s still the scaffolding in order to paint this great painting or paint the house. Eventually, this scaffolding also has to be removed. Your beliefs are scaffolding. They’re valuable to get you to the place where you are vibrationally really close to your highest ideal. Ultimately, it’s important to know that even your best belief, your highest thought, is not truth. The belief that God is all there is, or love is all there is, is not truth. It’s a belief pointing to the truth. The truth behind that statement is infinitely greater. Your belief that you’re abundant and all of your needs are met abundantly and everything is working together for your good is a great belief, but it’s not the truth. It’s still just a container, a context of scaffolding. The truth of you is infinitely more than that.

Ultimately, who you really are is an isness that you can’t add to or diminish. As it says again in the scriptural context, Who by taking thought can add one cubit to his stature? What God has wrought, no man can put asunder. Jesus said, Take no thought for your life, but instead seek first the Kingdom of Heaven, which he said was within you, and all the things you’ve been searching for will be added onto you. He’s not saying do a bunch of affirmation and visualizations and create a better belief system. He’s saying quite the opposite, let go of all that and just make contact with the truth of your being. Know the truth, and this truth will make you free. Buddha taught a similar thing. He taught what we understand as the releasing of all desires, but it’s really what was called craving and aversion. In other words, it’s the incessant drive to get or get rid of something in order to finally be happy or free. In that mind structure, that’s constantly craving something more or seeking to get rid of something, or what’s also known as the pain-pleasure mechanism, is really fundamentally what the false self is made of. Most of our belief structures are built on that. In other words, we’re establishing belief systems I’m rich, I’m abundant, I’m healthy, I’m wealthy, I’m happy, I’m in love, everybody loves me, etc., etc. as a response or a reaction to this pain-pleasure mechanism, because those beliefs move us to greater sense of pleasure, versus our lesser beliefs, which move us towards a greater sense of pain.

Again, relatively speaking, it’s all good stuff. You’re stepping up the ladder. It’s the staircase to Heaven. Step-by-step, you’re upleveling your thoughts, upleveling your beliefs, upleveling your emotional fuel, so that you are ultimately running on high-octane thinking and feeling and believing. It’s great thing to do that. In fact, in my experience, it’s often necessary, as I said, because it’s very, very difficult to just shoot that gap. Even a lot of people in a lot of teachings that are very absolute teachings about just realize your oneness with God and that’s all you need to do, the problem with that is that because the mental, emotional, astral, etheric bodies are so full of static, there’s so much static on the line between you and your soul, you and the truth of being, that it’s very, very difficult to make direct contact. Unbeknownst to you, you could spend years and years meditating and praying and seeking that direct contact and actually be driven by a lot of these beliefs and be going in circles not even realizing, because there’s so much unredeemed energy in your beliefs, in your thoughts, and in your emotions.

Now, of course, certain meditation processes, like the pause and mindfulness meditation, will create the context for you to observe all of that content. As you observe it, the thoughts, the feelings, etc., they begin to disintegrate. You begin to break karma, redeem all of that energy. That absolutely is a vital and important aspect of the process. Again, in my experience, it can be very, very slow-going. There can still be so much static on the line. For some so much you can’t even get into a really in-depth meditation practice, because there’s so much static of these very low level beliefs, thoughts and emotions. It’s a very good part of the practice to be refining and refining and refining your thinking, believing and feeling so that there’s less and less static and you are more and more congruent with your highest vision. At a certain point, you want to begin to practice this idea that all beliefs, all thoughts, are limitation. This is somewhat what Byron Katie, if you know Byron Katie has worked the work, is sort of getting at, which is beginning to observe your thinking and ultimately let go of your story. Now, for the most part, she still talks about letting go of the story that hurts, the story that doesn’t serve you. Again, very good stuff to do. I want to suggest that even your good story is limiting you.

Here’s the bottom line mystical truth. All the thoughts you have about yourself and about life, all of them without exception including all of the good thoughts, are not the truth about you. You are not the personality that you think you are. You are not this person born on a certain date that’s gone through these certain experiences, etc., etc. That whole story, that whole psychological construct and identity and every aspect of it, none of that is you. That’s shocking. You might get it on some level, but the implications of it are shocking. None of that is you. Any more than an actor taking a script with a very well-developed character and storyline and playing that part, they can play that part, and they can access certain dimensions of themselves to fill that part out and to express that part, but they’re not that part. This character you’re playing in this Divine drama is not you. This is the deeper esoteric meaning of, Before Abraham was I am. Your I am nature, your true nature and infinite, immortal, indestructible, incorruptible being is not the part you’re playing in this Divine play, no matter how good or how bad. We’re used to transcending the bad parts of our story or at least trying. What I want to suggest is to begin to contemplate what would it mean to transcend even the good parts, the parts that you really value, like you’re a great mother, a great father, a great student, a great teacher, a great healer or want to be. What I want you to understand is you’re actually none of those things.

Now, there is a spiritual truth behind all of those levels. There is the Divine father, mother, the Divine teacher, healer, the Divine true life that you are, but it’s so much more than those labels. The problem with all of those levels, including the good ones, is that they come along with a whole container of baggage. If you assume the identity, I’m a father, I’m a mother, I’m a student, I’m a teacher, I’m a creator, what you get with that is all of the history of baggage and memes and artifacts around that label that you will now have to work to overcome. Do you understand what I mean? You will now have to work, because you’ve now assumed that identity. All of the memes and all of the energetic frequencies that go along with that you’re going to be susceptible to. You’re going to have to now work to overcome all of that. If you accept that you’re a human being, then even in your greatest efforts, you’re going to often be just simply trying to improve your humanhood. As long as you accept that you’re a human being, that belief system, you are susceptible to all of the ups and downs and trials and tribulations of a human being. This is the deeper meaning of to be in the world but not of it, to be playing full out, but to wake up from all of these identities, all of these labels which are part of our belief systems.

We’ve been taught 99.999% of all of the teachings that are out there. Even a large degree of what I’m doing here is still helping you improve your belief about yourself, to make you think about yourself as a better human, as a more prosperous human, a healthier, wealthier, happier, more loving human, right? Maybe you might even include as a healthier, wealthier, happier, spiritual being. It’s still within this identity of being this person and trying to improve upon it. What I want to suggest, for some of you may be going, Geez, Derek, I just want to pay my rent and heal my back and fix my relationship. This is down the rabbit hole for me.We’re planting seeds here. I want to begin to open and stretch your mind because understand that all problems exist in time. All problems exist in the mind. All problems exist in thought. Whatever the structure of the thought is –a thought, a belief, a perception, a story – all problems exist in your story. Your story is a set of perceptions. All solutions exist outside of your current story, outside of your perception, outside of your identity, ultimately outside of time.

When we keep increasing our beliefs, that’s a valuable step, because if you have a higher quality belief certain problems you’ve struggled with can’t exist in that higher framework or that higher paradigm. The more you can begin to completely disidentify with the story and begin to have an extemporal experience of yourself, meaning out of time, out of the story, that I’m not the story, I’m not this character, and I’m not any of this stuff. I’m something so much bigger, so much more that has never been touched or diminished by this. As you begin to contemplate that and seek that larger expanded awareness, all solutions are in that expanded awareness. One moment of popping out of that story can radically and completely transform your life. It might take you years and years and even lifetimes of improving your belief to really transcend some of your core struggles. One moment of extemporal realization, one moment of popping out of your belief system, out of your story altogether, shooting the gap of your thoughts and touching the realm of the real where you have never been diminished, this is the place of miracles.

This is how spontaneous healing can happen. People have finally been brought into their needs, and they’re so utterly distraught and so utterly just over the struggle that something snaps in them, and, for a moment, the ego is ripped from its moorings and the veil is torn apart, and there’s a moment where they touch the realm of the real. Those are the moments you hear about where they suddenly become enlightened. Eckhart Tolle talks about that very moment where he’s in such suffering. He’s like, I can’t live with myself anymore, and, suddenly, in that moment, the pressure around that identity of self was so intense he broke from that storyline. He suddenly was like, If there’s a self I can’t live with, who is the I that can’t live with that? He suddenly had a moment of satori, of instant enlightenment. He broke out of the story. He broke out of time. He had a moment of expanded awareness beyond belief, beyond good and bad thinking.

I think that was Rumi that said, Out beyond good and bad, there is a field. There are good and bad thinking, There is a field, I’ll meet you there. That was what Eckhart Tolle did. Byron Katie had a very similar experience where she suddenly just broke, and she felt asleep. When she woke up and she suddenly looked around, and she had no sense of identity, no story, and she thinks she’s all like a cockroach walking around or something, and just was full of bliss, like there was no story in the way, including any good beliefs. There was nothing. There was no thinking. There was just reality, just isness. That’s always here. That’s always true. That’s who you really are. It’s beyond your beliefs. While it’s very valuable to improve, improve, improve, your mental, emotional, vibrational state, I want you to hold all that in the context of that’s not the end game. That’s just preparation. In the midst of that, your prayer is more than I want to fix, change, heal or improve anything including my thinking. I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see the way God is. I want to know who and what I am, not through a glass darkly but face to face, beyond belief, beyond thought, beyond even good thinking, beyond even good beliefs, beyond all beliefs, all thoughts. Reality exists in all of its wholeness, completeness, perfection, fully shining in all of its majesty, the Kingdom of Heaven, Nirvana, paradise. We haven’t left it. We’ve just covered it up with a lot of thinking, a lot of layers of perception. We’re experiencing all of our own perceptions and thinkings. We try to improve our perceptions and thinkings, and all what we’re really doing is swapping one state of hypnosis for another. We’re just trading one dream, one nightmare for a dream but we’re still asleep.

Again, I’m not knocking these stages. I still work on it myself. We want to at least begin to inch ourselves into the mystical path, because the mystical path isn’t about improving your beliefs. It’s about waking up. Metaphysical teachings are more about improving your beliefs and self-help and self-improvements and most even religious teachings. The mystical path is about waking up. It’s about transcending all thinking, all believing, all identities, all pairs of opposites, all attempts to merely improve our conditions, and to wake up and discover who we really are, what’s really going on, who we are, where we are, what we are, why we are in the ultimate sense. The result of that expanded awareness is we pop out of our stories and beliefs. That then expresses itself as what the world will call improved experiences, improved conditions. The difference is they’re different in quality, because when you pop out of your belief and touch reality, and touch grace, and it transmutes itself into better experience, you know that you didn’t manifest that experience through your own mental thinking and believing. There’s not a personal sense of attachment or a personal sense of you have to keep it going, or as if you have done it all through your own believing and ultimate manipulation. There’s a part of you that knows it’s not permanent. You can’t necessarily depend on it 100%, and you’re never fully free in it. When you touch reality, the reality of wholeness, and that wholeness manifests as improved conditions, there’s a level of knowing that that was just the way it is and that’s never going to change. There’s a whole different level of freedom.

I just want to invite you into this next level of beginning to contemplate. Who am I beyond all of my stories, beyond all of my beliefs? You also come into what’s really called a knowing. Believing is a surrogate for ultimately knowing. What you’re really wanting is to have a knowing. You can have a lot of belief about something and even that belief can inspire you and charge you up. You can really believe in God or that life is for you, etc., and it can support you. When you touch reality directly, you now have a knowing that you’ll never have to think about again. You don’t have to do any affirmations about it. Nothing the world can ever show you or do can ever change your mind, because it’s not on your mind. You’ve touched reality. It may transmute into a set of constructive powerful beliefs and thoughts, but it’s not coming from those. You see?

You are now anchored in solid ground that no shifting sands or winds can blow it away, move it away. You’re free now. The more you’re anchored there, that’s what it means to be spiritually liberated, to be awake, to be enlightened, to be free. That’s what’s I’m inviting you into. This is the next stage to begin to contemplate. Who would I be if I couldn’t believe anything, I couldn’t think anything? Who am I without my story even my good story? It begins to pray the prayer of awakening. More than I want to fix, change, heal, control or improve anything or anyone, I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see ultimate reality. As that becomes your mantra, that makes you a candidate for these insights and for these openings.

I invite you to begin to include that as part of your practice, your meditation, your contemplation and share. Post in the Facebook groups. Share some of the insights that are beginning to emerge as you begin this or go deeper in this path of being a true mystic, a modern day mystic. I welcome you to this path. I hope this has served you. To continue to get more support, if you haven’t already, please register for this podcast on iTunes. Leave a review so that others can find this material. Share it with a friend or loved one. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give people, is to share content that has moved you, inspired you or helped you in some way. It costs you nothing, but it pays tremendous dividends, and even turn and teach it to somebody, because what you teach, you embody much, much deeper. You can go to DerekRydall.com. Go in to the free resources and download some free trainings and support. You can go to EmergenceTraining.com, if you haven’t already got your free Law of Emergence course. If you want to grab my book, Emergence, you can go to GetEmergenceBook.com. Click on Barnes & Noble or Amazon tab, and grab a copy of the book for like $10 or $12. Come back there, put in your information. I’m going to give you almost $1800 in free support, programs, and you’re even going to get a trial to be able to do some coaching with me in the Emergence Academy, so I can really support you in getting real results.

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(Bonus Episode) ASK DEREK – How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism)

(Bonus Episode) ASK DEREK – How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism)

This is an issue that has always been part of human culture, but with the ability of so many people to comment anonymously online, our need to deal with criticism and the haters has been greatly magnified.

There’s a thing in the UK called ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome,’ which is based on the need to cut off the top of a poppy if it grows above the rest — to create uniformity. But it also applies to people — if someone gets too big and rises above the rest, there is an impulse to cut them down. When people start to outgrow the tribe, then members of the tribe seek to pull them back down so that they can feel safe and secure.

The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, empowerment, and evolution — to make you an ever stronger instrument of what you’re here to do, be and share.

You’ve got to start there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, “Why is this happening to me?” , but, “How is this serving me?” “How is this making me stronger?”, “How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me?”

Whenever somebody is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair, unjust or unfounded, there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become more anchored in your truth. It’s the opportunity to build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, and of valuing yourself — which ultimately will inoculate you from the limited thought viruses of the world.

If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways — anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself.

When you are criticized and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right or defend your perspective, and convince them that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. (It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree.) To become truly free and empowered requires you to look at this part, understand, embrace, and integrate it.

For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might respond, “I’m not selfish! I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you.” You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. This is just defense, resistance, and actually anchors the shame and judgment even deeper.

Instead, you want to stop and contemplate if there is any truth to it – “Let me see where in my life am I selfish.”This immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in front of a someone whose criticized you, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where you’re selfish with yourself. You’re not doing this to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it.

The next thing you look at is the particular judgment, the shadow, and see where you might have some baggage around it. For example, let’s say you’re becoming successful, getting in shape, or growing in some positive way, and some people tell you, “Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important.” If you’re a spiritual teacher or artist, you might hear things like, “How could you try to make money off spirituality or art? That’s so unspiritual…art, music, information — these should all openly available to everyone. You should be charging much less or giving it away for free!”

To key is to see where you harbor judgments, fears, beliefs of limitations around this area. It’s showing up as criticism so you can clear it and embody the truth of it — that means, first, seeing where you might be out of integrity, and second, seeing where you have unconscious limiting beliefs, shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or succeed in this area. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise.

By being willing to examine your judgments and shadows you begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are. As you ask yourself, “How is this here to truly serve my greater purpose and potential?”, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger and more resilient. You begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities.

That’s the gift of criticism. And what an awesome gift it is!

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To Your Emergence!

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Derek

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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Welcome to another episode of Ask Derek on this journey of Emergence, where we deal with the question today How do you deal with the haters? Otherwise known as the gift of criticism. This is something that is always been a part of culture, people that criticize people, that hate on people, that try to cut people down. In the UK, there’s a saying for the tall poppy syndrome. If a poppy gets too big above the rest, it gets lopped off at the head. When people get too big amongst the tribe, then the rest of the individuals on some levels seek to pull them back down to match everybody else. They’re such a general kind of thing that one ego likes to bring another ego down and ultimately be at the very least equal and ideally less than, or if you’ve been wounded then actually you bring yourself down, but that’s a whole other topic. Nowadays, with internet and with so much public expression of ourselves and so much public exposure and so many people online that can comment anonymously, this problem of dealing with criticism and the haters, also called the trolls, is just much, much bigger, and I would submit that it’s not that the problem itself or the issue itself has changed, it’s just that it becomes magnified, but it’s always been in the human psyche.

The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence and this work is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, without exception, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, your empowering, your evolution to make you an ever stronger, pure instrument of what you’re really here to do and to be and the gifts you’re here to give. You’ve got to start there. You’ve got to always come back to there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, why is this happening to me, but how is this serving me? How is this making me stronger? How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me? Whenever somebody is hating on you, is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair or unjust or unfounded, then there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become really anchored in the truth of who and what you really are and build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, of valuing yourself, of not being inoculated or immune to the feedback and the criticisms of the world.

There’s another side topic to this, which I won’t go into today, but it’s important to know that ultimately you want to become free of all opinions, good ones and the bad ones. So even those that are praising you, you ultimately want to become free of those too. For one thing, much praise is really a projection. If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways, so anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself. We’ll talk about that in a moment. Anything that pulls you, those people you greatly admire, those people you find yourself praising, is really also a projection of an unintegrated, unidentified part of your own power. When other people are praising you, often, they’re projecting their disowned power. That’s why, especially if you’re in some role of leadership, authority, expert, teacher, etc. and that begins to happen, or healer, or therapist, at some point, projection happens, or otherwise, it’s been called transference. They start to either reject you or praise you, criticize you or praise. Both are equally false. Both are equally their projection. When it’s criticism, your job is to not defend and fight and prove your point, but to look within yourself and find that part of yourself where you hold that criticism, where you have that shadow. When it’s praise, your job is to notice your own proclivity, the one that grabbed on to that.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t receive the love and the compliments. Let it in. Let all the love in, but if you’re in authority position, you want to give it back to them. You don’t want people to become followers. You want to empower them to become their own leaders. When they start projecting their power on you, you want to not so much reject their compliment, accept it, but also remind them that whatever good they see in you, especially where they feel incredibly praiseworthy, is really a reflection of good that’s within them, that they perhaps have not fully owned, and that this is an opportunity to own it. So, the entire star system, celebrity, athletes, all of that, is made of that. It’s made up of a projection of our disowned power. Praise and criticism are equally projections, and ultimately we want to become free of both of them.

We’re talking about the haters today. We’re talking about the gift of criticism, and so we come back to the shadow again and understand that if anybody is criticizing you or hating on you, and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right, you need to defend your prospective, you need to set them straight, you need to convince them that it’s not true or convince other people that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree. For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might go, I’m not selfish. I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you. You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. The first thing you want to do is stop and go, Let me take that feedback in and let me see is there any truth to it. Criticism is never True. It’s not ultimate truth, but you want to look and see Is there any truth to it? Let me see where in my life am I selfish.

First of all, this immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in person in front of them, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where am I selfish with myself? When somebody says you’re greedy, and you’re like one of the most generous people you know, where am I greedy? You look, and you’ll find something. That’s the first step. Find out where there’s some truth to it, not to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it. Of course, sometimes, feedback is not simply you’re being selfish. It’s things like, you’re a complete waste of humanity. You’re a waste of human space, and in that case, it’s going to be hard to go, Where am I a waste of human space? Now, you might find something as the old axiom goes, If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space. You might actually go, Well, I do waste time just surfing the internet. I gossip with my friends sometimes, just meaningless gossip that adds no value to anybody’s life. You know what, that is a waste of human space. That is a waste of time. In that moment, I am wasting my life and their life. That might be valuable to discover that, to clean that up.

The next thing you look at is, Okay, let me look at that particular judgment, that shadow, and see where I might have some baggage around that. For example, let’s say you are becoming successful or you’re endeavoring to be successful and make more money in your life, and some people come out and tell you, Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important. If you’re a consciousness or spiritual teacher or thought leader, you’ll get the kind of criticisms of how could you try to make money off spirituality. That’s so unspiritual. That’s so unconscious. That’s so mean or insensitive. You should be charging much, much less or giving it away for free, etc. If you are really a spiritual teacher, you wouldn’t charge anything. That’s a very big thing of baggage in this arena. You can go and look at that and see where do you hold some personal judgments about people that make a lot of money, or people that make money with spirituality, or people that are really successful. You can begin to see how you also harbor some udgments around that, some fears around that, some beliefs of limitation around that. They’re showing up so that you can clean it out, so that you can first of all see where you might be out of integrity, and second of all see where you have unconscious limiting beliefs or shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or to really succeed or they will. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise. This is a gift of criticism.

You can begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are, and you can begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities. I won’t go into the whole shadow process here, but you can certainly check out when I talk about shadow work or values conflict in other podcasts. You can go to DerekRydall.com/ShadowProcess and download a free audio process around the shadow. You can also grab the Shadow Dancing program if you really want to master shadow work. So, you first want to acknowledge where there might be some truth, so you can come back into greater integrity. You want to then acknowledge where you might have judgments and baggage around this particular part of you, so that you can begin to clean it up and activate that disowned power and capacity through the shadow work. Finally, as you ask how is this here to truly serve my greater purpose, my greater potential, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger, more resilient, so that you can give your gifts and speak your truth, and share your work and your message, whether it’s in your family or in relationships or in the world, in bigger and bigger platforms and bigger and bigger ways where there will be even more potential for attack and criticism.

Let’s just say right now you’re just starting out, and perhaps your circle of influence is relatively small, and so there’s not a lot of people that are exposed you or your message or your work or your opinions, and it’s not challenging you that much. If you are to suddenly get a large global platform or suddenly be in front of a large audience or suddenly be exposed in some much grander way, a hundred times where you are right now, the amount of feedback, criticism, opinions would most likely just crush you, because you don’t have the inner fortitude or stamina or resilience or consciousness that’s been developed to handle that. When I was just walking around in high school, if anybody had an opinion about me, it took me out for a period of time. Now, I’m exposed to tens of thousands of people or more a year, and there’s plenty of opinion. It’s not that it doesn’t sometimes still bother me a little bit, but it’s mostly because I’m sad by the lack of compassion and the ignorance of other people when they are just haters. I don’t mind constructive criticism, and you shouldn’t either, when it’s just trolling, when it’s just hating, when it’s just venting and it has no value. My level of resilience and my ability to handle it is much, much stronger. Sometimes people are like, How do you deal with that? How do you handle that? hence this question – how do you deal with the haters? It’s because I’ve been practicing. I’ve been exercising my capacity to love myself, value myself, forgive myself and be humble enough to look at these places in me that aren’t in integrity and that do have judgments and baggage and shadows.

Have I completely cleaned myself out of all of this? Absolutely not. In fact, one of the things that inspired me to do this podcast and answer this question now is because in recent months, the last year or so, I’ve been growing through a period where in the realm of family and friends and social circles, I became a target for certain stories and beliefs and opinions and perceptions that in my opinion are not true, and in fact are blatantly false and could be extremely hurtful, and in fact have been hurtful a few times. I noticed for the first time in a long time, I felt the need to want to convince other people that these stories and things weren’t true, whereas in the larger world, I had become relatively inoculated. I don’t mean if I was to suddenly be on the global stage, in the global media, that I would be immune to that level of feedback, but I get enough feedback to see that I’m pretty strong in that area. What I discovered was that in my personal life, with family and friends and the larger circle, that I was not immune. Of course, that’s where it cuts the deepest, those closest to us. That’s the Divine purpose of those relationships. That’s why we are shadow dancing in those relationships. That’s why we created those soul contracts, so that they could show us where we’re unconscious, where we’re living in fear or separation, lack or limitation, where we don’t know who we really are, where we don’t deeply truly love and value ourselves and respect ourselves. They show up so that we can ultimately come home to ourselves. Because I know that, I’m working with it and have worked through a lot of it. It’s very important that you know that, that everybody that shows up is bearing a gift uniquely wrapped for you.

It’s like the grain of sand that gets into the oyster, that irritates the heck out of it, but the result is that it spins a pearl. To try to get rid of that irritation, it creates a beautiful pearl. So all these people that come into your life that are criticizing you and even hating on you and telling lies or distortions, those are the grains of sand getting in your shell. There you can create a string of pearls. As the Bible calls it, the pearl of great price. It’s that ultimate wisdom that comes from digging deeper, not taking life at face value, but taking everything that comes as a gift and a blessing, often in disguise, and doing this inner work. So that you can transform and transmute that into a pearl, into a jewel, into a treasure, and ultimately into real wisdom that not only adds value to your life but allows you to turn around and add value to the lives of others and to become a role model in whatever area that you endeavor, family, friends, business, the world.

So, my invitation to you is when this shows up in your life – the opinion, the feedback, the criticism, the haters, family, friends, business, and colleagues or beyond – that you stop, and you remember everything is conspiring for your good, for your growth, for your evolution. This is showing up to make you stronger. Then ask what if anything is true about this? I’m willing to see where am I in this so I can take responsibility for it and clean it up. Number two, where is the shadow? What’s the shadow here? If somebody’s calling you a name – you’re a loser, you’re cheap, you’re selfish – whatever, you want to go and do the shadow work on that until you can fully own and embrace that part of you. Number three, you want to ask, how is this serving my larger vision? How is it making me a unique and perfect instrument to serve the larger purpose, to share the larger message? You’ll start to discover as you work with that that it is making you stronger so that you can share your message, speak your truth on a much bigger platform where more people might criticize you or have their opinions, but you will be immune to that because you’ve done the work today rather than waiting until then.

It’s like the story of a surfer that goes from beach to beach waiting for the big wave, but never gets out there and surfs the little ones. When the big wave finally comes, the surfer gets out there and gets just crushed by the wave, because they haven’t built the musculature, the dexterity, the ability to handle that velocity, that energy. They’re just not ready for it, and so it destroys them. If it doesn’t kill them, it might tremendously set them back in terms of their interest and desire and belief that they can never do it again. So, you want to practice every little time there’s a criticism, there’s a judgment, there’s an opinion that pushes your buttons. That’s the time to do the work. It’s like the old saying that every little challenge is a practice for dying. Those challenges that you have to surrender and open up beyond your self-concept is practice for dying, which is the ultimate surrender of your self-concept. That’s all dying really is, you’re releasing your material, personal self-concepts, but who you really are never dies. It continues to emerge and unfold. These criticisms are like little deaths. They’re opportunities for you to let go of a little part of your ego that’s fighting for its right, trying to prove itself, trying to survive. You can breathe and release that and get the gift of that criticism.

One little caveat to all these, and I think it’s very important, because a lot of people, they’re heart-centered, spiritually-minded, they are wounded, they are scarred, they are scared, and sometimes what’s really necessary needed is for people to take a stand for themselves, to so value and respect and love themselves that they have the courage and the willingness to tell other people that are mistreating them, that is not okay. You don’t get to do that. You don’t get to talk to me that way. You don’t get to treat me that way. I’m putting my foot down. Come what may. You can reject me. You can fire me. You can kick me out of the house, whatever the case may be, but I will not allow anybody to treat me less than kind and respectful. That’s a very valid stance. It’s a very valid and important step and stage for a person’s development, but if you find yourself always doing that, and doing that and trying to convince a person to see you a certain way, that’s where you know you’ve gotten caught up in your own shadow. You’re trying to use them as a proxy to try to quell your own bad feelings. Do you understand what I mean? If I can just get them to see me a certain way, I’ll feel better, but it never works, because your feeling bad really isn’t about them. They’ve triggered a pocket in you that already has that judgment. So, whenever you are drawing a boundary, this is very important, you’re not doing it to change them. You’re not putting up a boundary to change their behavior. You’re putting up a boundary to honor yourself, to stand in your truth and in your power.

If I said to a person, You don’t get to talk to me that way. If you want to be around me, you’re going to have to treat me more respectful, more kind, etc. I’m not saying you’ve got to change or else. It’s not an ultimatum. Maybe it’s an ultimatum, but I’m not trying to manipulate them. I could even say to them, I’m not telling you you need to be different for your own life, but if you’re going to be in my life, this is where my line is. You see? Then, it’s up to them to change or to choose to change, but you’re not trying to change them. You’re not trying to change them to make you feel better. You’re taking a stance. You’re putting a boundary up. You are loving and valuing and respecting and honoring yourself for its own sake. If they continue to act out, to criticize, to hate on you, to do whatever they’re doing, then you take whatever the next logical step is. You break off relations. There’s a certain consequence. Again, not because you’re trying to change them, but because you’re going to stand in the truth of honoring, valuing, loving, and respecting yourself. Whatever they decide to do around that is ultimately up to them, but it’s an important thing to add to this, because otherwise some people might hear that I’m saying if somebody’s hating on you and saying mean and rude things to you and disrespecting you, don’t say anything to them, don’t do anything about it, just go work on yourself. I’m not saying that. I am saying that wherever it pushes your buttons and makes you feel compelled through a more compulsive behavior to want to change their opinion in order to feel better, that is about you.

You want to work on yourself, so that you don’t have the button, but you also get to have boundaries. You’ve got to treat yourself with love and kindness and respect. Let others know that nothing less than that is acceptable. Now, of course, this comes with a price, because the minute you take a stand to love, value, and respect yourself and make that a boundary, they’re going to call you out on all the places where you are not loving, kind, or respectful to them, or in general. So you’re going to have to take responsibility for that. That’s a step that you have to take sometimes in order to get to the next level. You have to be willing, again, to be humble, to be open, to really listen and to look and see where within me is what they’re saying true? So, this isn’t just one side. Sometimes it’s not a monologue. Sometimes it requires a dialogue, okay? Ultimately, your goal, your focus, your intention is about you cleaning up you, you becoming an integrity, you being cleared of who and what you really are and why you’re alive and knowing your true value and power and coming into a greater sense of self-love, self-respect, and self-actualization. It’s not about changing the world. That’s the key idea here that I want you to get in all of this, okay? That’s how you deal with the haters. That’s the gift of criticism. If you’re willing to take this stand and commit to this path, everybody that comes at you, even though they may think they’re throwing a grain of sand into your shell, you will be able to turn that into a pearl.

By the way, this is also the esoteric meaning of turn the other cheek. It doesn’t mean just letting a person keep hitting you. It means to return a different energy than what you receive. That’s ultimately what you’re able to do. You’re able to take in the hate, the criticism, and transmute it through your consciousness to love and light and power. Think about that. Think about that. It’s like a plant that takes in carbon dioxide and turns it into oxygen. Certain fish and certain sea products, they take in wastes, and they turn it into something of value. That’s what you become – an individual that takes all of that negativity and redeems it and transmute it back into power and intelligence, and wisdom, and light, and ultimately love. That’s pretty cool. I think that’s a beautiful place to end. That’s my charge to you. I hope you’ve enjoyed this edition of Ask Derek as part of my Emergence podcasts. If you want to go deeper in this work, please go to DerekRydall.com. Go to the free resource section. Download all the free tools and trainings. If you have not yet gotten a copy of my best-selling book Emergence, you can go to GetEmergenceBook.com and grab your copy there, and all the bonuses that come with that. If you have not yet registered for this podcast in iTunes, please take a moment. It just takes a moment, it’s literally a click of the button to register on iTunes for the Emergence podcast. Leave a review, because it really does help more people receive this. If you found this to be valuable, please share it with a friend or two. I look forward to connecting with you more personally and to giving you even more cutting edge or emerging edge, knowledge and inspiration and transformation. Until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.

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