What’s Stopping You is Serving You [Podcast]

What’s Stopping You is Serving You [Podcast]

What’s Stopping You is Serving You

There are many examples and instances in life where whatever stops you from doing something is actually serving you…

A very obvious example is a red traffic light. You may be in a hurry and are frustrated by all the red lights you’re hitting on your way to work, but in the grander scheme, there’s order and reason to the traffic lights, which allow everyone to get where they need to go safely.

Another example, not as obvious, is when you seemed to have stopped progressing with something… Sometimes you’ve gone as far as you can go in a certain direction/life path, and a situation occurs that naturally stops you from continuing in that direction. Whatever you may have been doing in the past no longer works – you’re being moved or guided to take another direction.

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But it’s important to understand that life is totally for you.

It’s for you when it pushes you, it’s for you when it pulls you, and it’s for you when it stops you. I invite you to look deeper and ask, “How?

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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When To Hold On & When To Let Go – That is the Question! [Podcast]

When To Hold On & When To Let Go – That is the Question! [Podcast]

When To Hold On & When To Let Go – That is the Question!

This is an important question that so many people can relate to.

One assumption that many mistakenly lean on is, that if something is challenging or when the doors aren’t easily opening for something you’re pursuing, it’s a sign from the Universe that you’re not supposed to do it.

Although things you pursue and are working towards can often be very challenging, it’s not a sign from the Universe that you’re not supposed to keep pursuing it.

The only real sign you’re not supposed to pursue something is you no longer want to.

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For my full explanation, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where I break it down and help you to apply this in your life TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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The Mighty Mo: How to Create Real Momentum [Podcast]

The Mighty Mo: How to Create Real Momentum [Podcast]

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The biggest challenges for many of us is either getting and keeping momentum, or having momentum, but it going the opposite direction – downward momentum.

For the latter, it’s like having one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. We have a downward pull, and then we’re simultaneously having upward pull. If you’re driving and pushing to make stuff happen in your life, it’s because you’ve got momentum going in two directions.

The worst thing that we try to do when we’re pushing and pushing is to push more, or push harder, at least in same the way that we’ve been pushing.

We must notice where is the momentum going in the opposite direction. This is one of the deeper esoteric meanings of the Biblical statement, “Where two or more are gathered in agreement, there I am in the midst of them.” The two or more can certainly be two or more people as in a church, organization, spiritual organization, but it also represents the two or more aspects of ourselves – the conscious, the unconscious, the mental, emotional, physical. When all of those are in agreement, moving in the same direction, then you activate the larger pattern of your potential, and you have real momentum.

This is also one of the meanings behind the Biblical statement that you cannot serve two masters, or you will be a house divided and a house divided cannot stand. A lot of times, when we’re feeling stuck and we’re lacking real momentum, it’s because we’re trying to serve two masters. We are ambitious. We are, on one hand, going for something and then the other hand not believing it’s going to happen or not believing that we’re worthy, or whatever the case may be. We can’t get real momentum.

As the core of the Emergence work, we want to ultimately bring all of our life into congruence, into integrity with our biggest vision – all going in the same direction. That’s what develops the optimal level of momentum.

As we hit new levels of growth and unfoldment, we hit new thresholds. Those unconscious limited beliefs, or just those areas that need to be activated more fully, they come up, and they create these road blocks that slow us down. We have to look at them, whether it’s a shadow, a values conflict or just developing ourselves.

One of the biggest of misunderstandings and things we tell ourselves is “I’m stuck.” We believe that we actually can be stuck. The truth is you can never really be stuck, no matter what the situation is. Even if you’re literally bedridden right now – there’s four core areas where you can get momentum. They are mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. (We could even say energetically, because you can actually separate out the energetics of it.)

If one of those areas is difficult or closed off at the moment, like being bedridden, you could sit and visualize and imagine yourself playing your sport and repeating it over and over, just getting it down to the most minute detail until you are just playing basketball masterfully. You see every little move of your hand. You can watch the best highlights of the golf swing and then imagine yourself doing it. Believe it or not, you are developing that skill mentally and emotionally, and creating real momentum.

This is true in any area. By practicing your talents, your gifts, your skills, at any level and any moment, there’s always a next step that you can do mentally and emotionally. There’s always something you can do to move forward.

The way you keep taking your life to higher levels is you have to habituate whatever level you’re working towards, so that that becomes a subconscious subjective pattern or habit. When you’re thinking about building momentum, it’s not just about going from zero to 60 quickly. Sometimes that’s necessary, but it’s more about developing the habits, to ultimately put momentum on autopilot.

Habit is ultimately what determines your character, and your character is what determines your destiny. Especially if you’re going, what seems to be going backwards, it requires patience as you’re building these new habits, because at first it might appear like you’re not getting any momentum.

If you try to move a big giant ship that is going in one direction, you turn it, you won’t see it turning right away – it takes time.

You can’t always judge by appearances where there’s real progress. If you’re building these habits based on your highest vision and based on the character you want to develop, then you are on the right track. It doesn’t have to be this grand high faluting vision. It’s just whatever that thing is you most feel and inspired to move towards.

You’re designing a way of life that allows you to mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and energetically start moving everything towards that direction.

At the most simplest level, how you get the Mighty Mo is to start moving… Move yourself emotionally, move yourself mentally, move yourself spiritually, and move yourself physically – you can always move no matter what, no matter who you are.

To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.

To Your Emergence!

Stay inspired!

Derek

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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Greetings, my fellow Emergineers. Derek Rydall here, and it’s so good to be with you again as we’re talking about the Mighty Mo, how to create real momentum in your life, even if your life is standing still or it’s going backwards. This is such an important aspect. The Mighty Mo obviously stands for momentum. Mighty Mo, Uncle Mo – it’s all about momentum. For so many of us, and of you, one of the biggest challenges is getting and keeping momentum. Ultimately, the reason why we don’t create momentum is a variety of things. We’re going to talk about that. A lot of us do have momentum, it’s just we have momentum that’s going either in the opposite direction, it’s downward momentum, or we have dual momentum. It’s like we have one foot on the gas and one foot on the brake. We have a downward pull, and then we’re simultaneously having upward pull. If you’re driving and pushing to make stuff happen in your life, it’s because you’ve got momentum going in two directions.

This is called ambition. Ambition means you’re going in two directions at the same time. It’s like the Zen statement of trying to ride two horses at the same time that are going in different directions. When you’re pushing and struggling, oftentimes it’s because on one hand, you’ve got momentum going down or going backwards, or, for example, you’ve got an emotional or mental momentum in the direction of It’s not going to happen. It’s not going to happen. It’s not going to work. Then, you are physically pushing and maybe mentally on some level also pushing, I’ve got to make it work. I’ve got to make it work. I’vegot to make it work. Again, it’s like running in place. It’s like running on a treadmill, or worse, having one foot on the brake and one foot on the gas. This is what creates burnout and ultimately overwhelm and breakdown.

The worst thing that we try to do when we’re pushing and pushing and pushing is just push more, just push harder, at least in the way that we’ve been pushing. It doesn’t mean we don’t want to keep working, but we don’t want to keep working or pushing in the way we have been. We want to notice where is the momentum going in the opposite direction, and how can we get all of us going in the same direction? This is one of the deeper esoteric meanings of the Biblical statement, Where two or more are gathered in agreement, there I am in the midst of them. The two or more can certainly be two or more people as in a church, organization, spiritual organization, but it also represents the two or more aspects of ourselves – the conscious, the unconscious, the mental, emotional, physical. When all of those are in agreement, moving in the same direction, then you activate the larger pattern of your potential, and you have real momentum. This is also one of the meanings behind the Biblical statement that you cannot serve two masters, or you will be a house divided and a house divided cannot stand. So, a lot of times, when we’re feeling stuck and we’re lacking real momentum, it’s because we’re just trying to serve two masters. We are ambitious. We are on one hand going for something, and then the other hand not believing it’s going to happen, not believing that we’re worthy, or whatever the case may be. We can’t get real momentum. Now, we’re just pushing and pushing and forcing or alternatively, we give up.Ultimately, as the core of the Emergence work, we wanted to ultimately bring all of our life into congruence, into integrity with our biggest vision, all going in the same direction. That’s what develops the optimal level of momentum. We’re not going to build or do it consistently forever and perfectly forever as we’re continuing to grow and unfold. As we hit new levels of growth and unfoldment, we hit new thresholds. Those unconscious limited beliefs, or just those areas that need to be activated more

Ultimately, as the core of the Emergence work, we wanted to ultimately bring all of our life into congruence, into integrity with our biggest vision, all going in the same direction. That’s what develops the optimal level of momentum. We’re not going to build or do it consistently forever and perfectly forever as we’re continuing to grow and unfold. As we hit new levels of growth and unfoldment, we hit new thresholds. Those unconscious limited beliefs, or just those areas that need to be activated more fully, they come up, and they create these road blocks that slow us down, and we have to look at them, whether it’s a shadow or values conflict or just developing ourselves. One of the biggest of misunderstandings and things we tell ourselves is I’m stuck. We believe that we actually can be stuck. We slipped into feeling like a victim and either don’t do anything, spend our time getting momentum around how much Ben & Jerry’s, Chunky Monkey or New York Super Fudge Chunk we can eat. We get a lot of momentum with that spoon and not enough momentum in the area that really matters most to us.

The truth is you can never really be stuck, no matter what the situation is. Let’s just say physically you are impaired and you’re bedridden, and let’s say you’re an athlete, and you’re like, You don’t understand, Derek, I can’t get momentum in the area of my athletic growth, because I’m literally bedridden right now. That’s not true, because there’s three core areas, or really four, where you can get momentum. That is mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. We could even say energetically, because actually you can separate out the energetics of it. So, you can get momentum in all those areas. If one of those areas is difficult or closed off at the moment, like you’re bedridden, you could sit there and visualize and imagine yourself playing your sport and repeating it over and over and over and just getting it down to the most minute detail until you are just playing basketball masterfully, or whatever the thing may be, and you see every little move of your hand. You can be watching the best highlights of golf swing or whatever, and then imagine yourself doing it. Believe it or not, and I think you do believe it, you are developing that skill just mentally and emotionally, and creating real momentum.

In fact, they’ve done a study where they had three groups. One was practicing basketball, going out there and doing the drills. The other one was just visualizing themselves practicing, and the other group was visualizing and practicing. The one that was visualizing did just as good as the one that was just practicing their skill level and their growth. The one that visualized and practiced did better than both of them. The key is that they could just visualize practicing, and they were able to grow their skill level and be on par with those that were just physically practicing. This is true in the area. You might say, I don’t have the capacity to go…͟ It will be another example. Maybe you think something requires money to launch your business or something. In fact, it really doesn’t, but you could be visualizing it. You could be practicing your talents, your gifts, your skills. At any level at any moment, there’s always a next step that you can do mentally, emotionally. You could be working on your mental games that you are embodying the mental mindset for whatever it is the next stage of your life. You could be working on your emotional game so that you are emotionally resilient and activating the high quality positive emotions. You can be working on physically, meaning any of the physical attributes – walking, talking, creating, developing, and then energetically increasing your energy and energy flow in your body and radiating and expanding your energy field, and spiritually – prayer, meditation. There’s always something you can do to move forward.

deally, like I said at the start, you want to bring all of these in line with your highest vision, your deeper desire, so they’re all moving in the same direction. In some cases, some periods, one or more of them aren’t moving in the same direction, but if you get enough of them moving, it pulls the other one with you. When you are feeling stuck or stagnant or overwhelmed or burned out or doing a lot of pushing and forcing, as I said, you want to begin to identify where you are going in opposite directions. What do you really believe about this? What do you really feel about this? Likewise, if you’re just doing affirmations and meditation, but you’re not taking any physical action, that could be the missing piece to create real momentum. If you’re just sitting around affirming, I’m rich. I’m abundant. I’m successful. I’m a powerful coach, leader, teacher, author or whatever but you’re not actually writing every day or taking steps to get new clients or whatever the case may be, then you can feel and experience yourself being stuck. It’s what I called coming spiritually or affirmatively constipated, because you’re activating all this energy, but you’re not expressing it. So, if you do have the capability to be taking other actions in these other dimensions then you want to be doing that. You don’t want to be just affirming that you’re abundant. You want to be taking actions of an abundant person. You want to be generating emotions of an abundant person and having conversations like an abundant person. Little bit by little bit, you bring your whole life into integrity, into congruence.

The other thing about momentum is to understand ultimately you want to put momentum on autopilot. What this means is that understanding that what we mostly live by is habits. Most of our life is run by habits – mental, emotional, physical habits, even energetic patterns that had become habitual. So, you want to be aware of that. The way you keep taking your life to higher levels is you have to habituate whatever level you’re working towards, so that that becomes a subconscious subjective pattern or habit. When you’re thinking about building momentum, it’s not just about going from zero to 60 quickly. Sometimes that’s necessary as soon as you have to just come out of the gate fast and furious. It’s more about what are the habits, what are the daily habits? It might not look like you’re getting a lot of momentum if you’re just writing a hundred words a day. What happens is, over time, suddenly those hundreds add up, and it adds up literally to pages and pages. When you start to have a stack of pages in front of you, it affects your emotional and mental outlook on it. You start to develop a consciousness of having of abundance, of things that are happening. All these difference start to connect, and they create momentum. You may not see it right away.

Momentum is not always about being busy. In fact, oftentimes when you’re busy you don’t have real momentum. Busyness does not equal being productive, doing what matters most does. You somewhat had to sacrifice busyness for building habits, for doing the right thing, the most important thing, and doing it consistently even, and especially, when it’s not urgent – sitting and meditating every day, not only when you’re in a bad place. You don’t want to just have foxhole consciousness where you’re only going to pray and meditate when you’re in the foxhole and the bullets are wheezing over your head. You build the practice until meditation becomes a habit. You notice throughout the day it starts to have a transferring effect, and you start to think about and tap into, regularly, this prayer without ceasing. It starts to build momentum. You start going to the gym or walking around the block every day. At first, you don’t see any results and don’t feel like it’s making a difference, but it starts to build momentum. Habit is what we’re most after. More than we want just a quick fix or a quick results, we want to know that we’re designing a way of life through our habits that ultimately building our character. It’s like this is just the kind of person I am. I meditate every day. I work on my creativity every day. I exercise every day or multiple times a week. I spend this kind of time with family, friends, and loved ones on a regular basis. I put in X amount of time in building my business every day. This is just who I am. That becomes a habit and a way of life. As Confucius said, All men are the same, but it is their habits that separate them.

Habit is ultimately what determines your character, and your character is what determines your destiny. Especially if you’re going what seems to be going backwards, sometimes you have to be patient as you’re building these new habits, because at first it might appear like you’re not getting any momentum. If you try to move a big giant ship that is going in one direction, you turn it, and you don’t see it turning right away. It takes time. I’ve used the analogy of the racecar that’s sliding towards the wall. You turn the wheel the opposite way, turning it away from the wall towards the track, but it’s got momentum still and it slides towards the wall. You could be like, Oh, my God. It’s not working. It’s not working. Then, you turn the wheel. You look at the wall again, and the wheel turns back towards the wall, and you hit the wall. If you are willing to turn away from the wall, the problem, the place that you’re sliding towards, the momentum that you don’t want, this backwards momentum, and you keep your attention on the road and on the finish line and where you want to go, at some point, the wheels catch. The momentum in the opposite direction gets stopped, and you reverse course. There’s a period a lot of times when you’re going backwards, where it feels like you’re doing all this stuff and it’s still sliding towards the wall. I’m doing all this stuff, and I’m not losing any weight. I’m doing all this stuff, and I’m not getting any clients. I’m doing all this stuff, and I’m not feeling better, but then there’s an inflection point where all that you’ve done catches up and the tires catch, and you’re back on track again.

You have to be patient. You can’t always judge by appearances where there’s real progress. If you’re building these habits based on your highest vision, you’re building habits that are based on the character you want to develop, then you are on the right track. Does that mean you’ll never hit the wall? No. If you don’t do this, you’re almost certain to hit the wall. You’re taking your ideal vision of where you want to go. It doesn’t have to be this grand high faluting vision. It’s just whatever that thing is you most feel and inspired to move towards. You’re designing a way of life that allows you to mentally, emotionally, physically, spiritually, and energetically start moving everything towards that direction. That does include your inner and your outer environment. Your outer environment helps to either create momentum or recharge momentum, to speed it up or to slow it down. If you’ve got relationships, activities and spaces that are cluttered or that are negative or that are not aligned with where you want to go, every time you see that picture or watch that program or listen to that music or talk to that person that it is energetically, emotionally going in a different direction, you are slowing your momentum down. You want to design a life inside and out that represents where you want to go and not where you’ve been or even necessarily where you are. You see that inspiring image or picture or token. You watch that inspiring program and listen to that inspiring audio. All of that develops momentum energetically, spiritually, emotionally and mentally. You have conversations with people that are inspiring, that speak life into you, that are living their own life and that begins to bring momentum.

You’re designing a way of life inside and out that is about where you want to go, not where you’ve been. That’s how you build a reality that supports momentum. You do the daily practices that build the kinds of habits that represent the kind of character that you would be if you were living your ideal destiny. Regardless of where you’ve been or what you’re experiencing, you build those habits. In those areas where you really don’t feel like you can take action, then you focus on another area. As I said, if you just are feeling emotionally you’re so out of line, then you focus on what can I do physically. If I’m not feeling happy, what would a happy person do? I’m not able to generate happiness internally, let me find a way to do something physically, and now you have physical momentum, and then you activate emotional momentum. When you’re in that emotionally high place, that’s the best time to do your affirmations and your practice. Now you activate mental momentum and spiritual momentum. You see? You don’t have to wait. You just find your entry point, the place you can begin to move, and you go there. You don’t go, Oh, affirmations aren’t doing it for me today. I guess I’m screwed. No. If that’s not working, what can you do? Maybe you put on the piece of music and you dance. Suddenly, you’re feeling inspired again. You’re feeling energized. Now, say your affirmations or if none of that is working, maybe again, if I say emotionally you’re not feeling inspired to do the work you want to do, what can you do? Maybe you listen to a song, you take some physical action. You go out in nature or you call out a friend or whatever, but there’s always some next step. You don’t give yourself the luxury of being stuck.

Sometimes, what you need to continue and to stay in momentum is to do nothing. Nothing isn’t really a nothing, it’s an active resting. Remember that sound without space is just noise. Sound with the proper spacing is music. Action without rest is chaos. Action with the proper rest becomes productivity, creativity. Resting and space, both physical, mental, and emotional space, is a key component to creating momentum and to sustaining momentum. One of my favorite sayings is, play until you need to rest; rest until you want to play again. So, it’s a balance. Sometimes when you’re not feeling momentum and you’re pushing and pushing, stopping and becoming still is the most important thing you can do to get back on track again. The key is that wherever you are right now, begin where you are. Find that area where is your entry point and begin to align it with your bigger vision, and then one by one bring the rest of your life into alignment with it.

Now, what are some of the other things that prevent momentum? What are some of the areas we get stuck in? One is waiting. You’re waiting for some conditions to be right. You’re waiting for some person to be different. You’re feeling like a victim of them or of the situation. You’re wondering why you’re stuck. Whatever you’re waiting for, you’re waiting with, and then you’re weighing it down. Life doesn’t happen to you, it happens through you. Whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. When you’re waiting telling yourself, Well, I’ll do this when, or I’ll start this when, you’ve got to ask yourself, how can I start this now? I’ll start to do this or be this way when that person treats me this way or respects me more. Well, how can you start respecting yourself now? We don’t want to wait. Now, there is a Divine waiting in the sense that you’re doing the work, you’ve done the work, and you’re in that resting period again, which is a very conscious resting. If you find yourself saying, I can’t do this thing that I want to do. I can’t move towards it and create momentum until something outside of me changes or even something inside of me, like I use the example before Well, I can’t really feel happy today because I can’t say affirmations. They’re not working, and so I’m just going to wait until happiness in me. No, what can you do to generate that feeling, to make create momentum?

The other one, again, talking about emotions and feelings, is emotional reasoning. We say, Well, I just don’t feel like it. I want to write today, but I just don’t feel inspired, and then we don’t. We don’t write. I want to do this thing. I want to go exercise, but I just don’t feel like it. We’ve grown up being conditioned to believe that’s a logical reason not to do it. In fact, it’s not. It’s emotional reasoning. It’s a cognitive disorder, because your emotions don’t determine your actions. Your emotions don’t have any actual power over you, so you don’t want to let them determine your actions. You want to let your vision determine your actions, and then take the actions of a person who’s feeling the way you want to feel, and you’ll start to generate those feelings. Start to hold yourself the way a person holds. There’s been plenty of studies to show that our physiology, the way we use our physiology has a big part into how we feel emotionally. Right now, if you want to experience depression, you can do that. You can slump your shoulders, you can look down, you can slow your voice down, lower the register of it, and start to feel more depressed, or you can straighten your back and you can raise your voice a little bit and speed up a little bit and keep your gaze upward, and you start to feel better. That is where you took a depressed person and had them stand up on a table, back straight, head held high, looking up, say, Okay, now, tell me what you’re depressed about, and the person would have to lower their head and look down to access that information. If they didn’t let them, you said, You’ve got to keep your eyes up, keep your head up, keep your back straight. Now, tell me what you’re depressed about. They literally couldn’t access their depression. So, use your physiology, use your body, use that to create momentum.

Another thing that obviously stops momentum is our judgments, otherwise known as our shadows. We want to move in a particular direction, we’re hitting a threshold, and when we look and say, What am I afraid that’s going to happen if I do this? Oh, I’m going to fail, and then what would I make that mean about me or what would others think about me? You’re a loser, you’re a failure, you’re stupid, and so that’s why we’re not moving forward. So, you want to then stop, write that down and begin to address that very specifically and practically in shadow work. You don’t want to stop moving. You don’t want to go get that would be a good excuse for you to take a break for the next week and just do nothing but work on your shadow. You want to still take productive action in the direction of your vision. Now that you know there’s a judgment, there’s a shadow there, you’re not going to get caught in emotional reasoning and wait till you feel better about it, till you don’t feel afraid. You’re still going to take that action, but you’re also now going to work on the shadow which is equivalent to taking your foot off the brake. So, you still have your foot on the gas, but you’re now going to ease your foot off the brake by doing the shadow work.

The same thing is true with values conflicts. That’s where you want two different things, but they seem opposed to each other. You want space and freedom, and you want success and abundance. In your mind, they’ve been wired where in order to get success and abundance, you have to sacrifice space and freedom or time and freedom. In order to have time and freedom, you have to sacrifice success and abundance. You’re upbringing your experiences, that’s how you’ve been conditioned to believe. Of course, it’s not true, but it’s the map you’ve created. It’s the way your neurology has been wired. You discover by when you’re feeling stuck, you can ask questions like, if I achieve this or get this or do that, I’m afraid I’ll lose _____ or I’m afraid I’ll have to sacrifice _____. Do that question and answer period 5 or 10 times till you come up with a variety of things and start to see the pattern.I’m afraid if I really go for this, I’m going to have not enough time for myself. If I really go for this, it can take me away from family.

That’s a values conflict, and then you need to create a values affirmation, which is the more I do this or go for this, the more of this other thing I have, too. The more of this other thing I have and honor, the more of this other thing I go for. For example, the more successful and abundant I am in the world, the more time and freedom I have. The more I honor my legitimate need for time and freedom, the more inspired and empowered I am to create incredible success and abundance in the world. That becomes like a mantra, a values affirmation that rewires that, and so you begin to use that on a regular basis. You keep moving in the direction that your vision is calling. Again, you don’t wait to get the values affirmation all worked out, but now that becomes part of your daily practice while you’re also taking action.

This is why I created what I called the quantum plan. It’s not just outer action, outer action, outer action. It’s a plan that incorporates the objective and subjective parts of your brain of your awareness. You are developing and refining your daily practice in terms of building your inner life and the inner structures so that your inner life is moving in the same direction as your outer life. You’re working on both streams not one or the other and not one at the expense of the other. You don’t just stop outer actions to only work on inner actions. You don’t just stop inner action to only work on outer action which happens, right? We get so busy, we stop doing our daily practice. We lose momentum emotionally and spiritually, and then we wonder why the other action starts to lose momentum, and we start to feel tired or burned out or stressed or unclear. We focused all of our attention on the inner action, and once we hit a threshold, we stop the outer action, and then we wonder why we lose momentum and start to feel congested, constipated, sluggish, depressed. I’m doing all this meditation, prayer, affirmation, I’m depressed – because you’re not taking action. You’re not expressing it. You’re not circulating it. You’ve let go the outer for the inner or you let go of the inner for the outer. You become stressed, overwhelmed, burned out when you let go the outer for the inner. You become depressed, sluggish. So, you want to have both streams going, and then you put that together as part of your quantum plan so you’ve got a daily inner practice and a daily outer practice. All of it is aligned with your biggest vision. As you bump into those thresholds, you look deeper, you see what it’s really all about. Is it am I waiting for something? Is it emotional reasoning? Is it judgment or shadow? Is it values conflict? I add that piece to my daily practice. I keep moving outside and I got momentum again.

This is how you get the Mighty Mo. At the most simple level, how do you get momentum? You start moving. That’s the most basic level. Just start moving. Again, that doesn’t mean just physically start moving. It means just start moving in some capacity. Move yourself emotionally. Move yourself mentally. Move yourself spiritually. Move yourself physically. Again, when I use physical, that doesn’t just mean like walking. It means speaking, moving your body, expressing yourself creatively, etc. but just start moving. If you are moving in one of those dimensions, look at the other dimensions and see are you moving there too? If not, start getting that moving. This is how you create real momentum and really no longer can ever be stuck again. It doesn’t mean you won’t have challenges, you won’t have setbacks, you won’t have problems, you won’t feel bad some days but it won’t stop you. You won’t feel like a victim of it. Even if you do feel like a victim of it, you’ll look at that, you’ll do something about it. You won’t just stop. Eventually, this all becomes subjective. It becomes habit. Your life becomes now automatically designed. It starts to automatically produce this momentum. That habit pattern now develops your character. You literally evolve, you literally change, you literally become different, and now you’ve changed your destiny.

hope this has served you. I hope this has inspired you to find greater momentum, to realize that you can always move no matter what, no matter who you are. Stephen Hawking can’t move his body at all, but he certainly doesn’t have a lack of momentum in his life. Helen Keller couldn’t see or hear or speak very well, but it didn’t stop her from having momentum in her life. Many people have lost everything, gone bankrupt, had great tragedies, but they found that entry point to create momentum in their life. Wherever you are now, you can create real momentum and increase momentum. I invite you to pick one or two things you can do today to get momentum in some area where you felt otherwise stuck. Pick one or two things, and then share that in the Facebook group where you’re going to generate more momentum. Share that with your accountability partner. If you don’t have one, that’s a great way to get momentum. Get an accountability partner. Just reach out to somebody in the group. You’ll be off to the races. Just take a moment and just drop down into this field of grace, this prayer field. At least throw ourselves wide open. There’s always something trying to emerge, always more life, more light, more love, more truth, more beauty, more abundance. We just open ourselves now and the silence of our soul, we set an intention. We’re willing. We’re ready to be ever greater instruments of life and all of its many qualities than ever before. We’re available to more good than we’ve ever experienced or imagined. We’re available to be used more powerfully, more completely than we’ve ever imagined. We’re willing despite all appearances, all conditions, all past. We’re willing to be used. We’re willing to fulfill our purpose. We’re willing to be of service. We’re willing to be bigger, better, stronger, more awake, aware, creative than we’ve ever imagined. We’re just engaging willingness. I’m willing. I’m ready. I’m able. Use me. Send me.

Just take a moment and just drop down into this field of grace, this prayer field. At least throw ourselves wide open. There’s always something trying to emerge, always more life, more light, more love, more truth, more beauty, more abundance. We just open ourselves now and the silence of our soul, we set an intention. We’re willing. We’re ready to be ever greater instruments of life and all of its many qualities than ever before. We’re available to more good than we’ve ever experienced or imagined. We’re available to be used more powerfully, more completely than we’ve ever imagined. We’re willing despite all appearances, all conditions, all past. We’re willing to be used. We’re willing to fulfill our purpose. We’re willing to be of service. We’re willing to be bigger, better, stronger, more awake, aware, creative than we’ve ever imagined. We’re just engaging willingness. I’m willing. I’m ready. I’m able. Use me. Send me.

n this openness, in this availability, the whole Universe rushes to this place called each and every one of us, because it’s always looking for willing instrument to put itself on display. We’re just so available now, so willing. If any thoughts popped up, like a fear that somehow this is going to cause this to go in the wrong direction, or that God or life is going to somehow want us to do something we don’t, or that we’re going to have to sacrifice, we just notice any of that resistance. We bless it, and we release it, and we say I’m willing. I’m willing. I’m willing. Use me, life. Use me, God. Send me. Take over. Take over my whole life that it may become a transparency for the will of god, for the highest pattern of good, that my life may reveal and reflect the true order and harmony and abundance and beauty of the Universe and help and liberate and inspire and set others free along with me.

Wherever I’ve got and seemingly stuck, wherever I’ve created an excuse for why I can’t, why I’m not able, I’m willing not to let that remove. I’m willing for my life to just be a pure open channel for the full power and presence and love and brilliance of the universe of God. Like a mighty river rushing downhill without a boulder inside, I’m willing, I’m ready. Thy will be done. Whatever I need to see, feel, sense, embrace, release, speak, or do to be a channel and an instrument in the place where life can fulfill itself, where my destiny of greatness can be fulfilled, I’m ready and I’m willing now. No holds barred. In this space now, this flow continues to unfold. It finds all the pockets that are seemingly blocked and it opens them. Wherever where hungry were fed, wherever where thirsty were quenched, this energy, this flow now moves through our entire mind, body, heart and life transforming and transmuting everything to serve its higher purpose that we may truly fulfill that great and grand reason for which we came. It’s happening now. Breathe and receive this. Allow it. Allow gratitude to well up and so it is. Amen.

ASK DEREK – How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism)[Podcast]

ASK DEREK – How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism)[Podcast]

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This is an issue that has always been part of human culture, but with the ability of so many people to comment anonymously online, our need to deal with criticism and the haters has been greatly magnified.

There’s a thing in the UK called ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome,’ which is based on the need to cut off the top of a poppy if it grows above the rest — to create uniformity. But it also applies to people — if someone gets too big and rises above the rest, there is an impulse to cut them down. When people start to outgrow the tribe, then members of the tribe seek to pull them back down so that they can feel safe and secure.

The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, empowerment, and evolution — to make you an ever stronger instrument of what you’re here to do, be and share.

You’ve got to start there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, “Why is this happening to me?” , but, “How is this serving me?” “How is this making me stronger?”, “How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me?”

Whenever somebody is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair, unjust or unfounded, there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become more anchored in your truth. It’s the opportunity to build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, and of valuing yourself — which ultimately will inoculate you from the limited thought viruses of the world.

If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways — anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself.

When you are criticized and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right or defend your perspective, and convince them that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. (It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree.) To become truly free and empowered requires you to look at this part, understand, embrace, and integrate it.

For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might respond, “I’m not selfish! I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you.” You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. This is just defense, resistance, and actually anchors the shame and judgment even deeper.

Instead, you want to stop and contemplate if there is any truth to it – “Let me see where in my life am I selfish.”This immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in front of a someone whose criticized you, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where you’re selfish with yourself. You’re not doing this to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it.

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The next thing you look at is the particular judgment, the shadow, and see where you might have some baggage around it. For example, let’s say you’re becoming successful, getting in shape, or growing in some positive way, and some people tell you, “Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important.” If you’re a spiritual teacher or artist, you might hear things like, “How could you try to make money off spirituality or art? That’s so unspiritual…art, music, information — these should all openly available to everyone. You should be charging much less or giving it away for free!”

To key is to see where you harbor judgments, fears, beliefs of limitations around this area. It’s showing up as criticism so you can clear it and embody the truth of it — that means, first, seeing where you might be out of integrity, and second, seeing where you have unconscious limiting beliefs, shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or succeed in this area. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise.

By being willing to examine your judgments and shadows you begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are. As you ask yourself, “How is this here to truly serve my greater purpose and potential?”, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger and more resilient. You begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities.

That’s the gift of criticism. And what an awesome gift it is!

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To Your Emergence!

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Derek

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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Welcome to another episode of Ask Derek on this journey of Emergence, where we deal with the question today How do you deal with the haters? Otherwise known as the gift of criticism. This is something that is always been a part of culture, people that criticize people, that hate on people, that try to cut people down. In the UK, there’s a saying for the tall poppy syndrome. If a poppy gets too big above the rest, it gets lopped off at the head. When people get too big amongst the tribe, then the rest of the individuals on some levels seek to pull them back down to match everybody else. They’re such a general kind of thing that one ego likes to bring another ego down and ultimately be at the very least equal and ideally less than, or if you’ve been wounded then actually you bring yourself down, but that’s a whole other topic. Nowadays, with internet and with so much public expression of ourselves and so much public exposure and so many people online that can comment anonymously, this problem of dealing with criticism and the haters, also called the trolls, is just much, much bigger, and I would submit that it’s not that the problem itself or the issue itself has changed, it’s just that it becomes magnified, but it’s always been in the human psyche.

The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence and this work is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, without exception, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, your empowering, your evolution to make you an ever stronger, pure instrument of what you’re really here to do and to be and the gifts you’re here to give. You’ve got to start there. You’ve got to always come back to there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, why is this happening to me, but how is this serving me? How is this making me stronger? How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me? Whenever somebody is hating on you, is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair or unjust or unfounded, then there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become really anchored in the truth of who and what you really are and build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, of valuing yourself, of not being inoculated or immune to the feedback and the criticisms of the world.

There’s another side topic to this, which I won’t go into today, but it’s important to know that ultimately you want to become free of all opinions, good ones and the bad ones. So even those that are praising you, you ultimately want to become free of those too. For one thing, much praise is really a projection. If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways, so anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself. We’ll talk about that in a moment. Anything that pulls you, those people you greatly admire, those people you find yourself praising, is really also a projection of an unintegrated, unidentified part of your own power. When other people are praising you, often, they’re projecting their disowned power. That’s why, especially if you’re in some role of leadership, authority, expert, teacher, etc. and that begins to happen, or healer, or therapist, at some point, projection happens, or otherwise, it’s been called transference. They start to either reject you or praise you, criticize you or praise. Both are equally false. Both are equally their projection. When it’s criticism, your job is to not defend and fight and prove your point, but to look within yourself and find that part of yourself where you hold that criticism, where you have that shadow. When it’s praise, your job is to notice your own proclivity, the one that grabbed on to that.

Now, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t receive the love and the compliments. Let it in. Let all the love in, but if you’re in authority position, you want to give it back to them. You don’t want people to become followers. You want to empower them to become their own leaders. When they start projecting their power on you, you want to not so much reject their compliment, accept it, but also remind them that whatever good they see in you, especially where they feel incredibly praiseworthy, is really a reflection of good that’s within them, that they perhaps have not fully owned, and that this is an opportunity to own it. So, the entire star system, celebrity, athletes, all of that, is made of that. It’s made up of a projection of our disowned power. Praise and criticism are equally projections, and ultimately we want to become free of both of them.

We’re talking about the haters today. We’re talking about the gift of criticism, and so we come back to the shadow again and understand that if anybody is criticizing you or hating on you, and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right, you need to defend your prospective, you need to set them straight, you need to convince them that it’s not true or convince other people that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree. For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might go, I’m not selfish. I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you. You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. The first thing you want to do is stop and go, Let me take that feedback in and let me see is there any truth to it. Criticism is never True. It’s not ultimate truth, but you want to look and see Is there any truth to it? Let me see where in my life am I selfish.

First of all, this immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in person in front of them, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where am I selfish with myself? When somebody says you’re greedy, and you’re like one of the most generous people you know, where am I greedy? You look, and you’ll find something. That’s the first step. Find out where there’s some truth to it, not to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it. Of course, sometimes, feedback is not simply you’re being selfish. It’s things like, you’re a complete waste of humanity. You’re a waste of human space, and in that case, it’s going to be hard to go, Where am I a waste of human space? Now, you might find something as the old axiom goes, If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space. You might actually go, Well, I do waste time just surfing the internet. I gossip with my friends sometimes, just meaningless gossip that adds no value to anybody’s life. You know what, that is a waste of human space. That is a waste of time. In that moment, I am wasting my life and their life. That might be valuable to discover that, to clean that up.

The next thing you look at is, Okay, let me look at that particular judgment, that shadow, and see where I might have some baggage around that. For example, let’s say you are becoming successful or you’re endeavoring to be successful and make more money in your life, and some people come out and tell you, Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important. If you’re a consciousness or spiritual teacher or thought leader, you’ll get the kind of criticisms of how could you try to make money off spirituality. That’s so unspiritual. That’s so unconscious. That’s so mean or insensitive. You should be charging much, much less or giving it away for free, etc. If you are really a spiritual teacher, you wouldn’t charge anything. That’s a very big thing of baggage in this arena. You can go and look at that and see where do you hold some personal judgments about people that make a lot of money, or people that make money with spirituality, or people that are really successful. You can begin to see how you also harbor some udgments around that, some fears around that, some beliefs of limitation around that. They’re showing up so that you can clean it out, so that you can first of all see where you might be out of integrity, and second of all see where you have unconscious limiting beliefs or shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or to really succeed or they will. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise. This is a gift of criticism.

You can begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are, and you can begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities. I won’t go into the whole shadow process here, but you can certainly check out when I talk about shadow work or values conflict in other podcasts. You can go to DerekRydall.com/ShadowProcess and download a free audio process around the shadow. You can also grab the Shadow Dancing program if you really want to master shadow work. So, you first want to acknowledge where there might be some truth, so you can come back into greater integrity. You want to then acknowledge where you might have judgments and baggage around this particular part of you, so that you can begin to clean it up and activate that disowned power and capacity through the shadow work. Finally, as you ask how is this here to truly serve my greater purpose, my greater potential, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger, more resilient, so that you can give your gifts and speak your truth, and share your work and your message, whether it’s in your family or in relationships or in the world, in bigger and bigger platforms and bigger and bigger ways where there will be even more potential for attack and criticism.

Let’s just say right now you’re just starting out, and perhaps your circle of influence is relatively small, and so there’s not a lot of people that are exposed you or your message or your work or your opinions, and it’s not challenging you that much. If you are to suddenly get a large global platform or suddenly be in front of a large audience or suddenly be exposed in some much grander way, a hundred times where you are right now, the amount of feedback, criticism, opinions would most likely just crush you, because you don’t have the inner fortitude or stamina or resilience or consciousness that’s been developed to handle that. When I was just walking around in high school, if anybody had an opinion about me, it took me out for a period of time. Now, I’m exposed to tens of thousands of people or more a year, and there’s plenty of opinion. It’s not that it doesn’t sometimes still bother me a little bit, but it’s mostly because I’m sad by the lack of compassion and the ignorance of other people when they are just haters. I don’t mind constructive criticism, and you shouldn’t either, when it’s just trolling, when it’s just hating, when it’s just venting and it has no value. My level of resilience and my ability to handle it is much, much stronger. Sometimes people are like, How do you deal with that? How do you handle that? hence this question – how do you deal with the haters? It’s because I’ve been practicing. I’ve been exercising my capacity to love myself, value myself, forgive myself and be humble enough to look at these places in me that aren’t in integrity and that do have judgments and baggage and shadows.

Have I completely cleaned myself out of all of this? Absolutely not. In fact, one of the things that inspired me to do this podcast and answer this question now is because in recent months, the last year or so, I’ve been growing through a period where in the realm of family and friends and social circles, I became a target for certain stories and beliefs and opinions and perceptions that in my opinion are not true, and in fact are blatantly false and could be extremely hurtful, and in fact have been hurtful a few times. I noticed for the first time in a long time, I felt the need to want to convince other people that these stories and things weren’t true, whereas in the larger world, I had become relatively inoculated. I don’t mean if I was to suddenly be on the global stage, in the global media, that I would be immune to that level of feedback, but I get enough feedback to see that I’m pretty strong in that area. What I discovered was that in my personal life, with family and friends and the larger circle, that I was not immune. Of course, that’s where it cuts the deepest, those closest to us. That’s the Divine purpose of those relationships. That’s why we are shadow dancing in those relationships. That’s why we created those soul contracts, so that they could show us where we’re unconscious, where we’re living in fear or separation, lack or limitation, where we don’t know who we really are, where we don’t deeply truly love and value ourselves and respect ourselves. They show up so that we can ultimately come home to ourselves. Because I know that, I’m working with it and have worked through a lot of it. It’s very important that you know that, that everybody that shows up is bearing a gift uniquely wrapped for you.

It’s like the grain of sand that gets into the oyster, that irritates the heck out of it, but the result is that it spins a pearl. To try to get rid of that irritation, it creates a beautiful pearl. So all these people that come into your life that are criticizing you and even hating on you and telling lies or distortions, those are the grains of sand getting in your shell. There you can create a string of pearls. As the Bible calls it, the pearl of great price. It’s that ultimate wisdom that comes from digging deeper, not taking life at face value, but taking everything that comes as a gift and a blessing, often in disguise, and doing this inner work. So that you can transform and transmute that into a pearl, into a jewel, into a treasure, and ultimately into real wisdom that not only adds value to your life but allows you to turn around and add value to the lives of others and to become a role model in whatever area that you endeavor, family, friends, business, the world.

So, my invitation to you is when this shows up in your life – the opinion, the feedback, the criticism, the haters, family, friends, business, and colleagues or beyond – that you stop, and you remember everything is conspiring for your good, for your growth, for your evolution. This is showing up to make you stronger. Then ask what if anything is true about this? I’m willing to see where am I in this so I can take responsibility for it and clean it up. Number two, where is the shadow? What’s the shadow here? If somebody’s calling you a name – you’re a loser, you’re cheap, you’re selfish – whatever, you want to go and do the shadow work on that until you can fully own and embrace that part of you. Number three, you want to ask, how is this serving my larger vision? How is it making me a unique and perfect instrument to serve the larger purpose, to share the larger message? You’ll start to discover as you work with that that it is making you stronger so that you can share your message, speak your truth on a much bigger platform where more people might criticize you or have their opinions, but you will be immune to that because you’ve done the work today rather than waiting until then.

It’s like the story of a surfer that goes from beach to beach waiting for the big wave, but never gets out there and surfs the little ones. When the big wave finally comes, the surfer gets out there and gets just crushed by the wave, because they haven’t built the musculature, the dexterity, the ability to handle that velocity, that energy. They’re just not ready for it, and so it destroys them. If it doesn’t kill them, it might tremendously set them back in terms of their interest and desire and belief that they can never do it again. So, you want to practice every little time there’s a criticism, there’s a judgment, there’s an opinion that pushes your buttons. That’s the time to do the work. It’s like the old saying that every little challenge is a practice for dying. Those challenges that you have to surrender and open up beyond your self-concept is practice for dying, which is the ultimate surrender of your self-concept. That’s all dying really is, you’re releasing your material, personal self-concepts, but who you really are never dies. It continues to emerge and unfold. These criticisms are like little deaths. They’re opportunities for you to let go of a little part of your ego that’s fighting for its right, trying to prove itself, trying to survive. You can breathe and release that and get the gift of that criticism.

One little caveat to all these, and I think it’s very important, because a lot of people, they’re heart-centered, spiritually-minded, they are wounded, they are scarred, they are scared, and sometimes what’s really necessary needed is for people to take a stand for themselves, to so value and respect and love themselves that they have the courage and the willingness to tell other people that are mistreating them, that is not okay. You don’t get to do that. You don’t get to talk to me that way. You don’t get to treat me that way. I’m putting my foot down. Come what may. You can reject me. You can fire me. You can kick me out of the house, whatever the case may be, but I will not allow anybody to treat me less than kind and respectful. That’s a very valid stance. It’s a very valid and important step and stage for a person’s development, but if you find yourself always doing that, and doing that and trying to convince a person to see you a certain way, that’s where you know you’ve gotten caught up in your own shadow. You’re trying to use them as a proxy to try to quell your own bad feelings. Do you understand what I mean? If I can just get them to see me a certain way, I’ll feel better, but it never works, because your feeling bad really isn’t about them. They’ve triggered a pocket in you that already has that judgment. So, whenever you are drawing a boundary, this is very important, you’re not doing it to change them. You’re not putting up a boundary to change their behavior. You’re putting up a boundary to honor yourself, to stand in your truth and in your power.

If I said to a person, You don’t get to talk to me that way. If you want to be around me, you’re going to have to treat me more respectful, more kind, etc. I’m not saying you’ve got to change or else. It’s not an ultimatum. Maybe it’s an ultimatum, but I’m not trying to manipulate them. I could even say to them, I’m not telling you you need to be different for your own life, but if you’re going to be in my life, this is where my line is. You see? Then, it’s up to them to change or to choose to change, but you’re not trying to change them. You’re not trying to change them to make you feel better. You’re taking a stance. You’re putting a boundary up. You are loving and valuing and respecting and honoring yourself for its own sake. If they continue to act out, to criticize, to hate on you, to do whatever they’re doing, then you take whatever the next logical step is. You break off relations. There’s a certain consequence. Again, not because you’re trying to change them, but because you’re going to stand in the truth of honoring, valuing, loving, and respecting yourself. Whatever they decide to do around that is ultimately up to them, but it’s an important thing to add to this, because otherwise some people might hear that I’m saying if somebody’s hating on you and saying mean and rude things to you and disrespecting you, don’t say anything to them, don’t do anything about it, just go work on yourself. I’m not saying that. I am saying that wherever it pushes your buttons and makes you feel compelled through a more compulsive behavior to want to change their opinion in order to feel better, that is about you.

You want to work on yourself, so that you don’t have the button, but you also get to have boundaries. You’ve got to treat yourself with love and kindness and respect. Let others know that nothing less than that is acceptable. Now, of course, this comes with a price, because the minute you take a stand to love, value, and respect yourself and make that a boundary, they’re going to call you out on all the places where you are not loving, kind, or respectful to them, or in general. So you’re going to have to take responsibility for that. That’s a step that you have to take sometimes in order to get to the next level. You have to be willing, again, to be humble, to be open, to really listen and to look and see where within me is what they’re saying true? So, this isn’t just one side. Sometimes it’s not a monologue. Sometimes it requires a dialogue, okay? Ultimately, your goal, your focus, your intention is about you cleaning up you, you becoming an integrity, you being cleared of who and what you really are and why you’re alive and knowing your true value and power and coming into a greater sense of self-love, self-respect, and self-actualization. It’s not about changing the world. That’s the key idea here that I want you to get in all of this, okay? That’s how you deal with the haters. That’s the gift of criticism. If you’re willing to take this stand and commit to this path, everybody that comes at you, even though they may think they’re throwing a grain of sand into your shell, you will be able to turn that into a pearl.

By the way, this is also the esoteric meaning of turn the other cheek. It doesn’t mean just letting a person keep hitting you. It means to return a different energy than what you receive. That’s ultimately what you’re able to do. You’re able to take in the hate, the criticism, and transmute it through your consciousness to love and light and power. Think about that. Think about that. It’s like a plant that takes in carbon dioxide and turns it into oxygen. Certain fish and certain sea products, they take in wastes, and they turn it into something of value. That’s what you become – an individual that takes all of that negativity and redeems it and transmute it back into power and intelligence, and wisdom, and light, and ultimately love. That’s pretty cool. I think that’s a beautiful place to end. That’s my charge to you. I hope you’ve enjoyed this edition of Ask Derek as part of my Emergence podcasts. If you want to go deeper in this work, please go to DerekRydall.com. Go to the free resource section. Download all the free tools and trainings. If you have not yet gotten a copy of my best-selling book Emergence, you can go to GetEmergenceBook.com and grab your copy there, and all the bonuses that come with that. If you have not yet registered for this podcast in iTunes, please take a moment. It just takes a moment, it’s literally a click of the button to register on iTunes for the Emergence podcast. Leave a review, because it really does help more people receive this. If you found this to be valuable, please share it with a friend or two. I look forward to connecting with you more personally and to giving you even more cutting edge or emerging edge, knowledge and inspiration and transformation. Until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.

Why ALL Your Beliefs Limit You (And What You Should Do Instead) [Podcast]

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In the self-help, self-improvement arena, we put a lot of stock in our beliefs. At a certain level, it’s important to improve your beliefs and thoughts. It’s important to do the inner work, to take back control of your mind and reprogram its patterns and conditioning.

Step-by-step, we can uplevel our thoughts, our beliefs, and our emotional fuel, so that we are ultimately running on high-octane thinking, feeling and believing. This helps us move out of the victim state, where we believe we’re being acted upon by the world of experiences — where we believe life is happening to us.

It’s important to move from being a victim to a creator, where we see that the world isn’t victimizing us — our own thinking and the subsequent habits that come from our thinking is the real cause. We learn certain strategies — the law of mind and creation, visualization, affirmation — as well as other tools to regain control over our beliefs.

This is a critical first step on the path to personal freedom. Without this, we will remain in a perpetual cycle of reaction to circumstances that keeps us stuck — and even makes things worse. At this stage, we let go of being a victim and become a creator. Life is no longer happening to us, we are happening to life.

At this stage, you are controlling your conditions by what you are thinking, believing and consciously feeling, and are now manipulating situations consciously. At this level, it may or may not be for your highest good or for the good of others — you can create all kinds of conditions through the power of the law of mind, but it’s still in the realm of duality, of good and bad, up and down. That’s always the challenge at that level – you’re still operating with your human will and all of the conditioning and value systems that come with that.

Eventually, that doesn’t work as well as it used to. You manifest a things but aren’t fulfilled by them, or it even makes things worse. You manifest a bigger paycheck, but end up just broke at higher income bracket! You get a bigger house, but feel even less at home. You manifest a new relationship, but end up in the same arguments. You get all that stuff, but unconsciously, or consciously, you’re still afraid it could all go away.

To continue to activate your potential, you need to move to the next level, where you realize life is happening through you, that there’s a bigger idea than your human mind can conceive — and you need to surrender to it. This is the realm of vision, visionaries, and true innovation. This is where you become a channel, an instrument for an idea that is beyond your current paradigms, beyond your thinking, and beyond your beliefs.

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You open up and become available to an evolutionary impulse that has something to do with the expansion of your soul and of humanity. You begin to develop mental, emotional set-points that are vibrationally aligned with your highest vision. This is where the magic starts happening, this is where Grace kicks in. As the saying goes, “God responds to you by corresponding to its nature in you.”

As you move through these stages, you begin to realize that life is not about manipulating, adding, attracting, or improving anything — it’s about waking up to a wholeness and perfection that is already here, waiting for the right conditions to emerge. We move out of mere metaphysics — which is still often about manipulating appearances — and onto the path of mysticism, which is about touching Ultimate Reality and letting IT govern, guide, and direct our life — because we realize that there is an Intelligence that created everything and It knows how to run the show better than we do!

Unlike traditional success teachings, religious teachings, and most self-improvement or metaphysical teachings — which are based in the world of duality and seek to change appearances — the mystical path is about transcending all thinking, all believing, all identities, all pairs of opposites, all attempts to merely improve our conditions, and to wake up to who we really are, what’s really going on, and why we’re really alive.

The result of that expanded awareness is that we pop out of our stories and beliefs, and all the limitations they contain. The result of that is an expanded awareness that must begin to manifest itself as what the world calls improved experiences and conditions. The difference is that you know you didn’t make them happen, you made them welcome — so you don’t feel like you have to use all your energy to hold them in place. The change is real and lasting.

It’s not an easy path to walk. We’ve been so conditioned to believe we must manipulate appearances to be happy, safe, and free, and that our mind or body is what’s controlling things. But that’s false. There is a larger order, a deeper intelligence, a perfect pattern that is already here, already complete. Nothing we think or believe can improve upon it or make it happen. But when we let go of our agenda and open up to the mystery, this larger possibility can emerge in ways we could never imagine.

I invite you into this next level of living by asking, “Who am I beyond all of my stories, beyond all of my beliefs? Who would I be and what could I do if I didn’t have any story or beliefs? What’s really here, what’s really true, and what’s really possible that I can’t presently see because of my beliefs?”

Contemplate this. Meditate on it. Journal about it. And watch as a whole new vista of possibility begins to emerge!

You can also listen to an in-depth podcast on this subject, where we break it down and talk about how to put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer!

 

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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]

Welcome. Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the best-selling book, Emergence. It’s just great to be with you on this journey of Emergence, which is really about tapping into that Divine potential, that pattern of infinite perfection planted in the soil of your soul and creating the right conditions in your life so that that inherent good can unfold in your life like never before. You are meant to unfold naturally, as natural as the rest of nature, without struggle, without striving and even without overly thinking. Ultimately, your entire destiny of greatness could unfold without you taking thought for your life. If we could just get clear enough and still enough and connected enough, that which is already true about us would just begin to emerge just like nature. It would show up as inspired ideas. Those inspired ideas would transmute themselves into inspired conversation and compelling right action and ultimate achievements. It would all unfold without the process we have come to know as thinking and cogitating and struggling and straining and trying to make things happen which is not really normal or natural at all.

We are meant to unfold and feel like life is living us. When you’ve been inspired with some kind of idea and you didn’t think up the idea, the idea thought you. It’s like you’ve ever been praying and suddenly feel overcome by this devotional energy, and suddenly you’re no longer praying but something is praying you. You’re like an instrument being used. It feels so exhilarating, and you might find yourself forgetting to eat. You’re at the piano composing or at the computer writing or suddenly teaching, and this information is flowing through you, or whatever the case may be. You could be making love. You could be educating and loving a child. You could be playing sports, but suddenly you humanly aren’t doing it, you’re being done by something. That something is a higher pattern and activity that is always going on, and you’ve suddenly come into alignment with it. There are thoughts that become evident that are inspired, and they transmute into all these different levels: speech, action, expression and condition, but you’re not thinking them, you’re not doing them, and you’re not making them happen. You have become a place that has made it welcome. At the very bottom, that’s really the essence of Emergence. We’re really working to become those clear transparencies through and as which life can fulfill itself as us. We can become like a branch on a tree of life that bears witness to the life of the tree, to the leaves, the flowering and the fruit. You’ve had that experience most people have and imagine living like that all the time. That’s ultimately our aim.

The topic today is why all your beliefs limit you and what you should do instead. Especially in the self-help, self-improvement realm of things and even beyond that, we’ve come to really put a lot of stock in our beliefs. Obviously, there are relative levels. At a certain relative level, it’s important to improve your beliefs. It’s important to improve your thoughts. It’s important to do the inner work, to take back control of your mind and reprogram the patterns and condition your mind. That’s a very important step that moves you out of the victim state. When you’re a victim, you think you’re being victimized by the world of experiences, that things are happening to you, but what you’re really being victimized by is your own beliefs and your own programming. It’s appearing as circumstances and situations and your reaction to them in this perpetual cycle that just keeps repeating itself over and over and over again. That’s the victim state. You just learn to cope, manage and control your way through that. Then, eventually, you come to learn certain tools and strategies, the law of mind and creation, and then begin to adapt visualization and affirmation and various tools to start to regain control over your beliefs. That’s a powerful step. You move from being a victim to being a creator. Life is not happening to you, now you are happening to life. You are a creator. You are a manifestor. You are controlling your conditions through what you are thinking, believing and consciously feeling. You are now manipulating situations consciously.

At that level, it may or may not be even for your highest good or for the good of others, you can create all kinds of conditions through the power of the law of mind, but it’s still in the realm of duality, of good and bad, up and down, and it’s still up and coming from the ego and the conditioning of the mind, parental fantasies, peer pressure, societal conditionings, and the current values of the culture you’re in. If it seems to be that the highest value of the culture is having lots of money in a big house and a nice car, you’re going to use your mind power, your beliefs, and your emotions to manifest those kinds of conditions, which may or may not be for the highest good of your soul, or even the highest good of your family or of those that you care about. It might even hurt other people. That’s always the challenge at that level is that we’re still operating on our human will and all of the conditioning and value systems that come with that. Eventually, that doesn’t work even as well as it used to, or you get to manifest a bunch of stuff and get a bigger paycheck, but you’re just broke at higher income bracket. You get a bigger house, but you feel even less at home. You manifest a better relationship, but you end up in the same arguments. You get all that stuff, but you’re just unhappy and unfulfilled. Unconsciously, or consciously, you’re still deeply afraid that it could all go away. You’re right, because you are primarily the one doing it all.

Eventually, you move into the third stage, which is where you realize life is happening through you, that there’s a higher life. There’s a higher pattern. There’s a higher ideal. This is the realm of vision and visionaries and true innovation. This is where you become a channel, an instrument for an idea that is beyond your current paradigms, beyond your thinking, and beyond your beliefs. You open up and become available to an evolutionary impulse that has something to do with the evolution and expansion of your soul. It has something to do with the real reason why you’re here, because you’re not here merely to move deck chairs around on the Titanic. You’re here to discover, uncover, and express something unprecedented. In some way, big or small, you are an unrepeatable nomina in the mind of God of the Universe. A nomina is a Divine idea, versus phenomena, which is a transitory expression of that nomina. You are a Divine idea that has never happened and will never happen again. There’s something about your life that you’re here to express and reveal that is unprecedented.

In stage one and two, you can’t access that, because you are either being a victim in a consensus state of self-defense and self-preservation and reaction, or you are a creator and you are constantly trying to manipulate conditions to create a life based on your current beliefs, your current conditioning, value systems, etc. In stage three, you are now becoming a channel for something bigger, a channel that is beyond your thinking, beyond even your own identity, and beyond your beliefs. Ultimately, you even let go of the idea, because there’s still a sense of a personal self. There’s still a sense that you are doing it for your own good or for the good of those that you care about, and there’s still a level of a personal self. You still believe, on some level, you have a separate life to protect, to preserve, to perpetuate, to prop up, but, eventually, you have to let go of even that, even that sense that you have any separate life apart from the one life.

You’re moving to stage four, where you realize that life is no longer happening to you; you’re not happening to life. It’s not even merely happening through you, but life is happening as you. You are life expressed. You are a branch of the tree. You are not separate from the tree. You are a ray of the sun, a wave on the ocean. You are a unique individualized expression of life. You are the way life expresses itself. There is no you. You have no life separate from the one life. That’s the purest, most complete space in which the true glory of life, the Christ consciousness, the Buddha consciousness, and the highest ideal can begin to manifest and unfold as you. There’s no end to that, because it’s infinite. So it’s forever unfolding, and perhaps has even greater and greater stages. Those are fundamentally the core four stages we move through.

While it’s important to work on is our beliefs. The next level to working on creating strong beliefs is developing beliefs that are congruent to our highest vision. You begin to move out of merely having strong beliefs, religious beliefs, spiritual beliefs or cultural beliefs and beliefs to try to merely survive, like believing that all of your needs are met, or believing that you’re abundant, or believing that you’re rich or healthy or whatever, and instead you begin to move to, Well, here’s the vision that’s seeking to emerge through me, this higher idea for my life. Now, let me develop my beliefs to be congruent with that. That’s the next level with your beliefs.

You begin to develop a belief system: mental, emotional, vibrational matched points, or vibrational match, to this highest vision. That allows you to tune in to that vision and become vibrationally aligned with it. God responds to you by corresponding to its nature in you. Now you are becoming as it says, Be perfect even as your Father in Heaven is perfect. In the Biblical context, what that means is to get a little bit closer to thinking and feeling and ultimately acting the way you would act, think and feel if you were God, if you were Divine, if you really were whole, complete and perfect, a unique infinite individualized expression of life. You begin to shape your beliefs to be even closer and closer to that. That’s a more refined version. Again, all of this is wonderful, powerful and usually necessary, but it’s still a staircase. It’s still the scaffolding in order to paint this great painting or paint the house. Eventually, this scaffolding also has to be removed. Your beliefs are scaffolding. They’re valuable to get you to the place where you are vibrationally really close to your highest ideal. Ultimately, it’s important to know that even your best belief, your highest thought, is not truth. The belief that God is all there is, or love is all there is, is not truth. It’s a belief pointing to the truth. The truth behind that statement is infinitely greater. Your belief that you’re abundant and all of your needs are met abundantly and everything is working together for your good is a great belief, but it’s not the truth. It’s still just a container, a context of scaffolding. The truth of you is infinitely more than that.

Ultimately, who you really are is an isness that you can’t add to or diminish. As it says again in the scriptural context, Who by taking thought can add one cubit to his stature? What God has wrought, no man can put asunder. Jesus said, Take no thought for your life, but instead seek first the Kingdom of Heaven, which he said was within you, and all the things you’ve been searching for will be added onto you. He’s not saying do a bunch of affirmation and visualizations and create a better belief system. He’s saying quite the opposite, let go of all that and just make contact with the truth of your being. Know the truth, and this truth will make you free. Buddha taught a similar thing. He taught what we understand as the releasing of all desires, but it’s really what was called craving and aversion. In other words, it’s the incessant drive to get or get rid of something in order to finally be happy or free. In that mind structure, that’s constantly craving something more or seeking to get rid of something, or what’s also known as the pain-pleasure mechanism, is really fundamentally what the false self is made of. Most of our belief structures are built on that. In other words, we’re establishing belief systems I’m rich, I’m abundant, I’m healthy, I’m wealthy, I’m happy, I’m in love, everybody loves me, etc., etc. as a response or a reaction to this pain-pleasure mechanism, because those beliefs move us to greater sense of pleasure, versus our lesser beliefs, which move us towards a greater sense of pain.

Again, relatively speaking, it’s all good stuff. You’re stepping up the ladder. It’s the staircase to Heaven. Step-by-step, you’re upleveling your thoughts, upleveling your beliefs, upleveling your emotional fuel, so that you are ultimately running on high-octane thinking and feeling and believing. It’s great thing to do that. In fact, in my experience, it’s often necessary, as I said, because it’s very, very difficult to just shoot that gap. Even a lot of people in a lot of teachings that are very absolute teachings about just realize your oneness with God and that’s all you need to do, the problem with that is that because the mental, emotional, astral, etheric bodies are so full of static, there’s so much static on the line between you and your soul, you and the truth of being, that it’s very, very difficult to make direct contact. Unbeknownst to you, you could spend years and years meditating and praying and seeking that direct contact and actually be driven by a lot of these beliefs and be going in circles not even realizing, because there’s so much unredeemed energy in your beliefs, in your thoughts, and in your emotions.

Now, of course, certain meditation processes, like the pause and mindfulness meditation, will create the context for you to observe all of that content. As you observe it, the thoughts, the feelings, etc., they begin to disintegrate. You begin to break karma, redeem all of that energy. That absolutely is a vital and important aspect of the process. Again, in my experience, it can be very, very slow-going. There can still be so much static on the line. For some so much you can’t even get into a really in-depth meditation practice, because there’s so much static of these very low level beliefs, thoughts and emotions. It’s a very good part of the practice to be refining and refining and refining your thinking, believing and feeling so that there’s less and less static and you are more and more congruent with your highest vision. At a certain point, you want to begin to practice this idea that all beliefs, all thoughts, are limitation. This is somewhat what Byron Katie, if you know Byron Katie has worked the work, is sort of getting at, which is beginning to observe your thinking and ultimately let go of your story. Now, for the most part, she still talks about letting go of the story that hurts, the story that doesn’t serve you. Again, very good stuff to do. I want to suggest that even your good story is limiting you.

Here’s the bottom line mystical truth. All the thoughts you have about yourself and about life, all of them without exception including all of the good thoughts, are not the truth about you. You are not the personality that you think you are. You are not this person born on a certain date that’s gone through these certain experiences, etc., etc. That whole story, that whole psychological construct and identity and every aspect of it, none of that is you. That’s shocking. You might get it on some level, but the implications of it are shocking. None of that is you. Any more than an actor taking a script with a very well-developed character and storyline and playing that part, they can play that part, and they can access certain dimensions of themselves to fill that part out and to express that part, but they’re not that part. This character you’re playing in this Divine drama is not you. This is the deeper esoteric meaning of, Before Abraham was I am. Your I am nature, your true nature and infinite, immortal, indestructible, incorruptible being is not the part you’re playing in this Divine play, no matter how good or how bad. We’re used to transcending the bad parts of our story or at least trying. What I want to suggest is to begin to contemplate what would it mean to transcend even the good parts, the parts that you really value, like you’re a great mother, a great father, a great student, a great teacher, a great healer or want to be. What I want you to understand is you’re actually none of those things.

Now, there is a spiritual truth behind all of those levels. There is the Divine father, mother, the Divine teacher, healer, the Divine true life that you are, but it’s so much more than those labels. The problem with all of those levels, including the good ones, is that they come along with a whole container of baggage. If you assume the identity, I’m a father, I’m a mother, I’m a student, I’m a teacher, I’m a creator, what you get with that is all of the history of baggage and memes and artifacts around that label that you will now have to work to overcome. Do you understand what I mean? You will now have to work, because you’ve now assumed that identity. All of the memes and all of the energetic frequencies that go along with that you’re going to be susceptible to. You’re going to have to now work to overcome all of that. If you accept that you’re a human being, then even in your greatest efforts, you’re going to often be just simply trying to improve your humanhood. As long as you accept that you’re a human being, that belief system, you are susceptible to all of the ups and downs and trials and tribulations of a human being. This is the deeper meaning of to be in the world but not of it, to be playing full out, but to wake up from all of these identities, all of these labels which are part of our belief systems.

We’ve been taught 99.999% of all of the teachings that are out there. Even a large degree of what I’m doing here is still helping you improve your belief about yourself, to make you think about yourself as a better human, as a more prosperous human, a healthier, wealthier, happier, more loving human, right? Maybe you might even include as a healthier, wealthier, happier, spiritual being. It’s still within this identity of being this person and trying to improve upon it. What I want to suggest, for some of you may be going, Geez, Derek, I just want to pay my rent and heal my back and fix my relationship. This is down the rabbit hole for me.We’re planting seeds here. I want to begin to open and stretch your mind because understand that all problems exist in time. All problems exist in the mind. All problems exist in thought. Whatever the structure of the thought is –a thought, a belief, a perception, a story – all problems exist in your story. Your story is a set of perceptions. All solutions exist outside of your current story, outside of your perception, outside of your identity, ultimately outside of time.

When we keep increasing our beliefs, that’s a valuable step, because if you have a higher quality belief certain problems you’ve struggled with can’t exist in that higher framework or that higher paradigm. The more you can begin to completely disidentify with the story and begin to have an extemporal experience of yourself, meaning out of time, out of the story, that I’m not the story, I’m not this character, and I’m not any of this stuff. I’m something so much bigger, so much more that has never been touched or diminished by this. As you begin to contemplate that and seek that larger expanded awareness, all solutions are in that expanded awareness. One moment of popping out of that story can radically and completely transform your life. It might take you years and years and even lifetimes of improving your belief to really transcend some of your core struggles. One moment of extemporal realization, one moment of popping out of your belief system, out of your story altogether, shooting the gap of your thoughts and touching the realm of the real where you have never been diminished, this is the place of miracles.

This is how spontaneous healing can happen. People have finally been brought into their needs, and they’re so utterly distraught and so utterly just over the struggle that something snaps in them, and, for a moment, the ego is ripped from its moorings and the veil is torn apart, and there’s a moment where they touch the realm of the real. Those are the moments you hear about where they suddenly become enlightened. Eckhart Tolle talks about that very moment where he’s in such suffering. He’s like, I can’t live with myself anymore, and, suddenly, in that moment, the pressure around that identity of self was so intense he broke from that storyline. He suddenly was like, If there’s a self I can’t live with, who is the I that can’t live with that? He suddenly had a moment of satori, of instant enlightenment. He broke out of the story. He broke out of time. He had a moment of expanded awareness beyond belief, beyond good and bad thinking.

I think that was Rumi that said, Out beyond good and bad, there is a field. There are good and bad thinking, There is a field, I’ll meet you there. That was what Eckhart Tolle did. Byron Katie had a very similar experience where she suddenly just broke, and she felt asleep. When she woke up and she suddenly looked around, and she had no sense of identity, no story, and she thinks she’s all like a cockroach walking around or something, and just was full of bliss, like there was no story in the way, including any good beliefs. There was nothing. There was no thinking. There was just reality, just isness. That’s always here. That’s always true. That’s who you really are. It’s beyond your beliefs. While it’s very valuable to improve, improve, improve, your mental, emotional, vibrational state, I want you to hold all that in the context of that’s not the end game. That’s just preparation. In the midst of that, your prayer is more than I want to fix, change, heal or improve anything including my thinking. I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see the way God is. I want to know who and what I am, not through a glass darkly but face to face, beyond belief, beyond thought, beyond even good thinking, beyond even good beliefs, beyond all beliefs, all thoughts. Reality exists in all of its wholeness, completeness, perfection, fully shining in all of its majesty, the Kingdom of Heaven, Nirvana, paradise. We haven’t left it. We’ve just covered it up with a lot of thinking, a lot of layers of perception. We’re experiencing all of our own perceptions and thinkings. We try to improve our perceptions and thinkings, and all what we’re really doing is swapping one state of hypnosis for another. We’re just trading one dream, one nightmare for a dream but we’re still asleep.

Again, I’m not knocking these stages. I still work on it myself. We want to at least begin to inch ourselves into the mystical path, because the mystical path isn’t about improving your beliefs. It’s about waking up. Metaphysical teachings are more about improving your beliefs and self-help and self-improvements and most even religious teachings. The mystical path is about waking up. It’s about transcending all thinking, all believing, all identities, all pairs of opposites, all attempts to merely improve our conditions, and to wake up and discover who we really are, what’s really going on, who we are, where we are, what we are, why we are in the ultimate sense. The result of that expanded awareness is we pop out of our stories and beliefs. That then expresses itself as what the world will call improved experiences, improved conditions. The difference is they’re different in quality, because when you pop out of your belief and touch reality, and touch grace, and it transmutes itself into better experience, you know that you didn’t manifest that experience through your own mental thinking and believing. There’s not a personal sense of attachment or a personal sense of you have to keep it going, or as if you have done it all through your own believing and ultimate manipulation. There’s a part of you that knows it’s not permanent. You can’t necessarily depend on it 100%, and you’re never fully free in it. When you touch reality, the reality of wholeness, and that wholeness manifests as improved conditions, there’s a level of knowing that that was just the way it is and that’s never going to change. There’s a whole different level of freedom.

I just want to invite you into this next level of beginning to contemplate. Who am I beyond all of my stories, beyond all of my beliefs? You also come into what’s really called a knowing. Believing is a surrogate for ultimately knowing. What you’re really wanting is to have a knowing. You can have a lot of belief about something and even that belief can inspire you and charge you up. You can really believe in God or that life is for you, etc., and it can support you. When you touch reality directly, you now have a knowing that you’ll never have to think about again. You don’t have to do any affirmations about it. Nothing the world can ever show you or do can ever change your mind, because it’s not on your mind. You’ve touched reality. It may transmute into a set of constructive powerful beliefs and thoughts, but it’s not coming from those. You see?

You are now anchored in solid ground that no shifting sands or winds can blow it away, move it away. You’re free now. The more you’re anchored there, that’s what it means to be spiritually liberated, to be awake, to be enlightened, to be free. That’s what’s I’m inviting you into. This is the next stage to begin to contemplate. Who would I be if I couldn’t believe anything, I couldn’t think anything? Who am I without my story even my good story? It begins to pray the prayer of awakening. More than I want to fix, change, heal, control or improve anything or anyone, I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see ultimate reality. As that becomes your mantra, that makes you a candidate for these insights and for these openings.

I invite you to begin to include that as part of your practice, your meditation, your contemplation and share. Post in the Facebook groups. Share some of the insights that are beginning to emerge as you begin this or go deeper in this path of being a true mystic, a modern day mystic. I welcome you to this path. I hope this has served you. To continue to get more support, if you haven’t already, please register for this podcast on iTunes. Leave a review so that others can find this material. Share it with a friend or loved one. It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give people, is to share content that has moved you, inspired you or helped you in some way. It costs you nothing, but it pays tremendous dividends, and even turn and teach it to somebody, because what you teach, you embody much, much deeper. You can go to DerekRydall.com. Go in to the free resources and download some free trainings and support. You can go to EmergenceTraining.com, if you haven’t already got your free Law of Emergence course. If you want to grab my book, Emergence, you can go to GetEmergenceBook.com. Click on Barnes & Noble or Amazon tab, and grab a copy of the book for like $10 or $12. Come back there, put in your information. I’m going to give you almost $1800 in free support, programs, and you’re even going to get a trial to be able to do some coaching with me in the Emergence Academy, so I can really support you in getting real results.

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Why Going With the Flow is Wrong [Podcast]

Why Going With the Flow is Wrong [Podcast]

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We hear the expression “I’m just going to go with the flow” a lot from heart-centered, spiritually-minded people, or even those who are just trying to have less stress in their life.

In many cases, this is a stall tactic or an avoidance tactic. It’s an egoic defense mechanism – what it really means is, “I’m stressed out”, “I’m burned out”, “I’m overwhelmed”.

Going with the flow is not always good on certain currents. If all you do is go with the flow, you’ll get caught in the crosscurrents or go over a waterfall! You need intention and you need to row, too.

What’s moving many of us in many moments is a flow based on our shadows, wounds, coping mechanisms, defense mechanisms, and values conflicts. It’s all the ways we’ve learned to get by, to survive, to get what we think we don’t have and to not lose what we’re afraid somebody is going to take away.

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There is a flow, a current of energy in our life. But just going with that flow is not going to take us where we want to go.

Once you are more deeply rooted in the truth of your being, if you have a deep spiritual practice where you are meditating and praying and connecting to that source on a daily basis, then you will feel this flow begin to use you and move through you.

Then, going with the flow will feel like you’re letting go of resistance and letting go of fear and being willing to be used and taken down this river of life, even though these fear patterns may be telling you “Be careful, don’t do it.”

Listen to the podcast episode above for the full explanation and learn how to put this into practice in your life TODAY.

And remember, self-help is shelf help – you have everything you need already!

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