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This is an issue that has always been part of human culture, but with the ability of so many people to comment anonymously online, our need to deal with criticism and the haters has been greatly magnified.
There’s a thing in the UK called ‘Tall Poppy Syndrome,’ which is based on the need to cut off the top of a poppy if it grows above the rest — to create uniformity. But it also applies to people — if someone gets too big and rises above the rest, there is an impulse to cut them down. When people start to outgrow the tribe, then members of the tribe seek to pull them back down so that they can feel safe and secure.
The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, empowerment, and evolution — to make you an ever stronger instrument of what you’re here to do, be and share.
You’ve got to start there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, “Why is this happening to me?” , but, “How is this serving me?” “How is this making me stronger?”, “How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me?”
Whenever somebody is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair, unjust or unfounded, there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become more anchored in your truth. It’s the opportunity to build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, and of valuing yourself — which ultimately will inoculate you from the limited thought viruses of the world.
If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways — anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself.
When you are criticized and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right or defend your perspective, and convince them that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. (It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree.) To become truly free and empowered requires you to look at this part, understand, embrace, and integrate it.
For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might respond, “I’m not selfish! I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you.” You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. This is just defense, resistance, and actually anchors the shame and judgment even deeper.
Instead, you want to stop and contemplate if there is any truth to it – “Let me see where in my life am I selfish.”This immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in front of a someone whose criticized you, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where you’re selfish with yourself. You’re not doing this to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it.
The next thing you look at is the particular judgment, the shadow, and see where you might have some baggage around it. For example, let’s say you’re becoming successful, getting in shape, or growing in some positive way, and some people tell you, “Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important.” If you’re a spiritual teacher or artist, you might hear things like, “How could you try to make money off spirituality or art? That’s so unspiritual…art, music, information — these should all openly available to everyone. You should be charging much less or giving it away for free!”
To key is to see where you harbor judgments, fears, beliefs of limitations around this area. It’s showing up as criticism so you can clear it and embody the truth of it — that means, first, seeing where you might be out of integrity, and second, seeing where you have unconscious limiting beliefs, shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or succeed in this area. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise.
By being willing to examine your judgments and shadows you begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are. As you ask yourself, “How is this here to truly serve my greater purpose and potential?”, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger and more resilient. You begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities.
That’s the gift of criticism. And what an awesome gift it is!
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to another episode of Ask Derek on this journey of Emergence, where we deal with the question today How do you deal with the haters? Otherwise known as the gift of criticism. This is something that is always been a part of culture, people that criticize people, that hate on people, that try to cut people down. In the UK, there’s a saying for the tall poppy syndrome. If a poppy gets too big above the rest, it gets lopped off at the head. When people get too big amongst the tribe, then the rest of the individuals on some levels seek to pull them back down to match everybody else. They’re such a general kind of thing that one ego likes to bring another ego down and ultimately be at the very least equal and ideally less than, or if you’ve been wounded then actually you bring yourself down, but that’s a whole other topic. Nowadays, with internet and with so much public expression of ourselves and so much public exposure and so many people online that can comment anonymously, this problem of dealing with criticism and the haters, also called the trolls, is just much, much bigger, and I would submit that it’s not that the problem itself or the issue itself has changed, it’s just that it becomes magnified, but it’s always been in the human psyche.
The key thing to remember from the standpoint of Emergence and this work is that everything, without exception, is there to serve you. You are creating your own Universe, and so everything, without exception, if you’re willing to practice this way and to live in this framework, is there to serve your awakening, your empowering, your evolution to make you an ever stronger, pure instrument of what you’re really here to do and to be and the gifts you’re here to give. You’ve got to start there. You’ve got to always come back to there. Everything is here to serve me. So the question doesn’t become, why is this happening to me, but how is this serving me? How is this making me stronger? How is this activating something in me, and what is the greater potential it’s activating in me? Whenever somebody is hating on you, is criticizing you, especially when it’s truly unfair or unjust or unfounded, then there is a very powerful opportunity for you to become really anchored in the truth of who and what you really are and build that inner soul stamina, that inner muscle of knowing who you are, of valuing yourself, of not being inoculated or immune to the feedback and the criticisms of the world.
There’s another side topic to this, which I won’t go into today, but it’s important to know that ultimately you want to become free of all opinions, good ones and the bad ones. So even those that are praising you, you ultimately want to become free of those too. For one thing, much praise is really a projection. If you understand the shadow work, anything that pushes or pulls you is a projection of your unintegrated potential or power. That works both ways, so anything that is pushing your buttons, which are the haters or the criticisms, is really an unconscious judgment you have about a part of yourself. We’ll talk about that in a moment. Anything that pulls you, those people you greatly admire, those people you find yourself praising, is really also a projection of an unintegrated, unidentified part of your own power. When other people are praising you, often, they’re projecting their disowned power. That’s why, especially if you’re in some role of leadership, authority, expert, teacher, etc. and that begins to happen, or healer, or therapist, at some point, projection happens, or otherwise, it’s been called transference. They start to either reject you or praise you, criticize you or praise. Both are equally false. Both are equally their projection. When it’s criticism, your job is to not defend and fight and prove your point, but to look within yourself and find that part of yourself where you hold that criticism, where you have that shadow. When it’s praise, your job is to notice your own proclivity, the one that grabbed on to that.
Now, that doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t receive the love and the compliments. Let it in. Let all the love in, but if you’re in authority position, you want to give it back to them. You don’t want people to become followers. You want to empower them to become their own leaders. When they start projecting their power on you, you want to not so much reject their compliment, accept it, but also remind them that whatever good they see in you, especially where they feel incredibly praiseworthy, is really a reflection of good that’s within them, that they perhaps have not fully owned, and that this is an opportunity to own it. So, the entire star system, celebrity, athletes, all of that, is made of that. It’s made up of a projection of our disowned power. Praise and criticism are equally projections, and ultimately we want to become free of both of them.
We’re talking about the haters today. We’re talking about the gift of criticism, and so we come back to the shadow again and understand that if anybody is criticizing you or hating on you, and it’s making you feel like you need to fight for your right, you need to defend your prospective, you need to set them straight, you need to convince them that it’s not true or convince other people that it’s not true, it’s because there’s a part of you that actually believes it. It’s also possible that there’s a part of you that actually does have that element to some degree. For example, somebody calls you selfish, and you might go, I’m not selfish. I’m one of the most giving people I know. I’m always helping you. I’m always doing this for you. You find yourself going through a list of all the ways you’re such a giving selfless person. The first thing you want to do is stop and go, Let me take that feedback in and let me see is there any truth to it. Criticism is never True. It’s not ultimate truth, but you want to look and see Is there any truth to it? Let me see where in my life am I selfish.
First of all, this immediately starts to diffuse the criticism, especially if you do it in person in front of them, instead of defending yourself. You actually start to look for where you’re selfish, and you’ll find something. If you don’t find the way you are overtly selfish to others, then you want to look internally and see where am I selfish with myself? When somebody says you’re greedy, and you’re like one of the most generous people you know, where am I greedy? You look, and you’ll find something. That’s the first step. Find out where there’s some truth to it, not to beat yourself up, but because it’s showing up in your life as feedback. Don’t just dismiss it. Of course, sometimes, feedback is not simply you’re being selfish. It’s things like, you’re a complete waste of humanity. You’re a waste of human space, and in that case, it’s going to be hard to go, Where am I a waste of human space? Now, you might find something as the old axiom goes, If you’re not living on the edge, you’re taking up too much space. You might actually go, Well, I do waste time just surfing the internet. I gossip with my friends sometimes, just meaningless gossip that adds no value to anybody’s life. You know what, that is a waste of human space. That is a waste of time. In that moment, I am wasting my life and their life. That might be valuable to discover that, to clean that up.
The next thing you look at is, Okay, let me look at that particular judgment, that shadow, and see where I might have some baggage around that. For example, let’s say you are becoming successful or you’re endeavoring to be successful and make more money in your life, and some people come out and tell you, Oh, you’re so greedy. You’re so self-important. If you’re a consciousness or spiritual teacher or thought leader, you’ll get the kind of criticisms of how could you try to make money off spirituality. That’s so unspiritual. That’s so unconscious. That’s so mean or insensitive. You should be charging much, much less or giving it away for free, etc. If you are really a spiritual teacher, you wouldn’t charge anything. That’s a very big thing of baggage in this arena. You can go and look at that and see where do you hold some personal judgments about people that make a lot of money, or people that make money with spirituality, or people that are really successful. You can begin to see how you also harbor some udgments around that, some fears around that, some beliefs of limitation around that. They’re showing up so that you can clean it out, so that you can first of all see where you might be out of integrity, and second of all see where you have unconscious limiting beliefs or shadows or values conflicts that are sabotaging your ability to really grow or to really succeed or they will. It’s like the beginning of a weed that’s going to eventually grow up and choke the plant. This might be a blessing in disguise. This is a gift of criticism.
You can begin to clean up your side of the street and become even more in integrity, more in alignment with who or what you really are, and you can begin to access and activate latent powers, gifts, talents and abilities. I won’t go into the whole shadow process here, but you can certainly check out when I talk about shadow work or values conflict in other podcasts. You can go to DerekRydall.com/ShadowProcess and download a free audio process around the shadow. You can also grab the Shadow Dancing program if you really want to master shadow work. So, you first want to acknowledge where there might be some truth, so you can come back into greater integrity. You want to then acknowledge where you might have judgments and baggage around this particular part of you, so that you can begin to clean it up and activate that disowned power and capacity through the shadow work. Finally, as you ask how is this here to truly serve my greater purpose, my greater potential, you will begin to tap into a vision for your life where you start to see that this is showing up to make you stronger, more resilient, so that you can give your gifts and speak your truth, and share your work and your message, whether it’s in your family or in relationships or in the world, in bigger and bigger platforms and bigger and bigger ways where there will be even more potential for attack and criticism.
Let’s just say right now you’re just starting out, and perhaps your circle of influence is relatively small, and so there’s not a lot of people that are exposed you or your message or your work or your opinions, and it’s not challenging you that much. If you are to suddenly get a large global platform or suddenly be in front of a large audience or suddenly be exposed in some much grander way, a hundred times where you are right now, the amount of feedback, criticism, opinions would most likely just crush you, because you don’t have the inner fortitude or stamina or resilience or consciousness that’s been developed to handle that. When I was just walking around in high school, if anybody had an opinion about me, it took me out for a period of time. Now, I’m exposed to tens of thousands of people or more a year, and there’s plenty of opinion. It’s not that it doesn’t sometimes still bother me a little bit, but it’s mostly because I’m sad by the lack of compassion and the ignorance of other people when they are just haters. I don’t mind constructive criticism, and you shouldn’t either, when it’s just trolling, when it’s just hating, when it’s just venting and it has no value. My level of resilience and my ability to handle it is much, much stronger. Sometimes people are like, How do you deal with that? How do you handle that? hence this question – how do you deal with the haters? It’s because I’ve been practicing. I’ve been exercising my capacity to love myself, value myself, forgive myself and be humble enough to look at these places in me that aren’t in integrity and that do have judgments and baggage and shadows.
Have I completely cleaned myself out of all of this? Absolutely not. In fact, one of the things that inspired me to do this podcast and answer this question now is because in recent months, the last year or so, I’ve been growing through a period where in the realm of family and friends and social circles, I became a target for certain stories and beliefs and opinions and perceptions that in my opinion are not true, and in fact are blatantly false and could be extremely hurtful, and in fact have been hurtful a few times. I noticed for the first time in a long time, I felt the need to want to convince other people that these stories and things weren’t true, whereas in the larger world, I had become relatively inoculated. I don’t mean if I was to suddenly be on the global stage, in the global media, that I would be immune to that level of feedback, but I get enough feedback to see that I’m pretty strong in that area. What I discovered was that in my personal life, with family and friends and the larger circle, that I was not immune. Of course, that’s where it cuts the deepest, those closest to us. That’s the Divine purpose of those relationships. That’s why we are shadow dancing in those relationships. That’s why we created those soul contracts, so that they could show us where we’re unconscious, where we’re living in fear or separation, lack or limitation, where we don’t know who we really are, where we don’t deeply truly love and value ourselves and respect ourselves. They show up so that we can ultimately come home to ourselves. Because I know that, I’m working with it and have worked through a lot of it. It’s very important that you know that, that everybody that shows up is bearing a gift uniquely wrapped for you.
It’s like the grain of sand that gets into the oyster, that irritates the heck out of it, but the result is that it spins a pearl. To try to get rid of that irritation, it creates a beautiful pearl. So all these people that come into your life that are criticizing you and even hating on you and telling lies or distortions, those are the grains of sand getting in your shell. There you can create a string of pearls. As the Bible calls it, the pearl of great price. It’s that ultimate wisdom that comes from digging deeper, not taking life at face value, but taking everything that comes as a gift and a blessing, often in disguise, and doing this inner work. So that you can transform and transmute that into a pearl, into a jewel, into a treasure, and ultimately into real wisdom that not only adds value to your life but allows you to turn around and add value to the lives of others and to become a role model in whatever area that you endeavor, family, friends, business, the world.
So, my invitation to you is when this shows up in your life – the opinion, the feedback, the criticism, the haters, family, friends, business, and colleagues or beyond – that you stop, and you remember everything is conspiring for your good, for your growth, for your evolution. This is showing up to make you stronger. Then ask what if anything is true about this? I’m willing to see where am I in this so I can take responsibility for it and clean it up. Number two, where is the shadow? What’s the shadow here? If somebody’s calling you a name – you’re a loser, you’re cheap, you’re selfish – whatever, you want to go and do the shadow work on that until you can fully own and embrace that part of you. Number three, you want to ask, how is this serving my larger vision? How is it making me a unique and perfect instrument to serve the larger purpose, to share the larger message? You’ll start to discover as you work with that that it is making you stronger so that you can share your message, speak your truth on a much bigger platform where more people might criticize you or have their opinions, but you will be immune to that because you’ve done the work today rather than waiting until then.
It’s like the story of a surfer that goes from beach to beach waiting for the big wave, but never gets out there and surfs the little ones. When the big wave finally comes, the surfer gets out there and gets just crushed by the wave, because they haven’t built the musculature, the dexterity, the ability to handle that velocity, that energy. They’re just not ready for it, and so it destroys them. If it doesn’t kill them, it might tremendously set them back in terms of their interest and desire and belief that they can never do it again. So, you want to practice every little time there’s a criticism, there’s a judgment, there’s an opinion that pushes your buttons. That’s the time to do the work. It’s like the old saying that every little challenge is a practice for dying. Those challenges that you have to surrender and open up beyond your self-concept is practice for dying, which is the ultimate surrender of your self-concept. That’s all dying really is, you’re releasing your material, personal self-concepts, but who you really are never dies. It continues to emerge and unfold. These criticisms are like little deaths. They’re opportunities for you to let go of a little part of your ego that’s fighting for its right, trying to prove itself, trying to survive. You can breathe and release that and get the gift of that criticism.
One little caveat to all these, and I think it’s very important, because a lot of people, they’re heart-centered, spiritually-minded, they are wounded, they are scarred, they are scared, and sometimes what’s really necessary needed is for people to take a stand for themselves, to so value and respect and love themselves that they have the courage and the willingness to tell other people that are mistreating them, that is not okay. You don’t get to do that. You don’t get to talk to me that way. You don’t get to treat me that way. I’m putting my foot down. Come what may. You can reject me. You can fire me. You can kick me out of the house, whatever the case may be, but I will not allow anybody to treat me less than kind and respectful. That’s a very valid stance. It’s a very valid and important step and stage for a person’s development, but if you find yourself always doing that, and doing that and trying to convince a person to see you a certain way, that’s where you know you’ve gotten caught up in your own shadow. You’re trying to use them as a proxy to try to quell your own bad feelings. Do you understand what I mean? If I can just get them to see me a certain way, I’ll feel better, but it never works, because your feeling bad really isn’t about them. They’ve triggered a pocket in you that already has that judgment. So, whenever you are drawing a boundary, this is very important, you’re not doing it to change them. You’re not putting up a boundary to change their behavior. You’re putting up a boundary to honor yourself, to stand in your truth and in your power.
If I said to a person, You don’t get to talk to me that way. If you want to be around me, you’re going to have to treat me more respectful, more kind, etc. I’m not saying you’ve got to change or else. It’s not an ultimatum. Maybe it’s an ultimatum, but I’m not trying to manipulate them. I could even say to them, I’m not telling you you need to be different for your own life, but if you’re going to be in my life, this is where my line is. You see? Then, it’s up to them to change or to choose to change, but you’re not trying to change them. You’re not trying to change them to make you feel better. You’re taking a stance. You’re putting a boundary up. You are loving and valuing and respecting and honoring yourself for its own sake. If they continue to act out, to criticize, to hate on you, to do whatever they’re doing, then you take whatever the next logical step is. You break off relations. There’s a certain consequence. Again, not because you’re trying to change them, but because you’re going to stand in the truth of honoring, valuing, loving, and respecting yourself. Whatever they decide to do around that is ultimately up to them, but it’s an important thing to add to this, because otherwise some people might hear that I’m saying if somebody’s hating on you and saying mean and rude things to you and disrespecting you, don’t say anything to them, don’t do anything about it, just go work on yourself. I’m not saying that. I am saying that wherever it pushes your buttons and makes you feel compelled through a more compulsive behavior to want to change their opinion in order to feel better, that is about you.
You want to work on yourself, so that you don’t have the button, but you also get to have boundaries. You’ve got to treat yourself with love and kindness and respect. Let others know that nothing less than that is acceptable. Now, of course, this comes with a price, because the minute you take a stand to love, value, and respect yourself and make that a boundary, they’re going to call you out on all the places where you are not loving, kind, or respectful to them, or in general. So you’re going to have to take responsibility for that. That’s a step that you have to take sometimes in order to get to the next level. You have to be willing, again, to be humble, to be open, to really listen and to look and see where within me is what they’re saying true? So, this isn’t just one side. Sometimes it’s not a monologue. Sometimes it requires a dialogue, okay? Ultimately, your goal, your focus, your intention is about you cleaning up you, you becoming an integrity, you being cleared of who and what you really are and why you’re alive and knowing your true value and power and coming into a greater sense of self-love, self-respect, and self-actualization. It’s not about changing the world. That’s the key idea here that I want you to get in all of this, okay? That’s how you deal with the haters. That’s the gift of criticism. If you’re willing to take this stand and commit to this path, everybody that comes at you, even though they may think they’re throwing a grain of sand into your shell, you will be able to turn that into a pearl.
By the way, this is also the esoteric meaning of turn the other cheek. It doesn’t mean just letting a person keep hitting you. It means to return a different energy than what you receive. That’s ultimately what you’re able to do. You’re able to take in the hate, the criticism, and transmute it through your consciousness to love and light and power. Think about that. Think about that. It’s like a plant that takes in carbon dioxide and turns it into oxygen. Certain fish and certain sea products, they take in wastes, and they turn it into something of value. That’s what you become – an individual that takes all of that negativity and redeems it and transmute it back into power and intelligence, and wisdom, and light, and ultimately love. That’s pretty cool. I think that’s a beautiful place to end. That’s my charge to you. I hope you’ve enjoyed this edition of Ask Derek as part of my Emergence podcasts. If you want to go deeper in this work, please go to DerekRydall.com. Go to the free resource section. Download all the free tools and trainings. If you have not yet gotten a copy of my best-selling book Emergence, you can go to GetEmergenceBook.com and grab your copy there, and all the bonuses that come with that. If you have not yet registered for this podcast in iTunes, please take a moment. It just takes a moment, it’s literally a click of the button to register on iTunes for the Emergence podcast. Leave a review, because it really does help more people receive this. If you found this to be valuable, please share it with a friend or two. I look forward to connecting with you more personally and to giving you even more cutting edge or emerging edge, knowledge and inspiration and transformation. Until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.
by sublimity-001-main | Dec 21, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business
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Nowhere in the Universe is anything stuck. Energy is always moving – always flowing. Even when it’s stuck, it’s moving; it’s just moving in a very constricted spot.
No matter what situation you’re in, the reason why you think you’re stuck – the reason you feel stuck is that you have (A) an expectation of what the outcome should look like, (B) an expectation of what you should be like, of what you should be able to do, be, have, or create in that moment or under those circumstances.
Because of your expectations or perception that something or someone outside of you has to change in order for things to happen in the way that you want, you feel stuck. We hear things like, “I don’t have the money right now so I’m stuck”, “I can’t feel happy and joyful and grateful when I’m at a job that I dislike, so I’m stuck”, etc…
On it goes, where you’re putting the locus of power outside of you – in people, places, things, and conditions, even putting it in your current mental-emotional patterns – as if the current energy level, emotional pattern, or mental pattern is power over you: “I can’t write today because I’m uninspired”, “I don’t have the energy to exercise, so I’m stuck”.
At whatever point you feel stuck, there’s always something you can do to get the energy flowing in the direction that you want to be going. Whether it’s taking some action, having a conversation, acting regardless of how you feel, or doing some prayer or meditation around it, you can always do something.
Begin to activate the qualities of what it is you want to do or who you want to be. You are a Divine power plant – and a power plant doesn’t receive energy, it generates it. So, you don’t wait for inspiration, you generate it. How? By acting like a person who is inspired. You want to act from the point of knowing that you are the source of it, and then it generates.
Feeling stuck is an opportunity to discover just how powerful you are, how resourceful you are, and to develop your own wings so that you can fly into a much larger reality.
Listen to the audio to receive quantum healing around getting unstuck in any area of your own life – no matter what
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How to Get Unstuck No Matter What Welcome to Emergence, a revolutionary path for radical life change. This is Derek Rydall, the founder of the Law of Emergence, author of the best-selling book, Emergence, and your guide on the side for this powerful journey of awakening into our full potential through this model of Emergence, which is in many cases the complete reversal of so many of the ways weve learned that life operates. Its not something I made up. This is the perennial truth teaching. This is what all the great masters taught, even though its been often misunderstood and misinterpreted, that is the fundamental premise that everything you could ever want, hope or desire, or need is within you. Therefore, the world has nothing to give you, and the world cant take anything away. The world is a mirror, a canvas, and a feedback system. You are the dispenser of the Divine gifts of the Universe. You have come as a portal, an opening, an instrument of all of infinite good, here to shine it in the unique and unprecedented way. The more and more you realize this, the more you are freed from being a victim, the more you are freed from being at the whim of anything or anyone outside of you. You become a true catalyst for transformation, a powerful leader in whatever area you endeavor.
So, what were talking about in this particular session is how to get unstuck no matter what. This isnt so much about all the different specific things you can do in specific situations, like youre stuck on the side of the road, how do you get out of that? Youre stuck writing your book, how do you get out of that? Its more first and foremost a philosophical shift in understanding that stuckness is a state of mind. Its an illusion. Nowhere in the Universe is anything stuck. Energy is always moving, always flowing. Even when its stuck, its moving. Its just moving in a very constricted spot. The other thing is that no matter what situation youre in, the reason why we think were stuck– and I want you to follow along with the situation that you may be feeling stuck in. The reason we feel stuck is that we have (A) an expectation of what the outcome should look like, (B) an expectation of what we should be like, of what we should be able to do or be, or have, or create in that moment or under those circumstances.
We have some expectation. Because things arent appearing like that, were feeling stuck or afraid, or were not able to take action. Because of that expectation, or because of the false perception that we think that something or someone outside of us has to change in order for us to do, be, have, create or contribute in the way that we want; therefore, were waiting for that thing to change, and so we feel stuck. I dont have the money right now to do whatever, and so Im stuck. Im in a relationship, and this person pays all my bills, so Im stuck in this relationship. Im at a job that I hate, but I need to make a living, so Im stuck. I cant feel happy and joyful and grateful when Im at a job that I hate, so Im stuck. On and on it goes, where were putting the locus of power outside of us in people, places, things, and conditions, even putting it in our current mental emotional patterns. Well, I just feel depressed, so Im stuck. I just dont feel inspired, so Im stuck. I cant write today or do whatever my creative action is. I dont have the energy in my body, so Im stuck. I cant exercise today – as if the current energy level or emotional pattern, or mental pattern is power over us.
When you really step back and realize the thoughts, the feelings, and the sensations – all of that is part of the content of your consciousness. You, the witness, are the only point of power. Your thoughts arent power. Your feelings arent power, not even your body is a power. You, the Divine consciousness, the I am’ that you are, is the only point of power onto your life. As it says in some of the ancient scriptures, Youve been given dominion over everything. The I that you are, the witness, is the point of infinitepower and infinite resource. Theres never a lack of resource, theres only a lack of resourcefulness. If you look at the word resourceful, it means to be full of source again, to be resourced, reconnected to source. It doesnt mean to go out and get more stuff. So, no matter how many resources appear to be lacking outside of you, or even inside of you, because all thats just content, you have the power to be resourceful at any moment you choose.
As it says in the Bible that Gods manna falls fresh from heavy every day, and metaphysically or esoterically speaking, that means that the substance of life falls fresh over and over and over in this moment. It talks about if you try to hold on to it, it will rot in your hands. If you try to save it for tomorrow, it will rot, and you wont be able to eat it. So, always in this moment, there is fresh manna, fresh supply, fresh insight, fresh energy, but you have to reclaim dominion. You have to look at the thoughts and the patterns that you bought into, that this thought or this emotion or this body, or this person, or this condition, or this economy, or this job, or this family has to change before I can be unstuck. That is fundamentally false. In any moment, you can choose again. In any moment, you can start moving your attention, which moves your energy. Energy flows where your attention goes. Remember, from the Emergence model, if youre waiting on anything or anyone, whatever youre waiting for, youre waiting with and youre weighing it down. So, as I say, this is the ultimate wait loss program.
Just look at an area right now where you feel youre stuck. Ill give you some examples. For example, if you feel like you really want to write that book, but youre stuck because you dont know what to write about, then you want to ask the question, What could I do to move towards this vision? If you do the Night Pages where its talking about what I have, what I have accomplished, what I can do, what Im grateful for, and thats to begin to reverse the condition where we tend to look at life and say – Why dont I have? What havent I done? Why cant I do and whats missing for my life and therefore Im ungrateful and unhappy about. That becomes a habit from a place of survival, but you can reverse that. When you find yourself going, Well, I dont have this ability or this resource right now; I dont know what to write about, in the example of the book, you can say, Well, what do I know? What could I do? Sincerely ask that, and you might begin to hear – What I could research? How to come up with good ideas for a book? I could journal about what matters to me most, or I could take something Im interested in and just start free writing about it now. I dont have inspiration. Okay. So, remember you are a Divine power plant. A power plant doesnt receive energy, it generates it. So, you dont wait for inspiration, you generate it. How? By acting like a person whos inspired.
Same with if you dont feel like you have the energy to go exercise. You dont wait for energy. You go exercise, and you activate the energy, because its infinite, but it must be activated obviously, because if all of infinite energy was just to manifest within you it would completely annihilate you. It would annihilate all sense of your personality structures, right? It will annihilate the entire universe around you, too, right? It will just destroy everything. The energy has to unfold. It has to emerge. The governor on that, or the mechanism for that, is your activation of it based on your attention. So, youre never waiting for energy or inspiration. You are acting from the point of knowing you are the source of it, and then it generates.
So, maybe youre feeling like, Well, I cant even come up with an idea for the book, so just keep stepping it back. I cant write because Im just not inspired. I dont have any ideas. Okay. So, you ask, What do I have or what could I do? Youre like, Well, I cant even come up with an idea for the book. Im still stuck. Im even more stuck now. Then, I could say, Well, just start writing. You go, Oh, myhand is paralyzed. Im just giving you the worst case scenario. I cant even write. I cant even move and lift my hand. Im stuck. Okay, What can I do? What can I do? What can I do? You keep asking. You start to go, well, I could visualize the life of my dreams as a published writer, writing, publish, impacting people. I could spend the next 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes really getting into that vision and really feeling it, really seeing myself writing in the books, piling up impact in the world and the financial remuneration and whatever. Now, you notice whats happening? Youre not feeling stuck. Youre starting to feel inspired. Youre starting to feel juices flowing, and maybe you even get inspired with an idea of what to write. You could be in that visualization, take it to the end, and then look down and see, What are the kinds of books Ive written? You might notice a title or an idea popped in, and suddenly youre off to the races.
The point is at whatever point you feel stuck, theres always something you can do to get the energy flowing in the direction that you want to be going, whether its taking some action, whether its having a conversation, whether its acting regardless of how you feel, which is very, very critical, whether its imagining it, whether its doing some prayer or meditation around it. You can always do something. Youre in a relationship, and you feel like my story where I felt completely stuck at my waiters job. I needed the money. I thought I needed the job. I thought there was no other better job that I could have found at that time. The place was making me miserable and all. I thought it was making me miserable. On and on and on, I just felt so stuck, but as I begin to ask, what can I do, I begin to realize, well, I can begin to cultivate the feelings and the sense of if I was living my ideal life and my ideal dream job. I can start to activate those feelings in me through the various tools that we teach.
As I begin to do that, I begin to feel a little better, and I thought what else can I do? I can begin to show up and be more like the person I really want to be regardless of the situation. I can be more loving, more kind, more generous, more of service, more excellent. I begin to do that, and I was like, Wow! Look at that. I can do that. I began to feel even better, and I thought, I can begin to really look at myself and take responsibility for all the places Im blaming or projecting.I begin to do that and I begin to feel more empowered, and then I got fired, and I came back, and I did it again, and I got fired. I came back, and I did it again. What it was is every time I felt like I was up against the wall, I felt like I was stuck, I went back to: What can I do so that I can show up more fully for my life, and I begin to activate the feelings, the being, take a more productive action, be more the person I really wanted to be, do the inner healing work and step by step, I grew so big that that place could no longer hold me. So, I came from a place where I felt completely stuck to outgrowing it into a whole new world of possibilities.
Its like the example of the chicken and the egg. The chicken eventually grows to a point where its completely run out of room. It’s cramped and stuck in a small egg shell, nowhere to go, no way out, or so it seems. It runs out of food, so now it’s hungry, and theres nowhere to get more resources, or so it seems, and then it’s surrounded by its own waste matter. So, it smells, it stinks, it’s hungry and it’s cramped. It’s completely stuck. Now, to that self-consciousness like some of us, you might have started to complain, Oh, God, why have you forsaken me? Why did my parents abandon me? Why did they put me to such terrible situation? Whats my karma, my past life, my astrology, my numerology, picture-ology? It would have spun around and around, exhausted itself, eventually given out and maybe even died, but instead, what did that chicken do, that little baby chick? It starts to focus on where might there be some nourishment? It goes on a journey of searching for whatever little bit of nourishment there is. It doesnt focus on whats missing. It focuses on what is. It begins to find a little nourishment there, a little nourishment there, enough to get it by.
As its doing that, its also pecking, because thats how it looks for nourishment. As its pecking, its strengthening its neck muscles and its lung muscles. Its cracking the shell until eventually it sets free into a much larger life, and its no longer stuck. Because sometimes when were stuck, we just wish and pray that somebody would come and save us – God or a family member or a partner or whoever. If that chicken was just saved, somebody just cracked it open and let it free, Oh, you poor thing, youre so stuck,it would have died, because it wouldnt have gone through the transformational trial to build the strength and the muscles and its lungs and wings to survive in a larger world. The same is true for you. Where youre feeling stuck, not only that youre now stuck, but its an opportunity to discover just how powerful you are, how resourceful you and to develop your own wings so that you can fly into a much larger reality.
So, this is your invitation, this is your challenge to look at that area where youre feeling stuck and go to this process and discover how you can begin to get yourself unstuck. Start to make a game of it, start to look for other places where you feel stuck, and do this process and get unstuck. Please come share your insights, your breakthroughs, even your miracles in our Facebook page. If you want more tools to support you, go to derekrydall.com and go to the blog and get free tools there as well and the latest show notes for the podcasts. You can also, if you havent already done so, register for this podcast on iTunes so that you make sure you get them while theyre hot and not miss any of them and not lose out on all the archives before we archive them. So, go ahead and do that now. Please leave a review and share it with a friend if you think it can help. Thank you so much for being here and being part of this community of Emergineers. Until next time. Remember to live authentically, love unconditionally and follow your destiny.
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This is a really important concept to contemplate and to consider in your life. So many people are out there trying to do good, but they’re doing it from a consciousness of fear, of separation, or projection, instead of from the space of wholeness.
It’s like an unhealed healer or an angry activist.
This is the key here. On some level early on in their life, they’ve been wounded.
That core wound really is a core initiation, and it really is pointing them in the direction of where they are meant to get stronger and ultimately make an impact in their life or in the greater world.
For example, let’s say you were abused as a child, and you grow up having such pain around any form of violence or abuse. Your reaction to it is anger, sadness, bitterness, contempt towards those that perpetrate it, and you have very little, to no, compassion for those that are so caught in their own darkness that they would perpetrate such violence.
You’re still the wounded little child that now just perhaps inhabits an adult body. In all kinds of ways, it’s made you feel like a victim, and perhaps you’ve then put a mask on top of that, because, in many cases, the last thing an abused person wants to admit is that they’re a victim. You might put a mask on top of that to try to act independent and to be strong. You might have tried to compensate by building up these superstructures of your ego that made you actually more separate from others, more distant, more arrogant, elitist, self-righteous, any or all of these qualities.
When we embrace these parts of us that we’re projecting outside of us (the “bad capitalist”, the “bad politician”, the “bad lawyers”, the “bad perpetrators” …or even just in our own family, “the bad parents”, etc.), when we embrace those things within ourselves, now we have real wisdom. We have real power, and we are a healing agency as we move back out into the world.
If we don’t embrace those, we often are driven to try to stamp out or get rid of those things in the world, whether it’s in our family, in our business, or in the larger global culture, and we become a do-gooder. We enact movements and strategies and practices or legislature, laws, and we wonder why we’ve been doing that over and over again and it doesn’t change things.
When you look at where real change starts to happen, real evolution, real growth, it’s because someone somewhere caught this vision, and they became less focused on the problem and more focused on the vision. They stopped merely trying to save the world, and decided to start serving the emerging possibility, the emerging vision, and they worked on themselves. It’s the difference between a Malcolm X before his transition, and a Martin Luther King, Jr.
Look at that and notice where you’re fighting and resisting – being do-gooders – and where you’re actually creating more pain and more problems in your wake, if not for others, then for yourself. You want to take full responsibility for your emotions, your pain, and your projections, and recognize that real transformation is not about setting things right, but about seeing things rightly.
It is the consciousness of wholeness that heals, and when you can see through the appearance of the victims and the victimizers to the truth, to the true principle – the true vision of possibility -then both victim and victimizer are healed and become servants of this higher possibility.
That’s the work of a good-doer. A good doer is one that’s taking responsibility, that’s doing the work within themselves first and foremost, and then as they are transformed, step into that vision, bringing that power and new wisdom. They’re not going out there trying to save the poor, because if you see poor people you’re just being a do-gooder, and you are actually keeping them stuck in a box of poverty.
If you are seeing a problem and resonating with the problem, you’re a do-gooder. If you’re trying to do something good, but resonating with the problem, and you’re adding fuel to the problem. That’s why Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.” You have to rise to a higher level than the problem. You have to rise to the level of the potential. You have to not be a problem solver, but a vision holder.
Martin Luther King, Jr. certainly named the problems, but he didn’t get on the Washington Mount and say, I have a dream today everybody is terrible, and us people of color need to rise up and stop all those bad people, white people. He didn’t say, I have a big problem today. No. He said, “I have a dream. I’ve been to the mountaintop. I’ve seen the Promised Land. I know what’s possible. I know what we’re capable of.” That was where the fire was.
Whatever your endeavor, your mission, your purpose, the ways you want to make a difference in your life, your family’s, your children’s, and the world, don’t be a do-gooder. Be a good doer. Take responsibility for your feelings, your pain, your projections, and your judgments. Own them. Heal them. Integrate them.
See beyond the appearances to the truth of potential. Capture a vision and create a way of life that causes you to come into ever greater vibrational alignment with that vision, so that you can rejoice in the midst of sorrow. You can bring power in the midst of disempowerment. You can carry a consciousness of wealth and abundance and all things possible to the appearance of poverty.
In order to move from being a do-gooder to a good doer is to see people or situations where they’re truly meant to be, not where they are or less than they really are. Meet them where they are and love them where they are, but then lift them to that place of wholeness.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to Emergence. This is Derek Rydall here, the founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book, Emergence. It’s just great to have you here again in this journey of ever expanding, never ending unfoldment of your genius potential, because life is infinite, and you can never express all of it. No matter how good it is, there’s always more to come, and no matter how bad it is, there’s always more good to come. Your potential always trumps your problems. Now, that’s not what I’m here to talk about today in general, but it’s just a good reminder. What we’re talking about today is are you a do-gooder, or a good doer? This is a really important concept to contemplate and to consider and to really look at your life. Now, in the most basic sense, I’ve said before that there’s nothing worse than an unhealed healer, or an angry activist. So many people are out there trying to do good, but they’re doing it from a consciousness of fear, of separation, of projection. This is the key here. They’ve been wounded on some level early on in their life.
By the way, that core wound really is a core initiation, and it really is pointing them in the direction of where they are meant to get stronger and ultimately make an impact in their life or in the greater world. For example, let’s say you were abused as a child, and you grow up just having such pain around any form of violence or abuse, whether it’s animals, children, women, etc. All of which are horrible, let’s be clear, but your reaction to it is anger, sadness, bitterness, contempt towards those that perpetrate it, and you have very little, to no, compassion for those that are so caught in their own darkness that they would perpetrate such violence. You’re still the wounded little child that know just perhaps inhabits an adult body. In all kinds of ways, it’s made you feel like a victim, and perhaps you’ve then put a mask on top of that, because the last thing an abused person wants to admit is that they’re a victim, in many cases. So you might put a mask on top of that to try to act independent and to be strong. You might have tried to compensate by building up these superstructures of your ego that made you actually more separate from others, more distant, more arrogant, elitist, self-righteous, all of these qualities.
Now, you could have gone the other way. You could have shrunk and become invisible, but either one of those is that you have not yet addressed the core wound and the core shadow, and you haven’t integrated it. I once knew an individual, a client that I worked with, that had been sexually abused, and didn’t even fully realize that that had gone on, but had a very hard time hearing about or watching any kind of TV program, movie, even a commercial, that had any level of violence or any kind of inhumanity to animals or children, even like starving children, any of that. She didn’t understand why. It was almost unbearable, until we uncovered the whole issue and story of abuse, and as we delved deeply into that work, what I had an inspiration to invite her to do, because the typical way is to embrace the abused child and love them and all of that, which is good and important, but what we often miss is the shadow side of it, which is the abuser.
In this case, the predator, that was the shadow that emerged for her was the predator. When I first said, you need to embrace and fall in love with the predator, of course, that sounded crazy and even dangerous and scary, but as she began to work with that I remember one day she came back, and she was so alive, so full of life, so full of light and energy and power. I said, What happened?She’s like, I’ve met the predator. I’ve embraced the predator. I love my inner predator. I was like, Tell me more.She said, As I began to really understand the predator within me and integrate it instead of rejecting and judging it, it activated a level of power. She said, Now I can see the way a predator sees, and it was not like a predator like a bad person out there that’s going to prey on other people. It was like in nature there are predators that are largely predators on the food chain, and those are more like the prey. Everybody is a predator to some level of prey, even if all you’re doing is eating the grass. That grass is your prey. We’re talking about the obvious predators, the lion, the tiger, etc. That’s not bad. It’s not bad to be a predator in the natural order of things.
So when she got that, and she embraced that, and she integrated and healed that judgment and that fear, she was able to see and access the power and the potential of the predator, and what that gave her was a level of security and safety and knowledge that she could not become the prey anymore. Now that she had embraced her inner predator she could sense where people were and what situations were. She had like that sixth sense. It was like a superpower, that we all have, but she knew now that she could no longer be the prey and that nobody in her environment would ever be able to be prey either, because she could see it. She could sense it, and she could cut it off at the pass, and she could speak to it with power. She became free, and she was able to watch things, if she wanted to. It wasn’t like she wanted to watch stuff with violence, but it didn’t make her paralyzed anymore. She had reowned this powerful part of her, and she also began to have a level of compassion and understanding for people that do that.
Victims often becomes victimizers. If they don’t victimize others, they just victimize themselves. The energy turns inward. So the wounded often end up wounding, rewounding themselves or others. That’s just the natural thing until it’s healed, until it’s embraced, but most of what we’ve learned to try to solve our problems is by looking outside of us, or by trying to deny or avoid the dark scary parts of us and just fill it with more light, cover it over with an affirmation. It doesn’t work. Just try to kill and destroy the enemy, just destroy and put behind bars all the bad people. How’s that working for us? At least in the United States, I think we have more prisoners than all the Western industrialized countries combined. Is the crime level that dramatically down? So it doesn’t work. You can’t kill the enemy, because the enemy is not outside of there. This is what Jesus meant when he said, The enemy is in your own household,and then he said, Love your enemy.
When we embrace these parts of us that we’re projecting outside of us, the bad capitalist, the bad politician, the bad lawyers, the bad terrorists, the bad perpetrators, or even just in our own family, the bad parents, etc. when we embrace those things within ourselves, now we have real wisdom. We have real power, and we are a healing agency as we move back out into the world. If we don’t embrace those, we often are driven to try to stamp out or get rid of those things in the world, whether it’s in our family, in our business, or in the larger global culture, and we become a do-gooder. We enact movements and strategies and practices or legislature, laws, and we wonder why we’ve been doing that over and over and over again and it doesn’t change things. When you look at where does real change start to change, real evolution, real growth, it’s because someone somewhere caught this vision, and they became less focused on the problem and more focused on the vision. They stepped merely trying to save the world, and they decided to start serving the emerging possibility, the emerging vision, and they worked on themselves. It’s the difference between a Malcolm X before his transition, his transformation, and a Martin Luther King, Jr.
This is what we must do. We must look at that and notice where we’re fighting and resisting and being do-gooders, and where we’re actually creating more pain and more problems in our wake, if not for others, then for ourselves. Instead, we want to take full responsibility for our emotions, for our pain, for our projections, and recognize that real transformation is not about setting things right, but about seeing things rightly. It is the consciousness of wholeness that heals, and when you can see through the appearance of the victims and the victimizers to the truth, to the true principle to the true vision of possibility, then both victim and victimizer are healed and become servants of this higher possibility.
That’s the work of a good doer. A good doer is one that’s taking responsibility, that’s doing the work within themselves first and foremost, and then as they are transformed, they are now stepping into that vision and bringing that power and that new wisdom. So they’re not going out there trying to save the poor, because if you see poor people you’re just being a do-gooder, and you are actually keeping them stuck in a box of poverty. The test they did, the study they did, where they took teachers and gave three teachers three samples of students, and all the students were from the same pool, same sampling. Just average students. They told one teacher, these are average; one teacher, these are above average; and one teacher, these are below average. At the end of a period of time, they retested everybody. The ones that the teachers believed were just average tested pretty much average, just like the sample. That was the control group. The ones that the teacher believed they were below average, they tested below the sample, below the control group, even though they were still from the same sample. The ones that they believed were above average tested some of the highest scores in the district. What was the difference? It wasn’t like one of the teachers had worse skills than the other, or one of the teachers was worse than the other, or one of the teachers had better intentions. No. It was how they saw the students, the container they held them in. The container they held them in determined whether they would rise to fill it or shrink to fit it.
The same is true when we are going out into the world, whether it’s as parents dealing with our children or trying to help our friends and our family members, or trying to help the larger collective. If we are seeing a problem and resonating with the problem, we’re a do-gooder. If we’re trying to do something good, but we’re resonating with the problem, we’re a do-gooder, and we’re adding fuel to the problem. That’s why Einstein said, You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it. You have to rise to a higher level than the problem. You have to rise to the level of the potential. You have to not be a problem solver, but a vision holder. Martin Luther King, Jr. certainly named the problems, but he didn’t get on the Washington Mount and say, I have a dream today everybody is terrible, and us people of color need to rise up and stop all those bad people, white people. He didn’t say, I have a big problem today. No. He said, I have a dream. I’ve been to the mountaintop. I’ve seen the Promised Land. I know what’s possible. I know what we’re capable of. That was where the fire was.
Again, it doesn’t mean you don’t name the problem. A problem properly diagnosed is half solved. You definitely can recognize that there’s a problem here, that there’s an issue here, but then your work, if you’re going to be a good doer and not just a do-gooder, is to do the inner work so that what you’re seeing, what you’re resonating with, what you’re valuing, what you’re standing for and working on the behalf of, is a solution, is a vision. I think it was Mother Teresa that said, when she had been asked to march in anti-war rallies, she said, No. I won’t march in an anti-war rally, but if you put on a pro-peace rally I’ll be there. We ultimately don’t want to be against anything, because what you fight, you fuel. What you resist, persists. What you are against, you give energy, and you make it more real. Again, you identify the fact that there’s poverty there or that there’s lack there, that there’s abuse there, that there’s war or a problem with your child, whatever the case may be. You don’t put your head in the sand. You see things as they are, but not worse than they are, and then you see them as they really are meant to be. That’s vision. That’s what you work on embodying. So that you are now a light in thatdarkness. If you’re merely being a do-gooder and seeing the problem and resonating with the problem, you’ve just gotten down in the ditch with the people, and you’re of no earthly good to them. You’re not a light. You’re just more of the darkness. Can you see that?
That’s my charge to you. Whatever your endeavor, your mission, your purpose, the ways you want to make a difference in your life, your family’s, your children’s, and the world, don’t be a do-gooder. Be a good doer. Take responsibility for your feelings, your pain, your projections, your judgments. Own them. Heal them. Integrate them. See beyond the appearances to the truth of potential. Capture a vision and create a way of life that causes you to come into ever greater vibrational alignment with that vision, so that you can rejoice in the midst of sorrow. You can bring power in the midst of disempowerment. You can carry a consciousness of wealth and abundance and all things possible to the appearance of poverty, and you don’t speak to people that are experiencing poverty as being poor victims. You speak to them like the teacher that believed these were the highest ranking students in the thing. You speak to them in terms of their capacity, their potential, that they are just as abundant and powerful and capable as anybody.
That doesn’t mean you don’t feed them. That doesn’t mean you don’t cloth them. That doesn’t mean you don’t meet them where they are and have compassion. I’m not saying go to people that are suffering and say, You’re not suffering; you’re perfect. No. That would be abusive. That would be mean. That would be uncompassionate. You can definitely recognize; I see that you’re suffering. How can I help alleviate your suffering? If they’re hungry, you feed them first. Then you begin to lift them up. Jesus didn’t just walk around telling everybody the truth principles. He healed them. He fed them. Then he preached. He didn’t preach to them and say, you poor things. He said, Ye are gods and greater things than these shall you do. Do you know who you are? You are the light of the world. Same with Buddha. Same with all the great masters. We do not allow ourselves to see people as less than they really are. We meet them where they are. We love them where they are, but then we lift them and see them where they’re truly meant to be. That moves us from being a do-gooder and makes you a real good doer.
I hope this has served you. Go out and do some good. Start with yourself and extend it to the world. I hope you’ve enjoyed this. If you found value in it, please share it with a friend, a loved one, a colleague. Make sure to register on iTunes for the Emergence podcast, so that you don’t miss an episode. If you want to get even more valuable training, you can go to DerekRydall.com. Go the free resource section, download the free trainings and audios. If you don’t have my book yet, my bestselling book, Emergence, please go to GetEmergenceBook.com and grab your copy, along with the bonuses. It’s just such an honor and pleasure to serve you, and until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.
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As you begin to grow in this awareness of the Emergence principles and how life really operates, you start to discover that what you do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes you get.
Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.”
We understand in metaphysics and quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at is what actually determines the outcome. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest-station. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem.
Problem, when you understand it means emblem – it’s a symbol. A problem or challenge is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency.
If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, or it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So, how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency.
When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH, the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there! That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists; 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hot water on it, but what’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice.
That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, or in a community, in the government, a corporation or a culture, etc., don’t often work, because we are still at the same frequency, and just moving things around at that level.
We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, or separation. We may try to cover over all of that by controlling or manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, or by having stricter rules… All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice – the ice dissolves.
When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem or change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, “Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.”
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At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. It’s also why you can’t fight fire with fire (except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works.) The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because we’re still operating, in many cases, at the same level of the problem. What you resist persists, what you fight you fuel.
So, to move into the solution state of mind, you must understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or circle of the problem, and you want to, as quickly and easily as possible, move yourself into the frequency of the solution. You want to bring yourself back into a congruent, receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are, where evolution, real healing and growth happens.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to Emergence, this is Derek Rydall, your guide on the side instead of the sage on the stage, author of the bestselling book Emergence, and founder of the process the Law of Emergence. It’s just so great to have you here, as we take another deep dive on this journey of engineering the full emergence of our life, our potential, and our deeper purpose. Today we’re talking about the solution state of mind, and this is really a powerful thing to understand, because, as you begin to grow in this awareness of these principles and how life really operates, we start to discover that what we do, although it’s very important to take action, it’s an extension of consciousness, it’s a dimension of consciousness, that was we do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes we get. Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.
We understand in metaphysics, quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at, that’s actually what’s determining the outcome. I’ve used the analogy often that it’s already happening. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest station. Now, where was the music before you tuned into it? It wasn’t in the distance. You didn’t have to take your radio and run down the street and catch it. It wasn’t in the future. You didn’t have to sit there and wait for it to show up, and when you tuned into that station you didn’t have to make the music happen. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists, hear this, at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem. Problem, when you understand it means emblem, it’s a symbol. A problem, a challenge, is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency. Right? I mean, that’s just a frequency. If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, and it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, and it’s making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency. When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there, right? That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now that you’re tuned into that, it becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists. 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hotwater on it. What’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice. So no matter what you do you’ve always got the problem, the proclivity of the problem, the propensity of the problem, the worry, doubt, and fear of the problem, because you’re living at the level of the problem, at the frequency. As Einstein said, at the level of thinking that created it.That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, in a community, and in the world, in the government, etc., in a corporation or a culture, the reason why they don’t work often is we are still at the same frequency, at the same level, but we’re just moving things around. We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, separation, whatever, and now we’re going to try to cover over all of that by controlling more, by manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, by having stricter rules. All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways. It’s another reason why for the common prisoner the recidivism rate is so high. The problem itself hasn’t been solved, because it never can be.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice. The ice dissolves. When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem and actually change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.At a frequency there are manifestations, condensations, coagulations, formations, and they exit at that frequency. At 32 degrees and below you have ice. At other degrees you have steam. You have gases. You have solids. You have different expressions at different levels. Right? That’s just the way it is. So you cannot solve it. The problems don’t get solved, they dissolve as you evolve. So the only way to solveour problems is to actually take our attention off the problem long enough to rise in conscious, vibration, or frequency to rise outside of the circumstance or the circle of the problem, and as we evolve the problems dissolve. They literally cannot exist at that new higher or different frequency. They cannot exist there. That’s not where they live. Ice doesn’t live at 50 degrees. It lives at 32 degrees and below. So if you start living at 50 degrees, you’re not going to have ice. You’re not going to have the problem of ice.
At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist there. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. Now, I could go down the rabbit hole and explain to you that really hatred is actually on the spectrum of love, but let’s not go there right now. Rather to understand that hatred is an expression or manifestation or formation of a certain vibration or frequency. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. Which is why you can’t fight fire with fire, except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works, but, again, that’s a different physics issue. The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because the actual problem, we’re still operating in many cases at that same level. We’re still killing and fighting and hating and having a justified reason for killing, fighting, and hating. There is no justification. Justifying it doesn’t change the frequency. In many cases it keeps you stuck at the lower frequency.
It’s also why when we’re trying to solve our own problems, our own challenges, but we’re stuck at the level of the problem, we are struggling to figure it out, to make it better, to improve it, to fix it, and we find that either it gets worse, which is often the case, or we solve what appears to be this problem of lack in one area, and it breaks out in another area. We finally solve our problem of lack, and we get a job, and then our plumbing goes wrong, and we have to use all that money we just made to pay for the plumbing. We finally solve our problem of not having enough and get a check for $500, and then our car breaks down, and it costs us $500. How many of you have experienced that? It’s because you’re just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. You’ve manipulated conditions. You’ve manipulated mentally, emotionally, and physically, but fundamentally you’re still living at the same level of consciousness, the same core pattern of your heart or mindset, which is then producing another version of that same frequency. Now it’s just showing up in your bank account, and then next month it shows up in your body, and next month is shows up at your business, and the next month it shows up in your relationship. You’re just rearranging, moving it from one place to the next, but the problem persists. Ultimately it tends to magnify and get worse. So how do you solve a problem? You have to rise above it. you have to get outside of it. I often use the analogy of a racecar driver. A racecar driver, they learn that when you’re spinning out of control towards a wall, which is the problem, if you focus on the problem, aka the wall, you’re going to hit it. It seems very counterintuitive. You feel like, I’ve got to look at that wall to make sure I don’t hit it, but if you do, you will, because the hands follow the eyes, and you turn right into it. So instead you’re trained to look away from the wall and to look towards the road, look towards the finish line, look towards the next turn. Look to where you want to go, not what you are spiraling out of control towards. Look to the solution, the opportunity, the vision, not towards the problem. Sometimes when you’re learning this the trainer that’s training you how to drive has to literally grab your head and force you to look, because everything in your instincts has been conditioned to focus on the problem, to focus on the wall. It feels utterly unnatural to not look at that wall, because otherwise you’re going to crash. Of course, again, the irony is if you do, you are going to crash.
So you look away, and as you look away your hands follow your eyes, and you start to turn out of the spin and pull out of the spin. Interestingly, even when you do that, depending on the momentum you’ve got in that spin, you’re still sliding towards the wall. You have to be aware of that, because you’re turning, you’re focusing on the solution, on the road, but you’re still sliding towards the problem, and there’s a great temptation. It’s a very precarious moment where you might go, it’s not working, it’s not working, and then you look back to the wall, and you get to observe as you crash into it. It takes a degree of courage, degree of trust, and ultimately discipline to become solution focused, not problemfocused, to be a vision holder, not a problem solver.
That doesn’t mean you aren’t aware of the challenge and the problem. It doesn’t mean you’re not aware that there’s a wall there. You are aware of it, but your focus, your attention is on the road, on the solution. So this moves us into a solution state of mind is where the solutions exist. I know that sounds obvious, but it’s not obviously seen or understood when we’re in the moment. Again, it seems counterintuitive to not focus on the problem. It seems from our defensive nature that if we take our eye off the problem it’s going to get us. It’s going to sneak attack us. It’s going to take advantage of us. That’s an old artifact of our evolution where we were trained to see the problems very quickly in any new environment. The rustling of the branches means there could be a sabretooth cat there, or particular elements left behind could show that there was an enemy encampment before, etc. So we’ve been trained and conditioned as a matter of survival, but what helped us survive as a human experiment is now the very mechanism that puts us on the brink of extinction. If not total human extinction, it stagnates us and keeps us stuck at the level we are in our own individual lives, our own individual businesses. So to move into the solution state of mind we have to understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or energy or circle of the problem, and that we want to as quickly and easily as possible move ourselves into the frequency of the solution. Again, I’m going to say that. What we want to do when we encounter a problem is instead of reacting to it and resisting it, what you resist persists, what you fight you fuel. If you fall into quicksand and you fight it, it pulls you down, and you die. If you are in a problem, and you wrestle it, fight it, resist it, it pulls you down. It anchors you to that energy of the problem and makes it more easy to get stuck there, and then most, if not all, of the things you try to do to solve it, first off all, we’ll most likely not solve it, but if it seems to temporarily create a solution it’s almost always a stopgap solution. The problem almost always returns, and in many cases it returns with even more velocity and more ferocity, because all of that resistance. Think of it like holding a beach ball underwater. You’re using all this energy now to hold the problem down and create this solution on top of it, and the minute you relax, that ball flies up and hits you in the face. You’ve all had that experience.
This is not a game of Whack-a-Mole. You just keep hitting the mole, and another one pops up, another one pops up. That’s not how to really solve problems. As Gandhi said, We must be or become the change we want to see in the world, and that includes our own individual world. So when you’re in a problem, you want to as soon as possible shift your awareness and attention to asking the question, not how do I solve the problem, but what is the change I want to see in the world? What’s the change I want to see in my world? Let’s say suddenly you get a bill, and it’s this huge bill, and you can’t afford it, or something like that. You get worried, or you get frustrated. You get angry. Then you try to make calls and complain. This isn’t right. There’s a mistake, or frantically try to scrounge up new opportunities or clients or whatever the case may be. You’re operating at the level of the problem, and energetically and vibrationally you’re tuning and staying tuned in, and even creating a preset on the dial of station K-LACK. Instead you want to go take a breath, and ask, what is the change I want to see in my life? You might immediately go, I want to see this bill paid, and that’s okay. That’s a start. Then go another step further. What is the change I would want to see and need to see in my life in order to pay the bill? Then you sense into that. What you hear is, I have more money. You keep asking, how much more money? If somebody gave you a dollar, that would be more money. How much more? Let’s say the bill is $500. I have at least an extra $1,000. You just sit with that, and you go, is that all the change I really want? What other real change is this challenge inviting me to open up to? As you breathe and sink into it, you kind of hear or feel, I really want to have a level of financial freedom. I don’t want to have to worry about money anymore. Notice that little subtle shift. I don’t want to have to worry about money. You’ve just turned your head back towards the wall again about what you don’t want. That’s the problem. So you go, but what do I want? I want to have enough that I can joyfully express my life, I can have more time with my family, or I can have more time to do creative stuff. Now you’re getting back to the solution. You’re turning back towards the road, towards the finish line.
I want to have enough money that I can spend time doing the things I really want, being with the people I really want, being the person I want to be. As you keep unpacking that, you ask specifying questions. If I got to be the person I wanted to be, who would that person be? As you sense into that, you hear, I’d want to be a person of peace. I’d want to have more joy. I want to be more playful, creative, spontaneous. Brilliant. Write that down. You go, who are the people you’d want to spend more time with? I want to spend more time with my kids, with my husband, with my friends. What would that look like? I would go on that vacation, or we would have a date night. You start to describe and articulate that. What else? I’d want to be doing more of the things that I really want to do with my heart and my art. What specifically? I really want to write that book, or paint that painting, or put on that art show, or start that business. Great. Write it all down.
Now stop for a minute and notice, what have you just discovered? This problem called this unexpected bill was really carrying a message. Your problems are your prophets. They’re bringing you a prophecy, a message of the vision that’s trying to unfold. So this problem is really trying to open you up to discover there’s a larger life that you’re being called to live, that you’re aching to live, that’s seeking to emerge, but all your coping mechanisms have kept you playing small. So now this problem shows up to crack you back open and say, there’s a bigger vision here. There’s a bigger possibility. Your heart has a deeper desire. You’re meant for more. You’re capable of more.
Now you articulate that vision, and even notice as you start to move your energy and think about the bigger vision and dwell on it and imagine it, how do you feel? When the bill came in you constricted. Your heart closed. Your mind clamped down. Your body felt constricted. As you start to move and ask these emergence questions, these solution focused questions, these vision based questions, you feel your heart start to open again, your mind start to expand, your body relax. Energetically, vibrationally, you’ve just moved up a few degrees. You’re maybe not at 32 anymore. Maybe you were at 10, and now you’re at 20. You might still be in the realm of ice, but you’re moving up the scale. You might not be on K-LACK anymore, but you might be still in static, but at least you’re not hearing the blues and all the gossip. It’s just static. It’s not entirely tuned into K-RICH yet, but it’s still an improvement. You follow? Now we take it the next step. Now you really feel into that vision. You give yourself the time to really visualize it, to really feel what it feels like to live that vision, to be that person, and then you do the visualization-vibration process, where you breathe into that energy, and as you exhale you let it expand to fill your body, and then breathe and exhale again and radiate it into your life, radiate it to this seemingly challenge, and just feel yourself as a radiant being of this energy. Now we move. We are now in what’s called a more receptive, available, congruent state of mind, and we can now ask the question, from this place, what am I called to do, to do more of, to do less of, or to do differently, to bring about a solution with ease and grace and dignity? From that place it’s like you’ve now tuned into a higher quality station, and there are higher quality answers. First of all, you don’t just merely receive the answer, but vibrationally you are now becoming the answer. From that place you might be inspired with an idea, a bit of guidance, direction. So that’s the next stage.
The first stage is you’ve hit the problem, breathe, turn your attention toward asking those solution based, vision based questions. Then as you do that you continue to ask specifying questions until you’ve unpacked a vision for your life, the change you want to see in the world, in your world, or beyond. Now you start to have a sense of a vision. You write it down, and then Step 3, you visualize. You use the angel of your imagination to activate the visionary vibration, to feel what it feels like to already be the answer, to be living the solution, and even beyond a mere solution. Notice, it’s no longer just pay the bill. It’s a vision of a life of so much more joy and abundance and possibility. That expands your energy, and then the fourth step you radiate it, really that’s still part of the third step. You radiate it. You fill yourself with it. The fourth step is you now ask from that new state of mind, that solution state, what activity, what am I called to do or not do, to do more of or less of or different, in order to bring about a solution to this with ease and with grace, even with peace and joy? Then you sit with that, and you allow it to bubble up.
At any point in this you might get snagged and pulled back, because you’re still sliding towards that wall to some extent, because the problem has not yet been solved. The temptation will be to get frustrated and go, I just got to solve this problem now, and you just turn back to the wall. When that happens, you breathe again. You come back. You breathe again. You turn your attention back to the road. You keep doing that and asking that question, and then journaling what comes up. Okay?
The fifth stage is you want to ultimately and eventually design a way of life so that this is where you live from on a regular basis. So you’re not just waiting for problems to activate this process, but you take the great vision of your life, and you start to design a way of life around that visionary vibration, around the qualities of feeling and being, and the proactive actions of doing. So that you are now thinking and feeling, walking and talking, in a way that is integrity with this larger vision. In other words, most of your attention is focused on the finish line and racing around that track, versus more and more of your attention focused on the wall that is always just out of your periphery that you could crash into any moment. Most of your attention is focused on the road, on the way, on the finish line, on the vision. That becomes the way of life, and you’re just going around and around and growing and winning the race of your life on a regular daily basis. That becomes a way of life, and if you want to have more in depth understanding of how to do that, I highly encourage you to check out the podcast in here that talks about the LIFT practice, which stands for Living In the Feeling Tone of your vision. That allows you to really take this to the next level.
There’s another level to which this is very valuable. If you’re a coach, a healer, a teacher, or a parent, even a friend of someone, when a friend or a child or a client comes to you, and they’re stuck in the problem, or a spouse, one of the worst things to do is immediately try to solve it and give them answers and solutions at that level. They’re not yet receptive or available or congruent. So instead what you want to begin to tease out of them in a subtle way is to move their attention toward a higher, more congruent, more quality state of being. So they might come to you, a child, like, That jerk Steve at school; he’s such a jerk. Maybe the child comes to you who’s had a fight with a sibling, Bobby is such a mean brother. I hate him.It’s like, What did Bobby do? Tell me what Bobby did, or What did that jerk at school do?You can’t judge people. Don’t talk about those people like that. All of those are adding fuel to the fire. It’s resistance, and they won’t be able to hear it, or they’ll just feel unseen, unheard, unloved, and they’ll rebel. Instead, you move them slowly, and sometimes creatively and dramatically, into being solution oriented or being receptive. You start with, Wow. You’re really upset, aren’t you? So now they feel seen or acknowledged. That’s a step towards them feeling a more positive feeling tone. Do you see that? Then you might say, Tell me what happened. That does bring them back into the problem, but it’s part of them feeling heard, which is like oxygen to a person who’s struggling. So you really listen. That must have been really hard or really scary, or that must really hurt you when they did that.Yeah. It really did. They kind of take a breath, and you’re like, Honey, I’m so sorry you experienced that. I’m so sorry you’re feeling that. You embrace them, or whatever seems appropriate that they’re available for, and now that’s the next level. Now they feel seen, they feel validated, they feel understood, heard, maybe even loved, and you’ll notice they start to calm down a little bit. They might even say, What do you think we should do about it?
Now, it depends on the situation, but let’s say they’re complaining. Let’s say your child comes to you, or a client, and they’re struggling with some issue, like Look at my report card. Look at, I got a C on there or a D, or I lost a client. I lost one of these people in my business, or I didn’t make enough money this month, or whatever the problem is. You might go, That’s really rough. That’s really hard. I really understand that. Then you might say, Tell me more about your business. You’re just expanding the conversation. They might be like, It’s this kind of a business. We do these kind of things.That’s really interesting. Remind me again, why are you doing this business? What is it about it you love?I mean, it’s my mission, my purpose, to help people or create this kind of product, or make this kind of difference.That’s beautiful. What really inspires you about that? Where did that come from?When I was a kid,or I see people suffering, and I just feel like I can make a difference.Have you made a difference sometimes? Tell me about some of the moments you have.Of course, I’ve got a lot of people that are happy clients.Tell me about it. When’s the last time you really felt like you made a positive difference?You just keep teasing it out. Tell me about what’s working in your business. Whatever. You begin to get their attention focused on, I mean, this is great, and I love this, and I’m passionate about this. You notice them start to breathe, start to relax, start to expand. You feel the energy. You’ve now put them in a more receptive solution state of mind. They are more congruent now energetically, emotionally, mentally, with the place they want to live in, with the place they want their life to go. Do you see? Then you can even go a little further and say, What would be your ultimate vision of this business or of your clientele? Now you extend them to even a grander vision and really get them pumped up and on fire with it. Now from that place you go, So from this place, notice how you’re feeling right now. What’s one thing you could do to grow your revenue this month, or to get a new client? Now from that more receptive place they’re actually more available to their innate wisdom, to their innate genius, to that perfect plan within them. You see that?
Same thing with a child. They’re focusing on that C or that D on their report card, and they’re beating themselves up, or they’re scared of what dad’s going to think, and you’re like, Tell me. Do you like that math class?No. I hate it. It sucks.What about these other classes? Do you like any of your classes?I really like art, or I really like English. I love reading.Tell me more about that. What do you love about that? I’d love to hear. They might resist. They might go, I don’t care about that. What am I going to do about this C?I totally agree. We’re going to figure that out, but I’m just really curious, because I’m trying to help see what else is going on in your school, because there might be a clue there for us to help you discover why that C happened. So I’d just love to know what class you love.I really love English.What do you love about it?I love reading.Tell me about something you’ve read lately that you really love.We just read Tom Sawyer, and Tom Sawyer is so cool. I wish I could be like Tom.Wouldn’t that be fun? How would you be in your life now if you could be more like Tom?I certainly wouldn’t let people tell me what to do, and I would really honor my vision, or I would create something or go on a great adventure.What kind of adventure would you like to go on?It’d be kind of cool if we could go on river trip or something.That would be really fun, wouldn’t it?
You start to get them excited, and then you can expand it. If you could bring this kind of adventurous spirit to your school, to your classes, what would you want to do?I don’t know. I’ve been thinking I’d like to do this or do that. You are growing their awareness of what’s possible. You’re making them connected, more congruent, and now you say, What do you think you could bring that we’ve been talking about, like this Tom Sawyer adventurous? How would Tom Sawyer think about this C on his report card? Tom Sawyer wouldn’t care. He wouldn’t let that C get him down.Tom does sound pretty cool.He’s really cool.So maybe that’s great place you could play and act like you’re Tom Sawyer, and not let it get you down. What else would Tom Sawyer do if he knew that he wanted to bring that grade up? It’s not that big of a deal, but what else might he do?Tom Sawyer would find some creative or adventurous way to deal with it, and on and on and on, until you help the child discover their more receptive congruent place, or the client, or the friend, etc.
Now, if it’s a spouse, a person that is truly your equal, or a friend, and you’re not their parent or authority, and their not your client, it’s a little different in the sense that you’re not teaching them. You’re not there to be their coach or their teacher. You’re there to be their friend or their lover. So you just want to be mindful of that. You can still ask questions that open up and really listen and let them express themselves and feel heard and seen and valued and loved, and sometimes that is enough. If you’re a man, and you’re talking to a woman, most of the time the woman doesn’t even want you to solve the problem. The woman just wants to feel heard and seen and held and loved. Then she’s fine, and she’ll go solve it. There might come a moment where she’s feeling better, she’s feeling loved, and you say, Is there anything else I can do to support you? Anything else you want to talk about to try to solve this? If not, that’s fine, but just want you to know I’m here. She might say, Thanks, I’m really good now. It’s not that big of a deal after all, or I don’t know. If you have any ideas, I’d love to hear them. Whereas if you start right out of the gate with that she’s not going to be able to hear it, because she’s gasping for air, and she needs oxygen. With a man, even though men like to solve things, and I know I’m being somewhat stereotypical, the masculine likes to, the man still wants to feel seen and valued, appreciated and respected. So you really listening to him and validating him and understanding him, and then noticing within the story the things he’s doing good and right and absolutely validating those. That’s going to make him feel back in his power again. That’s going to make him feel good about himself again. It’s going to make him feel good about his relationship, and then there might be an opening. You want to wait for the opening. You might say, Is there anything else I can do to help you? I’m here. I just want you to know that. You might get, Thanks, but I’m good. I got it. He might say, I don’t know. If you have any ideas, sure. Then you can share. Unless that opening comes, you don’t want to be advice giving and counseling and coaching your spouse. A word to the wise. I learned the hard way, because I did so much coaching it was just natural, and also being a man it’s natural for my masculinity to want to solve problems.
You can see how this same idea of bringing yourself or bringing a loved one or a client into a solution state of mind. If you’re a minister or whatever, a manager of a team, the same thing applies. You want to bring people back into a congruent receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are. that’s where evolution happens. That’s where real healing and growth happens. That’s where we have the greatest most resourceful presence of being, and when you bring the attention back there, whatever is truly meant to unfold next now has an opening to do that.
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Do you know that 99.99% of the world is run by the belief that if we could just change conditions, we could become safe, secure, significant and free?
It’s a 180 degrees opposite of what the great teachings taught. The fundamental teaching of Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Lao Tzu, Quan Yin, Shankara were not about improving your human experience in order to be free. They were exactly the opposite.
As long as we’re trying to manipulate the world to be happy, safe or significant, we are slaves, prisoners, ruled over by an empire of human beliefs in lack, limitation, and separation.
Freedom won’t just come to you. It has to be earned by right of consciousness. Jesus taught, don’t try to save and improve your life. Let it go and seek a deeper connection. Buddha taught, do not engage in craving and aversion, which is basically the incessant need to try to get or get rid of it in order to be free or happy (in other words, manipulating appearances and conditions.) Buddha’s whole teaching was based on an idea of the whole false self, that all suffering is based on this part of us that is seeking to manipulate conditions in order to be free.
There’s no freedom in thinking you have to get something or get rid of something, change something in order to be free. That’s not freedom, that’s enslavement. Freedom is an inside job. When you can be in a place of peace, regardless of conditions, you’re really free.
When we drop down a little bit deeper into these life structures – time, health, wealth, work, relationships – you can begin to see how this applies in these areas of your life.
It’s important to understand that all human experience is a relative projection of our limited perception of infinite perfection. Time is a relative expression of eternity. It’s completely relative, bendable and flexible. That’s why if you’re with somebody you really love, an hour might feel like it went by in a minute. If you’re doing something you really hate, a minute feels like an hour. As Einstein described in his theory of relativity, time is relative. It’s just a construct. Eternity is what’s real.
So, if you’re trying to base what’s real and true on what’s in time and space, you’re already completely lost. You’re as far away from as if truth didn’t even exist because time and space are not real. There’s a bigger idea that is infinite and eternal. It’s trying to emerge as your life, as the world right now. That idea is what’s real, not all the relative expressions of it that are sometimes very chaotic, very disturbing and very challenging. None of that is truth or substance. None of that is governed or maintained by Divine life, law or power which means it has no power at all. The only thing governed and maintained by life, law or power is what is true, what is real, what is spiritual – which means it is eternal and unchanging.
You want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures -time, wealth, and health – to move into a greater state of well-being.
You can completely renew and restore each of these structures of your life forever, to the extent that you awake into this truth, because your body, wealth, work, health, and relationships are spiritual, infinite, immortal, eternal ideas and activities that never diminish, that never run out. The more free you get in this truth, you’ll be able to reveal an ever-increasing expansion and capacity in every area.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Greetings, my fellow Emergineers. Derek Rydall, here. It’s just so awesome to be with you again. It’s such an honor and a pleasure to have a chance to just dive in, to dive beneath the surface mind, all the surface tension of the world, all the stuff going on in the world that grabs our attention and tempts us to believe in lack, limitation, fear, and separation. Just take a pause, take a breath, and dive beneath all those appearances, all those beliefs, all the rhetoric, all the inner turmoil, the inner weather and storms, and touch ultimate reality a little bit. Just have a moment to deep dive beneath all the effects, all the old effects. When you look at your life, you’re not seeing the present, you’re seeing the past. You’re seeing what has already happened, what has already been accepted or believed in consciousness and is now projected onto the screen of your experience, like the wake of a boat. The wake of the boat isn’t driving the boat. It’s the energy in the boat presently, in the person steering it.
It’s so easy to be steered around by the wake of our life, to be driven by the wake of our life, which is called appearances and conditions – mental, emotional, physical appearances and conditions. All of that is the wake. It has no actual power or substance. It’s the wake. It’s the evidence in the trail we’ve left from previous thinking and actions. Yet we often have been almost completely hypnotized into looking at all of that and letting that determine where our boats are going to go, and it has no power. It has no real substance. It’s an effect. So, it’s just very important. That’s why we stop and we meditate and pray. We’re not praying to make something happen or to manipulate conditions. We’re not praying to move the wake around. We’re praying to touch reality, but not seek to get anything from it, to be influenced by it. We meditate to touch the reality of our being, to be receptive to this reality, to this unprecedented, unconditional life and substance that has never happened, that has nothing to do with conditions. The Divine, the spirit, God, by whatever name you call it, is not trying to change the world. It’s not trying to make the world better, not even trying to make your life better. It’s really important to hear this, because if God or spirit or Divine intelligence was trying to make your life better or the world better, it would know that there’s a problem. It would see lack. It would see limitation. It would see separation, and as thou see us, so thou be us.
Whatever is known in Divine consciousness is a permanent reality. That’s why it says in the Bible, God’s eyes are too pure to behold inequity, because whatever God knows, whatever Divine intelligence knows, that’s the way it is eternally. Do you understand? If God could know that two plus two might equal three, the whole principle of mathematics would fall apart. So, the Divine intelligence doesn’t know about your problems. It doesn’t know about the world’s problems. In Divine intelligence, there are no problems. There’s only perfect ideas, perfect patterns, a Divine perfect template of infinite, immortal, eternal wholeness, harmony, abundance, freedom and fulfillment. There are no issues, no problems, no separation, no limitation, no birth, no death, and no diminishment. There are no other beings or minds, or bodies to contend or conflict, or compete with. None of that exists in Divine intelligence. All of that exist in time. The time, space continuum is a canvas upon which we’re painting with our perceptions of reality. That’s it. There’s infinite perfection. There’s our relative perception of it and then there’s our human projection onto the canvas of time and space, and we call that human experience. We call that our life.
It’s just a projection of a relative of the infinite perfection. So, we have to take these moments to realize that this Divine intelligence of our being, its real focus and purpose is not to improve things. Its focus and purpose is just to reveal and emerge and express more of its infinite perfection. What that looks like is improvement. It looks like evolution and innovation and progress. There is none of those things and Divine intelligence. There’s only a perfect idea, like a movie already on the film reel. It unfolds to give the illusion of something happening and unfolding. It’s already done. It’s already in the can, as the saying goes. Likewise, as the Scripture says, I know the thoughts I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of good, not of evil, to give you an expected end. So, Divine intelligence already knows how it all works out, and we all win. In the end, we’re all victorious. In the end, we’re all fully awakened, fully alive, totally fulfilled, living and loving and shining to the max.
The Divine intelligence only knows that. It only knows that you’re already whole, that you’re already complete, that you’re already free, that you’re already a perfect idea and expression of itself. That’s all that it knows and sees when it sees you. So, when we pray and meditate and do all the work we’re doing, we’re ultimately not trying to manipulate anything, but to have an awareness of how God sees us, to have an awareness of how God sees the world. In other words, to have an awareness of how this Divine intelligence and reality of our being knows and sees and holds us. That’s why that prayer of awakening I say is, more than I want to fix, change, heal, control, manipulate anyone or anything, I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see the way you see.
So, our prayer is never to set things right, which is manipulation, but to see things rightly, which is awakening, revelation, realization. So, I have no intention to talk about any of those, but it must have been a need to be said. It really isn’t the topic, although in a way, it really is, because the topic is all about freedom. It’s funny too, because I look at the topic and the title of this training, of this call, and I was like That’s big enough to drive a truck through.It’s so general. The title is literally Time, Health, Wealth, Work, and Relationship Freedom – The Path of Liberation. I look at them, and I’m like What in the world I’m planning on talking about, besides everything? I understand what I mean now, as I looked at it. I don’t plan these talks out. I let the title to drop in, and then on the day, I open up and maybe take a note or two and see what flows. I understand this. It took me a moment. I had to get back into the space where this arose from. It is very much in a way what I’ve just been talking about even, now that I think about it. So, see, Derek doesn’t always know what the heck he’s doing, but the Spirit always does. So, that’s why I try to do what Ralph Waldo Emerson said and remove my bloated sense of nothingness out of the way of the Divine circuits, because God knows what God had planned. God knows what God wants to talk about.
So, the key here is that– I got to laugh, because it’s just so funny how I did not have any idea why I was saying everything I’m saying, and then the first note I wrote on here was as long as we’re trying to manipulate the world to be happy, safe or significant, we are slaves, prisoners, ruled over by an empire of human beliefs in lack, limitation, and separation. So, I guess, the Spirit knew exactly what it was planning here. So, here’s the thing. There is no freedom in the world. There is no peace or safety in the world. No amount of human improvement will ever make you safe, secure, significant or free. Just let that sink in for a moment, and you may go, Oh, yeah, I know that, because you heard me say it or heard other people say it, but do you understand the implications of that? Do you know that 99.99% of the world is run by the belief that if we could just change conditions, we could become safe, secure, significant and free? Do you know that 99.999% of every legislation and country and product and industry is almost entirely built on and ran by the belief that if we could just make conditions better, we will eventually be safe, secure, significant and free?
So, what I’m suggesting is a thought as radical of an idea as you can possibly imagine. Maybe because you heard me say it before, maybe many times before, it doesn’t sound so radical, but I really want you to let it sink in, because most of what you’re doing in your life is based on a belief that if you could just change the conditions, you’ll be okay. That is fundamentally false. It’s a 180 degrees opposite of what the great teachings taught. The great religious teachings did not teach how to improve your humanhood. Certainly, there were some basic things to stabilize some of the human structures so that you would have time for the deeper contemplation. The fundamental teaching of Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Lao Tzu, Quan Yin, Shankara – they were not about improving your human experience in order to be free. They were exactly the opposite. That’s why Jesus said, My kingdom is not of this world.That’s why he didn’t say, Here’s how you make your human life better. He said, If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it, but if you’re willing to lose your life for My sake, meaning the Christ or the highest idea of truth within you, then you’ll have life eternal. He said, Take no thought for your life, not the clothes you’re going to wear, the food you’re going to eat or whatever. Don’t worry about any of that stuff. That’s already taken care of. Don’t worry about tomorrow. Today’s problems are sufficient unto today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Just don’t take anxious thought for anything in the world.
In other words, don’t be a problem solver. Seek first the kingdom of Heaven within you, and all of those things will be added onto you. It actually said, Seek first the kingdom of Heaven and its righteousnesswhich means the understanding of the principles, really understand how this thing called life works. Then, that understanding will breed right action and what the world calls improvement. He also said, You must know the truth and then the truth will make you free. It doesn’t just make you free. Freedom doesn’t just happen, it happens just – meaning it’s lawful and it’s orderly, and it’s based on principle. You have to know the truth, right? If you believe two plus two equals three, it’s not just going to eventually one day dawn on you, except by working through the problem of always lacking, always lacking, always getting short change, and eventually going what’s the truth here? What’s wrong here? What’s going on here? Having a realization that two plus two equals four. Now, you’ve got a knowing, and that knowing instantly changes your experience.
It won’t just happen to you. Freedom won’t just come to you. It has to be earned by right of consciousness. Jesus taught, don’t try to save and improve your life. Let it go and seek a deeper connection. Buddha taught, do not engage in craving and aversion, which is basically the incessant need to try to get or get rid of it in order to be free or happy; in other words, manipulating appearances and conditions. Buddha’s whole teaching was based in an idea of the whole false self, and all suffering is based on this part of us that is seeking to manipulate conditions in order to be free. He said, observe that until it dissolves and disintegrates; in other words, die daily, do not try to save your life, let it go, and then you will touch Nirvana or Heaven or ultimate reality, and you will find that place of equanimity where you are no longer moved or bothered by the world or appearances, and now you will begin to taste real freedom.
There’s no freedom in thinking you have to get something or get rid of something, change something in order to be free. That’s not freedom. That’s enslavement. Freedom is an inside job. When you realize your wholeness and your freedom and your abundance and your safety spiritually and can be in that place of peace, regardless of conditions, now you’re really free. You could be locked up in a prison cell, and you’re free, and you’re in joy, and you’re in peace. So, real freedom, real fulfillment, comes when we stop trying to merely change the world and the conditions. When we drop down a little bit deeper into these different areas, these life structures – time, health, wealth, work, relationships – it’s important that we don’t just take what I’m saying, and then kind of move on in a general sense, but we really look at these areas and think how does this apply in these areas. So, when we look at time, it’s important to understand that all human experience, as I said in the beginning, is a relative projection of our limited perception of infinite perfection. So, there’s perfection, there’s perception, there’s projection, and then there’s protection, which is where we wrap our ego around that experience, and we call it reality. We put a frame around it. We hang it on the gallery of our mind and say, that’s what’s true. That’s you. That’s me. That’s the world. It’s just a gallery of pictures that we put frames around.
So, everything is a relative expression of an infinite perfection. Time is a relative expression of eternity. Time is completely relative, completely bendable and flexible. That’s why if you’re with somebody you really, really love, an hour might feel like it went by in a minute. If you’re doing something you really, really hate, a minute feels like an hour, as Einstein described in his theory of relativity. Time is relative. Time is just a construct. Eternity is what’s real, and eternity isn’t a long time. See, that’s what we do. We think eternity is a long time, because what we’ve been conditioned to do is project our mortal material concept. We think life is material and life is temporal and life is mortal, we project it onto all the spiritual teachings, and that’s why we end up with fundamentalist religions where we think Heaven is a literal place above the clouds, and God is a man with a beard on a throne, and Jesus is literally sitting next to Him, I don’t know what, fanning him, bringing him wine. I’m not sure what people think he’s doing, but this is a material perception of spiritual reality. Spiritual reality has nothing to do with material reality. Material reality is a relative expression of spiritual reality so you can begin to see heavy peeking out and the symbols of what’s true, but you got to be willing to not interpret it materially. You have to interpret it spiritually. Seek first the kingdom of Heaven and its righteousness.
So, time is a relative expression of eternity, which is a state of being now. It’s not a long time. It’s a now-ness that is forever. Even saying forever, we think a long time, but it’s not. It’s when you step out of time, what is left is eternity. It has no beginning. It has no end. You can get a little bit of a sense of it when you think of space and vast space where there’s no planet or stars or anything. The same thing with space. Let’s look at space. Space is a relative expression of infinity. Infinity isn’t a lot of space or a lot of stuff, infinity is like when you think about two plus two equals four…oryou think about the number four. There are literally infinite ways to express four. There’s no end to it. Two plus two, two times two, five minus one, a billion minus 999,999,996. Four is infinite. So, it doesn’t mean it’s a lot. It means there’s no end to its expression. This is true of everything. Behind everything, there is an infinite idea, an infinite pattern, and there’s no end to it. You can imagine numbers ever running out. There’s no end to it. There’s no beginning either. So, infinity is reality. Eternity is reality. Time and space is a relative construct, a canvas. It’s not real. It’s not truth.
So, if you’re trying to base what’s real and true on what’s in time and space, you’re already completely lost. You’re as far away from as if truth didn’t even exist because time and space are not real, but you can start there as a bread crumb and ask these kind of questions, begin to appear and see what’s really here, what’s really trying to emerge. There’s a bigger idea that is infinite and eternal. It’s trying to emerge as my life, as the world right now. That idea is what’s real, not all the relative expressions of it that are sometimes very chaotic and very disturbing and very challenging. None of that is truth. None of that is substance. None of that is power and none of that is real. None of that is governed or maintained by Divine life or law or power which means it has no power at all. The only thing governed and maintained by life, law or power is what is true, what is real, what is spiritual which means it is eternal and unchanging.
So, we want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures so we move into health. What we call health is basically the proper workings of the organs and functions of the body, but that’s not health. I want you to really hear that. That might be the evidence of the consciousness of health, but it’s not health. The body, the organs and functions are not the source of health. Health as a spiritual, eternal quality of being which is wholeness, which is the eternal, indestructible, incorruptible life of God, which is the body of God, the temple of the universe, that’s the real body. It’s spiritual. It has no size. It has no structure. It’s a spiritual idea and activity. The more that’s realized in consciousness, this consciousness of wholeness and oneness, and the activity and the energy of spirit, then that is interpreted as organs, functions, bone, ligaments, tendon, and tissues in a healthy way. In fact, every organ, every action of the body is actually an infinite, immortal, eternal, spiritual idea and activity that has no beginning and no ending, that does not age, that does not diminish, that can never be sick, but because we have a mortal, material time-space bound concept of body, that’s what we experience. We’re not experiencing the body directly. We’re experiencing our mortal, personal, temporal perception of body. When you look down at this physical thing, that’s not your body, that’s your mortal material perception of the body which is actually the body of God which is actually infinite, immortal, eternal, indestructible, incorruptible, it was never born, it will never die, and it can never age. Age is a function of the belief in time. The more you’re out of time, the less you’ll age.
So, we want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures so we move into health. What we call health is basically the proper workings of the organs and functions of the body, but that’s not health. I want you to really hear that. That might be the evidence of the consciousness of health, but it’s not health. The body, the organs and functions are not the source of health. Health as a spiritual, eternal quality of being which is wholeness, which is the eternal, indestructible, incorruptible life of God, which is the body of God, the temple of the universe, that’s the real body. It’s spiritual. It has no size. It has no structure. It’s a spiritual idea and activity. The more that’s realized in consciousness, this consciousness of wholeness and oneness, and the activity and the energy of spirit, then that is interpreted as organs, functions, bone, ligaments, tendon, and tissues in a healthy way. In fact, every organ, every action of the body is actually an infinite, immortal, eternal, spiritual idea and activity that has no beginning and no ending, that does not age, that does not diminish, that can never be sick, but because we have a mortal, material time-space bound concept of body, that’s what we experience. We’re not experiencing the body directly. We’re experiencing our mortal, personal, temporal perception of body. When you look down at this physical thing, that’s not your body, that’s your mortal material perception of the body which is actually the body of God which is actually infinite, immortal, eternal, indestructible, incorruptible, it was never born, it will never die, and it can never age. Age is a function of the belief in time. The more you’re out of time, the less you’ll age.
We get down to money or wealth, so we talk about time, health and wealth, wealth freedom. There is no freedom in having a lot of money. That’s not wealth freedom, because you can lose it. The economy can go south. The dollar can collapse. You can have a billion dollars and the value of dollar could go into the tank, and now, what do you have? Your job could go away. You could get fired. You could have a lot of money but then get sued and lost most or all of it. I mean there’s no safety or freedom in physical material wealth. It’s just a fruit of a consciousness of wealth. If you have that consciousness of wealth, which is spiritual and internal, and it’s not based on dollars and fruits and all that, now you’re free. When Jesus said, If you tear down this temple, I will rebuild it in three days, he was talking about the body temple, because he knew that the body was spiritual, not material.
He knew you could never kill the body, but the same thing is true for all of these temples of our life, the temple of wealth, the temple of health, the temple of relationship, the temple of time, the temple of work, or purpose. All of these are spiritual, and the world can tear down the material concept. Time and space can seem to erode and wear down material concepts, but when you’re living in the spiritual temple, in the spiritual reality of your being, you will continuously rebuild it because you’re living in what’s real and the substance of experience will continue to clothe itself based on what you’re knowing and holding in consciousness. So, you’ll never again fear what the world can do to you. You’ll never again fear what time and space and experience can do because you’ll know that that’s not your source and that has no power, that in three days which is a metaphor for a cycle, you will rebuild. Pull all the fruit off a tree and in three days, otherwise, known as the new season, you will have a whole new harvest of fruit.
You can completely renew and restore every temple of your life, every structure of your life forever when you awake into this truth and to the extent that you awake into this truth, because your body, your wealth, your work, your health, and your relationships are spiritual, infinite, immortal, eternal ideas and activities that never diminish, that never run out and in fact, not only can you completely rebuild and restore anything, that’s why it says, I shall restore the years the locust have eaten. You will not just restore every temple, every area of your life. The more free you get in this truth, you’ll be able to reveal an ever-increasing expansion and capacity in every area so that with every passing year, you not only restore your body but you have more strength, more health, more power, more stamina, more athleticism, more flexibility and agility. You don’t only restore your mind but you have more genius, more brilliance, more intelligence, more inspiration, more productivity and creativity. You not only restore all the relationships but you have more love, more compassion, patience, understanding, more of depth of intimacy and connection, play and joy, adventure and aliveness in every area from glory to greater glory world without end. This is the description of reality, of spiritual reality.
Freedom can only be had to the extent that you’re living in that reality, to the extent that you’re seeking your freedom in the world through manipulating time trying to manipulate and manage your physical body, trying to manipulate and achieve money and wealth, trying to hold on to or manipulate or achieve the right work or the right relationships. You will never ever have freedom. As the relationship saying goes, when it comes to relationships, Two halves do not make a whole; only two haves make wholeness. In other words, when you come into relationship not to get anything by coming in from wholeness and knowing you’re just there to give and to share to commune, to be in love, not to get love. Then, now, you begin the journey of real freedom in relationship and the real possibility of relationship. As long as you’re trying to get anything, you can never be free because you believe they are the source of whatever you’re trying to get. As long as you’re trying to get anything at work, you’re not going to be free. As long as you’re trying to get anything from anyone or anything in the world, orwaiting for something, or believing you can’t be and do until something changes, all those are signs that you become imprisoned in time and space.
Freedom means letting go of everyone and everything as a source and anchoring yourself in the source, no longer leaning on resource but leaning on the source within you. That is the only place you’ll ever find freedom, safety, security, significance or fulfillment. There is none in this world, but that’s not bad news. It might sound bad at first, but that is what the great masters taught. They didn’t teach how to attract. They didn’t teach how to achieve. They taught that the work is already been done. In the beginning was God and was the Word, and the Word was with God, and all that was made was made out of the Word and God saw it and named it all good. In other words, it’s good. It’s done and nothing was made without the Word. So, only God, only this Divine intelligence made everything. It’s done. It’s done. This Divine intelligence isn’t going to do anything more. It’s not a project in process. It’s done. Life is done. Two plus two exists. It was never created, and it can never be destroyed. Do, Re, Mi, Fa, So, La, Ti, Do – the musical scale exists, and, by the way, it’s infinitely more than those notes, as is our ideas of Math. The true depth and potential of Math and Music, it’s so multidimensional and multifaceted, our human mind could never grasp within its completeness. This is true about everything and everyone, but it’s done.
All real growth and evolution is never ever about adding anything or achieving or attracting or improving anything. It’s always about a greater realization of what already Is, what’s already here – the laws of aerodynamics, the laws of electro conductivity, the laws of buoyancy, the laws of everything that is created everything in our life – already exists and already existed. At the time of Buddha, you could have had flying planes and computers if you had only realized those principles. It’s already done. Your life is done. Your destiny is fulfilled. You’re already whole, complete, perfect, free, fulfilled, living and moving, and having your being in heaven, in harmony, in pure good, perfect love, perfect piece, total bliss and ecstasy and paradise on every level in every way, already here and now and forever. You can never leave it, you can never lose it, you can never earn it or achieve it. You’re it. Tag you’re it.
Now, the work is to have an ever greater realization of what I just expressed. So, it’s not just word. It’s not just theories and thoughts and beliefs, but it’s an absolute undeniable knowingness to the extent that you know what I just said, to that extent where you will be free and to that extent where your life show forth the health, the wealth, the wisdom, the fulfillment, the love, that your human mind has been seeking. So, this is the path of real liberation. This is the path of real Emergence. This is really what Emergence is teaching. It appears on the surface. I draw you in by talking about in some ways making your mind think that Emergence is about making your life better and improving and achieving and all that good stuff, and then once you’re in, and it’s too late, now, I let you see what it’s really about or you begin to discover that yourself. Now, to be clear, it does ultimately lead to improvement and to better life but it leads to in a way that perhaps we have not been conditioned. The other thing is in all of this, I’m not saying you don’t need to and shouldn’t be doing things in the world.
The fact that it’s already done and the fact that you’re already it, it doesn’t mean that you’ll just sit around and wait. Remember. It doesn’t mean you don’t get in the game and play. It doesn’t mean you don’t still work with your thoughts, your feelings, your conversations, your actions, but now, you’re not doing all of that to make it happen. You’re doing all of that to create the conditions that make what is already happening welcomed, okay? So, just because the music is already broadcasting, it doesn’t mean it’s just going to play over your radio. No. You have to do the work of tuning that dial into the station. Just because it’s already here, it doesn’t mean it’s going to just broadcast. I mean it’s already broadcasting, it doesn’t mean it’s going to become manifest. So, you still have to work with all the structures and you definitely want to be a good steward of everything you have, your body, your mind, your business, your relationships, but fundamentally, you’re doing it to create ever greater congruence and integrity, to speak and think and walk and talk and show up ever increasingly as if it’s already done, it’s already happening, I’ve already got it all, I’m whole, I’m complete, I’m free, and I’m fulfilled.
So, this is your charge. This is your opportunity. I invite you on this path of true liberation. I hope this has served you and supported you and inspired you. It may be even stretch you a little bit. Just take a moment and just drop down into this field of grace as we throw ourselves wide open to the power and the presence and the love of God – this Divine intelligence that governs everything and created everything out of itself and this presence that is not only in everything but everything is in it, meaning that everything’s true nature is Divine, whole, complete, and perfect. There is nothing outside of our other than the Divine. Being infinite, you can’t have an infinity plus. Being omnipresent, you can’t have something that’s everywhere in its fullness and have something somewhere else. Being omnipotent, all powerful, you can’t have another power outside of omnipotence. Being omniscient, all science, all knowing, all truth, you can’t have another truth, or another mind or another intelligence. There’s only one.
There’s only one. Its nature is pure love, goodness and perfection, wholeness and completeness. It is the only thing going on. It’s going on here and now, but we must know it consciously and that’s what we’re doing right now. We are knowing the truth, that the truth will make us free. We’re developing a consciousness of truth, instead of a consciousness of the relative perceptions. We’re knowing that right where each and every individual here is is all of the power and the presence and the love of God, all of the infinite God head, all of the infinity of the universe rushing and pouring and expressing each unique perfection as each individual here and as every one that this community is connected to. All that is going on is a never-ending unfoldment of Divine perfection, abundance, wholeness, completeness, freedom and fulfillment.
This word that I’m speaking is the vibration is the wholeness and freedom and it dissolves and disintegrates all frequencies, beliefs, concepts, identities that are not true, that are not congruent. It activates the realization in everyone here of who they really are and why they’re alive. It activates the power and the potential and the wisdom and the guidance and the direction and the compelling right action. It activates the momentum, the energy, the strength, and the courage in everything that is needed to make them a congruent place where the fullness of life can now put itself on display and prove that all that there is is God, all that there is is love, all that there is is oneness. Prove it, and prove that all error, all fear, all lack has no power over us whatsoever. We are now ever greater instrument to prove this in our individual and collective lives, to demonstrate a destiny of greatness. It’s unfolding now. As whatever needs to be spoken or heard, taught or done, everything is working together for our good. All is well, and so it is, now and forever. Amen. Just take a moment and feel that activation.
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You came to this planet to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what you are.
You’re here to paint your unique masterpiece of love, life, and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others can see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness, joy, and genius.
Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn.
That’s where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you – all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. You’re not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world can’t give you anything, except for a reflection of where you’re living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give.
There’s a unique way that shows up for you. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer! Although not everybody is living the Divine purpose within their profession, we all came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of our true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same.
What didn’t you come here for? You didn’t come here to shop, to win an argument, to prove anything to anybody else, to win anything, to get a job even. You didn’t come here to get anything, to get a bunch of money, or real estate, to defeat the enemy, to get approval, validation or love from anybody.
That doesn’t mean that you don’t get a job, get into a relationship, don’t get a new car, or you don’t get some clothes. That’s all beautiful and wonderful, but you’re not here to get those things.
You get into the relationship so that you can have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are and give more of the love within you.
You get that job so that you have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are through the challenges and things, and to give of your giftedness.
You get a new car so that you have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places you need to give of your love and give of your gifts.
You get a new home so that you can create a sanctuary and an environment where you can love each other and create, meditate, grow, play, sing, love and release more of your imprisoned splendor.
You go into the lands of the world so you can cultivate, nourish and honor them. To create works of art and structures that support the awakening, loving , playing, sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, or personal development, we’ve been conditioned to believe that all of these things we need to get is the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money you want, the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if you get all that you’ve won the game. No.
You’ve only just begun it. That’s not the end result – that’s the preparation. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life, your true gifts and your true purpose.
There’s some simple ways to test this: Can you take any of that stuff with you when you leave this planet? If you can’t take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you can’t take the money, the houses, the cars, that person, then what can you take?
You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom you’ve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals that will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity, loyalty, service, love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
I invite you to contemplate this: once you leave this earthly place, will what you’ve done in this moment, what you’re striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind?
As you begin to discover your ultimate purpose, some of the things you thought mattered, will fall away.
Your values will begin to shift, and it won’t be as important to do certain things. It won’t be as important to acquire stuff you don’t really need that aren’t truly opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give your gifts. It doesn’t mean you can’t have a big screen TV. You can have a home theater, but you’ll have a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence. Oh what a joy it is to be with you again. Just more and more I feel so happy when I get a chance to share this journey of Emergence with you, and just support you and see you and give my gifts. Its a real sign that youre on the right path when, regardless of whats going on in your life, you get to do that thing that you love you feel good. You know that youre doing the thing youre meant to. Just like when the tree gets to produce of its kind, its in bliss. Its such an honor and a pleasure to be here with you.
Today were talking about what you really came here for, and what you didnt. By the way, if you havent had a chance to sign up for Emergence, this podcast on iTunes, its absolutely free. There is about 100 episodes or trainings in there, but we archive them on a regular basis. I would invite you to sign up. Its free. Takes about a minute or less. Download all the episodes so that you own them now, and you wont lose any of them. Youll also be getting new ones every week. If you like what youre hearing, please share it with a loved one, a friend. One of the greatest gifts we can give someone else is education or inspiration. So what you really came here for, and what you didnt. Let me just start right out of the gate by telling you absolutely what you didnt come here for. What I mean by here I dont mean to this podcast; I mean to this planet. You did not come here to get a sale at Macys or Walmart. You did not come here for that Fire sale. You did not come here for Black Friday. No matter how much you like to shop till you drop, you did not drop into this dimension to shop. Thats the first thing I want you to know you didnt come here for. Im going to talk mostly about what you didnt come here for.
What you came here for, what we call came here for, is to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what we are, and to paint our unique masterpiece of love and life and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others could see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness and their own joy and their own genius. Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn. Thats where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you, all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. Youre not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world cant give you anything, except for a reflection of where youre living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give. Thats it. Thats what you came here for.
Now, theres a unique way that shows up. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer. Im sorry to tell you, thats also a Divine purpose. I dont know how many are actually living the Divine purpose within their profession, but you came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of your true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same, and to have fun. Its a fun, dynamic, dramatic dimension of contrast and light, but thats what you came here for.
What didnt you come here for? Again, you didnt come here to shop. Nothing wrong with shopping, but weve kind of turned shopping into entertainment. You to the airport now, and a lot of airports are really just shopping malls surrounded by planes. As one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, says, People are walking around looking for something to buy. Here what I said. Theyre not walking around to find the thing they really need. That creative impulse to give and share the gift of their life has been aberrated and corrupted into an energy of trying to get and acquire for the sake of acquiring. How many people have things in their closet with the tags still on them? Boxes in their garage that have never been opened from Amazon or the Home Shopping Club or whatever? The trash heaps of our country and the world are filled with this stuff. You didnt come here to shop.
You didnt come here, also, to win an argument, except the argument within yourself. Whenever youre in an argument, when youre in a situation, and youre so committed, like life or death, to prove youre right and that theyre wrong, to somehow exact revenge, you didnt come here for that. You didnt come here to prove anything to anybody else, except to prove the principle of truth, to prove that God is all there is, or love is all there is, or love will win the day, but not to prove that youre better than them or theyre less than you, or even to prove theyre better than you, which sometimes we unconsciously do. You didnt come here to prove any of that. You didnt come here to win anything, except the argument within your own heart, which is to convince yourself that you are one with the One of all life, the Source of all creation, that you are whole, complete, and beautiful and abundant and worthy and necessary. You came here to convince yourself of that and to prove that, and then to help prove it for everyone.
You didnt come here to prove that youre better than anyone. You didnt come here to prove someone else is wrong. You didnt come here to win a court case. You didnt come here to get a job even. You didnt come here to get a bunch of money. You didnt come here to get a bunch of real estate. You didnt come here to defeat the enemies, except the enemy within your own household, which is the only place it exists, within your consciousness. You didnt come here to get anything. You didnt come here to get approval or validation or love from anybody. No. You didnt come here even to get love. You came here to give it, because infinite love is within you.
That doesnt mean that we dont get a job, we dont get in a relationship, we dont get a new car, we dont get some clothes. Thats all beautiful and wonderful, but were not here to get those things. We get into the relationship so that we can have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are and give more of the love within us. We get that job so that we have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are through the challenges and things, and to give of our giftedness. We get a new car so that we have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places we need to give of our love and give of our gifts. We get a new home so that we can create a sanctuary and an environment where we can love each other and create our things and meditate and grow and play and sing and love and release more of our imprisoned splendor. We go into the lands of the world so we can cultivate them and nourish them and honor them and create works of art and structures that support the awakening and the loving and the playing and the sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, personal development, all of these things that we have been conditioned to believe we need to get, that thats the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money we want, and the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if we get all that weve won the game. No. No. TranscriptionYouve only just begun it. Thats not the end result. Thats the preparation. Thats the beginning. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life and your true gifts and your true purpose.
Theres some simple ways to test this. Can you take any of that stuff with you? If you cant take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you cant take any of it with you, and you cant. You cant take the money. You cant take the houses and the cars. You cant even take that person. What can you take with you? You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom youve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals. That will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity and loyalty and service and love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
Did you really come here to learn how to build rocket ships or do brain surgery or make great deals or master mathematics, or even become a great singer or songwriter? No. Not really. You came here, and as part of your unique journey you master a craft or domain specific knowledge, so that in that area you can shine your light and life and give your gifts, but the gift youre giving isnt just the work of art or that beautiful structure you built, or that computer you designed. No. The gift is what quality of the spirit that particular thing allows to be activated in you and in others. How it supports others in giving their true soul gifts and awakening to their true self. So that work of art is not just a work of art. If youve done it from that deeper place it liberates peoples hearts and minds and spirits, whether its through emotional catharsis or spiritual awareness, and that computer gives them the tools they need to do their work and give of their gifts in the world. You see? When you really start to boil it down, the only thing that really matters, the only thing, is the activation and the discovery of who and what you really are, and the true qualities of your soul, and the full activation of those qualities, the love, the peace, the joy, the inner connection. Thats all that really matters.
Another test you can do is when youre in the midst of an argument or a struggle to achieve or attract or strategies and tactics to win and succeed, you can stop and ask yourself, especially if you feel constricted, contracted, pushy, afraid, angry, you can ask, Will this matter in 20 years? Start there. Will this matter in 20 years? Youre in the middle of a fight. Youre arguing with your wife about the fact that she charged too much on the credit card, or youre arguing with your husband the fact that he stayed out too late drinking with the buddies. Dont get me wrong. Im not saying you dont deal with the mundane things, but when you make it an issue, you make it an argument, you make it a fight, you make it a thing, you got to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? In 20 years will I really care that my wife bought that dress without asking me? Will I really care that my husband stayed out late with the boys drinking? Whatever the case. Maybe thats kind of cliché examples. Do it the other way around. The husband bought that golf clubs that we couldnt afford, and the wife stayed out with her friends really late and didnt call, whatever. Will it really matter 20 years from now?
Again, Im not saying you dont deal with the real issues of the heart. If you have commitments and agreements, and they get breached, and youre afraid, absolutely, but thats this inner work, but its because you want to perfect your loving. Its because you want to have a deeper sense of peace. You want to feel more empowered. Thats what really matters, not the credit card bill or the extra golf clubs, or the fact that he leaves the toilet seat up all the time, or whatever. You want to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? Then you ask yourself, after that, because maybe youll still convince yourself it does, Will this thing right here that Im fighting for or that Im struggling to attain, will it matter on my deathbed? If you really ask with sincerity, you might hear an answer like, Itll really matter, but not for the reason I thought. If I make this about me being right and them being wrong, and I fight, I might do damage to this relationship. I might not have it in 20 years. I might be alone on my deathbed. It matters for that reason. Youll most likely get, No. I mean, think about it. You want to also test this? Think about 20 years ago. Think about some of the things you thought meant everything. Its like life or death that you got that new shiny Mustang when you were a teenager, or the whole world was collapsing around you because she broke up with you, or your parent not letting you go out to that concert, and you hated them and wished they would die. Now you think about it 20 years later, 30 years, 40 years, and you laugh about it, or maybe you kind of feel ashamed about it. Youre like, how could I have thought that mattered so much?
Again, I have to qualify, because theres levels. Its not that theres not value and meaning in all of our challenges. When the young teenagers heart is broken, that does matter. Theres value in the work that that produces, but when we are fighting for our life and fighting and making something life and death and putting all of our energy into acquiring and achieving it or proving it, if we ask these questions we start to loosen our grip, and we start to ask, What does matter in this moment? Its not that Im right or wrong. Its not that I get or dont get. So what does matter? There is something that matters when that teenagers heart gets broken, when mom and dad wont let you go out, or when the person breaks your trust. There is something that matters, a matter of the heart and the soul. Theres something in that for the evolution and growth of your spirit, and ultimately a greater realization of your true purpose and a greater capacity to give of your gifts. There is something that matters as it pertains to that.
So when you ask these questions you can ask, In this moment, did I come to planet Earth in this moment to prove them wrong and prove me right? In this moment, this conflict, this struggling or striving, did I come to Earth for this thing? What did I really come to Earth for in this moment? If this was the only moment I had, I came to Earth just for this moment, because in a very real way thats true of every moment, Then what did I come here for right now. In this argument with my wife, what is the reason I came to Earth as it pertains to this argument? It sure isnt to prove myself right. What good is that going to do me? That would be a silly reason to travel through Universes and galaxies and cross the barrier of time and space, to make her wrong for buying a dress or make him wrong for buying those golf clubs. That would be pretty silly. You start to tap into the real reason you came here, the real reason for each moment, the real goal in each moment, the soul goal, and you start to realize what you didnt come here for.
Now, you can expand this question even further. We said 20 years, the end of your life, on your deathbed, will this matter, the thing youre fighting for or striving for? The next question you ask is, What about when I leave this dimension, and Im in some other dimension? Will this matter? Will these golf clubs really matter? Will this credit card bill really matter? Will any of my debt really matter? Will the fact that I might get a million dollars or $100,000 or $1,000, will that matter when Im flying around in some other dimension? No. Then that must not be the real reason you came for, you came to this moment for. That must not be really what youre here in this moment for. You could be making a deal, but the real reason youre making that deal must not be about the money youre going to get. There must be a deeper truer, purer reason. The more you can be tapped into that and coming from that while you make the deal, now you are in league and in alignment with your souls goal, your souls purpose. You understand what Im saying?
Then you can expand it even further and say, Once you leave this earthly place, will what youve done in this moment, what youre striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind? In other words, if you fight and prove youre right and theyre wrong, once you leave will that have been of value to them? Once you leave, the fact that you managed to make millions of dollars, is that going to necessarily make a difference for the world? It might. If youre earning the money to grow a non-profit organization thats going to then use that money to feed people and help people and educate people so they can live their lives and give their gifts, then if thats in your motivation for attracting or achieving or attaining that, you are more aligned with your true purpose. Do you see what I mean?
Again, Im not saying that any surface activity is, in and of itself, wrong. A fight isnt wrong. A conflict isnt wrong. Acquiring things isnt wrong, but its deep down is the actual acquisition the thing? Is the money the thing? Is the proving yourself right or them wrong the thing? Is there something deeper? The more you can be anchored to that real thing you came here for, which has something to do with awakening to your true potential, your true selfhood, and giving of your true gifts to the world so that others can awaken to their self and give their gifts, thats the ultimate purpose of everybody. Thats really why we all came here, in our own unique ways. One might do it as a banker. One might do it as a plumber. One might do it as a healer. One might do it as an artist, but its not the plumbing and the healing and the banking that we came here for. Its not to get something in that relationship and puff up our ego and make us feel better than or less than. Its this deeper purpose to awaken to our true self, to perfect our loving, our giving, and to give forth of those qualities in a way that helps others wake up and give of their own.
As you expand this you begin to discover, and as you really do that you start to feel yourself losing your grip around this situation. It doesnt mean you wont still have some fear, some anger, some sadness, but at least now youre going to know, what am I meant to do with this fear, anger and sadness based on this new context of what Im really here for? If Im really here to wake up to my true self, which is a unique expression of life and love and God, now how do I work with the sadness, the anger? Do I try to make them wrong? Thats not going to help me realize my oneness with God or perfect my loving, but there is something in here that will. You keep working until you find what that is. Thats going to change the context of that argument. Its going to change the paradigm or the context of that conflict. Its going to change the context of that ambition, until more and more youre rooted in the real reason you came here for.
Some of the things you thought mattered will fall away. Your values will shift, and it wont be as important to do certain things. It wont be as important to acquire stuff you dont really need and thats not really opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give of your gifts. Youll have a bigger vision than your flat screen TV. Youll see that reverse. Most people, unfortunately, have bigger TV screens than the vision for their life. That will begin to reverse. It doesnt mean you cant have a big screen. You can have a home theater, but youll a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same. Are you getting this?
What did you really come here for? What didnt you come here for? You didnt come here to prove youre right and someone else is wrong. You didnt come to hurt someone, get revenge, acquire a bunch of stuff, a bunch of money, a bunch of titles behind your name. You didnt even come here to get your body in the greatest shape ever. Its okay to do that, but if youre compulsively into I got to lose this weight or gain these muscles or look better, all that vanity, what good is that going to be on your deathbed? What good is that going to be when youre flying around in another dimension with a different body? What good is that going to leave behind for the loved ones in the world that youve left? Nothing.
Again, to put it in context, maybe you did come here to help really learn how to honor yourself through the body and model what good health looks like so that that particular structure is strong and doesnt become a liability. So you have the energy and strength to keep growing and awakening and giving your gifts and teaching others and modeling for others to do the same. Now in that context, the energy you put towards looking and feeling great has real merit. Its in integrity with your emerging soul. So what did you really come here for? When youre in the midst of a conflict, of something youre striving to achieve or attain, ask that question.
Then expand it. Will this matter in 20 years, what I think Im here for in this moment? Will it matter in 20 years? Will it matter on my deathbed? What will I think about it when Im out of this dimension in a completely different one? Will it matter to the people in the world Ive left behind? You want to keep asking and adjusting until your answer is yes. This will matter 20 years from now. This will matter on my deathbed. This will matter when I leave this place, and this will matter for those I leave behind. In some way it will help for the greater expression of my heart and soul and love, and it will help others for their greater expression of that too. So that were creating a world that works for the highest good of all, that reflects more and more the ultimate nature of reality, of love, of wholeness, and when thats the answer you consistently can give, you know youre on track, youre on purpose, and youre living your purpose.
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