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You came to this planet to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what you are.
You’re here to paint your unique masterpiece of love, life, and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others can see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness, joy, and genius.
Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn.
That’s where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you – all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. You’re not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world can’t give you anything, except for a reflection of where you’re living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give.
There’s a unique way that shows up for you. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer! Although not everybody is living the Divine purpose within their profession, we all came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of our true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same.
What didn’t you come here for? You didn’t come here to shop, to win an argument, to prove anything to anybody else, to win anything, to get a job even. You didn’t come here to get anything, to get a bunch of money, or real estate, to defeat the enemy, to get approval, validation or love from anybody.
That doesn’t mean that you don’t get a job, get into a relationship, don’t get a new car, or you don’t get some clothes. That’s all beautiful and wonderful, but you’re not here to get those things.
You get into the relationship so that you can have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are and give more of the love within you.
You get that job so that you have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are through the challenges and things, and to give of your giftedness.
You get a new car so that you have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places you need to give of your love and give of your gifts.
You get a new home so that you can create a sanctuary and an environment where you can love each other and create, meditate, grow, play, sing, love and release more of your imprisoned splendor.
You go into the lands of the world so you can cultivate, nourish and honor them. To create works of art and structures that support the awakening, loving , playing, sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, or personal development, we’ve been conditioned to believe that all of these things we need to get is the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money you want, the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if you get all that you’ve won the game. No.
You’ve only just begun it. That’s not the end result – that’s the preparation. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life, your true gifts and your true purpose.
There’s some simple ways to test this: Can you take any of that stuff with you when you leave this planet? If you can’t take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you can’t take the money, the houses, the cars, that person, then what can you take?
You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom you’ve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals that will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity, loyalty, service, love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
I invite you to contemplate this: once you leave this earthly place, will what you’ve done in this moment, what you’re striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind?
As you begin to discover your ultimate purpose, some of the things you thought mattered, will fall away.
Your values will begin to shift, and it won’t be as important to do certain things. It won’t be as important to acquire stuff you don’t really need that aren’t truly opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give your gifts. It doesn’t mean you can’t have a big screen TV. You can have a home theater, but you’ll have a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
To Your Emergence!
Stay inspired!
Derek
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence. Oh what a joy it is to be with you again. Just more and more I feel so happy when I get a chance to share this journey of Emergence with you, and just support you and see you and give my gifts. Its a real sign that youre on the right path when, regardless of whats going on in your life, you get to do that thing that you love you feel good. You know that youre doing the thing youre meant to. Just like when the tree gets to produce of its kind, its in bliss. Its such an honor and a pleasure to be here with you.
Today were talking about what you really came here for, and what you didnt. By the way, if you havent had a chance to sign up for Emergence, this podcast on iTunes, its absolutely free. There is about 100 episodes or trainings in there, but we archive them on a regular basis. I would invite you to sign up. Its free. Takes about a minute or less. Download all the episodes so that you own them now, and you wont lose any of them. Youll also be getting new ones every week. If you like what youre hearing, please share it with a loved one, a friend. One of the greatest gifts we can give someone else is education or inspiration. So what you really came here for, and what you didnt. Let me just start right out of the gate by telling you absolutely what you didnt come here for. What I mean by here I dont mean to this podcast; I mean to this planet. You did not come here to get a sale at Macys or Walmart. You did not come here for that Fire sale. You did not come here for Black Friday. No matter how much you like to shop till you drop, you did not drop into this dimension to shop. Thats the first thing I want you to know you didnt come here for. Im going to talk mostly about what you didnt come here for.
What you came here for, what we call came here for, is to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what we are, and to paint our unique masterpiece of love and life and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others could see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness and their own joy and their own genius. Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn. Thats where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you, all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. Youre not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world cant give you anything, except for a reflection of where youre living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give. Thats it. Thats what you came here for.
Now, theres a unique way that shows up. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer. Im sorry to tell you, thats also a Divine purpose. I dont know how many are actually living the Divine purpose within their profession, but you came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of your true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same, and to have fun. Its a fun, dynamic, dramatic dimension of contrast and light, but thats what you came here for.
What didnt you come here for? Again, you didnt come here to shop. Nothing wrong with shopping, but weve kind of turned shopping into entertainment. You to the airport now, and a lot of airports are really just shopping malls surrounded by planes. As one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, says, People are walking around looking for something to buy. Here what I said. Theyre not walking around to find the thing they really need. That creative impulse to give and share the gift of their life has been aberrated and corrupted into an energy of trying to get and acquire for the sake of acquiring. How many people have things in their closet with the tags still on them? Boxes in their garage that have never been opened from Amazon or the Home Shopping Club or whatever? The trash heaps of our country and the world are filled with this stuff. You didnt come here to shop.
You didnt come here, also, to win an argument, except the argument within yourself. Whenever youre in an argument, when youre in a situation, and youre so committed, like life or death, to prove youre right and that theyre wrong, to somehow exact revenge, you didnt come here for that. You didnt come here to prove anything to anybody else, except to prove the principle of truth, to prove that God is all there is, or love is all there is, or love will win the day, but not to prove that youre better than them or theyre less than you, or even to prove theyre better than you, which sometimes we unconsciously do. You didnt come here to prove any of that. You didnt come here to win anything, except the argument within your own heart, which is to convince yourself that you are one with the One of all life, the Source of all creation, that you are whole, complete, and beautiful and abundant and worthy and necessary. You came here to convince yourself of that and to prove that, and then to help prove it for everyone.
You didnt come here to prove that youre better than anyone. You didnt come here to prove someone else is wrong. You didnt come here to win a court case. You didnt come here to get a job even. You didnt come here to get a bunch of money. You didnt come here to get a bunch of real estate. You didnt come here to defeat the enemies, except the enemy within your own household, which is the only place it exists, within your consciousness. You didnt come here to get anything. You didnt come here to get approval or validation or love from anybody. No. You didnt come here even to get love. You came here to give it, because infinite love is within you.
That doesnt mean that we dont get a job, we dont get in a relationship, we dont get a new car, we dont get some clothes. Thats all beautiful and wonderful, but were not here to get those things. We get into the relationship so that we can have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are and give more of the love within us. We get that job so that we have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are through the challenges and things, and to give of our giftedness. We get a new car so that we have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places we need to give of our love and give of our gifts. We get a new home so that we can create a sanctuary and an environment where we can love each other and create our things and meditate and grow and play and sing and love and release more of our imprisoned splendor. We go into the lands of the world so we can cultivate them and nourish them and honor them and create works of art and structures that support the awakening and the loving and the playing and the sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, personal development, all of these things that we have been conditioned to believe we need to get, that thats the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money we want, and the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if we get all that weve won the game. No. No. TranscriptionYouve only just begun it. Thats not the end result. Thats the preparation. Thats the beginning. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life and your true gifts and your true purpose.
Theres some simple ways to test this. Can you take any of that stuff with you? If you cant take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you cant take any of it with you, and you cant. You cant take the money. You cant take the houses and the cars. You cant even take that person. What can you take with you? You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom youve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals. That will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity and loyalty and service and love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
Did you really come here to learn how to build rocket ships or do brain surgery or make great deals or master mathematics, or even become a great singer or songwriter? No. Not really. You came here, and as part of your unique journey you master a craft or domain specific knowledge, so that in that area you can shine your light and life and give your gifts, but the gift youre giving isnt just the work of art or that beautiful structure you built, or that computer you designed. No. The gift is what quality of the spirit that particular thing allows to be activated in you and in others. How it supports others in giving their true soul gifts and awakening to their true self. So that work of art is not just a work of art. If youve done it from that deeper place it liberates peoples hearts and minds and spirits, whether its through emotional catharsis or spiritual awareness, and that computer gives them the tools they need to do their work and give of their gifts in the world. You see? When you really start to boil it down, the only thing that really matters, the only thing, is the activation and the discovery of who and what you really are, and the true qualities of your soul, and the full activation of those qualities, the love, the peace, the joy, the inner connection. Thats all that really matters.
Another test you can do is when youre in the midst of an argument or a struggle to achieve or attract or strategies and tactics to win and succeed, you can stop and ask yourself, especially if you feel constricted, contracted, pushy, afraid, angry, you can ask, Will this matter in 20 years? Start there. Will this matter in 20 years? Youre in the middle of a fight. Youre arguing with your wife about the fact that she charged too much on the credit card, or youre arguing with your husband the fact that he stayed out too late drinking with the buddies. Dont get me wrong. Im not saying you dont deal with the mundane things, but when you make it an issue, you make it an argument, you make it a fight, you make it a thing, you got to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? In 20 years will I really care that my wife bought that dress without asking me? Will I really care that my husband stayed out late with the boys drinking? Whatever the case. Maybe thats kind of cliché examples. Do it the other way around. The husband bought that golf clubs that we couldnt afford, and the wife stayed out with her friends really late and didnt call, whatever. Will it really matter 20 years from now?
Again, Im not saying you dont deal with the real issues of the heart. If you have commitments and agreements, and they get breached, and youre afraid, absolutely, but thats this inner work, but its because you want to perfect your loving. Its because you want to have a deeper sense of peace. You want to feel more empowered. Thats what really matters, not the credit card bill or the extra golf clubs, or the fact that he leaves the toilet seat up all the time, or whatever. You want to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? Then you ask yourself, after that, because maybe youll still convince yourself it does, Will this thing right here that Im fighting for or that Im struggling to attain, will it matter on my deathbed? If you really ask with sincerity, you might hear an answer like, Itll really matter, but not for the reason I thought. If I make this about me being right and them being wrong, and I fight, I might do damage to this relationship. I might not have it in 20 years. I might be alone on my deathbed. It matters for that reason. Youll most likely get, No. I mean, think about it. You want to also test this? Think about 20 years ago. Think about some of the things you thought meant everything. Its like life or death that you got that new shiny Mustang when you were a teenager, or the whole world was collapsing around you because she broke up with you, or your parent not letting you go out to that concert, and you hated them and wished they would die. Now you think about it 20 years later, 30 years, 40 years, and you laugh about it, or maybe you kind of feel ashamed about it. Youre like, how could I have thought that mattered so much?
Again, I have to qualify, because theres levels. Its not that theres not value and meaning in all of our challenges. When the young teenagers heart is broken, that does matter. Theres value in the work that that produces, but when we are fighting for our life and fighting and making something life and death and putting all of our energy into acquiring and achieving it or proving it, if we ask these questions we start to loosen our grip, and we start to ask, What does matter in this moment? Its not that Im right or wrong. Its not that I get or dont get. So what does matter? There is something that matters when that teenagers heart gets broken, when mom and dad wont let you go out, or when the person breaks your trust. There is something that matters, a matter of the heart and the soul. Theres something in that for the evolution and growth of your spirit, and ultimately a greater realization of your true purpose and a greater capacity to give of your gifts. There is something that matters as it pertains to that.
So when you ask these questions you can ask, In this moment, did I come to planet Earth in this moment to prove them wrong and prove me right? In this moment, this conflict, this struggling or striving, did I come to Earth for this thing? What did I really come to Earth for in this moment? If this was the only moment I had, I came to Earth just for this moment, because in a very real way thats true of every moment, Then what did I come here for right now. In this argument with my wife, what is the reason I came to Earth as it pertains to this argument? It sure isnt to prove myself right. What good is that going to do me? That would be a silly reason to travel through Universes and galaxies and cross the barrier of time and space, to make her wrong for buying a dress or make him wrong for buying those golf clubs. That would be pretty silly. You start to tap into the real reason you came here, the real reason for each moment, the real goal in each moment, the soul goal, and you start to realize what you didnt come here for.
Now, you can expand this question even further. We said 20 years, the end of your life, on your deathbed, will this matter, the thing youre fighting for or striving for? The next question you ask is, What about when I leave this dimension, and Im in some other dimension? Will this matter? Will these golf clubs really matter? Will this credit card bill really matter? Will any of my debt really matter? Will the fact that I might get a million dollars or $100,000 or $1,000, will that matter when Im flying around in some other dimension? No. Then that must not be the real reason you came for, you came to this moment for. That must not be really what youre here in this moment for. You could be making a deal, but the real reason youre making that deal must not be about the money youre going to get. There must be a deeper truer, purer reason. The more you can be tapped into that and coming from that while you make the deal, now you are in league and in alignment with your souls goal, your souls purpose. You understand what Im saying?
Then you can expand it even further and say, Once you leave this earthly place, will what youve done in this moment, what youre striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind? In other words, if you fight and prove youre right and theyre wrong, once you leave will that have been of value to them? Once you leave, the fact that you managed to make millions of dollars, is that going to necessarily make a difference for the world? It might. If youre earning the money to grow a non-profit organization thats going to then use that money to feed people and help people and educate people so they can live their lives and give their gifts, then if thats in your motivation for attracting or achieving or attaining that, you are more aligned with your true purpose. Do you see what I mean?
Again, Im not saying that any surface activity is, in and of itself, wrong. A fight isnt wrong. A conflict isnt wrong. Acquiring things isnt wrong, but its deep down is the actual acquisition the thing? Is the money the thing? Is the proving yourself right or them wrong the thing? Is there something deeper? The more you can be anchored to that real thing you came here for, which has something to do with awakening to your true potential, your true selfhood, and giving of your true gifts to the world so that others can awaken to their self and give their gifts, thats the ultimate purpose of everybody. Thats really why we all came here, in our own unique ways. One might do it as a banker. One might do it as a plumber. One might do it as a healer. One might do it as an artist, but its not the plumbing and the healing and the banking that we came here for. Its not to get something in that relationship and puff up our ego and make us feel better than or less than. Its this deeper purpose to awaken to our true self, to perfect our loving, our giving, and to give forth of those qualities in a way that helps others wake up and give of their own.
As you expand this you begin to discover, and as you really do that you start to feel yourself losing your grip around this situation. It doesnt mean you wont still have some fear, some anger, some sadness, but at least now youre going to know, what am I meant to do with this fear, anger and sadness based on this new context of what Im really here for? If Im really here to wake up to my true self, which is a unique expression of life and love and God, now how do I work with the sadness, the anger? Do I try to make them wrong? Thats not going to help me realize my oneness with God or perfect my loving, but there is something in here that will. You keep working until you find what that is. Thats going to change the context of that argument. Its going to change the paradigm or the context of that conflict. Its going to change the context of that ambition, until more and more youre rooted in the real reason you came here for.
Some of the things you thought mattered will fall away. Your values will shift, and it wont be as important to do certain things. It wont be as important to acquire stuff you dont really need and thats not really opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give of your gifts. Youll have a bigger vision than your flat screen TV. Youll see that reverse. Most people, unfortunately, have bigger TV screens than the vision for their life. That will begin to reverse. It doesnt mean you cant have a big screen. You can have a home theater, but youll a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same. Are you getting this?
What did you really come here for? What didnt you come here for? You didnt come here to prove youre right and someone else is wrong. You didnt come to hurt someone, get revenge, acquire a bunch of stuff, a bunch of money, a bunch of titles behind your name. You didnt even come here to get your body in the greatest shape ever. Its okay to do that, but if youre compulsively into I got to lose this weight or gain these muscles or look better, all that vanity, what good is that going to be on your deathbed? What good is that going to be when youre flying around in another dimension with a different body? What good is that going to leave behind for the loved ones in the world that youve left? Nothing.
Again, to put it in context, maybe you did come here to help really learn how to honor yourself through the body and model what good health looks like so that that particular structure is strong and doesnt become a liability. So you have the energy and strength to keep growing and awakening and giving your gifts and teaching others and modeling for others to do the same. Now in that context, the energy you put towards looking and feeling great has real merit. Its in integrity with your emerging soul. So what did you really come here for? When youre in the midst of a conflict, of something youre striving to achieve or attain, ask that question.
Then expand it. Will this matter in 20 years, what I think Im here for in this moment? Will it matter in 20 years? Will it matter on my deathbed? What will I think about it when Im out of this dimension in a completely different one? Will it matter to the people in the world Ive left behind? You want to keep asking and adjusting until your answer is yes. This will matter 20 years from now. This will matter on my deathbed. This will matter when I leave this place, and this will matter for those I leave behind. In some way it will help for the greater expression of my heart and soul and love, and it will help others for their greater expression of that too. So that were creating a world that works for the highest good of all, that reflects more and more the ultimate nature of reality, of love, of wholeness, and when thats the answer you consistently can give, you know youre on track, youre on purpose, and youre living your purpose.
I hope this has served you and inspired you and opened your heart and mind, and if you like what youre hearing, please share it with a friend, a loved one, a client. Share the love. Sign up for Emergence podcast on iTunes. Go to DerekRydall.com to get more additional resources. You can also get my bestselling book, Emergence, at MyEmergenceBook.com. If you click on the Barnes & Noble or Amazonbutton, buy it through there, and leave your info, Im going to give you over $1,000 in addition bonuses to support you in really getting results with it. If youd like a little mini course, mini ecourse, audio course, on the Law of Emergence and how to apply it to your life, just go to www.LawofEmergence.com. Again, its been my honor and pleasure to be here with you. Keep tuning in. Keep staying turned on, and until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally, and follow your destiny.
by sublimity-001-main | Nov 30, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Purpose, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business
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Today we’re talking about your big, bold audacious goal, and how to create instant momentum that catapults your life.
That’s a fun agenda, right? Just the idea of having a big, bold audacious goal gives you energy, it gives you juice! Maybe it also brings up a little nervousness or overwhelm. You could be wondering: “Can I really add a big, bold audacious goal to my already busy life?”
Meaning is the oxygen to our souls, and having a deep meaning for why you’re living, why you’re getting up every day, and why you’re going through your day, is significant.
For instance, in the concentration camps they found that if people didn’t have something worthy to live for and to hold on for they had a much lower rate of survival.
Having a vision is life itself. Life exists to fully express itself, and because life is infinite, it’s like life wants to have a big bang every moment, and in a very real way it is. This incredible explosion of possibility, energy, power and creativity is the nature of life always in this moment. In this moment there’s always a big bang trying to happen, individually, collectively. Life is just bursting at the seams with so much power, intelligence, joy, and creative energy, that it could never be fully satisfied. It says in Proverbs, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
Another verse found in the bible is, “You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours.”
There are three pieces to that spiritual equation: “You are my beloved”- it’s saying that life loves you, always and forever, unconditionally, no matter what. “In whom I am well pleased” – requires you to be willing to be an instrument of life, of God, truth, love, and when you’re willing to be that instrument, now the presence says, “I’m pleased. Why? Because I get to be more of myself as you, which is why the I that I Am exists.”
It’s why life exists. Life doesn’t exist merely to solve problems, in fact not at all. Life doesn’t exist to try to get somewhere. Life exists so that it can express its infinite nature. As you say yes to the fullness of live moving through you and are willing to commit to living at the highest, fullest level, now life, God, this presence says, “In you, I am well pleased.”
Then the third piece then kicks in, which is “…all that I have is yours.” Meaning, like the king of a great kingdom is looking at his daughters and sons and wondering, “Who do I give my full inheritance to? Who do I put on the throne?” It’s the one that’s actually going to do something with it. Not the one that’s over here just kind of kicking back and eating grapes and enjoying all the fruits, but not really doing anything about it, but the one over here who’s got a big vision; who’s going to go out there and make a difference, make an impact, and use all of the riches of the kingdom to fulfill and carry on a great mission.
Life is kind of seeing you that way. When you’re willing to have a big audacious bold goal, a vision for your life that really juices you up, you become a bigger channel for which more power and energy can flow through and as you.
It’s like if a tree is not bearing fruit on a branch that branch gets cut off so that it can support all the branches that are bearing fruit richly. It’s a principle.
In order to create instant momentum with your big, audacious goal, there’s some basic things that have to be in place; a checklist. All seven pieces need to be in place:
- Have a clear, compelling goal,
- that is rooted in your vision and values,
- with a strong why,
- heal the why-nots,
- have a real plan/schedule,
- have accountability,
- leverage yourself,
- and finally, be fully committed – all in.
You can’t jump to a bigger audacious goal if you don’t have these basics. This has to be a priority and an inner intention. It can’t be something you’re going to wait for next week.
For the full explanation of all the seven points and to support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
To Your Emergence!
Stay inspired!
Derek
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, my fellow Emergineers, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence.It’s great to be with you. It’s always so great to be with you, and just to feel your energy, to plus into this vortex of conscious individuals that are committed to really growing and changing and making a difference in their life and in the lives of others. It’s really a sacred group. It’s a sacred gathering, and I don’t ever want to take it for granted that I get this opportunity, not so much just to be the teacher in it, but to be just part of it, to be part of a group of people that are actually conscious and committed to growing and changing and healing and evolving and making a real difference in the world, whether it’s the world of their family, their community, their organization, or the larger planetary community. It’s such a blessing, and I think if you guys look at your life there’s not a lot of places where you have that, where you can come together with likeminded souls that are speaking the same language.
If you do have that other places, awesome, and if you don’t, we definitely want eventually to create a way of life that includes more and more of that kind of relationship, connection, and community. So that you’re surrounded by the people that represent who you deeply are and who you most want to be and where you want to go. I’m just feeling that gratitude of what a sacred group this is and what a blessing it is to be connected to you all and to come together like this. So I invite you to feel the gratitude and the gift that that really is, because there are a lot of people wandering around in the world that have a seed of something really powerful in them, and they don’t have the environment that’s cultivating it. They don’t have the people that are recognizing or supporting it, and that’s why a lot of those gifts sort of die on the vine, the fruit never comes to fruition, if it ever even grows at all. What a blessing this is.
Today we’re talking about your big, bold audacious goal, and how to create instant momentum that catapults your life. That’s a fun agenda, right? We all feel sort of energized by the idea of having a big, bold audacious goal, and just notice even thinking of that that the idea of having that kind of gives you energy. It gives you juice. Maybe it also brings up a little nervousness. Maybe for some of you it brings up a little bit of overwhelm, like can I really add a big, bold audacious goal to my already busy life? If you just feel into that, the idea of having something like that to live for gives you juice. It gives you energy. Meaning is the oxygen to our souls, and having a deep meaning for why you’re living and why you’re getting up every day, and why you’re going through your day, it’s significant, and that’s also why it says in Proverbs, Where there is no vision, the people perish. In the concentration camps they found that if people didn’t have something worthy to live for and to hold on for they had a much lower rate of survival.
This isn’t just a clever idea that we have, a big vision or a big goal that plugs us in. This is life itself. Life exists to fully express itself, and because life is infinite, it’s like life wants to have a big bang every moment, and in a very real way it is. This incredible explosion of possibility and energy and power and creativity is the nature of life always in this moment. In this moment there’s always a big bang trying to happen, individually, collectively, because life is just bursting at the seams with so much life, so much power, so much intelligence, so much joy, so much creative energy that it could never be fully satisfied, and that’s why wherever life finds a willing instrument who’s willing to really go for it, who’s willing to let life put itself on display, it’s like just imagine life is like waiting on its tiptoes, We got one. There’s one who’s really saying yes to their yes, who’s throwing away all the limitations and just saying, let’s go for it. Let’s be all in. Let’s just prove that anything is possible. Life is like, We’re going in. We’ve got one.
In the Bible, when it says, You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours.There’s three pieces to that equations. It’s really a spiritual equation. You are my beloved. It’s saying that life loves you, always and forever, unconditionally, no matter what. In whom I am well pleased, requires you to be willing to be an instrument of life, of God, of truth, of love, and when you’re willing to be that instrument, now the presence says, I’m pleased in you. I’m well pleased. I love you no matter what, but now I’m well pleased. Why? Because I get to be more of myself as you, which is why the I that I am exists. It’s why life exists. Life doesn’t exist merely to solve problems, in fact not at all. Life doesn’t exist to try to get somewhere. Life exists so that it can express its infinite nature. So you are my beloved; you’re loved unconditionally, but as you say yes to the fullness of live moving through you and are willing to commit your life to living at the highest, fullest level, now life, God, this presence says, In you I am well pleased.
Then the third piece then kicks in, which is all that I have is yours. Meaning like the king of a great kingdom is looking at his daughters and sons and wondering, who do I give my full inheritance to? Who do I put on the throne? It’s the one that’s actually going to do something with it. Not the one that’s over here just kind of kicking back and eating grapes and enjoying all the fruits, but not really doing anything about it, but the one over here who’s got a big vision; who’s going to go out there and make a difference, make an impact, and use all of the riches of the kingdom to fulfill a great mission and to carry on the great work and the great mission. Life is kind of seeing you that way. When you’re willing to have a big audacious bold goal, vision for your life that really juices you up, that is no holds barred, then life is like, We got one. I’m well pleased in you. Now let’s funnel more power, more energy to this individual.Again, it’s like if the tree’s not bearing fruit on a branch that branch gets cut off, so that it can support all the branches that are bearing fruit richly. So it’s a principle.
We already know, if you’ve been listening for a while, there’s some basic things that have to be in place, and it’s a good checklist. It’s kind of like a pilot checklist, just to make sure you’ve got all these things in place around your vision, your goal. You’ve got to start with this. You can’t jump to a bigger audacious goal if you don’t have these basics. Obviously, number one is you’ve got to have a clear compelling goal or vision. You got to have something that is clear. If it’s still not clear, you can’t just jump to some big audacious version of it, because you don’t even have clarity yet. If it’s not clear, that has to be a priority. It has to be a priority today. It can’t be something you’re going to wait for next week. It’s got to become a priority, an inner intention. I remember when I wasn’t clear, and I reached a turning point. I would go every single day to the bookstore, at a time when bookstores were prevalent, and sit there with a pile of books around me on purpose and goals, and I would read, and I would journal, and I would meditate. I would that almost every single day, until it started to break through and have a level of clarity. You need that.
Number two, you need to make sure that vision, that goal, is rooted in your core values. It’s rooted in what you deeply, deeply want to be, want to represent, what really matters to you most, and in a vision. A goal that’s not linked to a vision is potentially either mediocrity or just the fulfillment of some parental fantasy or peer pressure. So you want it to be linked to your deepest heart’s vision and values, which in and of themselves are not based on survival, comfort, or convenience. If it’s a goal and a vision that’s based in I just need to make money, or I just need to look good, I need to be significant, it’s survival, or it’s comfort, or it’s convenience. I want to have enough money to just travel a lot. It’s not that those aren’t valuable and important, but those aren’t your core values. Your core values are something that is ultimately independent of whether it works or not. Do you understand what I mean? It’s about who am I really? What do I really stand for? What do I really represent? What do I really want to leave as a legacy? If I already had the name, the fame, and the fortune, who would I be then? What would I do then? Let me build my vision and my mission, and ultimately the goals that come from that, out of that position, out of that value system.
Then you need to have a strong why. You have to develop, consciously develop, and anchor in why you’re doing what you’re doing. As many strings you can attach to that, the better. Once you’ve got it rooted in your core values, then you can anchor it in other things. Obviously, to leave a legacy for your children, because of all the people you’re going to help, and you really allow yourself to see and visualize and feel the impact and feel the cost of not doing it and feel all the ways it impacts. You can literally go through every life structure: health, wealth, work, relationship, spirituality, service, etc. and really see how you going for this positively impacts all those areas. So you have a strong why. Then you have to heal your why knots. In other words, it’s these places where it gets knotted up in you, the values conflicts, the shadows, the limited beliefs. You have to be conscious of what’s blocking you, what’s stopping you, what’s scares you, what’s causing you to not be all in. You don’t really have free will and real choice until you have an expanded awareness of what’s driving you. You have to do some work around the why knots, so that you can untie the knots and really have a strong uninhibited why.
Then you need to put that into a real plan. You have to reverse engineer that big vision into a specific yearlong goal, or whatever the time period you’re focusing on, and you have to make it real. A vision without a plan is a fantasy. I know I say this over and over, but I also know that when I talk to you guys a large majority of you still don’t have a real plan. You don’t actually have a real plan. You have it in your head maybe. You have some ideas and goals and things you want to achieve, but you haven’t actually written it down and put it into a real plan. If somebody’s going to build a house or build a building, they don’t just go, I have this idea for this building, or this train station, this car, or whatever, and I’m thinking today let’s kind of play around with the paint color, whatever. No. They have a very real blueprint, a very real plan. If you look at anybody that’s achieved anything of significance, that’s almost always the case.
Eventually, as you’ve really embodied a way of life, you can get away with less planning in some cases, because it’s just who you are. You’ve built the habits, and you just know what you’re going for. Then ultimately, if you truly are awakened, and you’re so tapped into the Divine plan that you don’t need to write it down, it’s just living you moment by moment, but let’s be honest. Probably none of us are there yet. I know I’m not. If you are, please let me know, and I’ll let you teach a class on planning, on being awake. Most of us aren’t there yet, so we have to use these tools to anchor ourselves. Remember, I use the analogy of the plant. It’s growing. It needs a little structure around it to hold it up straight and true, so that it grows in the right way, until it’s strong enough to hold itself. A plan is that kind of a structure.
Then we need to also really put it on our schedule. Again, surprisingly, few people ever do this. They have a vision. They have a goal. They have a plan, and it’s nowhere to be found on their calendar. What’s on their calendar, if they even have a calendar at all, maybe the appointments for doctors, dentists, kids to their practices, and/or their work. They just know they’ve got to go to work 9-5, whatever the case may be. There’s a lot of resistance to having a real plan and a real schedule, because they don’t want to be blocked. They don’t want to be hindered. They don’t want to be limited. The irony is that you are profoundly limiting yourselves when you don’t give yourself structure. As one of the great composers, Stravinsky, said, I thank God for my limitations, for it was within them that I found true freedom. Some of the greatest creative artists understand the value of structure. Having that structure actually allows them to be free and create within that structure. Whereas without it it’s just all over the place, and they’re actually less able to productively create something real and specific. I know I keep hitting these points over and over, for those of you that a part of this community, but it’s because you guys aren’t doing it. Some of you aren’t. I know that without that you’re going to keep struggling, in most cases.
Then you have to create real leverage. So you’ve got the structure. You’ve got the plan. You’ve got it on your schedule. You’ve got to have leverage, meaning accountability partners, other things set up in your life that hold you accountable. If you don’t go to your job, you will get fired, and you won’t get paid. That’s called leverage. If you don’t sit down and write your book today, what’s going to happen? Nothing immediately. You might feel a little bad, and then you’ll go watch some TV or have a drink or a smoke or a pint of Haagen Dazs, and you’ll forget about the fact that you feel unfulfilled and sad that you didn’t do what you said you were going to do. There’s not a direct, obvious consequence, and then the mind is designed to prevent you from really growing and changing, so it’s really good at helping you not feel the consequence. We have to build that into our life. We have do that. If you’ve decided you’re going to write that book or build that program or create that website or create that practice or fill it with clients, you must have real targets and build into your life real accountability and leverage.
That’s one of the reasons you’re in this group, and you raise your hand, and I answer your questions is so you can be seen. So that you can be seen that you’re doing it or not doing it, and without judgment you get motivated to do it. There is a bit of public shame and public guilt that’s healthy. If you’ve said you’re going to do something, and you don’t do it, you should feel guilty about it, because that’s actually a signal that is telling you you’re not in integrity with yourself. That’s healthy guilt. So we don’t want to subvert that. We need that, until we’ve built the habit. So you don’t let it be something that takes you down. I’m terrible; I didn’t do this. You go, look, there’s that signal that I’m out of integrity. Let me be visible. Let me be humble. Let me acknowledge it. Let’s not hide anymore, so that I can feel the burn of not living up to my potential and not following through on my commitments.
So then that goes to the next level. We have to have a real commitment. Not a hope, not a wish, not merely an intention or a prayer, not merely an interest. Not I’d really like to do this; I think that’d be really great to write that book or launch that business or program. No. We have to be all in. The same way if you gave birth to a child or were pregnant with a child, you wouldn’t be like, I’m kind of interested in a child. I think that would be kind of cool. We’ll see how it goes. No. You’ve got to be all in with that new baby. You can’t some days just kind of ignore it, not think about it. You certainly want to when you’re a parent, but you can’t. You’re committed to raising this child. This thing that’s trying to be born in you, your dream, your vision, your goal, you have to be as committed to it, or it just will most likely not happen.
We’ve got to be really honest with ourselves about that. If we don’t have a real goal or vision, if we don’t get clear, if we don’t write it down, if we don’t create a real plan and a real schedule, and then real commitment, it’s probably not going to happen. We have to feel the reality of that. I can tell you, from experience, let’s just be honest. It’s hard enough to achieve our potential even when you have all these elements, because of the inertia of the world’s beliefs and our own stuff. If you don’t have these structures in place, it’s like the old saying, a failure to plan is a plan to fail. It’s literally you’ve got a plan to not succeed, if you don’t have a plan, and if you haven’t put these pieces together.
We have to have all seven of those pieces: a clear goal, compelling goal, rooted in our vision and values, with a strong why, heal the why knots, have a real plan, a real schedule, have accountability and leverage on ourselves, and be fully committed. All in. That means we’re going to have consistent action, ideally on a daily basis in some way, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there, and we’re going to follow through to completion. So we don’t start off writing our book and go, I hope I end up writing a book; that would be so cool. That’s like a basketball player heading down the court, or a football player heading down the field, and going, I’m kind of interested in making a goal. That would be pretty cool.They are all in. It’s like a honeybee. All they see is honey, and they go right to the place where the honey is. We have to ultimately be that committed to our vision, to our goal. We’re not hoping. We’re not wishing. We don’t have a wishbone; we have a backbone. We’re all in. This is the fundamental framework for achieving anything of merit or of value and making real progress and having real momentum.
There’s another element to this that helps it become that big, bold audacious goal and really can jumpstart our juice and our momentum and give us a quantum leap. Some of you felt it when I said in the beginning to imagine that. It kind of pumps you up a little bit. You feel this energetic jolt. What this means is when you’re focusing in on the goal and the vision, really the big vision or the big goal for your life, is you want it to be what I call the 100% dream or the 100% goal. For example, maybe you want to get in good shape. So your goal is to lose 20 pounds, 10 pounds, or get in great shape. That’s kind of interesting, but if instead your goal was I’m going to run a marathon. If you’re not interested in that, that wouldn’t be a good goal for you, but maybe you are. For me, as an example, just getting in physical fitness, in and of itself, isn’t that compelling to me, but there’s something within me that wants to prove a level of the capacity of the body that I’ve never experienced before. There’s this dream of like being in Navy SEAL shape, and something about that idea. I see this vision of me being able to be a parkour expert, jumping from building to building and flipping over things, like Navy SEAL shape.
Will I ever reach that? I don’t know, but it’s compelling. It’s juicy. It’s audacious. To prove, when I’m 50 and 60 and 70 and 80, to prove that the body is not designed to age and diminish; it’s actually spiritually designed to reveal more health and fitness with every passing year, because it’s infinite. Just like intelligence, you don’t expect that after 10 years of teaching something you’re going to have less knowledge. You expect you’re going to have more. Spiritually the same thing is true with the body. In potential we can have more energy, more power, more vitality, endlessly. That’s audacious. It’s so audacious, and I have certain physical challenges that made me sometimes go, Really? My body’s not necessarily, at least in this present condition, built for a lot of impact and running, so I get pain in my lower back and hips when I run a lot, and I run a lot. I can’t help it. So that seems audacious to me to have such a big goal. When I talk to certain people of a certain age they get pissed off at me. They’re like, You’re so young, of course you’re going to have some goal like that, but wait till you get our age and you start feeling all this. There’s a lot of pressure for me not to have such an audacious goal. That’s how you know you’re starting to tap into something. Like the idea of really creating a world without war, you’re going to get a lot of people that are going to think you’re insane. That’s one example.
You’ve got to come up with a goal. You want to play with your goal, with your vision, to the point where it’s like, I couldn’t imagine a better life. I couldn’t imagine a better vision. I remember one woman who was working on a goal, and she was an actress, and had a level of success, and she wanted to have a starring role in something, or whatever. It was kind of okay. Certainly it would be wonderful to have, but as she kept working on this what she eventually dropped into was, I want to win the Oscar, the Academy Award for Best Actress. It was suddenly this surge of energy moved through her. You know often that you’re on the verge of it when it’s almost embarrassing to admit.
Here’s another one of mine that’s almost embarrassing, but not really. I was at the Adele concert the other day, and it was at the Staples Center, 18-20,000 screaming fans. It was awesome. I couldn’t help sitting there looking at this packed arena with people holding their iPhones on flashlight, like we used to do with lighters, and just this energy of all of these individuals in harmony with Adele, and what it must feel like to be holding the space for such a large audience. I couldn’t help but feel and see the vision of me holding a space for a large stadium full of people. My mind dropped in a couple times, That’s kind of arrogant. You know the kind of stuff the ego will do, but it was like it felt so good. It felt so exciting, so energizing. I had to just surrender to it. That’s like a big audacious goal. I’m going to speak, and included also a level of performance, because I’m also a singer, and my ultimate vision has something to do with me using all of those gifts, so that I’m speaking and teaching and praying and performing, and it’s all blended, almost like a one man show, but transformational. That juiced me up.
Like my big vision of having a conscious multimedia entertainment company, which is a multimedia company which has got books and programs, film and TV, but all funneling this conscious message. I can’t help it. That’s a big audacious goal that won’t let go of me now that I’ve felt it and tapped into it. I’ve had it for a while now, and on an everyday basis I’m not necessarily experiencing that level of expression, but it keeps pulling me. It’s like a giant planet. When giant objects are near each other it creates a gravitational field. So when you have this big audacious goal it creates almost like a gravitational field that pulls you. Like the saying of one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, The pain pushes until the vision pulls. We want to have such an audacious powerful juicy goal and vision that its gravitational pull on us is bigger than the gravitational pull of our pain. It’s pulling us up while the pain is trying to pull us down, but its pull is much bigger. That’s what we’re looking for. Even when we’re having hard days, weeks, months, challenges in different areas of our life, we just can’t pull ourselves out of the tractor beam of our big audacious goal.
As you look at your own life, what is your equivalent to that? Again, it’s not about big in the sense of quantity. It doesn’t mean instead of a million dollars I need to want a billion dollars, unless that does it for you. Right? There are certain people where the idea of becoming a billionaire is for some reason that’s profoundly motivating, but it could be other things. It’s not about quantity per say. It’s about a quality. It’s about stretching yourself and touching, it’s almost like that same place that you may have touched as a kid when you talk about I’m going to be an astronaut when I grow up. I remember one kid that I used to be in like a preschool thing with. He might have been a little younger than me. His big dream was when he grew up he wanted to be a shark. He was so passionate about growing up and becoming a shark. Like literally the fish, a shark, not an attorney or something. He wanted to be a shark. It was so sweet and cute and powerful. He was so passionate. He just studied everything about sharks. He read every book about sharks, watched everything. If something showed up about a shark he was right there. He probably went on to be like a marine biologist or something, or who knows.
What is that for you? What is that goal, that dream that to admit it is almost embarrassing? That to admit it almost makes you feel guilty or embarrassed or shy or nervous, like you’re going to be judged, or like you’re going to be held accountable to it, or people are going to think, family especially, are going to think you’re too big for your britches? What is that? As you open up to your vision and your dream, on a scale from 0-100, where does it feel right now? I don’t mean how far of it have you actually achieved. I mean, if you imagined achieving it, where is that on the scale for you? Is it a 20, a 30, a 50, a 60, 80? Feel the vision. See the vision. Feel it in your body.
Again, don’t worry about how. The how kills the what if you don’t first have a clear what. Don’t worry about how right now. I mean, how am I going to end up speaking to a stadium full of 20,000 people or more? I don’t know. How am I going to build a multimedia company that is doing blockbuster film and TV and books and programs, kind of like my Oprah, Harpo Studios kind of thing? I don’t know. It’s there. It’s pulling me. What is that? Wherever it’s at right now, just come up with a number. It’s okay wherever it is, but then ask yourself, what would make it 10 points higher? If it’s 30, what would make it a 40? If it’s a 60, what would make it a 70? If it’s a 90, what would make it 100? Sometimes when you get to the higher registers like 80 and 90 you could say, if it’s a 90, what would make it 95? You don’t want to skip over some of the distinctions. Just ask yourself that right now, and keep asking.
Remember, there’s a couple ways you can bring it up the scale. You can think in terms of the other areas of your life. There’s health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, service. So when you ask what would make it whatever the next 10 points higher is, you can look at is there some of those areas that aren’t being included? Maybe you’ve got this great vision, but you’re not including a soulmate or a life partner, and when you think about that, like I’m not only traveling the world and doing these amazing things, but I’m head over heels in love with a soulmate that totally gets me and supports me, and we’re doing it together. Suddenly that jumps up the scale. That starts to feel audacious. It could be within the goal itself you’re not dreaming big enough. Like you want to be enlightened or more conscious, is that really the fullness of what you want?
For me, what’s come through in visions is to be so conscious, so tapped in, that people are spontaneously healed in my presence, that people literally burst into flames spiritually speaking, burning away the old limited patterns and revealing their Christ nature, their Buddha nature, their true nature. I can see them in the crowd just like popping. That’s audacious. I mean, to be able to have the healing consciousness of a Jesus. I used to be very shy and embarrassed, but it would come through as a vision. Again, humanly I can’t do that, but these big visions are bubbling up. Will I ever achieve it? That’s not really as important as the fact that it’s calling me, and I’m saying yes to it, and I’m willing to hold that big audacious vision. It’s pulling me. It’s working on me. It’s working through me. So what is that for you?
Again, it doesn’t necessarily mean you go from I want to be more conscious to I want to heal like Jesus. That may not be your thing, but what is it? It might just be I want to have a family of a certain kind where we deeply and authentically love and see and support each other in relationships and community where it’s deep, rich, totally transparent and authentic relationships. I want to create a community like that. I want to be a writer that is as prolific as Stephen King, whatever. Again, it’s not about you looking out to the world to see what does the world call successful or good. It’s about you looking within yourself and saying, If I could truly have the life I deeply desire, what would that be? If there was one thing within that I deeply desire most, what would that be? That becomes kind of a core focal point. On a scale from 0-100, where does that feel for me? I’m not saying where do you think you are in the journey of achieving it. You’re not looking at your life and going, I’m only about 2% there. No. You’re feeling into the vision that you’re owning and saying, What does that feel like in my body to imagine living that? You’re looking for that goal that just totally lights you up, that vision that totally lights you up, totally turns you on.
Just play with that right now. Give yourself permission to go all the way, to be all in, to feel that twinge of fear or nervousness or embarrassment that you could claim such a big vision, such an audacious, bold goal or vision. Just continue to play with this. It’s okay if you don’t come to the 100% right now, but that’s something you could work with with an accountability partner in the group, and I highly encourage you to. You could reach out to somebody in the group today, if you’re not there yet, and say, You want to play with this big audacious goal process?
Just take a nice deep breath. Just sink down into wherever you are with it, whatever feels good about it. I’m just going to do a little quantum prayer to anchor this in. As we just drop down into this field of grace, just throwing ourselves wide open to the power and presence and love of God, of life itself, this impulse of life to utterly express and explode like a big bang of joy and ecstasy and creativity and abundance in every moment. Life is never holding, never holding anything back from us. We hold ourselves back from life, trying to let it mete out slow, drip by drip, for fear of it utterly consuming us or destroying us, or all the ways the ego defends and protects itself, but we’re saying now, no more. No holds barred. I’m ready and willing and able to be an instrument of the infinite inexhaustible life and light and love of God, of truth, of the Universe. I’m willing to be all that I was created to be. I’m willing to be all that I was created to be. I’m willing. I’m willing. I’m willing. I’m willing the will of God in my life. I’m calling forth my Divine plan to be fully realized and manifested in this incarnation. I do not leave this planet one second before I’ve totally fulfilled and actualized my destiny of greatness to the max.
Any worry, doubt, fear, any limited beliefs, concepts, mental, emotional, physical habits that would hinder, block, delay, or deny the fullness of life as me, that are in any way having me hide and play small and play safe, all of this now is utterly released, dissolved, disintegrated, transmuted back into pure raw energy that I can use for creativity. I’m saying yes to my yes. Yes to the biggest boldest, most audacious vision of possibility, of health and wealth and work, healing, service, spiritual awakening, love, companionship, family, community. I’m saying yes, yes. Use me. Send me. Thy will be done. Not my will, not this little human will that’s about preservation, comfort, convenience, safety, security, but Thy will, which is about the full revelation and manifestation of the Universe as a unique individualized expression called me. I am another way the whole Universe is putting itself on display, and I’m saying yes. Yes. Yes. I’m willing. I’m ready. I’m able. Use me. Send me. Right now. Anything that would slow this down, block this, deny this, delay this, I’m ready and willing now to let it all go. I’m ready to have the clarity of who and what I really am and why I am alive. I’m ready to have the confidence and the courage to commit to it fully. I’m ready to have the focus and the determination to create a real plan, a realschedule, and to really go for it every day in every way that I can. I’m ready. I’m willing. I’m able.
So in no uncertain terms I’m knowing that right where each and every individual is here, individualmeans undivided, undivided from the whole, right where each and every individual is here and in this community, there is an impulse of such power and such growth and healing and breakthrough capacity. There is a big bang trying to happen, and now it can, with ease and with grace, with dignity, on time and in time. Life is saying, you are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours. The cattle on a thousand hills. The fullness of the Earth. It’s all yours. It’s all here. It’s all now. Everything is conspiring for our freedom and fulfillment and awakening. Everything is conspiring to reveal such magnificence, mastery, majesty. Right now everything is conspiring to reveal such health, wealth, joy, connection. It’s happening right where each and every individual is here.
It’s breaking out as fresh insights, healings, new opportunities, relationships, guidance, clarity, compelling right action. All of life now is on our side, and we are entirely on our own side. We are a yes, with an exclamation point, not a question mark. We are all in. Use me. Send me. Thy will be done. This is the energy that courses through every dimension of our being and shows up now as progress, as momentum, as vision, as unstoppable power. I just give thanks for this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, life. Thank you. It’s happening. Something wonderful is happening. So it is. So I am, and so we are. Amen.
Just breathe and receive that activation.
by sublimity-001-main | Nov 29, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business
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What Should I Do?
This is such an important topic because this question is so often asked.
Sometimes the question is being asked unconsciously – you are doing so much, and feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, drained, or lacking inspiration and passion, and the unconscious questions trying to be asked is, “What should I do… What should I be focused on… What really matters?
The reason so many people can relate to this is because we get so used to being busy that we don’t take care of the real business in our lives and don’t create real productivity. We are so used to reacting, putting out fires and meeting everybody else’s needs and agendas, instead of getting really clear about what our own agenda is. You hear people constantly ask, “How’s it going?” And your reply is “I’m so busy.”
There is something you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s a way you’re designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it comes with unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to serve, etc. It’s all part of the design package. Just like nature, the apple tree is designed to produce the fruit of apples, not to be a pine tree, an oak tree and a rose bush. If the ecosystem started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would collapse.
We have to start unraveling what our own vision and mission is – get back to our core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, and even look at the things that other family, friends, and co-workers are excited about, but may not be the thing for us.
Sometimes there’s things that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem to be kind of going good. You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going here, kid; don’t mess with it. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way?
Just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. I use the example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all messed up, all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you have to keep turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start to do it, and at some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white, and that’s a success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the next side working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could say, it’s not broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You have to mess it up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two sides working. Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next side, the next side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to keep messing up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more focused on the grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.
It doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. “I got another side!” You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving. A lot of times in our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level. Maybe your marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to kind of break things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my work is not just to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable.
Maybe you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the bills. They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you. You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire. You’re not fully alive and passionate, and there’s something more that’s trying to emerge. You might have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to say yes to your bigger yes.
This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo, equilibrium, balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it. How do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t walk, because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward. You’re going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more progressive space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance, catch yourself, rebalance… Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got up, you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually you were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a state of equilibrium and balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of the big things we have to begin to move out of.
One way to begin to do this process of determining what’s important to you now is to make a list of everything you do and everything on your list that you think you have to do. Perhaps it’s the next months’ worth of things, and some of them are things you do all the time, and some of them are things you’re adding to your list over the next month. Look at that list, and start to identify, “If I was guaranteed success, what are the few things that would be a hell yes?”
You can also break the list down into structures, which might be a little easier. You have several life structures: health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, and service. You can break down all the tasks into these categories. What are all the things you’re doing in the category of health? What are all the things you’re doing in the category of wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development?
Then within those categories, identify the two or three most important things that would really take your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are passionate, that are a yes, that are a must. It doesn’t mean they’re not all important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more work. You end up having a better emotional state, and it improves your relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that almost always should be one of your main categories.
As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise, and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do. Start to notice there are certain patterns that keep recurring: “I’m doing this so I don’t look bad… I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty… I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame… I’m doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity… I’m doing this so that that person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent…”
Then notice also, what is it you really want to do? This can even be another list of the things you really want to do, but you’re not doing. You can start to really see what are some of the core patterns driving you. The more you see it, an expanded awareness gives you actual real choice and begins the process of real change.
Now, begin the process of organizing out of your plan all of these other commitments, all of these other things, to the extent that you can. The ones you can’t, immediately begin the journey or the process of renegotiating those commitments, so that you can begin to get them off your list and off your plan. Ultimately, you want a plan that progressively reflects who you are at the deepest core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell yes, your musts, the great, not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic and congruent.
Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know what your bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.
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Derek
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence. It’s just such an honor and a pleasure to be here with you on this journey of Emergence, as we continue this deep dive into understanding and mastering the principles of real productivity, power, and purpose, so that we can live our true purpose and make a mighty impact in this world. We’re talking today about the topic What Should I Do, and this is such a powerful topic. It’s such an oft asked question. I have so many things that I’m doing, what should I pick? What should I choose? Out of all the options, what should I do? Sometimes the question is being asked unconsciously, we are doing so much, and we’re feeling burnt out or overwhelmed and drained and lacking inspiration and passion, and the unconscious question trying to be asked is, what should I do? What should I be focused on? What really matters? What’s really going to move the needle?
We get so used to being busy that we don’t take care of the real business, that we don’t create real productivity. We are so used to reacting and putting out fires and meeting everybody else’s needs and agendas, your inbox is a nice organizing place for everybody else’s agenda, and we just get so used to that and in such a momentum of that, and even sometimes you feel like you matter, you feel like you exist. It’s the great Descartes, I think, therefore I am. Today it would be, I’m busy, therefore I am. So we have a sense of self, a sense of we exist, we have solidity, and we matter, when we’re busy. You hear people constantly, How’s it going?I’m so busy.It’s like a badge of honor, even though on one level we don’t feel great about it, but we feel kind of good about it. It’s this interesting dichotomy, right?
Ultimately, if we really want to live a powerful, thriving, healthy, truly successful life, and by success I mean doing the thing you’re truly designed to do and be, making the contribution and giving the gifts you’re truly designed to give. The apple tree is designed to produce the fruit of apples. If the apple tree was busy trying to be a pine tree and an oak tree and a rosebush, and it was getting all in the other trees and branches and trying to create all these things in its life, even if it managed to eke out a little rose, of course it would be impossible. Nature can’t actually contradict its own nature, but we can fool ourselves. If the ecosystem started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would collapse. There is something you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s a way you’re designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it comes with unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to serve, etc. It’s all part of the design package.
Again, mostly our schedules and lives get filled with reactions, with coping mechanisms, with trying to not get hurt or not lose something, or make sure we have enough to survive, or doing all these things for other people, because we have a shadow, and we don’t want to be looked at as being mean or selfish or a bad boy and girl, and we’re afraid we’ll get rejected and be unlovable and be all alone and homeless, broke and die. So like literally that’s the unconscious motivation. We have to begin to identify that compulsive drive, because it’s not healthy. It’s not helping. It’s actually enabling others in our lives to also not be in their power, and it’s completely draining us and burning us out and sapping all of the energy we need to be who we really are, to create the life we’re really meant to live, and to give the gifts and make the difference we’re really designed to do.
So we come back to, what should I do? What should I do with my life? What should I do with my day, my time, my year, my body, my abilities, my energy? What’s the very best use of it? Now, it’s beyond the scope of this particular podcast to get into the idea of vision. Ultimately you have to start there. There’s other podcasts where I talk about how to tap into that, but there is a great vision, a seed of potential planted in the soil of your soul, that you want to begin to really cultivate and uncover and discover, and really ask, what is the great vision of my life? What is the bigger purpose for which I’m here? That’s the 30,000 foot level. Down more at the 1,000 foot level, or the 100 foot level, or the ground level, our life is filled with so many things. For many of us we’ve kind of got to start there and sort of get some breathing room again.
You’ve maybe heard this saying, that the good is the enemy of the great. What that means, for example, is maybe you get invited to go out with some friends, and it seems like a good idea. It might be fun, and you find yourself at the bar or the club or wherever, and you’re sitting there, and people are having fun. It’s not a bad thing to be doing. It’s fun. It’s enjoyable for a lot of people, but you kind of find yourself wondering, what am I doing here? I’m telling myself I don’t have time to exercise, my body’s feeling broken down and tired. I’m not making time for that, but here I am appeasing a friend, or distracting myself by going out. I’ve been saying I want to have more time with this other friend, or I want to be writing my book or building my business, but here I am doing this thing. I don’t really belong here.
Again, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe it’s like a charitable event, like a fundraiser for the school or something. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, for some people that is their great thing. That is the thing they’re really truly passionate and meant to be doing. So there’s no judgment, but it’s not your thing. You can’t do everything, even every good thing. There is supposedly a passage in the Bible where Jesus is being asked to stay in this one area, and he’s like, No. I have to go to some other town. I have to keep spreading the good news. They’re like, Stay.He’s like, No. I have more work to do. I have to keep moving. There’s lots of things you could be doing. There’s lots of people that could use your help, your service, your support, including your children 24/7, your partner, your spouse, your clients, your friends, your family. There’s lot of things you could be doing to help them all, but that doesn’t mean you should be doing it.
Because of guilt and shame and our core shadows, we have a life not so much by intention or design, but by default. We’re so busy doing all these good things, and sometimes not even good things, because we’re doing so many things that aren’t the great things, the right things, we are, like I said, tired, overwhelmed, feeling more disconnected, unfulfilled, and then we have to turn to things to quell the pain of feeling so unfulfilled, of feeling so tired. So we drink more caffeinated beverages, or worse. We drink more alcohol. We drink stuff to put us up, and we drink stuff to bring us down, or eat stuff to ground us or to comfort us, or watch reality TV or binge watch entire shows on a night or a weekend that, again, in and of itself might be a great thing to do in its right place, and for the right person at the right time, but when it’s coming from that compulsive need, or that feeling of pain and unfulfillment, a lot of times it’s another distraction.
Because we’re not honoring the great within us, the truth within us, the real yes within us, we get burned out. We get tired. We get disconnected. We become unfulfilled, even depressed, and then because we don’t understand what that’s all about, or even aren’t willing to feel it, we create another layer of coping and defense mechanisms, and that turns into addictions and other compulsive behaviors to not feel what we’re feeling, that we’re feeling tired, burnt out, depressed, and unfulfilled. So we have to start unraveling that and get back to our core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, what we were really designed to do, and even looking at the good things that other family, friends, and stuff are excited about, but isn’t our great thing. It might be their great thing, but it’s not ours.
I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way? Sometimes there’s things that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem to be kind of going good. You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going here, kid; don’t mess with it. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. Just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. Right? I use the example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all messed up, all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you have to keep turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start to do it, and at some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white, and that’s a success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the next side working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could say, it’s not broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You have to mess it up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two sides working. Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next side, the next side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to keep messing up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more focused on the grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.
Again, it doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. Got another side! I got another side! You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving. A lot of times in our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level. Maybe your marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to kind of break things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my work is not just to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable. Maybe you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the bills. They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you. You’ve got a good thing, kid. You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire. You’re not truly alive, fully alive and passionate, and there’s something more that’s trying to emerge. You might have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to say yes to your bigger yes. There might be a lot of good things you’re doing in that job, or good things about that marriage, and maybe you’re doing a lot of good things, but they’re not the great things. Maybe you watch TV together at night, and it’s kind of good. Maybe you have a meal at night, and it’s kind of good. Maybe you spend some time on the weekends, and it’s kind of good, but it’s not the great. It’s not what you really desire. What you desire is a relationship that’s on fire with passion, with romance, with adventure, with creativity, yet to move toward that you would have to start saying no to some of the good things. You would have to start messing up what’s working, and open up to the great, open up to the bigger yes, to the greater vision.
This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo, of equilibrium, of balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it. How do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t walk, because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward. You’re going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more progressive space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got up, you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually you were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a state of equilibrium, of balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of the big things we have to begin to move out of.
The other issue is, again, as I said in the beginning here, because to really go for the great in our life we would have to say no to a lot of the good, including a lot of good people. Including a lot of sincere requests that are good requests that deserve to be answered. It’s just not our job to answer them all.
There is no way you can do it. You cannot give to every charity. You cannot support every need in the world. You can’t help every hungry child or every scared animal or lost animal. You can’t help every person that asks for it. You just can’t. Not even Jesus could. Not even Mother Teresa could. Not even Martin Luther King could. Not even Gandhi could. There is a portion that is saved out for you. There is the ones, the people, the situations, the projects that you are uniquely designed to serve and to help and to bring your greatness to, and that’s what you have to begin to discover.
This puts you on a journey of real growth, real strength, real mastery, because, again, it puts up right up against our core shadows, our core wounds, our core fears of being seen in a negative way, being rejected, becoming unlovable, losing something, and ultimately dying. It’s really the deep fear. The truth is that less really is more. Doing a few things that are yours to do, that are the right things to do, doing a few things that are a must is much more productive, effective, than doing a bunch of things that are a maybe. As I’ve heard it put before, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no. Now, a caveat to that is sometimes even our hell yes is covered up by fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, etc. So it doesn’t feel like a hell yes. There is a yes there, but it’s a got a yes, but. So sometimes we have to clear away some of the debris and ask empowering questions, like if I was guaranteed to succeed, what’s my hell yes in my life? So we have to kind of clear away the dust and grit of the journey. Ultimately you’re looking for those hell yeses, or at least just a yes! The thing that you deeply resonate with the most, the thing you feel will most move the needle, and that doesn’t mean it’s going to always move the needle immediately. It means that overall it’s the most important high leverage thing you can be putting your time into.
In truth, most of the most important things are not urgent. As Stephen Covey talks about in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, there is the things that are not urgent, but important. That’s the most important category. That’s like dealing with your health, your spirituality, your personal growth, your relationships, before they become urgent. If you don’t deal with the important but not urgent, it becomes urgent and important. That’s the next category. Now you’re kind of always in this state of urgency, but it is important, and we do need to address that, because we have a lot of urgent and important things in our life, because we haven’t spent enough time in the important but not urgent category.
Then, because we get so stressed out or burned out, and it’s so much stuff, there is the next category we tend to slip into, which is the urgent but not important. So that’s everybody else’s agenda that isn’t really ours. Again, it might be important to them, so we’re not judging anybody. It’s just not ours to handle, and yet it has a sense of urgency, because they’re urgent. It’s all those emails. It’s those phone calls. It’s the child pulling on you while you’re on the phone and saying, Mommy, Mommy, I need this. Give me this. I need this.It’s urgent to the child, but it’s not urgent for you.
Then there’s the final category, if you get caught into that third category too much, now you’re really burnt out, and you just need to distract yourself and numb yourself, and so you move into not urgent, not important. You just check out. You just disconnect. You just pop a beer or two or six, and just flop on the couch and watch six hours of Ice Road Truckers, or whatever. Nothing wrong with that show. I’ve never actually watched it. Looks kind of funny. Whatever. Honey Boo Boo, whatever the case may be. The Kardashians. You just check out. It’s not important. It’s not urgent. You’re just so overwhelmed or burnt out you’ve got to check out.
That’s what happens along the spectrum when we haven’t taken the time to discover what is truly the thing or things we’re meant to do, the great, not just the good. The hell yes, the thing I must, not just the thing that’s a maybe. We have to be compassionate. We have to be patient, because there’s some unraveling that has to happen as we kind of work our way back to focusing most of our time and attention on the important but not urgent. There will still be urgent and important for a while, and maybe to a little extent forever, but it will become increasingly less. Then the other categories, urgent and not important, and not urgent, not important, they just become ultimately delegated, automated, or eliminated out of our life. So that we are only in the important but not urgent, and occasionally the urgent and important. We’re mostly on the hell yes, with a little bit of the urgently, oh my God, I have to. We want to be mostly on the I get to, but sometimes we have to focus on I have to.
Now, one way to begin to do this process is to actually make a list of everything you do and everything on your list that you think you have to do. Perhaps it’s the next months’ worth of things, and some of them are things you do all the time, and some of them are things you’re adding to your list over the next month. Look at that list, and start to identify, if I was guaranteed success, what are the few things that would be a hell yes? You can also do this, break it down, in terms of structures, which might be a little easier. You have several life structures, health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, service, and you can break down all these tasks into these categories. What are all the things you’re doing in the category of health? What are all the things you’re doing in the category of wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development?
Now, personal development means things where you’re developing your personal skills and capacities like, learning to ride a bike, learning to play the guitar, learning to write a book, learning to become a coach, learning to grow a business. That’s personal development. It also is connected to work, but it’s not the actual work. It’s the development of that aspect of your persona. Okay? Then there’s service, and that is the area where you are giving of yourself philanthropically, or of service to the world. Sometimes these things connect. Your work ultimately can also be your service. You can be developing your personal development, being of service, and accomplishing your work all together, and that produces your wealth, etc. You see what I mean? Breaking them up into categories, and then putting all those to-dos, projects, tasks, within the right category gives you a cleaner snapshot of what you’re doing or not doing in those very critical categories.
Then, look at the categories, and of those categories, what are the two categories, I would say maximum three for now, to start. It doesn’t mean they’re not all important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more work. You end up having better emotional state, and it improves your relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that if you don’t have a handle on it it almost always should be one of your main categories.
The second main category tends to be spiritual development, whatever that means to you, because when you don’t have a deep connection with who you really are, and why you’re alive, and your heart, and your spirit, everything else suffers. It’s like a branch trying to survive without being connected to the tree. It withers and dies. Developing a deep connection to your heart, to your spirit, to who you really are, what’s above the Oracle of Delphi, know thyself. Knowing yourself, getting in the best shape you Transcriptioncan, these are like almost always, if they’re not already on good momentum, should be two of the categories you’re focused on.
Then I would say the next most important one is relationships. You know the saying, community breeds immunity. We are relationship driven machines, relationship driven beings. The connection to yourself is first. The connection to your body is second, and then extending that connection to others is third. This is the path of health, of wholeness. When you’re disconnected from others, they’ve shown that many of the suicides, the depression, etc. are directly linked to people who had connections with family, community, or like in the army or whatever, and suddenly lose that bond, lose that connection and fall into depression and ultimately addiction, drugs, and even suicide. Also they’ve shown that when you have community you tend to heal faster and not get sick as often. Real authentic relationships is, again, super high leverage. When you’re in love, you can conquer the world.
So when you are feeling great about yourself, feeling great about your body, and feeling loved and loving, you’re a superstar. You’re able to rock the world. That’s why those are the three probably most important categories. As I said, they’re all critical, because each one is necessary to a whole person, but each one that extends, so from there the next level is work, your right work in the world. If you’ve got all these things, but you’re not producing the fruit of your kind, you will stagnate, and then it will back up and start to suffer all the other branches of your life. So you have to then move to the next level, work, and on and on this goes. So you can look at this, and you can actually decide for yourself what are the areas that are most critical? What are the areas that would move the needle most?
Then within those one or two or three, let’s say two or three areas, you look at the two or three activities. Maybe it’s a project or some tasks that you then identify as your hell yes, as the must, not the maybe, as the great, not just the good. For example, in the area of health, maybe you’re taking yoga, you’re working out at the gym, you are running. Maybe you’re doing a bunch of things, and you’re spending two hours a day on your health, and it’s not necessary. Maybe if you just spent a full hour in one area that would actually give you the greatest leverage. You might discover you’re not spending much time at all there, and meanwhile you’re spending all this time at work, or all this time trying to make money, or all this time trying to put out fires in relationships, and that area is sacrificed, is suffering. You want to find, what’s the one thing I could do that is really a must, that’s really a hell yes, that would really give me a lot of leverage, the great, not just the good? So you identify that.
You might notice that there’s some things you can let go of within that category that is not necessary, and then the area, again, of relationships, maybe you’re trying to keep up 10 different friendships and 10 different colleagueships, and you’re networking, and always thinking you got to keep the network going. All this energy, and meanwhile your relationship with your wife is suffering, or your relationship with your children is not as joyful and thriving, and when you look at all these things, you realize it’s a good idea to keep up my network. It’s a good idea to keep being a good friend to all my friends, but what’s the great? What’s the must? If I could have really awesome relationship with my children, or with my best friend, or with this one best friend, or with my partner, maybe it’s my child, my partner, and my best friend. Let me, instead of trying to keep relationships going with 20 people, let me really focus on making great relationships with these three people. That doesn’t mean you just completely cut yourself off from all these people, however it might in some cases, if you really look at it.
You might realize you’re operating from a place of fear, a fear of missing out, a fear of feeling bad, of being guilty, of creating conflict, of getting kicked out of that club, or not being able to get another client because of it. So you want to notice when you’re being moved by fear, by a shadow, a compulsive behavior, versus being pulled by passion and vision and inspiration. If it’s being moved by fear, you want to look and see what is the reason why? If it’s not something that really adds true value to your life, that there’s something else that’s much more valuable. It’s not just, well the mother’s will think I’m a bad mother if I don’t go to every PTA meeting, or if I don’t go to the student car washes every time, or bake the pies or whatever. You’re like, I’m only doing this because I don’t want to look bad. I’m only doing this because I don’t want them to not like me, but I don’t really want to do it. It’s not really the thing I bring the most value to or the thing I can bring the greatest level of joy and love and passion and capacity for my children. So what would be that thing? You see?
As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise, and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do? Start to notice there are certain patterns that keep recurring. I’m doing this so I don’t look bad. I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty. I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame. I’m doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity. I’m doing this so that that person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent. I’m doing this because I don’t want to lose. I’m doing this because I’m afraid. Then notice also, what do I really want to do? This can even be another list of the things you really want to do, but you’re not doing. Then you can make a list, I’m not doing this because I’m afraid. You can start to really see what are some of the core patterns driving you. The more you see it, an expanded awareness gives you actual real choice and begins the process of real change.
Make the list. Break it down into these categories: health, wealth, work, relationship, spirituality, personal growth or personal development, and service. Identify within that list what are all the reasons why you’re doing it, so you can understand your patterns, and then what are the two or three categories that are a must, not a maybe, that are a hell yes, not just a maybe. Then within those categories, identify the two or three most important things that would really take your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are passionate, that are a yes, that are a must. Now organize that into your plan. Begin the process of organizing out of your plan all of these other commitments, all of these other things, to the extent that you can, and the ones you can’t, immediately begin the journey or the process of renegotiating those commitments, so that you can begin to get them off your list and off your plan. So that your plan progressively reflects who you are in the deepest core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell yes, your musts, the great, not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic and congruent. Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know what your bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.
That’s why really doing the work on vision is so important, because if you don’t know where you’re going, every road will take you there, which means you could go down every road, and you’re just going to be lost. Knowing really where you want to go, like where do you really want to go with your family, with your relationships, with your body, with your wealth, with your life and your commitment and your contribution? Where do you really want to go at the end of the year? Where do you really want to go at the end of five years? Where do you really want to be at the end of a life? Then reverse engineer that back as a template, as a North Star, as a compass. If that’s where I really want to go, am I heading in that direction? If the things I’m doing and that are on my to-do list and my plan are not, guess where they have to go? Somewhere else.
Now you identify, and you start to organize this plan, and then, and don’t freak out, you have to put it on your schedule. Some of you have full schedules, and that’s not a problem. Your problem is just the things on your schedule are keeping you busy, but they’re not necessarily making you productive. For those others of you, heart-centered, creatively-minded people, you don’t tend to have a real schedule or real plan. You just kind of go with the flow, but, as I often say, if you just go with the flow, you’re going to probably end up going over a waterfall and crashing into the rocks below, or getting stuck in some branches or brambles or crashing into a rock. Going with the flow isn’t a good idea, because you don’t know what flow you’re going with, until you do know. It’s go with the flow, but don’t forget to row. Row, row, flow, flow, row, row, flow, flow. For you people that love to flow, don’t forget to row.
How do you know where to row? You’ve got to know where you’re going. Got to know where to go before you know where to row. I feel like I’m going to start breaking into a rap here. You’ve got to have a plan. You’ve got to have a vision. Then you’ve got to put it on your schedule. Then you do it. That’s a whole other topic. There’s other podcasts that talk about why we don’t do what we’ve committed to, the value of commitment. It’s beyond the scope of this. This is more than enough to play with, and it’s so important, because this is one of the biggest questions. What should I do? Out of all the choices and options, what should I do? What’s the right thing, the right direction, the best thing, the thing that will really move my life, move the needle, take things to the next level?
Listen to this again. Take notes, and follow the recipe. Again, if you want to go deeper into vision, into understanding commitment and planning, go through the archives of the podcast and check those out as well. While we’re talking about that, if you haven’t already signed up for the podcast, sign up. It’s free. You get access to about a hundred free trainings. I’m adding new ones every week, and it’s an invaluable resource. You can download all of them right away so they’re in your library, and that way as we archive them, which we are doing on an ongoing basis, I think every week, as a matter of fact, at least one or two of them gets archived, and we’re eventually going to archive a whole bunch of them. So register, download all of them. Now you own them. Listen, and apply. Choose at least one thing you’ll do about this today. Action has power.
I hope this has served you in getting clearer on what you should do. If you want to have even more support, you can go to DerekRydall.com. You can also check out my Facebook page. You can go to LawofEmergence.com and download a free mini ecourse on the Law of Emergence. If you want to grab my book Emergence, the bestseller, you can also go to MyEmergenceBook, click on the Amazon or Barnes and Noble button, buy it through there, and then leave your information, and we’re going to give you a bunch of bonuses to help you really apply it and get real world results. Again, I truly love and appreciate you for showing up, not just showing up for me, but showing up for you, because as you show up for you, you come alive, and what the world is looking for is people who have come alive. Until next time, remember to live authentically, to love unconditionally, and to follow your destiny. Take care, everyone.
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The Only Argument You EVER Have to Win
Can you imagine if there was only one argument that you had to win? If you could become a master at winning that one argument, everything in your life would work. You would be a winner everywhere in your life. Would that be something worth mastering?
Well, there’s only one problem in all of human existence, and that is our belief and perception of separation from Source.
There is a something, an isness that is whole, complete and perfect, that is perfection itself, life itself. It never is born. It can never die. It has no beginning or end. It can’t be improved upon and it can’t be diminished.
It is the very source and substance, cause and effect, power and presence, principle and reality of all existence. It’s nature is good. It’s nature (not a good that’s opposite of a bad, but in all good) is an infinite, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent good that has nothing outside of it and nothing else within it except its own goodness.
Now, if you could just get what I just said, I don’t mean just intellectually but have a realization of it, you will have won the argument because that’s the truth principle – oneness, wholeness, perfection, god only, only god, love only, only love.
However, that’s not our experience. Our life experience is the relative perception and projection of this infinite perfection. So, we don’t experience the one real life directly. We experience through our perception, through the filters of our mind and awareness which become beliefs and habits, which create circumstances and conditions. That is what we call life experience.
Life experience can be all over the place. It literally can be anything depending on what dimension you’re in and how much you’re willing to believe in something. You can pretty much experience anything. That doesn’t necessarily tell you what is reality, just as your beliefs don’t tell you what reality is. They tell you your best guess at it and your emotions don’t tell you reality. They tell you what you believe. The reason for this is because life is infinite.
There’s one mind, one consciousness, the mind of God, the intelligence of the universe, the all-knowing, all-containing, all-possessing, perfect mind. You’re a center in it, and it’s unfolding. So, you have the capacity to tap into it but it’s all within this consciousness that is within you. This is why Jesus said, “Take no thought for your life, for the clothes you’ll put on and the food, wherewithal you shall be clothed… but seek first the kingdom of heaven.” Then, he said, “And then all those things you’ve been striving after, those will be added unto you.” Buddha also taught us to go within. Lao Tzu, Guanyin, Shankara and the greatest masters and teachers all said that ultimately the solution and the answer to everything outside of you is inside of you – either go within or you’ll go without.
Ultimately, the greater the realization of your true self, your true nature, the realm of truth, and your connection, communion, and identification with that, the more everything resolves itself and your life reveals more and more bounty, abundance, and goodness.
That’s why it also says in the Bible, “If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High, under the shadow of the Almighty, no hurt, no harm can come down in your dwelling place.” I’m talking about this dimension with you – consciousness.
Now, what does that have to do with the only argument you ever have to win?
Well, in the most basic sense, as I mentioned above, the only lie is that you’re separate from this ultimate reality or ultimate good. That’s the one and only problem, this sense of separation from it. So, the only solution is the realization of your oneness within.
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Hey, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the best-selling book, Emergence. It’s just so great to be with you again. I just have to say that every time I get a chance to share and connect with this amazing community and join you on this journey of Emergence, of unlocking and unleashing your full potential and true purpose so that you can bring your gifts to the world, and together we can create a world that works for the highest good of all. Every time I get a chance to play with you in that and on that path, no matter where I’m at, no matter what’s going on in my day or my life, I just feel better. I think that’s a sign that I’m on my path. Do you know what I mean? I think it’s a sign that I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. I think when the apple tree apples, it’s in bliss. There can be a storm, there can be a drought, there can be scorching sun but when it’s expressing its unique fruit, it’s happy. That’s really the same for us. We’re designed to be in bliss. We’re designed to be free. We’re designed to be fulfilled. We’re designed to live a great and a bountiful life.
What I want to talk about today is the only argument you ever have to win. By the way, if you haven’t already had a chance to register for Emergence in iTunes and make sure you never miss a training, a talk and any of the special opportunities and gifts and things that I give away, the quantum prayers, et cetera, please take a moment and register for it. It’s free. You can get access to about a hundred trainings. We’re also constantly archiving them, so to make sure you never miss one or lose out on the dozens that are already there, just take a moment. It only takes literally half a minute to register for your free emergence podcast and then download of them. Get them all on your computer or phone and then now you own that library, and you’ll never lose them even when we archived them. I’ll be sending you new ones every week.
So, we’re talking about the only argument you ever have to win. That’s a pretty bold statement and a pretty big promise. Can you imagine if there was only one argument that you had to win? If you could become a master at winning that one argument, everything in your life would work. You would be a winner everywhere in your life. Would that be something worth mastering? Would that be something worth investing some time and energy to master the ability to win this argument? Well, there’s only one problem in all of human existence, and that is our sins of separation from source. Whatever name you call it – God, the Christ, the Buddha mind, the quantum field, the truth within, the higher power, the real self, ultimate reality – whatever name you call it, there is this something that really cannot be called anything. As it says in the Tao, the Tao that can be named is not the real Tao. There is a something, an isness that is whole and complete and perfect, is perfection itself, is life itself. It never is born. It can never die. It has no beginning or end. It can’t be improved upon and it can’t be diminished. It is the very source and substance, and cause and effect, and power and presence, and principle and reality of all existence. Its nature is good. Its nature, not a good that’s opposite of a bad, but in all good, an infinite, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent good that has nothing outside of it and nothing else within it except its own goodness.
Now, if you could just get what I just said, I don’t mean just intellectually but have a realization of it, you will have won the argument because that’s the truth principle – oneness, wholeness, perfection, god only, only god, love only, only love. Now, that’s not our experience. There is only this one life and this one life is great. It’s perfect. It’s the all good. It never changes, but our life experience is the relative perception and projection of this infinite perfection. So, we don’t experience the one real life directly.
We experience through our perception, through the filters of our mind and awareness which become beliefs, which become habits, which create circumstances and conditions. That is what we call life experience. So, life experience can be all over the place. I mean it literally can be anything depending on what dimension you’re in and how much you’re willing to believe in something. You can pretty much experience anything. That isn’t necessarily point to real life. That isn’t necessarily tell you what is reality just as your beliefs don’t tell you what reality is. They tell you your best guess at it and your emotions don’t tell you reality. They tell you what you believe. The reason for this is because life is infinite.
You can’t have a direct experience of infinity, right? Because the minute it becomes an experience, that is not infinite, that’s finite. That’s an experience as the Bhagavad Gita says, Take abundance from abundance and abundance still remains. Take infinity from infinity, you still have infinity left. So, you can never experience the infinite, immortal, eternal reality of god or source. You can have an encounter with it. You can have a realization of it. The minute it becomes some kind of sense or effect or experience, that is no longer it. That is now a relative perception of it which then becomes a relative projection of it. That’s fine. That’s the way it’s supposed to be though this infinite life is supposed to unfold and emerge as it says in the Bible from glory to greater glory, world without end, love, peace, joy, beauty, wisdom, creativity, inspiration without end. There’s no end to its unfoldment. Also, if you could experience it all at once, you’d be done. That would be it, right? You have a great experience of a movie and maybe you’d want to see it again in a few times. Maybe even it’s like an amazing movie with so many labels, you’d want to see it 20 times, but at some point, you’ll be done with it, right? Or, you’ll only want to experience it once every several years or like a great book. So, if you could experience all of life, you would be done with life, but that’s not the nature of life. It’s infinite and it’s forever unfolding as our relative experience.
The truth is there’s only this one life. There’s only this one power, presence, principle, substance and it’s within our consciousness that our consciousness is the one consciousness just at the level of our relative awareness of it. There’s one mind, one consciousness, the mind of God, the intelligence of the universe, the all-knowing, all-containing, all-possessing, perfect mind. We are a center in it. We are like God knowing itself as individual being. We’re a center in it, and it’s unfolding. So, we have the capacity to tap into it but it’s all within this consciousness that is within us. This is why Jesus said, Take no thought for your life, for the clothes you’ll put on and the food, wherewithal you shall be clothed, et cetera, but seek first the kingdom of heaven which he also said was within you. Then, he said, And then all those things you’ve been striving after, those will be added unto you. Buddha also taught us to go within. Lao Tzu, Guanyin, Shankara and the greatest masters and teachers all said that ultimately the solution and the answer to everything outside of you is inside of you, either go within or you’ll go without. Okay?
So, that’s like the fundamental rock bottom perennial teaching of the ages is that all answers are within you, as it says above the Oracle of Delphi know thyself and the Self meaning really the capital S. Now, you can certainly know all the layers of the self, and it’s valuable to do that. Ultimately, the realization of our true self, our true nature, this kingdom of heaven, this realm of truth, this nirvana, this reality of being, our connection with that, our communion with that, our deeper and purer identification with that, and the more we’re able to live and move and have our being in that, the more everything resolves itself and the more our life reveals more and more bounty and abundance and goodness. That’s why it also says in the Bible, If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High, under the shadow of the Almighty, no hurt, no harm can come down in your dwelling place. I’m talking about this dimension with you – consciousness. Now, what does that have to do with the only argument you ever have to win? Well, in the most basic sense, the only lie is that you’re separate from this ultimate reality or ultimate good, that’s the one and only lie. That’s the one and only problem, this sense of separation from it. So, the only solution is the realization of your oneness within.
This isness is the substance and source of everything real. It is the substance and source of all life, all power, all love, all good, all genius, all intelligence, all knowledge, all ideas and therefore everything necessary to live the fullest, most abundant life possible. All of that is contained within this isness, so when you realize your oneness with it, you are now one with all real life and being. I was going to say game over but really now, it’s a game on. Okay? Now, that perfect pattern of infinite potential that you are a unique expression of naturally and by grace unfold as your ever expanding, never ending adventure of joy and creativity and service in the world. It never dies, so it’s ongoing, okay? So, that’s the basic thing. The only problem is our sense of separation from this one life or source within us. The only solution therefore is the realization of our oneness with it. Because when you believe you’re separate from it, you now have beliefs that for example your love is somewhere out there. Now, what does that lead to? All of the problems in relationship, all of us getting into relationships to get loved, all of us twisting ourselves in pretzels to get love or not lose love, pretty much most of human motivation, to get love, to not be rejected, to be accepted so that we get love and feel loved and feel worthy and valuable. If we believe we’re separate from it, all of those problems ensue.
Likewise, what else is contained in the isness? Infinite supply, the substance of all form otherwise known as abundance, the real substance of all wealth. Well, when you believe you’re separate from supply a.k.a. abundance, a.k.a. wealth, what do you do? All of the problems and challenges that is the second probably biggest issue we face as human beings, struggling and striving to make ends meet, willing to do work that is not our true work in order to survive, forsaking our true work and service in order to do something we don’t love and don’t want to in order to survive – lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, going to work, killing each other, killing ourselves to try to get those dollars or those material things that we think is the source of our supply. This is the real meaning of the love of money is the root of all evil. Money is a symbol, an outer symbol, like the fruit on a tree is not the wealth of the tree. It’s a symbol of the invisible process that produces it. Dollars and all forms of wealth are symbols. Everything in the world is a symbol. It’s not the real thing. It’s an effect or a projection or a symbol of the real thing. So, when you fall in love with the symbol, become attached to the symbol, you produce what you would call evil results – lack, limitation, worry, doubt, fear, conflict, et cetera.
What is the word evil? Live spelled backwards. So, you live backwards to the real principle of life or you live outside in instead of inside out. That’s backwards. Therefore, when you believe the source of your life is outside of you, you’re living backwards, you’re going to produce all the things your human condition calls evil. The love of money is the root of all evil. The love of the symbols of wealth, abundance, power, security is the root of all evil. So, when you believe you’re separate from love, you go crazy. When you believe you’re separate from supply, you go crazy. Those are really kind of the two biggest things. Power will be the other one. If you believe you’re separate from power, and therefore there are other powers – powers of government, powers of parents, powers of spouses, powers of partners, powers of bullets and bombs and enemies and diseases, and then those are the bad powers. Maybe sometimes are bad and then other times, you think there’s good power outside of you – the power of other people to love you, the power of drugs and medicines, the power of even food. So, you believe that all these things outside of you are either a good power or a bad power. That’s what the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil is trying to tell us. The belief that there’s good and evil out there, that there’s even good in evil at all is the pair of opposites to duality. It creates a sense of separation that there’s God over here and the devil over there, good over here and evil over there.
Now, we’re in a constant rat race to try to get more of the good and get rid of the bad. This is also what Buddha meant when he taught fundamentally that freedom from suffering, not so much just releasing desire but releasing this pattern of craving and aversion meaning the incessant need to get or get rid of in order to ultimately be free. The get and get rid of, the pain-pleasure mechanism, the good-bad mechanism of the mind is what the false self is fundamentally made of. So, that gets created from this sense of being separate from God or from good. We then produce this duality of good and evil and then a false self that has to live constantly to try to be more good or get more good and be less bad and get rid of the bad. That, in a nut shell, describes the whole human drama. It’s all based on a sense of separation from the only reality that there is which is god or good which is within you. So, then, what’s the solution to that? Whenever we’re tempted to believe that our good is outside of us, that there’s something bad outside of us, that there’s something good outside of us, what we need to do is ultimately come back within us, find our ground and anchoring within us again and convince ourselves that everything we could ever need is within us because that’s the truth, which is remembering, literally putting the members back together into wholeness again.
Our oneness with god or good whether it’s love, peace, joy, wealth, health, happiness, harmony, it’s all within us. So, we need to remember that. Re-member it. Re-cognize it, recognize it. We need to get back in touch with it. Seek first the kingdom of heaven and its righteousness. We need to wake up again to the truth of who you really are, which is a unique expression of the only thing there is, which is god all good and as that happens progressively, we are waking up, we are becoming spiritually liberated and progressively, it shows up in our life as what we call improvement. The other side of that is whenever we’re tempted to believe there’s some bad out there, a disease, a war, a person, an ex-partner, whatever, an enemy, we have to now convince ourselves that that’s not true either. That’s an impossibility in God’s universe. There’s only God. There’s only good. There’s only love. There’s only oneness. You can’t have an infinite God plus. This is one party where there is not a plus one. Now, yes, it looks there’s bad and it’s scary, and in the human realm, bad can do bad to good but that’s only because you’re in that belief. If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High and the shadow of the Almighty, under the shadow, under the realization of this oneness, no hurt, no harm can come down your dwelling place. This is also why Jesus and many of the masters were constantly trying to tell us do not judge by appearances, forgive everybody over and over and over again, see through all these appearances, see the truth that we’re ultimately all innocent.
Now, that doesn’t mean you don’t render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s, that you don’t do what you got to do in the short term to make sure that if somebody is hurting themselves or others, they can’t do that. So, if somebody has to be put behind bars, fine so they don’t hurt themselves or others. Even though you close the door of the cell, you don’t close the door of your heart. Your main job is to keep working to see through the mask that they’re wearing, to the Christ of their being, to the Buddha of their being, to the lover and the innocent child of life of their real being. Not easy. That’s why Ralph Waldo Emerson said, God’s works will not be done to cowards.It’s not easy. What’s the alternative? To live in the constant round of pain and suffering, and war and conflict and all of that that is a part of.
How’s that working for you? How’s that working for us as a world? Constant endless wars, conflicts, us against them, partisanship. It will never ever end through our human means because that’s all part of the illusion of duality. That’s all part of the outside illusion. If you try to convince the world, you’re caught in the illusion. If you try to convince your spouse, you’re in the illusion; if you try to convince anybody that you’re good or that you’re not bad, or that they’re good, or that they’re not bad, or that…whatever the case maybe. Convincing and arguing has many levels. Sometimes, it’s just words but then it goes from there to fists, and then it goes from there to bullets, and then it goes from there to bombs. Those are all forms of arguments. Oh, yeah, you think you’re bigger than me. I’m going to convince you that I can destroy you by dropping a bomb on you, by killing you, by taking you to court, by firing you, by divorcing you, by whatever. These are all forms of an argument. You will never win that argument.
You may temporarily win it with one person by like cutting off the top of the weed; it will grow out in another area of your life because you’re still caught in the illusion. You’re trying to argue for a false premise. Even if you’re right, even if you prove that you’re right, you’re wrong. Do you see what I mean? If you could convince somebody that two plus two equals three until they agreed with you, they bow down, and said, You’re right. You’re right. You pop out your chest, Yes, I won the argument. No. You just lost. Now, you’re going to go around and keep spending money that two plus two equals three, and you’re going to go broke. So, every time you try to argue and convince anything outside of you, even if you win it, you’ve lost because the premise of that argument is already false. So, the only argument you ever need to win is the one within you. To bring it down, really down to the ground level… maybe you’ve had this experience. I know I have over and over again when I find myself arguing to convince somebody, let’s say it’s in my marriage or with my kids, that no, I’m not that guy you think I am. I’m not controlling or I’m not dominating or I’m not a boss, or I’m not a know-it-all, or whatever judgment they have of me, which in many cases, they’re actually correct.
What I’m trying to argue for that is that to understand that you’re not really in a relationship; the relationship is in you. Then, you project it onto the screen of your experience and you shadow dance with that person. So, the reason why I had to convince them that I wasn’t a bad guy is because inside of me, I actually believe that I was. I believe that I was controlling and I had shame around the controller. So, if I didn’t convince them, if I let them win that argument and I accepted that I was a controller, I will be in tremendous pain. Well, the ego won’t let that happen. So, it’s going to fight for its life to not feel that emotional pain because to the ego it’s equivalent to danger or death. So, I would fight and fight and fight. I remember one time, it finally just cracking open and I saw somehow, maybe because I’ve been a meditator, I suddenly got some spaciousness and I could see that I was arguing with myself, that I had so much judgment and guilt about this part of myself. I begin to work with that part of me.
This is the shadow work that I talk about and teach. I begin to just fall in love with the controller part of me, seek to understand him, see the gifts in him, to begin to release that resistance and judgment and shame. As that begin to happen, less and less that I have any need to defend myself because I discovered that the darkness and the light are both alike to thee as it says in the Bible and that this shadow part of me was just a wounded part of my divine self. When I really understood him and love him and gave him what he really needed, he came back into my wholeness again. He integrated. Whatever aberrated or destructive ways it was showing up began to show up less and less. It doesn’t mean sometimes people aren’t going to still call you that, but in those cases, if it’s not pushing your buttons, you don’t feel any need to defend and you have a spacious ability to really hear the feedback and potentially make changes if needed, you know that part of you has been healed now. Then, I would go a step further. Now that I wasn’t fighting to prove I wasn’t controlling, because I was controlling and in some cases, it’s really, really good to have use of your controller, and use of the selfish self and all these parts of us where they’re necessary, right? So, if I won the argument that I wasn’t controlling, not only was I going to continue to repress the pain, but I would lose the gift of that part of me. I would not integrate it back into me. If I won the argument that I wasn’t selfish, not only would I be repressing that pain and it would come out again, but I was losing the gift that the selfish shadow has for me. Do you see what I’m saying?
So, but then beyond that, I could then go deeper and see that once this was integrated, there was a deeper, purer, even more amazing, beautiful magnificent being sitting here in my underwear. I could start to affirm that part of me, even more completely and powerfully. I would win the argument because the other side of the argument, what I’m really trying to convince this person is I’m not a bad person, I’m a good person. I’m not unlovable; I am lovable. I’m not unworthy; I am worthy. As I heal the shadow, I could begin to really go deep into a communion and a contemplation of just how deeply and profoundly lovable and valuable and worthy I am. Now, I’m winning the real argument. I’m winning the argument within me that I do matter, that I am valuable, that I am worthy. Now, I don’t need to convince you of that. As I fall into that wholeness and rest into that wholeness, those outer conflicts and arguments start to go away because they were only showing up so that I could have an inner contemplation, an inner argument for lack of a better word. So, I could have a deeper, inner realization and win the argument within me. Now, this is true for other areas. Let’s say I look at my bank account and it appears to be broke or I don’t seem to have enough, I have more month at the end of my money. Well, what’s the lie there? The lie is that I don’t have enough. The lie is that I’m short. I don’t have a lot of abundance that this is the world of lack and limitation. Now, I might go out and argue with that by struggling and striving to make more, by struggling and striving to create more wealth. That’s arguing with those particular facts. Do you see that? I will never win that argument because it’s a false premise.
The false premise I’m trying to prove against is that the world isn’t lacking. The belief is that the world is lacking. My bank account is lacking. I’m lacking. Now, I’m going to prove that I can have more and earn more. So, what I’m trying to prove is already based on a lie. The truth is that I am one with this life of infinite abundance. I’m one with the source of all creation. Infinite supply is within me. So, instead of struggling and striving to manipulate conditions, to basically rearrange deck chairs on the Titanic, I go within. I seek first this inner kingdom, this inner reality of wholeness. I begin to research and apprentice under the truth principles of abundance. I begin to pray and meditate and affirm my oneness with god, with good, with life, with abundance. I begin to pray and affirm because I’m one with the one, that all that the Father has is mine, that the cattle on a thousand hills are mine, that all the riches of life are within me. I’m one. I have a divine inheritance and it’s infinite. It’s exhaustible. All that I could ever need is within me. All of my needs are met abundantly. Everything is working together for my good because the only thing going on is God. I start to feel that. It activates a frequency that is now congruent with Reality. Reality with capital R. So, God responds to you by corresponding to its own nature in you. Life doesn’t happen to you; it happens through you and as you, but it can only happen at the level of consciousness you have discovered.
t can’t force you because there is no life separate from you. Do you understand? So, it wants to be all of itself as you but it can only be as much of itself as you as you have realized it’s true about yourself. So, every one of these challenges and crises, this outer conflict is asking you to make a case for what’s true. Don’t make the case out there whether it’s verbal arguing or physical action that is really a physical argument – struggling, striving, trying to prove yourself, whatever. Make the case within you. Win the argument of truth within you, the truth that you’re one with the one and therefore you’re one with all the power and the presence, and the love, and the life, and the wisdom, and the truth, and the wealth, and the health, and the happiness of the infinite spirit itself that what is true about anyone, anywhere is true about everyone everywhere because there is only one of us here, that all the riches and wonders, and magnificence of the universe are not really out there; they’re all in consciousness. You’re not in the world; the world is in you. The whole kingdom of heaven, the kingdom of God, the realm of the real is in your consciousness. It’s unfolding as an individual experience called your life, creating your own unique expression of the universe. Like a movie projector, what’s on the screen is what’s in the projector. If you don’t like it, you can’t go up and fight with the screen, and twist the screen around and yell at the characters and think they’re going to suddenly become different. It will never work. You have to go back into the projector and change the film. You got to put a new story in there. So, we have to go within. We have to win the argument within.
All issues of life stem from our consciousness. Nothing can come into our life except as the activity of our consciousness. That’s a bitter pill to swallow sometimes, but it’s not a blame the victim statement. There’s no blame or judgment at all, but it is a statement of principle. The fact that you don’t like it is sort of beside the point. The fact that you don’t like the truth that there’s a law of gravity, and if you walk up a cliff, you’re going to fall to your death. The principle of gravity is like… it doesn’t have any personal relationship to you. It doesn’t care what you think about it. It is what it is. The fact that youdon’t like that, if you go in the water and don’t know the principle of buoyancy, you’re going to sink. It’s too bad. You’re going to sink if you don’t live your life in alignment with the principle. If you stick your finger in a light socket, you’re going to get electrocuted because that’s the principle of electricity. If you understand and align with the right principles and don’t do that or wire your house correctly, it’s not going to burn down in a fire from an electrical fire because you’re in alignment with the principle. It’s not personal. It’s principle. The principle is that everything is in your consciousness. Nothing can come to you. It has to come out of you. If you want your life to be better, stop arguing with everyone and everything outside of you and win the argument of truth within you.
Convince yourself by whatever means necessary of what is true about you, of the highest possible truth, that you are a unique, infinite, indescribable and inexhaustible expression of all the power and the presence and the love of god, of life, that all the infinite wisdom and beauty, and abundance, and boldness, and courage, and strength, and commitment, and power, and confidence, and glory, everything you could ever want, hope for, desire to be all you were created to be is all within you. You brought it all with you and it’s all conspiring for your freedom and fulfillment. Everything is for you. Nothing is against you. You’re in your right place, right work, right relationships, right now maxing out to your full potential, living a destiny of greatness and shining your lights so brightly the people have to wear sunglasses around you and you’re living your dream and giving your gifts and making an impact, and you’re totally supported and loved every step of the way. This, my friends, is the truth. Guess what? As powerful as that may sound, you ain’t seen nothing yet. Who and what you are and what’s possible for us is beyond imagination, but you have to stop arguing with the world and win the argument within.
Yes, yes. I hope this has served you. If you love what you’re hearing or even just like it, please share it with friends, family members, loved ones. Let’s spread the good news. Let’s help everyone win the argument within so we stop arguing with each other. Sign up for the Emergence podcast in iTunes. Download all the episodes so you never lose one. Go to derekrydall.com. In the resources, get some free audios and various goodies to support you. If you haven’t grabbed a copy of my book, Emergence, you can go to www.myemergencebook.com and click on either the Amazon or Barnes & Noble button, get a copy, and then I’m going to give you a whole bunch of bonuses like over a thousand dollars in other programs and coaching and support. If you want to get a free mini e-course on the law of Emergence, go to www.lawofemergence.com. Again, I hope this has served you, my friends, my fellow Emergeneers. Until next time. Remember to live authentically, love unconditionally and follow your destiny.
by sublimity-001-main | Nov 12, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Purpose, Spiritual Growth
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Today’s episode is all about understanding the impact of story on our lives and how our story is really the equipment for living. We live our lives literally through a story. It’s unavoidable, that’s why we love stories so much.
The life you’re experiencing right now is based on the story you’ve developed over the years. I believe that you even developed a grander story before you even came here – the soul story.
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In all the stories of the world – whether in a movie, a book, world events, the Bible, or your own story – there is always a bigger idea that’s trying to emerge.
Behind your life stories, like the perennial truth teaching of successful living in all the Bibles of the world, ultimately, there is a seeking to awaken you out of your human story and into the Divine story.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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by sublimity-001-main | Nov 7, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Tools, Work and Business
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This is an important question that so many people can relate to.
One assumption that many mistakenly lean on is, that if something is challenging or when the doors aren’t easily opening for something you’re pursuing, it’s a sign from the Universe that you’re not supposed to do it.
Although things you pursue and are working towards can often be very challenging, it’s not a sign from the Universe that you’re not supposed to keep pursuing it.
The only real sign you’re not supposed to pursue something is you no longer want to.
For my full explanation, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where I break it down and help you to apply this in your life TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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