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As you begin to grow in this awareness of the Emergence principles and how life really operates, you start to discover that what you do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes you get.
Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.”
We understand in metaphysics and quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at is what actually determines the outcome. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest-station. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem.
Problem, when you understand it means emblem – it’s a symbol. A problem or challenge is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency.
If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, or it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So, how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency.
When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH, the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there! That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists; 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hot water on it, but what’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice.
That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, or in a community, in the government, a corporation or a culture, etc., don’t often work, because we are still at the same frequency, and just moving things around at that level.
We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, or separation. We may try to cover over all of that by controlling or manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, or by having stricter rules… All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice – the ice dissolves.
When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem or change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, “Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.”
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At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. It’s also why you can’t fight fire with fire (except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works.) The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because we’re still operating, in many cases, at the same level of the problem. What you resist persists, what you fight you fuel.
So, to move into the solution state of mind, you must understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or circle of the problem, and you want to, as quickly and easily as possible, move yourself into the frequency of the solution. You want to bring yourself back into a congruent, receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are, where evolution, real healing and growth happens.
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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to Emergence, this is Derek Rydall, your guide on the side instead of the sage on the stage, author of the bestselling book Emergence, and founder of the process the Law of Emergence. It’s just so great to have you here, as we take another deep dive on this journey of engineering the full emergence of our life, our potential, and our deeper purpose. Today we’re talking about the solution state of mind, and this is really a powerful thing to understand, because, as you begin to grow in this awareness of these principles and how life really operates, we start to discover that what we do, although it’s very important to take action, it’s an extension of consciousness, it’s a dimension of consciousness, that was we do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes we get. Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.
We understand in metaphysics, quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at, that’s actually what’s determining the outcome. I’ve used the analogy often that it’s already happening. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest station. Now, where was the music before you tuned into it? It wasn’t in the distance. You didn’t have to take your radio and run down the street and catch it. It wasn’t in the future. You didn’t have to sit there and wait for it to show up, and when you tuned into that station you didn’t have to make the music happen. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists, hear this, at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem. Problem, when you understand it means emblem, it’s a symbol. A problem, a challenge, is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency. Right? I mean, that’s just a frequency. If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, and it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, and it’s making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency. When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there, right? That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now that you’re tuned into that, it becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists. 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hotwater on it. What’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice. So no matter what you do you’ve always got the problem, the proclivity of the problem, the propensity of the problem, the worry, doubt, and fear of the problem, because you’re living at the level of the problem, at the frequency. As Einstein said, at the level of thinking that created it.That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, in a community, and in the world, in the government, etc., in a corporation or a culture, the reason why they don’t work often is we are still at the same frequency, at the same level, but we’re just moving things around. We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, separation, whatever, and now we’re going to try to cover over all of that by controlling more, by manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, by having stricter rules. All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways. It’s another reason why for the common prisoner the recidivism rate is so high. The problem itself hasn’t been solved, because it never can be.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice. The ice dissolves. When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem and actually change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.At a frequency there are manifestations, condensations, coagulations, formations, and they exit at that frequency. At 32 degrees and below you have ice. At other degrees you have steam. You have gases. You have solids. You have different expressions at different levels. Right? That’s just the way it is. So you cannot solve it. The problems don’t get solved, they dissolve as you evolve. So the only way to solveour problems is to actually take our attention off the problem long enough to rise in conscious, vibration, or frequency to rise outside of the circumstance or the circle of the problem, and as we evolve the problems dissolve. They literally cannot exist at that new higher or different frequency. They cannot exist there. That’s not where they live. Ice doesn’t live at 50 degrees. It lives at 32 degrees and below. So if you start living at 50 degrees, you’re not going to have ice. You’re not going to have the problem of ice.
At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist there. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. Now, I could go down the rabbit hole and explain to you that really hatred is actually on the spectrum of love, but let’s not go there right now. Rather to understand that hatred is an expression or manifestation or formation of a certain vibration or frequency. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. Which is why you can’t fight fire with fire, except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works, but, again, that’s a different physics issue. The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because the actual problem, we’re still operating in many cases at that same level. We’re still killing and fighting and hating and having a justified reason for killing, fighting, and hating. There is no justification. Justifying it doesn’t change the frequency. In many cases it keeps you stuck at the lower frequency.
It’s also why when we’re trying to solve our own problems, our own challenges, but we’re stuck at the level of the problem, we are struggling to figure it out, to make it better, to improve it, to fix it, and we find that either it gets worse, which is often the case, or we solve what appears to be this problem of lack in one area, and it breaks out in another area. We finally solve our problem of lack, and we get a job, and then our plumbing goes wrong, and we have to use all that money we just made to pay for the plumbing. We finally solve our problem of not having enough and get a check for $500, and then our car breaks down, and it costs us $500. How many of you have experienced that? It’s because you’re just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. You’ve manipulated conditions. You’ve manipulated mentally, emotionally, and physically, but fundamentally you’re still living at the same level of consciousness, the same core pattern of your heart or mindset, which is then producing another version of that same frequency. Now it’s just showing up in your bank account, and then next month it shows up in your body, and next month is shows up at your business, and the next month it shows up in your relationship. You’re just rearranging, moving it from one place to the next, but the problem persists. Ultimately it tends to magnify and get worse. So how do you solve a problem? You have to rise above it. you have to get outside of it. I often use the analogy of a racecar driver. A racecar driver, they learn that when you’re spinning out of control towards a wall, which is the problem, if you focus on the problem, aka the wall, you’re going to hit it. It seems very counterintuitive. You feel like, I’ve got to look at that wall to make sure I don’t hit it, but if you do, you will, because the hands follow the eyes, and you turn right into it. So instead you’re trained to look away from the wall and to look towards the road, look towards the finish line, look towards the next turn. Look to where you want to go, not what you are spiraling out of control towards. Look to the solution, the opportunity, the vision, not towards the problem. Sometimes when you’re learning this the trainer that’s training you how to drive has to literally grab your head and force you to look, because everything in your instincts has been conditioned to focus on the problem, to focus on the wall. It feels utterly unnatural to not look at that wall, because otherwise you’re going to crash. Of course, again, the irony is if you do, you are going to crash.
So you look away, and as you look away your hands follow your eyes, and you start to turn out of the spin and pull out of the spin. Interestingly, even when you do that, depending on the momentum you’ve got in that spin, you’re still sliding towards the wall. You have to be aware of that, because you’re turning, you’re focusing on the solution, on the road, but you’re still sliding towards the problem, and there’s a great temptation. It’s a very precarious moment where you might go, it’s not working, it’s not working, and then you look back to the wall, and you get to observe as you crash into it. It takes a degree of courage, degree of trust, and ultimately discipline to become solution focused, not problemfocused, to be a vision holder, not a problem solver.
That doesn’t mean you aren’t aware of the challenge and the problem. It doesn’t mean you’re not aware that there’s a wall there. You are aware of it, but your focus, your attention is on the road, on the solution. So this moves us into a solution state of mind is where the solutions exist. I know that sounds obvious, but it’s not obviously seen or understood when we’re in the moment. Again, it seems counterintuitive to not focus on the problem. It seems from our defensive nature that if we take our eye off the problem it’s going to get us. It’s going to sneak attack us. It’s going to take advantage of us. That’s an old artifact of our evolution where we were trained to see the problems very quickly in any new environment. The rustling of the branches means there could be a sabretooth cat there, or particular elements left behind could show that there was an enemy encampment before, etc. So we’ve been trained and conditioned as a matter of survival, but what helped us survive as a human experiment is now the very mechanism that puts us on the brink of extinction. If not total human extinction, it stagnates us and keeps us stuck at the level we are in our own individual lives, our own individual businesses. So to move into the solution state of mind we have to understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or energy or circle of the problem, and that we want to as quickly and easily as possible move ourselves into the frequency of the solution. Again, I’m going to say that. What we want to do when we encounter a problem is instead of reacting to it and resisting it, what you resist persists, what you fight you fuel. If you fall into quicksand and you fight it, it pulls you down, and you die. If you are in a problem, and you wrestle it, fight it, resist it, it pulls you down. It anchors you to that energy of the problem and makes it more easy to get stuck there, and then most, if not all, of the things you try to do to solve it, first off all, we’ll most likely not solve it, but if it seems to temporarily create a solution it’s almost always a stopgap solution. The problem almost always returns, and in many cases it returns with even more velocity and more ferocity, because all of that resistance. Think of it like holding a beach ball underwater. You’re using all this energy now to hold the problem down and create this solution on top of it, and the minute you relax, that ball flies up and hits you in the face. You’ve all had that experience.
This is not a game of Whack-a-Mole. You just keep hitting the mole, and another one pops up, another one pops up. That’s not how to really solve problems. As Gandhi said, We must be or become the change we want to see in the world, and that includes our own individual world. So when you’re in a problem, you want to as soon as possible shift your awareness and attention to asking the question, not how do I solve the problem, but what is the change I want to see in the world? What’s the change I want to see in my world? Let’s say suddenly you get a bill, and it’s this huge bill, and you can’t afford it, or something like that. You get worried, or you get frustrated. You get angry. Then you try to make calls and complain. This isn’t right. There’s a mistake, or frantically try to scrounge up new opportunities or clients or whatever the case may be. You’re operating at the level of the problem, and energetically and vibrationally you’re tuning and staying tuned in, and even creating a preset on the dial of station K-LACK. Instead you want to go take a breath, and ask, what is the change I want to see in my life? You might immediately go, I want to see this bill paid, and that’s okay. That’s a start. Then go another step further. What is the change I would want to see and need to see in my life in order to pay the bill? Then you sense into that. What you hear is, I have more money. You keep asking, how much more money? If somebody gave you a dollar, that would be more money. How much more? Let’s say the bill is $500. I have at least an extra $1,000. You just sit with that, and you go, is that all the change I really want? What other real change is this challenge inviting me to open up to? As you breathe and sink into it, you kind of hear or feel, I really want to have a level of financial freedom. I don’t want to have to worry about money anymore. Notice that little subtle shift. I don’t want to have to worry about money. You’ve just turned your head back towards the wall again about what you don’t want. That’s the problem. So you go, but what do I want? I want to have enough that I can joyfully express my life, I can have more time with my family, or I can have more time to do creative stuff. Now you’re getting back to the solution. You’re turning back towards the road, towards the finish line.
I want to have enough money that I can spend time doing the things I really want, being with the people I really want, being the person I want to be. As you keep unpacking that, you ask specifying questions. If I got to be the person I wanted to be, who would that person be? As you sense into that, you hear, I’d want to be a person of peace. I’d want to have more joy. I want to be more playful, creative, spontaneous. Brilliant. Write that down. You go, who are the people you’d want to spend more time with? I want to spend more time with my kids, with my husband, with my friends. What would that look like? I would go on that vacation, or we would have a date night. You start to describe and articulate that. What else? I’d want to be doing more of the things that I really want to do with my heart and my art. What specifically? I really want to write that book, or paint that painting, or put on that art show, or start that business. Great. Write it all down.
Now stop for a minute and notice, what have you just discovered? This problem called this unexpected bill was really carrying a message. Your problems are your prophets. They’re bringing you a prophecy, a message of the vision that’s trying to unfold. So this problem is really trying to open you up to discover there’s a larger life that you’re being called to live, that you’re aching to live, that’s seeking to emerge, but all your coping mechanisms have kept you playing small. So now this problem shows up to crack you back open and say, there’s a bigger vision here. There’s a bigger possibility. Your heart has a deeper desire. You’re meant for more. You’re capable of more.
Now you articulate that vision, and even notice as you start to move your energy and think about the bigger vision and dwell on it and imagine it, how do you feel? When the bill came in you constricted. Your heart closed. Your mind clamped down. Your body felt constricted. As you start to move and ask these emergence questions, these solution focused questions, these vision based questions, you feel your heart start to open again, your mind start to expand, your body relax. Energetically, vibrationally, you’ve just moved up a few degrees. You’re maybe not at 32 anymore. Maybe you were at 10, and now you’re at 20. You might still be in the realm of ice, but you’re moving up the scale. You might not be on K-LACK anymore, but you might be still in static, but at least you’re not hearing the blues and all the gossip. It’s just static. It’s not entirely tuned into K-RICH yet, but it’s still an improvement. You follow? Now we take it the next step. Now you really feel into that vision. You give yourself the time to really visualize it, to really feel what it feels like to live that vision, to be that person, and then you do the visualization-vibration process, where you breathe into that energy, and as you exhale you let it expand to fill your body, and then breathe and exhale again and radiate it into your life, radiate it to this seemingly challenge, and just feel yourself as a radiant being of this energy. Now we move. We are now in what’s called a more receptive, available, congruent state of mind, and we can now ask the question, from this place, what am I called to do, to do more of, to do less of, or to do differently, to bring about a solution with ease and grace and dignity? From that place it’s like you’ve now tuned into a higher quality station, and there are higher quality answers. First of all, you don’t just merely receive the answer, but vibrationally you are now becoming the answer. From that place you might be inspired with an idea, a bit of guidance, direction. So that’s the next stage.
The first stage is you’ve hit the problem, breathe, turn your attention toward asking those solution based, vision based questions. Then as you do that you continue to ask specifying questions until you’ve unpacked a vision for your life, the change you want to see in the world, in your world, or beyond. Now you start to have a sense of a vision. You write it down, and then Step 3, you visualize. You use the angel of your imagination to activate the visionary vibration, to feel what it feels like to already be the answer, to be living the solution, and even beyond a mere solution. Notice, it’s no longer just pay the bill. It’s a vision of a life of so much more joy and abundance and possibility. That expands your energy, and then the fourth step you radiate it, really that’s still part of the third step. You radiate it. You fill yourself with it. The fourth step is you now ask from that new state of mind, that solution state, what activity, what am I called to do or not do, to do more of or less of or different, in order to bring about a solution to this with ease and with grace, even with peace and joy? Then you sit with that, and you allow it to bubble up.
At any point in this you might get snagged and pulled back, because you’re still sliding towards that wall to some extent, because the problem has not yet been solved. The temptation will be to get frustrated and go, I just got to solve this problem now, and you just turn back to the wall. When that happens, you breathe again. You come back. You breathe again. You turn your attention back to the road. You keep doing that and asking that question, and then journaling what comes up. Okay?
The fifth stage is you want to ultimately and eventually design a way of life so that this is where you live from on a regular basis. So you’re not just waiting for problems to activate this process, but you take the great vision of your life, and you start to design a way of life around that visionary vibration, around the qualities of feeling and being, and the proactive actions of doing. So that you are now thinking and feeling, walking and talking, in a way that is integrity with this larger vision. In other words, most of your attention is focused on the finish line and racing around that track, versus more and more of your attention focused on the wall that is always just out of your periphery that you could crash into any moment. Most of your attention is focused on the road, on the way, on the finish line, on the vision. That becomes the way of life, and you’re just going around and around and growing and winning the race of your life on a regular daily basis. That becomes a way of life, and if you want to have more in depth understanding of how to do that, I highly encourage you to check out the podcast in here that talks about the LIFT practice, which stands for Living In the Feeling Tone of your vision. That allows you to really take this to the next level.
There’s another level to which this is very valuable. If you’re a coach, a healer, a teacher, or a parent, even a friend of someone, when a friend or a child or a client comes to you, and they’re stuck in the problem, or a spouse, one of the worst things to do is immediately try to solve it and give them answers and solutions at that level. They’re not yet receptive or available or congruent. So instead what you want to begin to tease out of them in a subtle way is to move their attention toward a higher, more congruent, more quality state of being. So they might come to you, a child, like, That jerk Steve at school; he’s such a jerk. Maybe the child comes to you who’s had a fight with a sibling, Bobby is such a mean brother. I hate him.It’s like, What did Bobby do? Tell me what Bobby did, or What did that jerk at school do?You can’t judge people. Don’t talk about those people like that. All of those are adding fuel to the fire. It’s resistance, and they won’t be able to hear it, or they’ll just feel unseen, unheard, unloved, and they’ll rebel. Instead, you move them slowly, and sometimes creatively and dramatically, into being solution oriented or being receptive. You start with, Wow. You’re really upset, aren’t you? So now they feel seen or acknowledged. That’s a step towards them feeling a more positive feeling tone. Do you see that? Then you might say, Tell me what happened. That does bring them back into the problem, but it’s part of them feeling heard, which is like oxygen to a person who’s struggling. So you really listen. That must have been really hard or really scary, or that must really hurt you when they did that.Yeah. It really did. They kind of take a breath, and you’re like, Honey, I’m so sorry you experienced that. I’m so sorry you’re feeling that. You embrace them, or whatever seems appropriate that they’re available for, and now that’s the next level. Now they feel seen, they feel validated, they feel understood, heard, maybe even loved, and you’ll notice they start to calm down a little bit. They might even say, What do you think we should do about it?
Now, it depends on the situation, but let’s say they’re complaining. Let’s say your child comes to you, or a client, and they’re struggling with some issue, like Look at my report card. Look at, I got a C on there or a D, or I lost a client. I lost one of these people in my business, or I didn’t make enough money this month, or whatever the problem is. You might go, That’s really rough. That’s really hard. I really understand that. Then you might say, Tell me more about your business. You’re just expanding the conversation. They might be like, It’s this kind of a business. We do these kind of things.That’s really interesting. Remind me again, why are you doing this business? What is it about it you love?I mean, it’s my mission, my purpose, to help people or create this kind of product, or make this kind of difference.That’s beautiful. What really inspires you about that? Where did that come from?When I was a kid,or I see people suffering, and I just feel like I can make a difference.Have you made a difference sometimes? Tell me about some of the moments you have.Of course, I’ve got a lot of people that are happy clients.Tell me about it. When’s the last time you really felt like you made a positive difference?You just keep teasing it out. Tell me about what’s working in your business. Whatever. You begin to get their attention focused on, I mean, this is great, and I love this, and I’m passionate about this. You notice them start to breathe, start to relax, start to expand. You feel the energy. You’ve now put them in a more receptive solution state of mind. They are more congruent now energetically, emotionally, mentally, with the place they want to live in, with the place they want their life to go. Do you see? Then you can even go a little further and say, What would be your ultimate vision of this business or of your clientele? Now you extend them to even a grander vision and really get them pumped up and on fire with it. Now from that place you go, So from this place, notice how you’re feeling right now. What’s one thing you could do to grow your revenue this month, or to get a new client? Now from that more receptive place they’re actually more available to their innate wisdom, to their innate genius, to that perfect plan within them. You see that?
Same thing with a child. They’re focusing on that C or that D on their report card, and they’re beating themselves up, or they’re scared of what dad’s going to think, and you’re like, Tell me. Do you like that math class?No. I hate it. It sucks.What about these other classes? Do you like any of your classes?I really like art, or I really like English. I love reading.Tell me more about that. What do you love about that? I’d love to hear. They might resist. They might go, I don’t care about that. What am I going to do about this C?I totally agree. We’re going to figure that out, but I’m just really curious, because I’m trying to help see what else is going on in your school, because there might be a clue there for us to help you discover why that C happened. So I’d just love to know what class you love.I really love English.What do you love about it?I love reading.Tell me about something you’ve read lately that you really love.We just read Tom Sawyer, and Tom Sawyer is so cool. I wish I could be like Tom.Wouldn’t that be fun? How would you be in your life now if you could be more like Tom?I certainly wouldn’t let people tell me what to do, and I would really honor my vision, or I would create something or go on a great adventure.What kind of adventure would you like to go on?It’d be kind of cool if we could go on river trip or something.That would be really fun, wouldn’t it?
You start to get them excited, and then you can expand it. If you could bring this kind of adventurous spirit to your school, to your classes, what would you want to do?I don’t know. I’ve been thinking I’d like to do this or do that. You are growing their awareness of what’s possible. You’re making them connected, more congruent, and now you say, What do you think you could bring that we’ve been talking about, like this Tom Sawyer adventurous? How would Tom Sawyer think about this C on his report card? Tom Sawyer wouldn’t care. He wouldn’t let that C get him down.Tom does sound pretty cool.He’s really cool.So maybe that’s great place you could play and act like you’re Tom Sawyer, and not let it get you down. What else would Tom Sawyer do if he knew that he wanted to bring that grade up? It’s not that big of a deal, but what else might he do?Tom Sawyer would find some creative or adventurous way to deal with it, and on and on and on, until you help the child discover their more receptive congruent place, or the client, or the friend, etc.
Now, if it’s a spouse, a person that is truly your equal, or a friend, and you’re not their parent or authority, and their not your client, it’s a little different in the sense that you’re not teaching them. You’re not there to be their coach or their teacher. You’re there to be their friend or their lover. So you just want to be mindful of that. You can still ask questions that open up and really listen and let them express themselves and feel heard and seen and valued and loved, and sometimes that is enough. If you’re a man, and you’re talking to a woman, most of the time the woman doesn’t even want you to solve the problem. The woman just wants to feel heard and seen and held and loved. Then she’s fine, and she’ll go solve it. There might come a moment where she’s feeling better, she’s feeling loved, and you say, Is there anything else I can do to support you? Anything else you want to talk about to try to solve this? If not, that’s fine, but just want you to know I’m here. She might say, Thanks, I’m really good now. It’s not that big of a deal after all, or I don’t know. If you have any ideas, I’d love to hear them. Whereas if you start right out of the gate with that she’s not going to be able to hear it, because she’s gasping for air, and she needs oxygen. With a man, even though men like to solve things, and I know I’m being somewhat stereotypical, the masculine likes to, the man still wants to feel seen and valued, appreciated and respected. So you really listening to him and validating him and understanding him, and then noticing within the story the things he’s doing good and right and absolutely validating those. That’s going to make him feel back in his power again. That’s going to make him feel good about himself again. It’s going to make him feel good about his relationship, and then there might be an opening. You want to wait for the opening. You might say, Is there anything else I can do to help you? I’m here. I just want you to know that. You might get, Thanks, but I’m good. I got it. He might say, I don’t know. If you have any ideas, sure. Then you can share. Unless that opening comes, you don’t want to be advice giving and counseling and coaching your spouse. A word to the wise. I learned the hard way, because I did so much coaching it was just natural, and also being a man it’s natural for my masculinity to want to solve problems.
You can see how this same idea of bringing yourself or bringing a loved one or a client into a solution state of mind. If you’re a minister or whatever, a manager of a team, the same thing applies. You want to bring people back into a congruent receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are. that’s where evolution happens. That’s where real healing and growth happens. That’s where we have the greatest most resourceful presence of being, and when you bring the attention back there, whatever is truly meant to unfold next now has an opening to do that.
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Do you know that 99.99% of the world is run by the belief that if we could just change conditions, we could become safe, secure, significant and free?
It’s a 180 degrees opposite of what the great teachings taught. The fundamental teaching of Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Lao Tzu, Quan Yin, Shankara were not about improving your human experience in order to be free. They were exactly the opposite.
As long as we’re trying to manipulate the world to be happy, safe or significant, we are slaves, prisoners, ruled over by an empire of human beliefs in lack, limitation, and separation.
Freedom won’t just come to you. It has to be earned by right of consciousness. Jesus taught, don’t try to save and improve your life. Let it go and seek a deeper connection. Buddha taught, do not engage in craving and aversion, which is basically the incessant need to try to get or get rid of it in order to be free or happy (in other words, manipulating appearances and conditions.) Buddha’s whole teaching was based on an idea of the whole false self, that all suffering is based on this part of us that is seeking to manipulate conditions in order to be free.
There’s no freedom in thinking you have to get something or get rid of something, change something in order to be free. That’s not freedom, that’s enslavement. Freedom is an inside job. When you can be in a place of peace, regardless of conditions, you’re really free.
When we drop down a little bit deeper into these life structures – time, health, wealth, work, relationships – you can begin to see how this applies in these areas of your life.
It’s important to understand that all human experience is a relative projection of our limited perception of infinite perfection. Time is a relative expression of eternity. It’s completely relative, bendable and flexible. That’s why if you’re with somebody you really love, an hour might feel like it went by in a minute. If you’re doing something you really hate, a minute feels like an hour. As Einstein described in his theory of relativity, time is relative. It’s just a construct. Eternity is what’s real.
So, if you’re trying to base what’s real and true on what’s in time and space, you’re already completely lost. You’re as far away from as if truth didn’t even exist because time and space are not real. There’s a bigger idea that is infinite and eternal. It’s trying to emerge as your life, as the world right now. That idea is what’s real, not all the relative expressions of it that are sometimes very chaotic, very disturbing and very challenging. None of that is truth or substance. None of that is governed or maintained by Divine life, law or power which means it has no power at all. The only thing governed and maintained by life, law or power is what is true, what is real, what is spiritual – which means it is eternal and unchanging.
You want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures -time, wealth, and health – to move into a greater state of well-being.
You can completely renew and restore each of these structures of your life forever, to the extent that you awake into this truth, because your body, wealth, work, health, and relationships are spiritual, infinite, immortal, eternal ideas and activities that never diminish, that never run out. The more free you get in this truth, you’ll be able to reveal an ever-increasing expansion and capacity in every area.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Greetings, my fellow Emergineers. Derek Rydall, here. It’s just so awesome to be with you again. It’s such an honor and a pleasure to have a chance to just dive in, to dive beneath the surface mind, all the surface tension of the world, all the stuff going on in the world that grabs our attention and tempts us to believe in lack, limitation, fear, and separation. Just take a pause, take a breath, and dive beneath all those appearances, all those beliefs, all the rhetoric, all the inner turmoil, the inner weather and storms, and touch ultimate reality a little bit. Just have a moment to deep dive beneath all the effects, all the old effects. When you look at your life, you’re not seeing the present, you’re seeing the past. You’re seeing what has already happened, what has already been accepted or believed in consciousness and is now projected onto the screen of your experience, like the wake of a boat. The wake of the boat isn’t driving the boat. It’s the energy in the boat presently, in the person steering it.
It’s so easy to be steered around by the wake of our life, to be driven by the wake of our life, which is called appearances and conditions – mental, emotional, physical appearances and conditions. All of that is the wake. It has no actual power or substance. It’s the wake. It’s the evidence in the trail we’ve left from previous thinking and actions. Yet we often have been almost completely hypnotized into looking at all of that and letting that determine where our boats are going to go, and it has no power. It has no real substance. It’s an effect. So, it’s just very important. That’s why we stop and we meditate and pray. We’re not praying to make something happen or to manipulate conditions. We’re not praying to move the wake around. We’re praying to touch reality, but not seek to get anything from it, to be influenced by it. We meditate to touch the reality of our being, to be receptive to this reality, to this unprecedented, unconditional life and substance that has never happened, that has nothing to do with conditions. The Divine, the spirit, God, by whatever name you call it, is not trying to change the world. It’s not trying to make the world better, not even trying to make your life better. It’s really important to hear this, because if God or spirit or Divine intelligence was trying to make your life better or the world better, it would know that there’s a problem. It would see lack. It would see limitation. It would see separation, and as thou see us, so thou be us.
Whatever is known in Divine consciousness is a permanent reality. That’s why it says in the Bible, God’s eyes are too pure to behold inequity, because whatever God knows, whatever Divine intelligence knows, that’s the way it is eternally. Do you understand? If God could know that two plus two might equal three, the whole principle of mathematics would fall apart. So, the Divine intelligence doesn’t know about your problems. It doesn’t know about the world’s problems. In Divine intelligence, there are no problems. There’s only perfect ideas, perfect patterns, a Divine perfect template of infinite, immortal, eternal wholeness, harmony, abundance, freedom and fulfillment. There are no issues, no problems, no separation, no limitation, no birth, no death, and no diminishment. There are no other beings or minds, or bodies to contend or conflict, or compete with. None of that exists in Divine intelligence. All of that exist in time. The time, space continuum is a canvas upon which we’re painting with our perceptions of reality. That’s it. There’s infinite perfection. There’s our relative perception of it and then there’s our human projection onto the canvas of time and space, and we call that human experience. We call that our life.
It’s just a projection of a relative of the infinite perfection. So, we have to take these moments to realize that this Divine intelligence of our being, its real focus and purpose is not to improve things. Its focus and purpose is just to reveal and emerge and express more of its infinite perfection. What that looks like is improvement. It looks like evolution and innovation and progress. There is none of those things and Divine intelligence. There’s only a perfect idea, like a movie already on the film reel. It unfolds to give the illusion of something happening and unfolding. It’s already done. It’s already in the can, as the saying goes. Likewise, as the Scripture says, I know the thoughts I think toward you, saith the Lord, thoughts of good, not of evil, to give you an expected end. So, Divine intelligence already knows how it all works out, and we all win. In the end, we’re all victorious. In the end, we’re all fully awakened, fully alive, totally fulfilled, living and loving and shining to the max.
The Divine intelligence only knows that. It only knows that you’re already whole, that you’re already complete, that you’re already free, that you’re already a perfect idea and expression of itself. That’s all that it knows and sees when it sees you. So, when we pray and meditate and do all the work we’re doing, we’re ultimately not trying to manipulate anything, but to have an awareness of how God sees us, to have an awareness of how God sees the world. In other words, to have an awareness of how this Divine intelligence and reality of our being knows and sees and holds us. That’s why that prayer of awakening I say is, more than I want to fix, change, heal, control, manipulate anyone or anything, I want to wake up to the truth that makes me free. I want to see the way you see.
So, our prayer is never to set things right, which is manipulation, but to see things rightly, which is awakening, revelation, realization. So, I have no intention to talk about any of those, but it must have been a need to be said. It really isn’t the topic, although in a way, it really is, because the topic is all about freedom. It’s funny too, because I look at the topic and the title of this training, of this call, and I was like That’s big enough to drive a truck through.It’s so general. The title is literally Time, Health, Wealth, Work, and Relationship Freedom – The Path of Liberation. I look at them, and I’m like What in the world I’m planning on talking about, besides everything? I understand what I mean now, as I looked at it. I don’t plan these talks out. I let the title to drop in, and then on the day, I open up and maybe take a note or two and see what flows. I understand this. It took me a moment. I had to get back into the space where this arose from. It is very much in a way what I’ve just been talking about even, now that I think about it. So, see, Derek doesn’t always know what the heck he’s doing, but the Spirit always does. So, that’s why I try to do what Ralph Waldo Emerson said and remove my bloated sense of nothingness out of the way of the Divine circuits, because God knows what God had planned. God knows what God wants to talk about.
So, the key here is that– I got to laugh, because it’s just so funny how I did not have any idea why I was saying everything I’m saying, and then the first note I wrote on here was as long as we’re trying to manipulate the world to be happy, safe or significant, we are slaves, prisoners, ruled over by an empire of human beliefs in lack, limitation, and separation. So, I guess, the Spirit knew exactly what it was planning here. So, here’s the thing. There is no freedom in the world. There is no peace or safety in the world. No amount of human improvement will ever make you safe, secure, significant or free. Just let that sink in for a moment, and you may go, Oh, yeah, I know that, because you heard me say it or heard other people say it, but do you understand the implications of that? Do you know that 99.99% of the world is run by the belief that if we could just change conditions, we could become safe, secure, significant and free? Do you know that 99.999% of every legislation and country and product and industry is almost entirely built on and ran by the belief that if we could just make conditions better, we will eventually be safe, secure, significant and free?
So, what I’m suggesting is a thought as radical of an idea as you can possibly imagine. Maybe because you heard me say it before, maybe many times before, it doesn’t sound so radical, but I really want you to let it sink in, because most of what you’re doing in your life is based on a belief that if you could just change the conditions, you’ll be okay. That is fundamentally false. It’s a 180 degrees opposite of what the great teachings taught. The great religious teachings did not teach how to improve your humanhood. Certainly, there were some basic things to stabilize some of the human structures so that you would have time for the deeper contemplation. The fundamental teaching of Jesus, Buddha, Krishna, Lao Tzu, Quan Yin, Shankara – they were not about improving your human experience in order to be free. They were exactly the opposite. That’s why Jesus said, My kingdom is not of this world.That’s why he didn’t say, Here’s how you make your human life better. He said, If you try to save your life, you’ll lose it, but if you’re willing to lose your life for My sake, meaning the Christ or the highest idea of truth within you, then you’ll have life eternal. He said, Take no thought for your life, not the clothes you’re going to wear, the food you’re going to eat or whatever. Don’t worry about any of that stuff. That’s already taken care of. Don’t worry about tomorrow. Today’s problems are sufficient unto today. Tomorrow will take care of itself. Just don’t take anxious thought for anything in the world.
In other words, don’t be a problem solver. Seek first the kingdom of Heaven within you, and all of those things will be added onto you. It actually said, Seek first the kingdom of Heaven and its righteousnesswhich means the understanding of the principles, really understand how this thing called life works. Then, that understanding will breed right action and what the world calls improvement. He also said, You must know the truth and then the truth will make you free. It doesn’t just make you free. Freedom doesn’t just happen, it happens just – meaning it’s lawful and it’s orderly, and it’s based on principle. You have to know the truth, right? If you believe two plus two equals three, it’s not just going to eventually one day dawn on you, except by working through the problem of always lacking, always lacking, always getting short change, and eventually going what’s the truth here? What’s wrong here? What’s going on here? Having a realization that two plus two equals four. Now, you’ve got a knowing, and that knowing instantly changes your experience.
It won’t just happen to you. Freedom won’t just come to you. It has to be earned by right of consciousness. Jesus taught, don’t try to save and improve your life. Let it go and seek a deeper connection. Buddha taught, do not engage in craving and aversion, which is basically the incessant need to try to get or get rid of it in order to be free or happy; in other words, manipulating appearances and conditions. Buddha’s whole teaching was based in an idea of the whole false self, and all suffering is based on this part of us that is seeking to manipulate conditions in order to be free. He said, observe that until it dissolves and disintegrates; in other words, die daily, do not try to save your life, let it go, and then you will touch Nirvana or Heaven or ultimate reality, and you will find that place of equanimity where you are no longer moved or bothered by the world or appearances, and now you will begin to taste real freedom.
There’s no freedom in thinking you have to get something or get rid of something, change something in order to be free. That’s not freedom. That’s enslavement. Freedom is an inside job. When you realize your wholeness and your freedom and your abundance and your safety spiritually and can be in that place of peace, regardless of conditions, now you’re really free. You could be locked up in a prison cell, and you’re free, and you’re in joy, and you’re in peace. So, real freedom, real fulfillment, comes when we stop trying to merely change the world and the conditions. When we drop down a little bit deeper into these different areas, these life structures – time, health, wealth, work, relationships – it’s important that we don’t just take what I’m saying, and then kind of move on in a general sense, but we really look at these areas and think how does this apply in these areas. So, when we look at time, it’s important to understand that all human experience, as I said in the beginning, is a relative projection of our limited perception of infinite perfection. So, there’s perfection, there’s perception, there’s projection, and then there’s protection, which is where we wrap our ego around that experience, and we call it reality. We put a frame around it. We hang it on the gallery of our mind and say, that’s what’s true. That’s you. That’s me. That’s the world. It’s just a gallery of pictures that we put frames around.
So, everything is a relative expression of an infinite perfection. Time is a relative expression of eternity. Time is completely relative, completely bendable and flexible. That’s why if you’re with somebody you really, really love, an hour might feel like it went by in a minute. If you’re doing something you really, really hate, a minute feels like an hour, as Einstein described in his theory of relativity. Time is relative. Time is just a construct. Eternity is what’s real, and eternity isn’t a long time. See, that’s what we do. We think eternity is a long time, because what we’ve been conditioned to do is project our mortal material concept. We think life is material and life is temporal and life is mortal, we project it onto all the spiritual teachings, and that’s why we end up with fundamentalist religions where we think Heaven is a literal place above the clouds, and God is a man with a beard on a throne, and Jesus is literally sitting next to Him, I don’t know what, fanning him, bringing him wine. I’m not sure what people think he’s doing, but this is a material perception of spiritual reality. Spiritual reality has nothing to do with material reality. Material reality is a relative expression of spiritual reality so you can begin to see heavy peeking out and the symbols of what’s true, but you got to be willing to not interpret it materially. You have to interpret it spiritually. Seek first the kingdom of Heaven and its righteousness.
So, time is a relative expression of eternity, which is a state of being now. It’s not a long time. It’s a now-ness that is forever. Even saying forever, we think a long time, but it’s not. It’s when you step out of time, what is left is eternity. It has no beginning. It has no end. You can get a little bit of a sense of it when you think of space and vast space where there’s no planet or stars or anything. The same thing with space. Let’s look at space. Space is a relative expression of infinity. Infinity isn’t a lot of space or a lot of stuff, infinity is like when you think about two plus two equals four…oryou think about the number four. There are literally infinite ways to express four. There’s no end to it. Two plus two, two times two, five minus one, a billion minus 999,999,996. Four is infinite. So, it doesn’t mean it’s a lot. It means there’s no end to its expression. This is true of everything. Behind everything, there is an infinite idea, an infinite pattern, and there’s no end to it. You can imagine numbers ever running out. There’s no end to it. There’s no beginning either. So, infinity is reality. Eternity is reality. Time and space is a relative construct, a canvas. It’s not real. It’s not truth.
So, if you’re trying to base what’s real and true on what’s in time and space, you’re already completely lost. You’re as far away from as if truth didn’t even exist because time and space are not real, but you can start there as a bread crumb and ask these kind of questions, begin to appear and see what’s really here, what’s really trying to emerge. There’s a bigger idea that is infinite and eternal. It’s trying to emerge as my life, as the world right now. That idea is what’s real, not all the relative expressions of it that are sometimes very chaotic and very disturbing and very challenging. None of that is truth. None of that is substance. None of that is power and none of that is real. None of that is governed or maintained by Divine life or law or power which means it has no power at all. The only thing governed and maintained by life, law or power is what is true, what is real, what is spiritual which means it is eternal and unchanging.
So, we want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures so we move into health. What we call health is basically the proper workings of the organs and functions of the body, but that’s not health. I want you to really hear that. That might be the evidence of the consciousness of health, but it’s not health. The body, the organs and functions are not the source of health. Health as a spiritual, eternal quality of being which is wholeness, which is the eternal, indestructible, incorruptible life of God, which is the body of God, the temple of the universe, that’s the real body. It’s spiritual. It has no size. It has no structure. It’s a spiritual idea and activity. The more that’s realized in consciousness, this consciousness of wholeness and oneness, and the activity and the energy of spirit, then that is interpreted as organs, functions, bone, ligaments, tendon, and tissues in a healthy way. In fact, every organ, every action of the body is actually an infinite, immortal, eternal, spiritual idea and activity that has no beginning and no ending, that does not age, that does not diminish, that can never be sick, but because we have a mortal, material time-space bound concept of body, that’s what we experience. We’re not experiencing the body directly. We’re experiencing our mortal, personal, temporal perception of body. When you look down at this physical thing, that’s not your body, that’s your mortal material perception of the body which is actually the body of God which is actually infinite, immortal, eternal, indestructible, incorruptible, it was never born, it will never die, and it can never age. Age is a function of the belief in time. The more you’re out of time, the less you’ll age.
So, we want to continuously seek a greater realization of the eternal unchanging truth of our being, or of any of these life structures so we move into health. What we call health is basically the proper workings of the organs and functions of the body, but that’s not health. I want you to really hear that. That might be the evidence of the consciousness of health, but it’s not health. The body, the organs and functions are not the source of health. Health as a spiritual, eternal quality of being which is wholeness, which is the eternal, indestructible, incorruptible life of God, which is the body of God, the temple of the universe, that’s the real body. It’s spiritual. It has no size. It has no structure. It’s a spiritual idea and activity. The more that’s realized in consciousness, this consciousness of wholeness and oneness, and the activity and the energy of spirit, then that is interpreted as organs, functions, bone, ligaments, tendon, and tissues in a healthy way. In fact, every organ, every action of the body is actually an infinite, immortal, eternal, spiritual idea and activity that has no beginning and no ending, that does not age, that does not diminish, that can never be sick, but because we have a mortal, material time-space bound concept of body, that’s what we experience. We’re not experiencing the body directly. We’re experiencing our mortal, personal, temporal perception of body. When you look down at this physical thing, that’s not your body, that’s your mortal material perception of the body which is actually the body of God which is actually infinite, immortal, eternal, indestructible, incorruptible, it was never born, it will never die, and it can never age. Age is a function of the belief in time. The more you’re out of time, the less you’ll age.
We get down to money or wealth, so we talk about time, health and wealth, wealth freedom. There is no freedom in having a lot of money. That’s not wealth freedom, because you can lose it. The economy can go south. The dollar can collapse. You can have a billion dollars and the value of dollar could go into the tank, and now, what do you have? Your job could go away. You could get fired. You could have a lot of money but then get sued and lost most or all of it. I mean there’s no safety or freedom in physical material wealth. It’s just a fruit of a consciousness of wealth. If you have that consciousness of wealth, which is spiritual and internal, and it’s not based on dollars and fruits and all that, now you’re free. When Jesus said, If you tear down this temple, I will rebuild it in three days, he was talking about the body temple, because he knew that the body was spiritual, not material.
He knew you could never kill the body, but the same thing is true for all of these temples of our life, the temple of wealth, the temple of health, the temple of relationship, the temple of time, the temple of work, or purpose. All of these are spiritual, and the world can tear down the material concept. Time and space can seem to erode and wear down material concepts, but when you’re living in the spiritual temple, in the spiritual reality of your being, you will continuously rebuild it because you’re living in what’s real and the substance of experience will continue to clothe itself based on what you’re knowing and holding in consciousness. So, you’ll never again fear what the world can do to you. You’ll never again fear what time and space and experience can do because you’ll know that that’s not your source and that has no power, that in three days which is a metaphor for a cycle, you will rebuild. Pull all the fruit off a tree and in three days, otherwise, known as the new season, you will have a whole new harvest of fruit.
You can completely renew and restore every temple of your life, every structure of your life forever when you awake into this truth and to the extent that you awake into this truth, because your body, your wealth, your work, your health, and your relationships are spiritual, infinite, immortal, eternal ideas and activities that never diminish, that never run out and in fact, not only can you completely rebuild and restore anything, that’s why it says, I shall restore the years the locust have eaten. You will not just restore every temple, every area of your life. The more free you get in this truth, you’ll be able to reveal an ever-increasing expansion and capacity in every area so that with every passing year, you not only restore your body but you have more strength, more health, more power, more stamina, more athleticism, more flexibility and agility. You don’t only restore your mind but you have more genius, more brilliance, more intelligence, more inspiration, more productivity and creativity. You not only restore all the relationships but you have more love, more compassion, patience, understanding, more of depth of intimacy and connection, play and joy, adventure and aliveness in every area from glory to greater glory world without end. This is the description of reality, of spiritual reality.
Freedom can only be had to the extent that you’re living in that reality, to the extent that you’re seeking your freedom in the world through manipulating time trying to manipulate and manage your physical body, trying to manipulate and achieve money and wealth, trying to hold on to or manipulate or achieve the right work or the right relationships. You will never ever have freedom. As the relationship saying goes, when it comes to relationships, Two halves do not make a whole; only two haves make wholeness. In other words, when you come into relationship not to get anything by coming in from wholeness and knowing you’re just there to give and to share to commune, to be in love, not to get love. Then, now, you begin the journey of real freedom in relationship and the real possibility of relationship. As long as you’re trying to get anything, you can never be free because you believe they are the source of whatever you’re trying to get. As long as you’re trying to get anything at work, you’re not going to be free. As long as you’re trying to get anything from anyone or anything in the world, orwaiting for something, or believing you can’t be and do until something changes, all those are signs that you become imprisoned in time and space.
Freedom means letting go of everyone and everything as a source and anchoring yourself in the source, no longer leaning on resource but leaning on the source within you. That is the only place you’ll ever find freedom, safety, security, significance or fulfillment. There is none in this world, but that’s not bad news. It might sound bad at first, but that is what the great masters taught. They didn’t teach how to attract. They didn’t teach how to achieve. They taught that the work is already been done. In the beginning was God and was the Word, and the Word was with God, and all that was made was made out of the Word and God saw it and named it all good. In other words, it’s good. It’s done and nothing was made without the Word. So, only God, only this Divine intelligence made everything. It’s done. It’s done. This Divine intelligence isn’t going to do anything more. It’s not a project in process. It’s done. Life is done. Two plus two exists. It was never created, and it can never be destroyed. Do, Re, Mi, Fa, So, La, Ti, Do – the musical scale exists, and, by the way, it’s infinitely more than those notes, as is our ideas of Math. The true depth and potential of Math and Music, it’s so multidimensional and multifaceted, our human mind could never grasp within its completeness. This is true about everything and everyone, but it’s done.
All real growth and evolution is never ever about adding anything or achieving or attracting or improving anything. It’s always about a greater realization of what already Is, what’s already here – the laws of aerodynamics, the laws of electro conductivity, the laws of buoyancy, the laws of everything that is created everything in our life – already exists and already existed. At the time of Buddha, you could have had flying planes and computers if you had only realized those principles. It’s already done. Your life is done. Your destiny is fulfilled. You’re already whole, complete, perfect, free, fulfilled, living and moving, and having your being in heaven, in harmony, in pure good, perfect love, perfect piece, total bliss and ecstasy and paradise on every level in every way, already here and now and forever. You can never leave it, you can never lose it, you can never earn it or achieve it. You’re it. Tag you’re it.
Now, the work is to have an ever greater realization of what I just expressed. So, it’s not just word. It’s not just theories and thoughts and beliefs, but it’s an absolute undeniable knowingness to the extent that you know what I just said, to that extent where you will be free and to that extent where your life show forth the health, the wealth, the wisdom, the fulfillment, the love, that your human mind has been seeking. So, this is the path of real liberation. This is the path of real Emergence. This is really what Emergence is teaching. It appears on the surface. I draw you in by talking about in some ways making your mind think that Emergence is about making your life better and improving and achieving and all that good stuff, and then once you’re in, and it’s too late, now, I let you see what it’s really about or you begin to discover that yourself. Now, to be clear, it does ultimately lead to improvement and to better life but it leads to in a way that perhaps we have not been conditioned. The other thing is in all of this, I’m not saying you don’t need to and shouldn’t be doing things in the world.
The fact that it’s already done and the fact that you’re already it, it doesn’t mean that you’ll just sit around and wait. Remember. It doesn’t mean you don’t get in the game and play. It doesn’t mean you don’t still work with your thoughts, your feelings, your conversations, your actions, but now, you’re not doing all of that to make it happen. You’re doing all of that to create the conditions that make what is already happening welcomed, okay? So, just because the music is already broadcasting, it doesn’t mean it’s just going to play over your radio. No. You have to do the work of tuning that dial into the station. Just because it’s already here, it doesn’t mean it’s going to just broadcast. I mean it’s already broadcasting, it doesn’t mean it’s going to become manifest. So, you still have to work with all the structures and you definitely want to be a good steward of everything you have, your body, your mind, your business, your relationships, but fundamentally, you’re doing it to create ever greater congruence and integrity, to speak and think and walk and talk and show up ever increasingly as if it’s already done, it’s already happening, I’ve already got it all, I’m whole, I’m complete, I’m free, and I’m fulfilled.
So, this is your charge. This is your opportunity. I invite you on this path of true liberation. I hope this has served you and supported you and inspired you. It may be even stretch you a little bit. Just take a moment and just drop down into this field of grace as we throw ourselves wide open to the power and the presence and the love of God – this Divine intelligence that governs everything and created everything out of itself and this presence that is not only in everything but everything is in it, meaning that everything’s true nature is Divine, whole, complete, and perfect. There is nothing outside of our other than the Divine. Being infinite, you can’t have an infinity plus. Being omnipresent, you can’t have something that’s everywhere in its fullness and have something somewhere else. Being omnipotent, all powerful, you can’t have another power outside of omnipotence. Being omniscient, all science, all knowing, all truth, you can’t have another truth, or another mind or another intelligence. There’s only one.
There’s only one. Its nature is pure love, goodness and perfection, wholeness and completeness. It is the only thing going on. It’s going on here and now, but we must know it consciously and that’s what we’re doing right now. We are knowing the truth, that the truth will make us free. We’re developing a consciousness of truth, instead of a consciousness of the relative perceptions. We’re knowing that right where each and every individual here is is all of the power and the presence and the love of God, all of the infinite God head, all of the infinity of the universe rushing and pouring and expressing each unique perfection as each individual here and as every one that this community is connected to. All that is going on is a never-ending unfoldment of Divine perfection, abundance, wholeness, completeness, freedom and fulfillment.
This word that I’m speaking is the vibration is the wholeness and freedom and it dissolves and disintegrates all frequencies, beliefs, concepts, identities that are not true, that are not congruent. It activates the realization in everyone here of who they really are and why they’re alive. It activates the power and the potential and the wisdom and the guidance and the direction and the compelling right action. It activates the momentum, the energy, the strength, and the courage in everything that is needed to make them a congruent place where the fullness of life can now put itself on display and prove that all that there is is God, all that there is is love, all that there is is oneness. Prove it, and prove that all error, all fear, all lack has no power over us whatsoever. We are now ever greater instrument to prove this in our individual and collective lives, to demonstrate a destiny of greatness. It’s unfolding now. As whatever needs to be spoken or heard, taught or done, everything is working together for our good. All is well, and so it is, now and forever. Amen. Just take a moment and feel that activation.
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You came to this planet to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what you are.
You’re here to paint your unique masterpiece of love, life, and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others can see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness, joy, and genius.
Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn.
That’s where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you – all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. You’re not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world can’t give you anything, except for a reflection of where you’re living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give.
There’s a unique way that shows up for you. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer! Although not everybody is living the Divine purpose within their profession, we all came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of our true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same.
What didn’t you come here for? You didn’t come here to shop, to win an argument, to prove anything to anybody else, to win anything, to get a job even. You didn’t come here to get anything, to get a bunch of money, or real estate, to defeat the enemy, to get approval, validation or love from anybody.
That doesn’t mean that you don’t get a job, get into a relationship, don’t get a new car, or you don’t get some clothes. That’s all beautiful and wonderful, but you’re not here to get those things.
You get into the relationship so that you can have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are and give more of the love within you.
You get that job so that you have an opportunity to awaken to who you really are through the challenges and things, and to give of your giftedness.
You get a new car so that you have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places you need to give of your love and give of your gifts.
You get a new home so that you can create a sanctuary and an environment where you can love each other and create, meditate, grow, play, sing, love and release more of your imprisoned splendor.
You go into the lands of the world so you can cultivate, nourish and honor them. To create works of art and structures that support the awakening, loving , playing, sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, or personal development, we’ve been conditioned to believe that all of these things we need to get is the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money you want, the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if you get all that you’ve won the game. No.
You’ve only just begun it. That’s not the end result – that’s the preparation. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life, your true gifts and your true purpose.
There’s some simple ways to test this: Can you take any of that stuff with you when you leave this planet? If you can’t take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you can’t take the money, the houses, the cars, that person, then what can you take?
You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom you’ve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals that will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity, loyalty, service, love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
I invite you to contemplate this: once you leave this earthly place, will what you’ve done in this moment, what you’re striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind?
As you begin to discover your ultimate purpose, some of the things you thought mattered, will fall away.
Your values will begin to shift, and it won’t be as important to do certain things. It won’t be as important to acquire stuff you don’t really need that aren’t truly opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give your gifts. It doesn’t mean you can’t have a big screen TV. You can have a home theater, but you’ll have a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence. Oh what a joy it is to be with you again. Just more and more I feel so happy when I get a chance to share this journey of Emergence with you, and just support you and see you and give my gifts. Its a real sign that youre on the right path when, regardless of whats going on in your life, you get to do that thing that you love you feel good. You know that youre doing the thing youre meant to. Just like when the tree gets to produce of its kind, its in bliss. Its such an honor and a pleasure to be here with you.
Today were talking about what you really came here for, and what you didnt. By the way, if you havent had a chance to sign up for Emergence, this podcast on iTunes, its absolutely free. There is about 100 episodes or trainings in there, but we archive them on a regular basis. I would invite you to sign up. Its free. Takes about a minute or less. Download all the episodes so that you own them now, and you wont lose any of them. Youll also be getting new ones every week. If you like what youre hearing, please share it with a loved one, a friend. One of the greatest gifts we can give someone else is education or inspiration. So what you really came here for, and what you didnt. Let me just start right out of the gate by telling you absolutely what you didnt come here for. What I mean by here I dont mean to this podcast; I mean to this planet. You did not come here to get a sale at Macys or Walmart. You did not come here for that Fire sale. You did not come here for Black Friday. No matter how much you like to shop till you drop, you did not drop into this dimension to shop. Thats the first thing I want you to know you didnt come here for. Im going to talk mostly about what you didnt come here for.
What you came here for, what we call came here for, is to use this dimension of duality and contrast to awaken more fully to who and what we are, and to paint our unique masterpiece of love and life and light onto the canvas of time and space so that others could see it and be liberated and awakened to their own greatness and their own joy and their own genius. Whether you call it painting on the canvas of life or performing your Divine drama on the stage of life, you came here because you have gifts to bring, and you have something to learn. Thats where the very definition of human comes from, a Sanskrit term that means the dispenser of Divine gifts. As we talk about in the Emergence work, and really what all the great masters taught, everything is already within you, all the power, presence, life, and love of God, all that you could ever want. Youre not really even in the world, the world is in you. You have everything, and so this world cant give you anything, except for a reflection of where youre living in consciousness and a place or an opportunity to grow and to give. Thats it. Thats what you came here for.
Now, theres a unique way that shows up. It might uniquely show up as a writer, teacher, dancer, singer, author, healer, doctor, plumber, parent, architect, politician, lawyer. Yes, even a politician and lawyer. Im sorry to tell you, thats also a Divine purpose. I dont know how many are actually living the Divine purpose within their profession, but you came here in a very unique and creative way to realize the life and the light of your true being and to shine it in a unique, gifted way that helps others to awaken and to do the same, and to have fun. Its a fun, dynamic, dramatic dimension of contrast and light, but thats what you came here for.
What didnt you come here for? Again, you didnt come here to shop. Nothing wrong with shopping, but weve kind of turned shopping into entertainment. You to the airport now, and a lot of airports are really just shopping malls surrounded by planes. As one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, says, People are walking around looking for something to buy. Here what I said. Theyre not walking around to find the thing they really need. That creative impulse to give and share the gift of their life has been aberrated and corrupted into an energy of trying to get and acquire for the sake of acquiring. How many people have things in their closet with the tags still on them? Boxes in their garage that have never been opened from Amazon or the Home Shopping Club or whatever? The trash heaps of our country and the world are filled with this stuff. You didnt come here to shop.
You didnt come here, also, to win an argument, except the argument within yourself. Whenever youre in an argument, when youre in a situation, and youre so committed, like life or death, to prove youre right and that theyre wrong, to somehow exact revenge, you didnt come here for that. You didnt come here to prove anything to anybody else, except to prove the principle of truth, to prove that God is all there is, or love is all there is, or love will win the day, but not to prove that youre better than them or theyre less than you, or even to prove theyre better than you, which sometimes we unconsciously do. You didnt come here to prove any of that. You didnt come here to win anything, except the argument within your own heart, which is to convince yourself that you are one with the One of all life, the Source of all creation, that you are whole, complete, and beautiful and abundant and worthy and necessary. You came here to convince yourself of that and to prove that, and then to help prove it for everyone.
You didnt come here to prove that youre better than anyone. You didnt come here to prove someone else is wrong. You didnt come here to win a court case. You didnt come here to get a job even. You didnt come here to get a bunch of money. You didnt come here to get a bunch of real estate. You didnt come here to defeat the enemies, except the enemy within your own household, which is the only place it exists, within your consciousness. You didnt come here to get anything. You didnt come here to get approval or validation or love from anybody. No. You didnt come here even to get love. You came here to give it, because infinite love is within you.
That doesnt mean that we dont get a job, we dont get in a relationship, we dont get a new car, we dont get some clothes. Thats all beautiful and wonderful, but were not here to get those things. We get into the relationship so that we can have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are and give more of the love within us. We get that job so that we have an opportunity to awaken to who we really are through the challenges and things, and to give of our giftedness. We get a new car so that we have the transportation in this dimension to travel to the places we need to give of our love and give of our gifts. We get a new home so that we can create a sanctuary and an environment where we can love each other and create our things and meditate and grow and play and sing and love and release more of our imprisoned splendor. We go into the lands of the world so we can cultivate them and nourish them and honor them and create works of art and structures that support the awakening and the loving and the playing and the sharing and the healing of our soul.
No matter what it is, whether its relationship, health, wealth, work, personal development, all of these things that we have been conditioned to believe we need to get, that thats the end game. The end game is to get and acquire the perfect home and the perfect job and the amount of money we want, and the right relationship, and the piece of land. That if we get all that weve won the game. No. No. TranscriptionYouve only just begun it. Thats not the end result. Thats the preparation. Thats the beginning. Each one of those is like a plank in the platform from which now you can launch off from and give of your true life and your true gifts and your true purpose.
Theres some simple ways to test this. Can you take any of that stuff with you? If you cant take any of it with you, does that make any sense that you would have come here to get it? Think about that. If you cant take any of it with you, and you cant. You cant take the money. You cant take the houses and the cars. You cant even take that person. What can you take with you? You can take the love that you activate. You can take the joy and the bliss that you active from giving of your heart and your gifts, being of service. You can take the wisdom youve discovered and developed and activated. Not necessarily the human knowledge, all that you learned about how to sell and make great business deals. That will have no real value in the next dimension, but what you learned in terms of integrity and loyalty and service and love and honor, that translates into any dimension.
Did you really come here to learn how to build rocket ships or do brain surgery or make great deals or master mathematics, or even become a great singer or songwriter? No. Not really. You came here, and as part of your unique journey you master a craft or domain specific knowledge, so that in that area you can shine your light and life and give your gifts, but the gift youre giving isnt just the work of art or that beautiful structure you built, or that computer you designed. No. The gift is what quality of the spirit that particular thing allows to be activated in you and in others. How it supports others in giving their true soul gifts and awakening to their true self. So that work of art is not just a work of art. If youve done it from that deeper place it liberates peoples hearts and minds and spirits, whether its through emotional catharsis or spiritual awareness, and that computer gives them the tools they need to do their work and give of their gifts in the world. You see? When you really start to boil it down, the only thing that really matters, the only thing, is the activation and the discovery of who and what you really are, and the true qualities of your soul, and the full activation of those qualities, the love, the peace, the joy, the inner connection. Thats all that really matters.
Another test you can do is when youre in the midst of an argument or a struggle to achieve or attract or strategies and tactics to win and succeed, you can stop and ask yourself, especially if you feel constricted, contracted, pushy, afraid, angry, you can ask, Will this matter in 20 years? Start there. Will this matter in 20 years? Youre in the middle of a fight. Youre arguing with your wife about the fact that she charged too much on the credit card, or youre arguing with your husband the fact that he stayed out too late drinking with the buddies. Dont get me wrong. Im not saying you dont deal with the mundane things, but when you make it an issue, you make it an argument, you make it a fight, you make it a thing, you got to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? In 20 years will I really care that my wife bought that dress without asking me? Will I really care that my husband stayed out late with the boys drinking? Whatever the case. Maybe thats kind of cliché examples. Do it the other way around. The husband bought that golf clubs that we couldnt afford, and the wife stayed out with her friends really late and didnt call, whatever. Will it really matter 20 years from now?
Again, Im not saying you dont deal with the real issues of the heart. If you have commitments and agreements, and they get breached, and youre afraid, absolutely, but thats this inner work, but its because you want to perfect your loving. Its because you want to have a deeper sense of peace. You want to feel more empowered. Thats what really matters, not the credit card bill or the extra golf clubs, or the fact that he leaves the toilet seat up all the time, or whatever. You want to ask yourself, Will this matter in 20 years? Then you ask yourself, after that, because maybe youll still convince yourself it does, Will this thing right here that Im fighting for or that Im struggling to attain, will it matter on my deathbed? If you really ask with sincerity, you might hear an answer like, Itll really matter, but not for the reason I thought. If I make this about me being right and them being wrong, and I fight, I might do damage to this relationship. I might not have it in 20 years. I might be alone on my deathbed. It matters for that reason. Youll most likely get, No. I mean, think about it. You want to also test this? Think about 20 years ago. Think about some of the things you thought meant everything. Its like life or death that you got that new shiny Mustang when you were a teenager, or the whole world was collapsing around you because she broke up with you, or your parent not letting you go out to that concert, and you hated them and wished they would die. Now you think about it 20 years later, 30 years, 40 years, and you laugh about it, or maybe you kind of feel ashamed about it. Youre like, how could I have thought that mattered so much?
Again, I have to qualify, because theres levels. Its not that theres not value and meaning in all of our challenges. When the young teenagers heart is broken, that does matter. Theres value in the work that that produces, but when we are fighting for our life and fighting and making something life and death and putting all of our energy into acquiring and achieving it or proving it, if we ask these questions we start to loosen our grip, and we start to ask, What does matter in this moment? Its not that Im right or wrong. Its not that I get or dont get. So what does matter? There is something that matters when that teenagers heart gets broken, when mom and dad wont let you go out, or when the person breaks your trust. There is something that matters, a matter of the heart and the soul. Theres something in that for the evolution and growth of your spirit, and ultimately a greater realization of your true purpose and a greater capacity to give of your gifts. There is something that matters as it pertains to that.
So when you ask these questions you can ask, In this moment, did I come to planet Earth in this moment to prove them wrong and prove me right? In this moment, this conflict, this struggling or striving, did I come to Earth for this thing? What did I really come to Earth for in this moment? If this was the only moment I had, I came to Earth just for this moment, because in a very real way thats true of every moment, Then what did I come here for right now. In this argument with my wife, what is the reason I came to Earth as it pertains to this argument? It sure isnt to prove myself right. What good is that going to do me? That would be a silly reason to travel through Universes and galaxies and cross the barrier of time and space, to make her wrong for buying a dress or make him wrong for buying those golf clubs. That would be pretty silly. You start to tap into the real reason you came here, the real reason for each moment, the real goal in each moment, the soul goal, and you start to realize what you didnt come here for.
Now, you can expand this question even further. We said 20 years, the end of your life, on your deathbed, will this matter, the thing youre fighting for or striving for? The next question you ask is, What about when I leave this dimension, and Im in some other dimension? Will this matter? Will these golf clubs really matter? Will this credit card bill really matter? Will any of my debt really matter? Will the fact that I might get a million dollars or $100,000 or $1,000, will that matter when Im flying around in some other dimension? No. Then that must not be the real reason you came for, you came to this moment for. That must not be really what youre here in this moment for. You could be making a deal, but the real reason youre making that deal must not be about the money youre going to get. There must be a deeper truer, purer reason. The more you can be tapped into that and coming from that while you make the deal, now you are in league and in alignment with your souls goal, your souls purpose. You understand what Im saying?
Then you can expand it even further and say, Once you leave this earthly place, will what youve done in this moment, what youre striving for or arguing for, will it matter to the people you leave behind, to the world you leave behind? In other words, if you fight and prove youre right and theyre wrong, once you leave will that have been of value to them? Once you leave, the fact that you managed to make millions of dollars, is that going to necessarily make a difference for the world? It might. If youre earning the money to grow a non-profit organization thats going to then use that money to feed people and help people and educate people so they can live their lives and give their gifts, then if thats in your motivation for attracting or achieving or attaining that, you are more aligned with your true purpose. Do you see what I mean?
Again, Im not saying that any surface activity is, in and of itself, wrong. A fight isnt wrong. A conflict isnt wrong. Acquiring things isnt wrong, but its deep down is the actual acquisition the thing? Is the money the thing? Is the proving yourself right or them wrong the thing? Is there something deeper? The more you can be anchored to that real thing you came here for, which has something to do with awakening to your true potential, your true selfhood, and giving of your true gifts to the world so that others can awaken to their self and give their gifts, thats the ultimate purpose of everybody. Thats really why we all came here, in our own unique ways. One might do it as a banker. One might do it as a plumber. One might do it as a healer. One might do it as an artist, but its not the plumbing and the healing and the banking that we came here for. Its not to get something in that relationship and puff up our ego and make us feel better than or less than. Its this deeper purpose to awaken to our true self, to perfect our loving, our giving, and to give forth of those qualities in a way that helps others wake up and give of their own.
As you expand this you begin to discover, and as you really do that you start to feel yourself losing your grip around this situation. It doesnt mean you wont still have some fear, some anger, some sadness, but at least now youre going to know, what am I meant to do with this fear, anger and sadness based on this new context of what Im really here for? If Im really here to wake up to my true self, which is a unique expression of life and love and God, now how do I work with the sadness, the anger? Do I try to make them wrong? Thats not going to help me realize my oneness with God or perfect my loving, but there is something in here that will. You keep working until you find what that is. Thats going to change the context of that argument. Its going to change the paradigm or the context of that conflict. Its going to change the context of that ambition, until more and more youre rooted in the real reason you came here for.
Some of the things you thought mattered will fall away. Your values will shift, and it wont be as important to do certain things. It wont be as important to acquire stuff you dont really need and thats not really opening your heart and mind and allowing you to give of your gifts. Youll have a bigger vision than your flat screen TV. Youll see that reverse. Most people, unfortunately, have bigger TV screens than the vision for their life. That will begin to reverse. It doesnt mean you cant have a big screen. You can have a home theater, but youll a vision way bigger than that, and the vision will have something to do with truly awakening your heart, your mind, your soul, your creative genius, your loving, and helping others to do the same. Are you getting this?
What did you really come here for? What didnt you come here for? You didnt come here to prove youre right and someone else is wrong. You didnt come to hurt someone, get revenge, acquire a bunch of stuff, a bunch of money, a bunch of titles behind your name. You didnt even come here to get your body in the greatest shape ever. Its okay to do that, but if youre compulsively into I got to lose this weight or gain these muscles or look better, all that vanity, what good is that going to be on your deathbed? What good is that going to be when youre flying around in another dimension with a different body? What good is that going to leave behind for the loved ones in the world that youve left? Nothing.
Again, to put it in context, maybe you did come here to help really learn how to honor yourself through the body and model what good health looks like so that that particular structure is strong and doesnt become a liability. So you have the energy and strength to keep growing and awakening and giving your gifts and teaching others and modeling for others to do the same. Now in that context, the energy you put towards looking and feeling great has real merit. Its in integrity with your emerging soul. So what did you really come here for? When youre in the midst of a conflict, of something youre striving to achieve or attain, ask that question.
Then expand it. Will this matter in 20 years, what I think Im here for in this moment? Will it matter in 20 years? Will it matter on my deathbed? What will I think about it when Im out of this dimension in a completely different one? Will it matter to the people in the world Ive left behind? You want to keep asking and adjusting until your answer is yes. This will matter 20 years from now. This will matter on my deathbed. This will matter when I leave this place, and this will matter for those I leave behind. In some way it will help for the greater expression of my heart and soul and love, and it will help others for their greater expression of that too. So that were creating a world that works for the highest good of all, that reflects more and more the ultimate nature of reality, of love, of wholeness, and when thats the answer you consistently can give, you know youre on track, youre on purpose, and youre living your purpose.
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Today we’re talking about your big, bold audacious goal, and how to create instant momentum that catapults your life.
That’s a fun agenda, right? Just the idea of having a big, bold audacious goal gives you energy, it gives you juice! Maybe it also brings up a little nervousness or overwhelm. You could be wondering: “Can I really add a big, bold audacious goal to my already busy life?”
Meaning is the oxygen to our souls, and having a deep meaning for why you’re living, why you’re getting up every day, and why you’re going through your day, is significant.
For instance, in the concentration camps they found that if people didn’t have something worthy to live for and to hold on for they had a much lower rate of survival.
Having a vision is life itself. Life exists to fully express itself, and because life is infinite, it’s like life wants to have a big bang every moment, and in a very real way it is. This incredible explosion of possibility, energy, power and creativity is the nature of life always in this moment. In this moment there’s always a big bang trying to happen, individually, collectively. Life is just bursting at the seams with so much power, intelligence, joy, and creative energy, that it could never be fully satisfied. It says in Proverbs, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.”
Another verse found in the bible is, “You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours.”
There are three pieces to that spiritual equation: “You are my beloved”- it’s saying that life loves you, always and forever, unconditionally, no matter what. “In whom I am well pleased” – requires you to be willing to be an instrument of life, of God, truth, love, and when you’re willing to be that instrument, now the presence says, “I’m pleased. Why? Because I get to be more of myself as you, which is why the I that I Am exists.”
It’s why life exists. Life doesn’t exist merely to solve problems, in fact not at all. Life doesn’t exist to try to get somewhere. Life exists so that it can express its infinite nature. As you say yes to the fullness of live moving through you and are willing to commit to living at the highest, fullest level, now life, God, this presence says, “In you, I am well pleased.”
Then the third piece then kicks in, which is “…all that I have is yours.” Meaning, like the king of a great kingdom is looking at his daughters and sons and wondering, “Who do I give my full inheritance to? Who do I put on the throne?” It’s the one that’s actually going to do something with it. Not the one that’s over here just kind of kicking back and eating grapes and enjoying all the fruits, but not really doing anything about it, but the one over here who’s got a big vision; who’s going to go out there and make a difference, make an impact, and use all of the riches of the kingdom to fulfill and carry on a great mission.
Life is kind of seeing you that way. When you’re willing to have a big audacious bold goal, a vision for your life that really juices you up, you become a bigger channel for which more power and energy can flow through and as you.
It’s like if a tree is not bearing fruit on a branch that branch gets cut off so that it can support all the branches that are bearing fruit richly. It’s a principle.
In order to create instant momentum with your big, audacious goal, there’s some basic things that have to be in place; a checklist. All seven pieces need to be in place:
- Have a clear, compelling goal,
- that is rooted in your vision and values,
- with a strong why,
- heal the why-nots,
- have a real plan/schedule,
- have accountability,
- leverage yourself,
- and finally, be fully committed – all in.
You can’t jump to a bigger audacious goal if you don’t have these basics. This has to be a priority and an inner intention. It can’t be something you’re going to wait for next week.
For the full explanation of all the seven points and to support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
To Your Emergence!
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Derek
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, my fellow Emergineers, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence.It’s great to be with you. It’s always so great to be with you, and just to feel your energy, to plus into this vortex of conscious individuals that are committed to really growing and changing and making a difference in their life and in the lives of others. It’s really a sacred group. It’s a sacred gathering, and I don’t ever want to take it for granted that I get this opportunity, not so much just to be the teacher in it, but to be just part of it, to be part of a group of people that are actually conscious and committed to growing and changing and healing and evolving and making a real difference in the world, whether it’s the world of their family, their community, their organization, or the larger planetary community. It’s such a blessing, and I think if you guys look at your life there’s not a lot of places where you have that, where you can come together with likeminded souls that are speaking the same language.
If you do have that other places, awesome, and if you don’t, we definitely want eventually to create a way of life that includes more and more of that kind of relationship, connection, and community. So that you’re surrounded by the people that represent who you deeply are and who you most want to be and where you want to go. I’m just feeling that gratitude of what a sacred group this is and what a blessing it is to be connected to you all and to come together like this. So I invite you to feel the gratitude and the gift that that really is, because there are a lot of people wandering around in the world that have a seed of something really powerful in them, and they don’t have the environment that’s cultivating it. They don’t have the people that are recognizing or supporting it, and that’s why a lot of those gifts sort of die on the vine, the fruit never comes to fruition, if it ever even grows at all. What a blessing this is.
Today we’re talking about your big, bold audacious goal, and how to create instant momentum that catapults your life. That’s a fun agenda, right? We all feel sort of energized by the idea of having a big, bold audacious goal, and just notice even thinking of that that the idea of having that kind of gives you energy. It gives you juice. Maybe it also brings up a little nervousness. Maybe for some of you it brings up a little bit of overwhelm, like can I really add a big, bold audacious goal to my already busy life? If you just feel into that, the idea of having something like that to live for gives you juice. It gives you energy. Meaning is the oxygen to our souls, and having a deep meaning for why you’re living and why you’re getting up every day, and why you’re going through your day, it’s significant, and that’s also why it says in Proverbs, Where there is no vision, the people perish. In the concentration camps they found that if people didn’t have something worthy to live for and to hold on for they had a much lower rate of survival.
This isn’t just a clever idea that we have, a big vision or a big goal that plugs us in. This is life itself. Life exists to fully express itself, and because life is infinite, it’s like life wants to have a big bang every moment, and in a very real way it is. This incredible explosion of possibility and energy and power and creativity is the nature of life always in this moment. In this moment there’s always a big bang trying to happen, individually, collectively, because life is just bursting at the seams with so much life, so much power, so much intelligence, so much joy, so much creative energy that it could never be fully satisfied, and that’s why wherever life finds a willing instrument who’s willing to really go for it, who’s willing to let life put itself on display, it’s like just imagine life is like waiting on its tiptoes, We got one. There’s one who’s really saying yes to their yes, who’s throwing away all the limitations and just saying, let’s go for it. Let’s be all in. Let’s just prove that anything is possible. Life is like, We’re going in. We’ve got one.
In the Bible, when it says, You are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours.There’s three pieces to that equations. It’s really a spiritual equation. You are my beloved. It’s saying that life loves you, always and forever, unconditionally, no matter what. In whom I am well pleased, requires you to be willing to be an instrument of life, of God, of truth, of love, and when you’re willing to be that instrument, now the presence says, I’m pleased in you. I’m well pleased. I love you no matter what, but now I’m well pleased. Why? Because I get to be more of myself as you, which is why the I that I am exists. It’s why life exists. Life doesn’t exist merely to solve problems, in fact not at all. Life doesn’t exist to try to get somewhere. Life exists so that it can express its infinite nature. So you are my beloved; you’re loved unconditionally, but as you say yes to the fullness of live moving through you and are willing to commit your life to living at the highest, fullest level, now life, God, this presence says, In you I am well pleased.
Then the third piece then kicks in, which is all that I have is yours. Meaning like the king of a great kingdom is looking at his daughters and sons and wondering, who do I give my full inheritance to? Who do I put on the throne? It’s the one that’s actually going to do something with it. Not the one that’s over here just kind of kicking back and eating grapes and enjoying all the fruits, but not really doing anything about it, but the one over here who’s got a big vision; who’s going to go out there and make a difference, make an impact, and use all of the riches of the kingdom to fulfill a great mission and to carry on the great work and the great mission. Life is kind of seeing you that way. When you’re willing to have a big audacious bold goal, vision for your life that really juices you up, that is no holds barred, then life is like, We got one. I’m well pleased in you. Now let’s funnel more power, more energy to this individual.Again, it’s like if the tree’s not bearing fruit on a branch that branch gets cut off, so that it can support all the branches that are bearing fruit richly. So it’s a principle.
We already know, if you’ve been listening for a while, there’s some basic things that have to be in place, and it’s a good checklist. It’s kind of like a pilot checklist, just to make sure you’ve got all these things in place around your vision, your goal. You’ve got to start with this. You can’t jump to a bigger audacious goal if you don’t have these basics. Obviously, number one is you’ve got to have a clear compelling goal or vision. You got to have something that is clear. If it’s still not clear, you can’t just jump to some big audacious version of it, because you don’t even have clarity yet. If it’s not clear, that has to be a priority. It has to be a priority today. It can’t be something you’re going to wait for next week. It’s got to become a priority, an inner intention. I remember when I wasn’t clear, and I reached a turning point. I would go every single day to the bookstore, at a time when bookstores were prevalent, and sit there with a pile of books around me on purpose and goals, and I would read, and I would journal, and I would meditate. I would that almost every single day, until it started to break through and have a level of clarity. You need that.
Number two, you need to make sure that vision, that goal, is rooted in your core values. It’s rooted in what you deeply, deeply want to be, want to represent, what really matters to you most, and in a vision. A goal that’s not linked to a vision is potentially either mediocrity or just the fulfillment of some parental fantasy or peer pressure. So you want it to be linked to your deepest heart’s vision and values, which in and of themselves are not based on survival, comfort, or convenience. If it’s a goal and a vision that’s based in I just need to make money, or I just need to look good, I need to be significant, it’s survival, or it’s comfort, or it’s convenience. I want to have enough money to just travel a lot. It’s not that those aren’t valuable and important, but those aren’t your core values. Your core values are something that is ultimately independent of whether it works or not. Do you understand what I mean? It’s about who am I really? What do I really stand for? What do I really represent? What do I really want to leave as a legacy? If I already had the name, the fame, and the fortune, who would I be then? What would I do then? Let me build my vision and my mission, and ultimately the goals that come from that, out of that position, out of that value system.
Then you need to have a strong why. You have to develop, consciously develop, and anchor in why you’re doing what you’re doing. As many strings you can attach to that, the better. Once you’ve got it rooted in your core values, then you can anchor it in other things. Obviously, to leave a legacy for your children, because of all the people you’re going to help, and you really allow yourself to see and visualize and feel the impact and feel the cost of not doing it and feel all the ways it impacts. You can literally go through every life structure: health, wealth, work, relationship, spirituality, service, etc. and really see how you going for this positively impacts all those areas. So you have a strong why. Then you have to heal your why knots. In other words, it’s these places where it gets knotted up in you, the values conflicts, the shadows, the limited beliefs. You have to be conscious of what’s blocking you, what’s stopping you, what’s scares you, what’s causing you to not be all in. You don’t really have free will and real choice until you have an expanded awareness of what’s driving you. You have to do some work around the why knots, so that you can untie the knots and really have a strong uninhibited why.
Then you need to put that into a real plan. You have to reverse engineer that big vision into a specific yearlong goal, or whatever the time period you’re focusing on, and you have to make it real. A vision without a plan is a fantasy. I know I say this over and over, but I also know that when I talk to you guys a large majority of you still don’t have a real plan. You don’t actually have a real plan. You have it in your head maybe. You have some ideas and goals and things you want to achieve, but you haven’t actually written it down and put it into a real plan. If somebody’s going to build a house or build a building, they don’t just go, I have this idea for this building, or this train station, this car, or whatever, and I’m thinking today let’s kind of play around with the paint color, whatever. No. They have a very real blueprint, a very real plan. If you look at anybody that’s achieved anything of significance, that’s almost always the case.
Eventually, as you’ve really embodied a way of life, you can get away with less planning in some cases, because it’s just who you are. You’ve built the habits, and you just know what you’re going for. Then ultimately, if you truly are awakened, and you’re so tapped into the Divine plan that you don’t need to write it down, it’s just living you moment by moment, but let’s be honest. Probably none of us are there yet. I know I’m not. If you are, please let me know, and I’ll let you teach a class on planning, on being awake. Most of us aren’t there yet, so we have to use these tools to anchor ourselves. Remember, I use the analogy of the plant. It’s growing. It needs a little structure around it to hold it up straight and true, so that it grows in the right way, until it’s strong enough to hold itself. A plan is that kind of a structure.
Then we need to also really put it on our schedule. Again, surprisingly, few people ever do this. They have a vision. They have a goal. They have a plan, and it’s nowhere to be found on their calendar. What’s on their calendar, if they even have a calendar at all, maybe the appointments for doctors, dentists, kids to their practices, and/or their work. They just know they’ve got to go to work 9-5, whatever the case may be. There’s a lot of resistance to having a real plan and a real schedule, because they don’t want to be blocked. They don’t want to be hindered. They don’t want to be limited. The irony is that you are profoundly limiting yourselves when you don’t give yourself structure. As one of the great composers, Stravinsky, said, I thank God for my limitations, for it was within them that I found true freedom. Some of the greatest creative artists understand the value of structure. Having that structure actually allows them to be free and create within that structure. Whereas without it it’s just all over the place, and they’re actually less able to productively create something real and specific. I know I keep hitting these points over and over, for those of you that a part of this community, but it’s because you guys aren’t doing it. Some of you aren’t. I know that without that you’re going to keep struggling, in most cases.
Then you have to create real leverage. So you’ve got the structure. You’ve got the plan. You’ve got it on your schedule. You’ve got to have leverage, meaning accountability partners, other things set up in your life that hold you accountable. If you don’t go to your job, you will get fired, and you won’t get paid. That’s called leverage. If you don’t sit down and write your book today, what’s going to happen? Nothing immediately. You might feel a little bad, and then you’ll go watch some TV or have a drink or a smoke or a pint of Haagen Dazs, and you’ll forget about the fact that you feel unfulfilled and sad that you didn’t do what you said you were going to do. There’s not a direct, obvious consequence, and then the mind is designed to prevent you from really growing and changing, so it’s really good at helping you not feel the consequence. We have to build that into our life. We have do that. If you’ve decided you’re going to write that book or build that program or create that website or create that practice or fill it with clients, you must have real targets and build into your life real accountability and leverage.
That’s one of the reasons you’re in this group, and you raise your hand, and I answer your questions is so you can be seen. So that you can be seen that you’re doing it or not doing it, and without judgment you get motivated to do it. There is a bit of public shame and public guilt that’s healthy. If you’ve said you’re going to do something, and you don’t do it, you should feel guilty about it, because that’s actually a signal that is telling you you’re not in integrity with yourself. That’s healthy guilt. So we don’t want to subvert that. We need that, until we’ve built the habit. So you don’t let it be something that takes you down. I’m terrible; I didn’t do this. You go, look, there’s that signal that I’m out of integrity. Let me be visible. Let me be humble. Let me acknowledge it. Let’s not hide anymore, so that I can feel the burn of not living up to my potential and not following through on my commitments.
So then that goes to the next level. We have to have a real commitment. Not a hope, not a wish, not merely an intention or a prayer, not merely an interest. Not I’d really like to do this; I think that’d be really great to write that book or launch that business or program. No. We have to be all in. The same way if you gave birth to a child or were pregnant with a child, you wouldn’t be like, I’m kind of interested in a child. I think that would be kind of cool. We’ll see how it goes. No. You’ve got to be all in with that new baby. You can’t some days just kind of ignore it, not think about it. You certainly want to when you’re a parent, but you can’t. You’re committed to raising this child. This thing that’s trying to be born in you, your dream, your vision, your goal, you have to be as committed to it, or it just will most likely not happen.
We’ve got to be really honest with ourselves about that. If we don’t have a real goal or vision, if we don’t get clear, if we don’t write it down, if we don’t create a real plan and a real schedule, and then real commitment, it’s probably not going to happen. We have to feel the reality of that. I can tell you, from experience, let’s just be honest. It’s hard enough to achieve our potential even when you have all these elements, because of the inertia of the world’s beliefs and our own stuff. If you don’t have these structures in place, it’s like the old saying, a failure to plan is a plan to fail. It’s literally you’ve got a plan to not succeed, if you don’t have a plan, and if you haven’t put these pieces together.
We have to have all seven of those pieces: a clear goal, compelling goal, rooted in our vision and values, with a strong why, heal the why knots, have a real plan, a real schedule, have accountability and leverage on ourselves, and be fully committed. All in. That means we’re going to have consistent action, ideally on a daily basis in some way, even if it’s just a few minutes here and there, and we’re going to follow through to completion. So we don’t start off writing our book and go, I hope I end up writing a book; that would be so cool. That’s like a basketball player heading down the court, or a football player heading down the field, and going, I’m kind of interested in making a goal. That would be pretty cool.They are all in. It’s like a honeybee. All they see is honey, and they go right to the place where the honey is. We have to ultimately be that committed to our vision, to our goal. We’re not hoping. We’re not wishing. We don’t have a wishbone; we have a backbone. We’re all in. This is the fundamental framework for achieving anything of merit or of value and making real progress and having real momentum.
There’s another element to this that helps it become that big, bold audacious goal and really can jumpstart our juice and our momentum and give us a quantum leap. Some of you felt it when I said in the beginning to imagine that. It kind of pumps you up a little bit. You feel this energetic jolt. What this means is when you’re focusing in on the goal and the vision, really the big vision or the big goal for your life, is you want it to be what I call the 100% dream or the 100% goal. For example, maybe you want to get in good shape. So your goal is to lose 20 pounds, 10 pounds, or get in great shape. That’s kind of interesting, but if instead your goal was I’m going to run a marathon. If you’re not interested in that, that wouldn’t be a good goal for you, but maybe you are. For me, as an example, just getting in physical fitness, in and of itself, isn’t that compelling to me, but there’s something within me that wants to prove a level of the capacity of the body that I’ve never experienced before. There’s this dream of like being in Navy SEAL shape, and something about that idea. I see this vision of me being able to be a parkour expert, jumping from building to building and flipping over things, like Navy SEAL shape.
Will I ever reach that? I don’t know, but it’s compelling. It’s juicy. It’s audacious. To prove, when I’m 50 and 60 and 70 and 80, to prove that the body is not designed to age and diminish; it’s actually spiritually designed to reveal more health and fitness with every passing year, because it’s infinite. Just like intelligence, you don’t expect that after 10 years of teaching something you’re going to have less knowledge. You expect you’re going to have more. Spiritually the same thing is true with the body. In potential we can have more energy, more power, more vitality, endlessly. That’s audacious. It’s so audacious, and I have certain physical challenges that made me sometimes go, Really? My body’s not necessarily, at least in this present condition, built for a lot of impact and running, so I get pain in my lower back and hips when I run a lot, and I run a lot. I can’t help it. So that seems audacious to me to have such a big goal. When I talk to certain people of a certain age they get pissed off at me. They’re like, You’re so young, of course you’re going to have some goal like that, but wait till you get our age and you start feeling all this. There’s a lot of pressure for me not to have such an audacious goal. That’s how you know you’re starting to tap into something. Like the idea of really creating a world without war, you’re going to get a lot of people that are going to think you’re insane. That’s one example.
You’ve got to come up with a goal. You want to play with your goal, with your vision, to the point where it’s like, I couldn’t imagine a better life. I couldn’t imagine a better vision. I remember one woman who was working on a goal, and she was an actress, and had a level of success, and she wanted to have a starring role in something, or whatever. It was kind of okay. Certainly it would be wonderful to have, but as she kept working on this what she eventually dropped into was, I want to win the Oscar, the Academy Award for Best Actress. It was suddenly this surge of energy moved through her. You know often that you’re on the verge of it when it’s almost embarrassing to admit.
Here’s another one of mine that’s almost embarrassing, but not really. I was at the Adele concert the other day, and it was at the Staples Center, 18-20,000 screaming fans. It was awesome. I couldn’t help sitting there looking at this packed arena with people holding their iPhones on flashlight, like we used to do with lighters, and just this energy of all of these individuals in harmony with Adele, and what it must feel like to be holding the space for such a large audience. I couldn’t help but feel and see the vision of me holding a space for a large stadium full of people. My mind dropped in a couple times, That’s kind of arrogant. You know the kind of stuff the ego will do, but it was like it felt so good. It felt so exciting, so energizing. I had to just surrender to it. That’s like a big audacious goal. I’m going to speak, and included also a level of performance, because I’m also a singer, and my ultimate vision has something to do with me using all of those gifts, so that I’m speaking and teaching and praying and performing, and it’s all blended, almost like a one man show, but transformational. That juiced me up.
Like my big vision of having a conscious multimedia entertainment company, which is a multimedia company which has got books and programs, film and TV, but all funneling this conscious message. I can’t help it. That’s a big audacious goal that won’t let go of me now that I’ve felt it and tapped into it. I’ve had it for a while now, and on an everyday basis I’m not necessarily experiencing that level of expression, but it keeps pulling me. It’s like a giant planet. When giant objects are near each other it creates a gravitational field. So when you have this big audacious goal it creates almost like a gravitational field that pulls you. Like the saying of one of my mentors, Michael Beckwith, The pain pushes until the vision pulls. We want to have such an audacious powerful juicy goal and vision that its gravitational pull on us is bigger than the gravitational pull of our pain. It’s pulling us up while the pain is trying to pull us down, but its pull is much bigger. That’s what we’re looking for. Even when we’re having hard days, weeks, months, challenges in different areas of our life, we just can’t pull ourselves out of the tractor beam of our big audacious goal.
As you look at your own life, what is your equivalent to that? Again, it’s not about big in the sense of quantity. It doesn’t mean instead of a million dollars I need to want a billion dollars, unless that does it for you. Right? There are certain people where the idea of becoming a billionaire is for some reason that’s profoundly motivating, but it could be other things. It’s not about quantity per say. It’s about a quality. It’s about stretching yourself and touching, it’s almost like that same place that you may have touched as a kid when you talk about I’m going to be an astronaut when I grow up. I remember one kid that I used to be in like a preschool thing with. He might have been a little younger than me. His big dream was when he grew up he wanted to be a shark. He was so passionate about growing up and becoming a shark. Like literally the fish, a shark, not an attorney or something. He wanted to be a shark. It was so sweet and cute and powerful. He was so passionate. He just studied everything about sharks. He read every book about sharks, watched everything. If something showed up about a shark he was right there. He probably went on to be like a marine biologist or something, or who knows.
What is that for you? What is that goal, that dream that to admit it is almost embarrassing? That to admit it almost makes you feel guilty or embarrassed or shy or nervous, like you’re going to be judged, or like you’re going to be held accountable to it, or people are going to think, family especially, are going to think you’re too big for your britches? What is that? As you open up to your vision and your dream, on a scale from 0-100, where does it feel right now? I don’t mean how far of it have you actually achieved. I mean, if you imagined achieving it, where is that on the scale for you? Is it a 20, a 30, a 50, a 60, 80? Feel the vision. See the vision. Feel it in your body.
Again, don’t worry about how. The how kills the what if you don’t first have a clear what. Don’t worry about how right now. I mean, how am I going to end up speaking to a stadium full of 20,000 people or more? I don’t know. How am I going to build a multimedia company that is doing blockbuster film and TV and books and programs, kind of like my Oprah, Harpo Studios kind of thing? I don’t know. It’s there. It’s pulling me. What is that? Wherever it’s at right now, just come up with a number. It’s okay wherever it is, but then ask yourself, what would make it 10 points higher? If it’s 30, what would make it a 40? If it’s a 60, what would make it a 70? If it’s a 90, what would make it 100? Sometimes when you get to the higher registers like 80 and 90 you could say, if it’s a 90, what would make it 95? You don’t want to skip over some of the distinctions. Just ask yourself that right now, and keep asking.
Remember, there’s a couple ways you can bring it up the scale. You can think in terms of the other areas of your life. There’s health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, service. So when you ask what would make it whatever the next 10 points higher is, you can look at is there some of those areas that aren’t being included? Maybe you’ve got this great vision, but you’re not including a soulmate or a life partner, and when you think about that, like I’m not only traveling the world and doing these amazing things, but I’m head over heels in love with a soulmate that totally gets me and supports me, and we’re doing it together. Suddenly that jumps up the scale. That starts to feel audacious. It could be within the goal itself you’re not dreaming big enough. Like you want to be enlightened or more conscious, is that really the fullness of what you want?
For me, what’s come through in visions is to be so conscious, so tapped in, that people are spontaneously healed in my presence, that people literally burst into flames spiritually speaking, burning away the old limited patterns and revealing their Christ nature, their Buddha nature, their true nature. I can see them in the crowd just like popping. That’s audacious. I mean, to be able to have the healing consciousness of a Jesus. I used to be very shy and embarrassed, but it would come through as a vision. Again, humanly I can’t do that, but these big visions are bubbling up. Will I ever achieve it? That’s not really as important as the fact that it’s calling me, and I’m saying yes to it, and I’m willing to hold that big audacious vision. It’s pulling me. It’s working on me. It’s working through me. So what is that for you?
Again, it doesn’t necessarily mean you go from I want to be more conscious to I want to heal like Jesus. That may not be your thing, but what is it? It might just be I want to have a family of a certain kind where we deeply and authentically love and see and support each other in relationships and community where it’s deep, rich, totally transparent and authentic relationships. I want to create a community like that. I want to be a writer that is as prolific as Stephen King, whatever. Again, it’s not about you looking out to the world to see what does the world call successful or good. It’s about you looking within yourself and saying, If I could truly have the life I deeply desire, what would that be? If there was one thing within that I deeply desire most, what would that be? That becomes kind of a core focal point. On a scale from 0-100, where does that feel for me? I’m not saying where do you think you are in the journey of achieving it. You’re not looking at your life and going, I’m only about 2% there. No. You’re feeling into the vision that you’re owning and saying, What does that feel like in my body to imagine living that? You’re looking for that goal that just totally lights you up, that vision that totally lights you up, totally turns you on.
Just play with that right now. Give yourself permission to go all the way, to be all in, to feel that twinge of fear or nervousness or embarrassment that you could claim such a big vision, such an audacious, bold goal or vision. Just continue to play with this. It’s okay if you don’t come to the 100% right now, but that’s something you could work with with an accountability partner in the group, and I highly encourage you to. You could reach out to somebody in the group today, if you’re not there yet, and say, You want to play with this big audacious goal process?
Just take a nice deep breath. Just sink down into wherever you are with it, whatever feels good about it. I’m just going to do a little quantum prayer to anchor this in. As we just drop down into this field of grace, just throwing ourselves wide open to the power and presence and love of God, of life itself, this impulse of life to utterly express and explode like a big bang of joy and ecstasy and creativity and abundance in every moment. Life is never holding, never holding anything back from us. We hold ourselves back from life, trying to let it mete out slow, drip by drip, for fear of it utterly consuming us or destroying us, or all the ways the ego defends and protects itself, but we’re saying now, no more. No holds barred. I’m ready and willing and able to be an instrument of the infinite inexhaustible life and light and love of God, of truth, of the Universe. I’m willing to be all that I was created to be. I’m willing to be all that I was created to be. I’m willing. I’m willing. I’m willing. I’m willing the will of God in my life. I’m calling forth my Divine plan to be fully realized and manifested in this incarnation. I do not leave this planet one second before I’ve totally fulfilled and actualized my destiny of greatness to the max.
Any worry, doubt, fear, any limited beliefs, concepts, mental, emotional, physical habits that would hinder, block, delay, or deny the fullness of life as me, that are in any way having me hide and play small and play safe, all of this now is utterly released, dissolved, disintegrated, transmuted back into pure raw energy that I can use for creativity. I’m saying yes to my yes. Yes to the biggest boldest, most audacious vision of possibility, of health and wealth and work, healing, service, spiritual awakening, love, companionship, family, community. I’m saying yes, yes. Use me. Send me. Thy will be done. Not my will, not this little human will that’s about preservation, comfort, convenience, safety, security, but Thy will, which is about the full revelation and manifestation of the Universe as a unique individualized expression called me. I am another way the whole Universe is putting itself on display, and I’m saying yes. Yes. Yes. I’m willing. I’m ready. I’m able. Use me. Send me. Right now. Anything that would slow this down, block this, deny this, delay this, I’m ready and willing now to let it all go. I’m ready to have the clarity of who and what I really am and why I am alive. I’m ready to have the confidence and the courage to commit to it fully. I’m ready to have the focus and the determination to create a real plan, a realschedule, and to really go for it every day in every way that I can. I’m ready. I’m willing. I’m able.
So in no uncertain terms I’m knowing that right where each and every individual is here, individualmeans undivided, undivided from the whole, right where each and every individual is here and in this community, there is an impulse of such power and such growth and healing and breakthrough capacity. There is a big bang trying to happen, and now it can, with ease and with grace, with dignity, on time and in time. Life is saying, you are my beloved in whom I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours. The cattle on a thousand hills. The fullness of the Earth. It’s all yours. It’s all here. It’s all now. Everything is conspiring for our freedom and fulfillment and awakening. Everything is conspiring to reveal such magnificence, mastery, majesty. Right now everything is conspiring to reveal such health, wealth, joy, connection. It’s happening right where each and every individual is here.
It’s breaking out as fresh insights, healings, new opportunities, relationships, guidance, clarity, compelling right action. All of life now is on our side, and we are entirely on our own side. We are a yes, with an exclamation point, not a question mark. We are all in. Use me. Send me. Thy will be done. This is the energy that courses through every dimension of our being and shows up now as progress, as momentum, as vision, as unstoppable power. I just give thanks for this. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you, life. Thank you. It’s happening. Something wonderful is happening. So it is. So I am, and so we are. Amen.
Just breathe and receive that activation.
by sublimity-001-main | Nov 29, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Healing, Podcast, Purpose, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business
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What Should I Do?
This is such an important topic because this question is so often asked.
Sometimes the question is being asked unconsciously – you are doing so much, and feeling burnt out, overwhelmed, drained, or lacking inspiration and passion, and the unconscious questions trying to be asked is, “What should I do… What should I be focused on… What really matters?
The reason so many people can relate to this is because we get so used to being busy that we don’t take care of the real business in our lives and don’t create real productivity. We are so used to reacting, putting out fires and meeting everybody else’s needs and agendas, instead of getting really clear about what our own agenda is. You hear people constantly ask, “How’s it going?” And your reply is “I’m so busy.”
There is something you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s a way you’re designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it comes with unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to serve, etc. It’s all part of the design package. Just like nature, the apple tree is designed to produce the fruit of apples, not to be a pine tree, an oak tree and a rose bush. If the ecosystem started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would collapse.
We have to start unraveling what our own vision and mission is – get back to our core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, and even look at the things that other family, friends, and co-workers are excited about, but may not be the thing for us.
Sometimes there’s things that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem to be kind of going good. You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going here, kid; don’t mess with it. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way?
Just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. I use the example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all messed up, all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you have to keep turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start to do it, and at some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white, and that’s a success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the next side working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could say, it’s not broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You have to mess it up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two sides working. Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next side, the next side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to keep messing up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more focused on the grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.
It doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. “I got another side!” You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving. A lot of times in our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level. Maybe your marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to kind of break things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my work is not just to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable.
Maybe you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the bills. They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you. You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire. You’re not fully alive and passionate, and there’s something more that’s trying to emerge. You might have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to say yes to your bigger yes.
This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo, equilibrium, balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it. How do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t walk, because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward. You’re going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more progressive space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance, catch yourself, rebalance… Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got up, you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually you were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a state of equilibrium and balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of the big things we have to begin to move out of.
One way to begin to do this process of determining what’s important to you now is to make a list of everything you do and everything on your list that you think you have to do. Perhaps it’s the next months’ worth of things, and some of them are things you do all the time, and some of them are things you’re adding to your list over the next month. Look at that list, and start to identify, “If I was guaranteed success, what are the few things that would be a hell yes?”
You can also break the list down into structures, which might be a little easier. You have several life structures: health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, and service. You can break down all the tasks into these categories. What are all the things you’re doing in the category of health? What are all the things you’re doing in the category of wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development?
Then within those categories, identify the two or three most important things that would really take your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are passionate, that are a yes, that are a must. It doesn’t mean they’re not all important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more work. You end up having a better emotional state, and it improves your relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that almost always should be one of your main categories.
As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise, and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do. Start to notice there are certain patterns that keep recurring: “I’m doing this so I don’t look bad… I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty… I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame… I’m doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity… I’m doing this so that that person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent…”
Then notice also, what is it you really want to do? This can even be another list of the things you really want to do, but you’re not doing. You can start to really see what are some of the core patterns driving you. The more you see it, an expanded awareness gives you actual real choice and begins the process of real change.
Now, begin the process of organizing out of your plan all of these other commitments, all of these other things, to the extent that you can. The ones you can’t, immediately begin the journey or the process of renegotiating those commitments, so that you can begin to get them off your list and off your plan. Ultimately, you want a plan that progressively reflects who you are at the deepest core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell yes, your musts, the great, not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic and congruent.
Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know what your bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.
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Derek
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the bestselling book Emergence. It’s just such an honor and a pleasure to be here with you on this journey of Emergence, as we continue this deep dive into understanding and mastering the principles of real productivity, power, and purpose, so that we can live our true purpose and make a mighty impact in this world. We’re talking today about the topic What Should I Do, and this is such a powerful topic. It’s such an oft asked question. I have so many things that I’m doing, what should I pick? What should I choose? Out of all the options, what should I do? Sometimes the question is being asked unconsciously, we are doing so much, and we’re feeling burnt out or overwhelmed and drained and lacking inspiration and passion, and the unconscious question trying to be asked is, what should I do? What should I be focused on? What really matters? What’s really going to move the needle?
We get so used to being busy that we don’t take care of the real business, that we don’t create real productivity. We are so used to reacting and putting out fires and meeting everybody else’s needs and agendas, your inbox is a nice organizing place for everybody else’s agenda, and we just get so used to that and in such a momentum of that, and even sometimes you feel like you matter, you feel like you exist. It’s the great Descartes, I think, therefore I am. Today it would be, I’m busy, therefore I am. So we have a sense of self, a sense of we exist, we have solidity, and we matter, when we’re busy. You hear people constantly, How’s it going?I’m so busy.It’s like a badge of honor, even though on one level we don’t feel great about it, but we feel kind of good about it. It’s this interesting dichotomy, right?
Ultimately, if we really want to live a powerful, thriving, healthy, truly successful life, and by success I mean doing the thing you’re truly designed to do and be, making the contribution and giving the gifts you’re truly designed to give. The apple tree is designed to produce the fruit of apples. If the apple tree was busy trying to be a pine tree and an oak tree and a rosebush, and it was getting all in the other trees and branches and trying to create all these things in its life, even if it managed to eke out a little rose, of course it would be impossible. Nature can’t actually contradict its own nature, but we can fool ourselves. If the ecosystem started to act like that, the entire ecosystem would collapse. There is something you are designed to be, to do, to create, to contribute. There’s a way you’re designed to show up in the world that is uniquely your design, and it comes with unique goals, projects, relationships, tasks, ways to show up, ways to serve, etc. It’s all part of the design package.
Again, mostly our schedules and lives get filled with reactions, with coping mechanisms, with trying to not get hurt or not lose something, or make sure we have enough to survive, or doing all these things for other people, because we have a shadow, and we don’t want to be looked at as being mean or selfish or a bad boy and girl, and we’re afraid we’ll get rejected and be unlovable and be all alone and homeless, broke and die. So like literally that’s the unconscious motivation. We have to begin to identify that compulsive drive, because it’s not healthy. It’s not helping. It’s actually enabling others in our lives to also not be in their power, and it’s completely draining us and burning us out and sapping all of the energy we need to be who we really are, to create the life we’re really meant to live, and to give the gifts and make the difference we’re really designed to do.
So we come back to, what should I do? What should I do with my life? What should I do with my day, my time, my year, my body, my abilities, my energy? What’s the very best use of it? Now, it’s beyond the scope of this particular podcast to get into the idea of vision. Ultimately you have to start there. There’s other podcasts where I talk about how to tap into that, but there is a great vision, a seed of potential planted in the soil of your soul, that you want to begin to really cultivate and uncover and discover, and really ask, what is the great vision of my life? What is the bigger purpose for which I’m here? That’s the 30,000 foot level. Down more at the 1,000 foot level, or the 100 foot level, or the ground level, our life is filled with so many things. For many of us we’ve kind of got to start there and sort of get some breathing room again.
You’ve maybe heard this saying, that the good is the enemy of the great. What that means, for example, is maybe you get invited to go out with some friends, and it seems like a good idea. It might be fun, and you find yourself at the bar or the club or wherever, and you’re sitting there, and people are having fun. It’s not a bad thing to be doing. It’s fun. It’s enjoyable for a lot of people, but you kind of find yourself wondering, what am I doing here? I’m telling myself I don’t have time to exercise, my body’s feeling broken down and tired. I’m not making time for that, but here I am appeasing a friend, or distracting myself by going out. I’ve been saying I want to have more time with this other friend, or I want to be writing my book or building my business, but here I am doing this thing. I don’t really belong here.
Again, it’s not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe it’s like a charitable event, like a fundraiser for the school or something. It’s not a bad thing. In fact, for some people that is their great thing. That is the thing they’re really truly passionate and meant to be doing. So there’s no judgment, but it’s not your thing. You can’t do everything, even every good thing. There is supposedly a passage in the Bible where Jesus is being asked to stay in this one area, and he’s like, No. I have to go to some other town. I have to keep spreading the good news. They’re like, Stay.He’s like, No. I have more work to do. I have to keep moving. There’s lots of things you could be doing. There’s lots of people that could use your help, your service, your support, including your children 24/7, your partner, your spouse, your clients, your friends, your family. There’s lot of things you could be doing to help them all, but that doesn’t mean you should be doing it.
Because of guilt and shame and our core shadows, we have a life not so much by intention or design, but by default. We’re so busy doing all these good things, and sometimes not even good things, because we’re doing so many things that aren’t the great things, the right things, we are, like I said, tired, overwhelmed, feeling more disconnected, unfulfilled, and then we have to turn to things to quell the pain of feeling so unfulfilled, of feeling so tired. So we drink more caffeinated beverages, or worse. We drink more alcohol. We drink stuff to put us up, and we drink stuff to bring us down, or eat stuff to ground us or to comfort us, or watch reality TV or binge watch entire shows on a night or a weekend that, again, in and of itself might be a great thing to do in its right place, and for the right person at the right time, but when it’s coming from that compulsive need, or that feeling of pain and unfulfillment, a lot of times it’s another distraction.
Because we’re not honoring the great within us, the truth within us, the real yes within us, we get burned out. We get tired. We get disconnected. We become unfulfilled, even depressed, and then because we don’t understand what that’s all about, or even aren’t willing to feel it, we create another layer of coping and defense mechanisms, and that turns into addictions and other compulsive behaviors to not feel what we’re feeling, that we’re feeling tired, burnt out, depressed, and unfulfilled. So we have to start unraveling that and get back to our core, back to our real yes, back to what we really want to do, what we were really designed to do, and even looking at the good things that other family, friends, and stuff are excited about, but isn’t our great thing. It might be their great thing, but it’s not ours.
I put it another way, what’s working that’s in the way? Sometimes there’s things that appear to be working in our lives, things that seem to be kind of going good. You’ve heard the saying, you got a good thing going here, kid; don’t mess with it. Don’t fix it if it ain’t broke. Well, that’s not entirely accurate. Just because something isn’t broken doesn’t mean that it’s not meant to evolve. Right? I use the example often of the Rubik’s cube, that little square puzzle, and it’s all messed up, all different colors on each side, and the point of the puzzle is you have to keep turning and twisting until you get every side a solid color. You start to do it, and at some point you get one of the sides solid. You get a solid white, and that’s a success. It’s working. However, what do you have to do to get the next side working? You have to mess up what you just got working. You could say, it’s not broken; it’s working. Why would I want to mess that side up? You have to mess it up, if you’re going to get the next side working. Then you get two sides working. Victory! But now what do you have to do to keep getting the next side, the next side? You’ve got to keep messing up what’s working. You have to keep messing up the level of success you’ve just achieved. You have to be more focused on the grander vision than on necessarily short term payoffs.
Again, it doesn’t mean you don’t appreciate them and celebrate them. Got another side! I got another side! You’ve got to keep letting it go and moving and evolving. A lot of times in our life there are certain things that are working at a certain level. Maybe your marriage is not broken, but is it really thriving? Maybe you’ve got to kind of break things, or at least shake things up. As I like to say, sometimes my work is not just to comfort the afflicted, but to afflict the comfortable. Maybe you’ve got a job that’s not broken, it’s kind of working. It’s paying the bills. They’re not necessarily mistreating you, maybe they even appreciate you. You’ve got a good thing, kid. You’ve got a good thing going, but you’re not truly on fire. You’re not truly alive, fully alive and passionate, and there’s something more that’s trying to emerge. You might have to mess it up a little bit at first in order to say yes to your bigger yes. There might be a lot of good things you’re doing in that job, or good things about that marriage, and maybe you’re doing a lot of good things, but they’re not the great things. Maybe you watch TV together at night, and it’s kind of good. Maybe you have a meal at night, and it’s kind of good. Maybe you spend some time on the weekends, and it’s kind of good, but it’s not the great. It’s not what you really desire. What you desire is a relationship that’s on fire with passion, with romance, with adventure, with creativity, yet to move toward that you would have to start saying no to some of the good things. You would have to start messing up what’s working, and open up to the great, open up to the bigger yes, to the greater vision.
This is challenging, because we’re always seeking another level of status quo, of equilibrium, of balance, and once we find that balance we don’t want to lose it. How do you walk? If you never ever wanted to lose your balance, you couldn’t walk, because every time you walk what you’re really doing is falling forward. You’re going off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself. Off balance, catching yourself, but at a new level each time, in a new space, a more progressive space. So you’re off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Off balance, catch yourself, rebalance. Before you learn to do that, you fell. As a child you got up, you fell, you got up, you fell. You just kept falling forward, and eventually you were walking. Because of this mechanism that’s always trying to bring us to a state of equilibrium, of balance, we are more inclined or have more commitment to staying the same, rather than changing and continuing to grow. So that’s one of the big things we have to begin to move out of.
The other issue is, again, as I said in the beginning here, because to really go for the great in our life we would have to say no to a lot of the good, including a lot of good people. Including a lot of sincere requests that are good requests that deserve to be answered. It’s just not our job to answer them all.
There is no way you can do it. You cannot give to every charity. You cannot support every need in the world. You can’t help every hungry child or every scared animal or lost animal. You can’t help every person that asks for it. You just can’t. Not even Jesus could. Not even Mother Teresa could. Not even Martin Luther King could. Not even Gandhi could. There is a portion that is saved out for you. There is the ones, the people, the situations, the projects that you are uniquely designed to serve and to help and to bring your greatness to, and that’s what you have to begin to discover.
This puts you on a journey of real growth, real strength, real mastery, because, again, it puts up right up against our core shadows, our core wounds, our core fears of being seen in a negative way, being rejected, becoming unlovable, losing something, and ultimately dying. It’s really the deep fear. The truth is that less really is more. Doing a few things that are yours to do, that are the right things to do, doing a few things that are a must is much more productive, effective, than doing a bunch of things that are a maybe. As I’ve heard it put before, if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no. Now, a caveat to that is sometimes even our hell yes is covered up by fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, etc. So it doesn’t feel like a hell yes. There is a yes there, but it’s a got a yes, but. So sometimes we have to clear away some of the debris and ask empowering questions, like if I was guaranteed to succeed, what’s my hell yes in my life? So we have to kind of clear away the dust and grit of the journey. Ultimately you’re looking for those hell yeses, or at least just a yes! The thing that you deeply resonate with the most, the thing you feel will most move the needle, and that doesn’t mean it’s going to always move the needle immediately. It means that overall it’s the most important high leverage thing you can be putting your time into.
In truth, most of the most important things are not urgent. As Stephen Covey talks about in The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People, there is the things that are not urgent, but important. That’s the most important category. That’s like dealing with your health, your spirituality, your personal growth, your relationships, before they become urgent. If you don’t deal with the important but not urgent, it becomes urgent and important. That’s the next category. Now you’re kind of always in this state of urgency, but it is important, and we do need to address that, because we have a lot of urgent and important things in our life, because we haven’t spent enough time in the important but not urgent category.
Then, because we get so stressed out or burned out, and it’s so much stuff, there is the next category we tend to slip into, which is the urgent but not important. So that’s everybody else’s agenda that isn’t really ours. Again, it might be important to them, so we’re not judging anybody. It’s just not ours to handle, and yet it has a sense of urgency, because they’re urgent. It’s all those emails. It’s those phone calls. It’s the child pulling on you while you’re on the phone and saying, Mommy, Mommy, I need this. Give me this. I need this.It’s urgent to the child, but it’s not urgent for you.
Then there’s the final category, if you get caught into that third category too much, now you’re really burnt out, and you just need to distract yourself and numb yourself, and so you move into not urgent, not important. You just check out. You just disconnect. You just pop a beer or two or six, and just flop on the couch and watch six hours of Ice Road Truckers, or whatever. Nothing wrong with that show. I’ve never actually watched it. Looks kind of funny. Whatever. Honey Boo Boo, whatever the case may be. The Kardashians. You just check out. It’s not important. It’s not urgent. You’re just so overwhelmed or burnt out you’ve got to check out.
That’s what happens along the spectrum when we haven’t taken the time to discover what is truly the thing or things we’re meant to do, the great, not just the good. The hell yes, the thing I must, not just the thing that’s a maybe. We have to be compassionate. We have to be patient, because there’s some unraveling that has to happen as we kind of work our way back to focusing most of our time and attention on the important but not urgent. There will still be urgent and important for a while, and maybe to a little extent forever, but it will become increasingly less. Then the other categories, urgent and not important, and not urgent, not important, they just become ultimately delegated, automated, or eliminated out of our life. So that we are only in the important but not urgent, and occasionally the urgent and important. We’re mostly on the hell yes, with a little bit of the urgently, oh my God, I have to. We want to be mostly on the I get to, but sometimes we have to focus on I have to.
Now, one way to begin to do this process is to actually make a list of everything you do and everything on your list that you think you have to do. Perhaps it’s the next months’ worth of things, and some of them are things you do all the time, and some of them are things you’re adding to your list over the next month. Look at that list, and start to identify, if I was guaranteed success, what are the few things that would be a hell yes? You can also do this, break it down, in terms of structures, which might be a little easier. You have several life structures, health, wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development, service, and you can break down all these tasks into these categories. What are all the things you’re doing in the category of health? What are all the things you’re doing in the category of wealth, work, relationships, spiritual growth, personal development?
Now, personal development means things where you’re developing your personal skills and capacities like, learning to ride a bike, learning to play the guitar, learning to write a book, learning to become a coach, learning to grow a business. That’s personal development. It also is connected to work, but it’s not the actual work. It’s the development of that aspect of your persona. Okay? Then there’s service, and that is the area where you are giving of yourself philanthropically, or of service to the world. Sometimes these things connect. Your work ultimately can also be your service. You can be developing your personal development, being of service, and accomplishing your work all together, and that produces your wealth, etc. You see what I mean? Breaking them up into categories, and then putting all those to-dos, projects, tasks, within the right category gives you a cleaner snapshot of what you’re doing or not doing in those very critical categories.
Then, look at the categories, and of those categories, what are the two categories, I would say maximum three for now, to start. It doesn’t mean they’re not all important, but there’s always one or two or three that are really calling out to be developed. Rarely are all of them urgently needing to be developed, and what happens is that when you focus on the one or two or three that really matter, that are hell yeses, the ramifications, because it’s really holistic, it’s really one, it impacts the others. For example, some of them have higher leverage. If you work on your health and get into great physical shape, the energy you have, the blood circulation, it improves your thinking. You end up having more energy to do more work. You end up having better emotional state, and it improves your relationships. You end up having more clarity, and you’re able to be more creative and in your personal develop area. That’s a very high leverage category that if you don’t have a handle on it it almost always should be one of your main categories.
The second main category tends to be spiritual development, whatever that means to you, because when you don’t have a deep connection with who you really are, and why you’re alive, and your heart, and your spirit, everything else suffers. It’s like a branch trying to survive without being connected to the tree. It withers and dies. Developing a deep connection to your heart, to your spirit, to who you really are, what’s above the Oracle of Delphi, know thyself. Knowing yourself, getting in the best shape you Transcriptioncan, these are like almost always, if they’re not already on good momentum, should be two of the categories you’re focused on.
Then I would say the next most important one is relationships. You know the saying, community breeds immunity. We are relationship driven machines, relationship driven beings. The connection to yourself is first. The connection to your body is second, and then extending that connection to others is third. This is the path of health, of wholeness. When you’re disconnected from others, they’ve shown that many of the suicides, the depression, etc. are directly linked to people who had connections with family, community, or like in the army or whatever, and suddenly lose that bond, lose that connection and fall into depression and ultimately addiction, drugs, and even suicide. Also they’ve shown that when you have community you tend to heal faster and not get sick as often. Real authentic relationships is, again, super high leverage. When you’re in love, you can conquer the world.
So when you are feeling great about yourself, feeling great about your body, and feeling loved and loving, you’re a superstar. You’re able to rock the world. That’s why those are the three probably most important categories. As I said, they’re all critical, because each one is necessary to a whole person, but each one that extends, so from there the next level is work, your right work in the world. If you’ve got all these things, but you’re not producing the fruit of your kind, you will stagnate, and then it will back up and start to suffer all the other branches of your life. So you have to then move to the next level, work, and on and on this goes. So you can look at this, and you can actually decide for yourself what are the areas that are most critical? What are the areas that would move the needle most?
Then within those one or two or three, let’s say two or three areas, you look at the two or three activities. Maybe it’s a project or some tasks that you then identify as your hell yes, as the must, not the maybe, as the great, not just the good. For example, in the area of health, maybe you’re taking yoga, you’re working out at the gym, you are running. Maybe you’re doing a bunch of things, and you’re spending two hours a day on your health, and it’s not necessary. Maybe if you just spent a full hour in one area that would actually give you the greatest leverage. You might discover you’re not spending much time at all there, and meanwhile you’re spending all this time at work, or all this time trying to make money, or all this time trying to put out fires in relationships, and that area is sacrificed, is suffering. You want to find, what’s the one thing I could do that is really a must, that’s really a hell yes, that would really give me a lot of leverage, the great, not just the good? So you identify that.
You might notice that there’s some things you can let go of within that category that is not necessary, and then the area, again, of relationships, maybe you’re trying to keep up 10 different friendships and 10 different colleagueships, and you’re networking, and always thinking you got to keep the network going. All this energy, and meanwhile your relationship with your wife is suffering, or your relationship with your children is not as joyful and thriving, and when you look at all these things, you realize it’s a good idea to keep up my network. It’s a good idea to keep being a good friend to all my friends, but what’s the great? What’s the must? If I could have really awesome relationship with my children, or with my best friend, or with this one best friend, or with my partner, maybe it’s my child, my partner, and my best friend. Let me, instead of trying to keep relationships going with 20 people, let me really focus on making great relationships with these three people. That doesn’t mean you just completely cut yourself off from all these people, however it might in some cases, if you really look at it.
You might realize you’re operating from a place of fear, a fear of missing out, a fear of feeling bad, of being guilty, of creating conflict, of getting kicked out of that club, or not being able to get another client because of it. So you want to notice when you’re being moved by fear, by a shadow, a compulsive behavior, versus being pulled by passion and vision and inspiration. If it’s being moved by fear, you want to look and see what is the reason why? If it’s not something that really adds true value to your life, that there’s something else that’s much more valuable. It’s not just, well the mother’s will think I’m a bad mother if I don’t go to every PTA meeting, or if I don’t go to the student car washes every time, or bake the pies or whatever. You’re like, I’m only doing this because I don’t want to look bad. I’m only doing this because I don’t want them to not like me, but I don’t really want to do it. It’s not really the thing I bring the most value to or the thing I can bring the greatest level of joy and love and passion and capacity for my children. So what would be that thing? You see?
As you break down this list, you want to just go through the list as an exercise, and discover what are your reasons for doing everything you do? Start to notice there are certain patterns that keep recurring. I’m doing this so I don’t look bad. I’m doing this so I don’t feel guilty. I’m doing this so I don’t feel shame. I’m doing this so I don’t lose the job or lose the opportunity. I’m doing this so that that person doesn’t think I’m selfish or a bad mom or a bad parent. I’m doing this because I don’t want to lose. I’m doing this because I’m afraid. Then notice also, what do I really want to do? This can even be another list of the things you really want to do, but you’re not doing. Then you can make a list, I’m not doing this because I’m afraid. You can start to really see what are some of the core patterns driving you. The more you see it, an expanded awareness gives you actual real choice and begins the process of real change.
Make the list. Break it down into these categories: health, wealth, work, relationship, spirituality, personal growth or personal development, and service. Identify within that list what are all the reasons why you’re doing it, so you can understand your patterns, and then what are the two or three categories that are a must, not a maybe, that are a hell yes, not just a maybe. Then within those categories, identify the two or three most important things that would really take your life to the next level, or that area to the next level, that are passionate, that are a yes, that are a must. Now organize that into your plan. Begin the process of organizing out of your plan all of these other commitments, all of these other things, to the extent that you can, and the ones you can’t, immediately begin the journey or the process of renegotiating those commitments, so that you can begin to get them off your list and off your plan. So that your plan progressively reflects who you are in the deepest core, your deepest yes, your deepest passion, your hell yes, your musts, the great, not just the good, and it feels more and more authentic and congruent. Now you’ve got a plan, a real plan that if you don’t already know what your bigger vision is, it’s going to start to tune your more into it.
That’s why really doing the work on vision is so important, because if you don’t know where you’re going, every road will take you there, which means you could go down every road, and you’re just going to be lost. Knowing really where you want to go, like where do you really want to go with your family, with your relationships, with your body, with your wealth, with your life and your commitment and your contribution? Where do you really want to go at the end of the year? Where do you really want to go at the end of five years? Where do you really want to be at the end of a life? Then reverse engineer that back as a template, as a North Star, as a compass. If that’s where I really want to go, am I heading in that direction? If the things I’m doing and that are on my to-do list and my plan are not, guess where they have to go? Somewhere else.
Now you identify, and you start to organize this plan, and then, and don’t freak out, you have to put it on your schedule. Some of you have full schedules, and that’s not a problem. Your problem is just the things on your schedule are keeping you busy, but they’re not necessarily making you productive. For those others of you, heart-centered, creatively-minded people, you don’t tend to have a real schedule or real plan. You just kind of go with the flow, but, as I often say, if you just go with the flow, you’re going to probably end up going over a waterfall and crashing into the rocks below, or getting stuck in some branches or brambles or crashing into a rock. Going with the flow isn’t a good idea, because you don’t know what flow you’re going with, until you do know. It’s go with the flow, but don’t forget to row. Row, row, flow, flow, row, row, flow, flow. For you people that love to flow, don’t forget to row.
How do you know where to row? You’ve got to know where you’re going. Got to know where to go before you know where to row. I feel like I’m going to start breaking into a rap here. You’ve got to have a plan. You’ve got to have a vision. Then you’ve got to put it on your schedule. Then you do it. That’s a whole other topic. There’s other podcasts that talk about why we don’t do what we’ve committed to, the value of commitment. It’s beyond the scope of this. This is more than enough to play with, and it’s so important, because this is one of the biggest questions. What should I do? Out of all the choices and options, what should I do? What’s the right thing, the right direction, the best thing, the thing that will really move my life, move the needle, take things to the next level?
Listen to this again. Take notes, and follow the recipe. Again, if you want to go deeper into vision, into understanding commitment and planning, go through the archives of the podcast and check those out as well. While we’re talking about that, if you haven’t already signed up for the podcast, sign up. It’s free. You get access to about a hundred free trainings. I’m adding new ones every week, and it’s an invaluable resource. You can download all of them right away so they’re in your library, and that way as we archive them, which we are doing on an ongoing basis, I think every week, as a matter of fact, at least one or two of them gets archived, and we’re eventually going to archive a whole bunch of them. So register, download all of them. Now you own them. Listen, and apply. Choose at least one thing you’ll do about this today. Action has power.
I hope this has served you in getting clearer on what you should do. If you want to have even more support, you can go to DerekRydall.com. You can also check out my Facebook page. You can go to LawofEmergence.com and download a free mini ecourse on the Law of Emergence. If you want to grab my book Emergence, the bestseller, you can also go to MyEmergenceBook, click on the Amazon or Barnes and Noble button, buy it through there, and then leave your information, and we’re going to give you a bunch of bonuses to help you really apply it and get real world results. Again, I truly love and appreciate you for showing up, not just showing up for me, but showing up for you, because as you show up for you, you come alive, and what the world is looking for is people who have come alive. Until next time, remember to live authentically, to love unconditionally, and to follow your destiny. Take care, everyone.
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The Only Argument You EVER Have to Win
Can you imagine if there was only one argument that you had to win? If you could become a master at winning that one argument, everything in your life would work. You would be a winner everywhere in your life. Would that be something worth mastering?
Well, there’s only one problem in all of human existence, and that is our belief and perception of separation from Source.
There is a something, an isness that is whole, complete and perfect, that is perfection itself, life itself. It never is born. It can never die. It has no beginning or end. It can’t be improved upon and it can’t be diminished.
It is the very source and substance, cause and effect, power and presence, principle and reality of all existence. It’s nature is good. It’s nature (not a good that’s opposite of a bad, but in all good) is an infinite, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent good that has nothing outside of it and nothing else within it except its own goodness.
Now, if you could just get what I just said, I don’t mean just intellectually but have a realization of it, you will have won the argument because that’s the truth principle – oneness, wholeness, perfection, god only, only god, love only, only love.
However, that’s not our experience. Our life experience is the relative perception and projection of this infinite perfection. So, we don’t experience the one real life directly. We experience through our perception, through the filters of our mind and awareness which become beliefs and habits, which create circumstances and conditions. That is what we call life experience.
Life experience can be all over the place. It literally can be anything depending on what dimension you’re in and how much you’re willing to believe in something. You can pretty much experience anything. That doesn’t necessarily tell you what is reality, just as your beliefs don’t tell you what reality is. They tell you your best guess at it and your emotions don’t tell you reality. They tell you what you believe. The reason for this is because life is infinite.
There’s one mind, one consciousness, the mind of God, the intelligence of the universe, the all-knowing, all-containing, all-possessing, perfect mind. You’re a center in it, and it’s unfolding. So, you have the capacity to tap into it but it’s all within this consciousness that is within you. This is why Jesus said, “Take no thought for your life, for the clothes you’ll put on and the food, wherewithal you shall be clothed… but seek first the kingdom of heaven.” Then, he said, “And then all those things you’ve been striving after, those will be added unto you.” Buddha also taught us to go within. Lao Tzu, Guanyin, Shankara and the greatest masters and teachers all said that ultimately the solution and the answer to everything outside of you is inside of you – either go within or you’ll go without.
Ultimately, the greater the realization of your true self, your true nature, the realm of truth, and your connection, communion, and identification with that, the more everything resolves itself and your life reveals more and more bounty, abundance, and goodness.
That’s why it also says in the Bible, “If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High, under the shadow of the Almighty, no hurt, no harm can come down in your dwelling place.” I’m talking about this dimension with you – consciousness.
Now, what does that have to do with the only argument you ever have to win?
Well, in the most basic sense, as I mentioned above, the only lie is that you’re separate from this ultimate reality or ultimate good. That’s the one and only problem, this sense of separation from it. So, the only solution is the realization of your oneness within.
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Hey, Derek Rydall here, founder of the Law of Emergence and author of the best-selling book, Emergence. It’s just so great to be with you again. I just have to say that every time I get a chance to share and connect with this amazing community and join you on this journey of Emergence, of unlocking and unleashing your full potential and true purpose so that you can bring your gifts to the world, and together we can create a world that works for the highest good of all. Every time I get a chance to play with you in that and on that path, no matter where I’m at, no matter what’s going on in my day or my life, I just feel better. I think that’s a sign that I’m on my path. Do you know what I mean? I think it’s a sign that I’m doing what I’m supposed to do. I think when the apple tree apples, it’s in bliss. There can be a storm, there can be a drought, there can be scorching sun but when it’s expressing its unique fruit, it’s happy. That’s really the same for us. We’re designed to be in bliss. We’re designed to be free. We’re designed to be fulfilled. We’re designed to live a great and a bountiful life.
What I want to talk about today is the only argument you ever have to win. By the way, if you haven’t already had a chance to register for Emergence in iTunes and make sure you never miss a training, a talk and any of the special opportunities and gifts and things that I give away, the quantum prayers, et cetera, please take a moment and register for it. It’s free. You can get access to about a hundred trainings. We’re also constantly archiving them, so to make sure you never miss one or lose out on the dozens that are already there, just take a moment. It only takes literally half a minute to register for your free emergence podcast and then download of them. Get them all on your computer or phone and then now you own that library, and you’ll never lose them even when we archived them. I’ll be sending you new ones every week.
So, we’re talking about the only argument you ever have to win. That’s a pretty bold statement and a pretty big promise. Can you imagine if there was only one argument that you had to win? If you could become a master at winning that one argument, everything in your life would work. You would be a winner everywhere in your life. Would that be something worth mastering? Would that be something worth investing some time and energy to master the ability to win this argument? Well, there’s only one problem in all of human existence, and that is our sins of separation from source. Whatever name you call it – God, the Christ, the Buddha mind, the quantum field, the truth within, the higher power, the real self, ultimate reality – whatever name you call it, there is this something that really cannot be called anything. As it says in the Tao, the Tao that can be named is not the real Tao. There is a something, an isness that is whole and complete and perfect, is perfection itself, is life itself. It never is born. It can never die. It has no beginning or end. It can’t be improved upon and it can’t be diminished. It is the very source and substance, and cause and effect, and power and presence, and principle and reality of all existence. Its nature is good. Its nature, not a good that’s opposite of a bad, but in all good, an infinite, omnipotent, omniscient, omnipresent good that has nothing outside of it and nothing else within it except its own goodness.
Now, if you could just get what I just said, I don’t mean just intellectually but have a realization of it, you will have won the argument because that’s the truth principle – oneness, wholeness, perfection, god only, only god, love only, only love. Now, that’s not our experience. There is only this one life and this one life is great. It’s perfect. It’s the all good. It never changes, but our life experience is the relative perception and projection of this infinite perfection. So, we don’t experience the one real life directly.
We experience through our perception, through the filters of our mind and awareness which become beliefs, which become habits, which create circumstances and conditions. That is what we call life experience. So, life experience can be all over the place. I mean it literally can be anything depending on what dimension you’re in and how much you’re willing to believe in something. You can pretty much experience anything. That isn’t necessarily point to real life. That isn’t necessarily tell you what is reality just as your beliefs don’t tell you what reality is. They tell you your best guess at it and your emotions don’t tell you reality. They tell you what you believe. The reason for this is because life is infinite.
You can’t have a direct experience of infinity, right? Because the minute it becomes an experience, that is not infinite, that’s finite. That’s an experience as the Bhagavad Gita says, Take abundance from abundance and abundance still remains. Take infinity from infinity, you still have infinity left. So, you can never experience the infinite, immortal, eternal reality of god or source. You can have an encounter with it. You can have a realization of it. The minute it becomes some kind of sense or effect or experience, that is no longer it. That is now a relative perception of it which then becomes a relative projection of it. That’s fine. That’s the way it’s supposed to be though this infinite life is supposed to unfold and emerge as it says in the Bible from glory to greater glory, world without end, love, peace, joy, beauty, wisdom, creativity, inspiration without end. There’s no end to its unfoldment. Also, if you could experience it all at once, you’d be done. That would be it, right? You have a great experience of a movie and maybe you’d want to see it again in a few times. Maybe even it’s like an amazing movie with so many labels, you’d want to see it 20 times, but at some point, you’ll be done with it, right? Or, you’ll only want to experience it once every several years or like a great book. So, if you could experience all of life, you would be done with life, but that’s not the nature of life. It’s infinite and it’s forever unfolding as our relative experience.
The truth is there’s only this one life. There’s only this one power, presence, principle, substance and it’s within our consciousness that our consciousness is the one consciousness just at the level of our relative awareness of it. There’s one mind, one consciousness, the mind of God, the intelligence of the universe, the all-knowing, all-containing, all-possessing, perfect mind. We are a center in it. We are like God knowing itself as individual being. We’re a center in it, and it’s unfolding. So, we have the capacity to tap into it but it’s all within this consciousness that is within us. This is why Jesus said, Take no thought for your life, for the clothes you’ll put on and the food, wherewithal you shall be clothed, et cetera, but seek first the kingdom of heaven which he also said was within you. Then, he said, And then all those things you’ve been striving after, those will be added unto you. Buddha also taught us to go within. Lao Tzu, Guanyin, Shankara and the greatest masters and teachers all said that ultimately the solution and the answer to everything outside of you is inside of you, either go within or you’ll go without. Okay?
So, that’s like the fundamental rock bottom perennial teaching of the ages is that all answers are within you, as it says above the Oracle of Delphi know thyself and the Self meaning really the capital S. Now, you can certainly know all the layers of the self, and it’s valuable to do that. Ultimately, the realization of our true self, our true nature, this kingdom of heaven, this realm of truth, this nirvana, this reality of being, our connection with that, our communion with that, our deeper and purer identification with that, and the more we’re able to live and move and have our being in that, the more everything resolves itself and the more our life reveals more and more bounty and abundance and goodness. That’s why it also says in the Bible, If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High, under the shadow of the Almighty, no hurt, no harm can come down in your dwelling place. I’m talking about this dimension with you – consciousness. Now, what does that have to do with the only argument you ever have to win? Well, in the most basic sense, the only lie is that you’re separate from this ultimate reality or ultimate good, that’s the one and only lie. That’s the one and only problem, this sense of separation from it. So, the only solution is the realization of your oneness within.
This isness is the substance and source of everything real. It is the substance and source of all life, all power, all love, all good, all genius, all intelligence, all knowledge, all ideas and therefore everything necessary to live the fullest, most abundant life possible. All of that is contained within this isness, so when you realize your oneness with it, you are now one with all real life and being. I was going to say game over but really now, it’s a game on. Okay? Now, that perfect pattern of infinite potential that you are a unique expression of naturally and by grace unfold as your ever expanding, never ending adventure of joy and creativity and service in the world. It never dies, so it’s ongoing, okay? So, that’s the basic thing. The only problem is our sense of separation from this one life or source within us. The only solution therefore is the realization of our oneness with it. Because when you believe you’re separate from it, you now have beliefs that for example your love is somewhere out there. Now, what does that lead to? All of the problems in relationship, all of us getting into relationships to get loved, all of us twisting ourselves in pretzels to get love or not lose love, pretty much most of human motivation, to get love, to not be rejected, to be accepted so that we get love and feel loved and feel worthy and valuable. If we believe we’re separate from it, all of those problems ensue.
Likewise, what else is contained in the isness? Infinite supply, the substance of all form otherwise known as abundance, the real substance of all wealth. Well, when you believe you’re separate from supply a.k.a. abundance, a.k.a. wealth, what do you do? All of the problems and challenges that is the second probably biggest issue we face as human beings, struggling and striving to make ends meet, willing to do work that is not our true work in order to survive, forsaking our true work and service in order to do something we don’t love and don’t want to in order to survive – lying, cheating, stealing, manipulating, going to work, killing each other, killing ourselves to try to get those dollars or those material things that we think is the source of our supply. This is the real meaning of the love of money is the root of all evil. Money is a symbol, an outer symbol, like the fruit on a tree is not the wealth of the tree. It’s a symbol of the invisible process that produces it. Dollars and all forms of wealth are symbols. Everything in the world is a symbol. It’s not the real thing. It’s an effect or a projection or a symbol of the real thing. So, when you fall in love with the symbol, become attached to the symbol, you produce what you would call evil results – lack, limitation, worry, doubt, fear, conflict, et cetera.
What is the word evil? Live spelled backwards. So, you live backwards to the real principle of life or you live outside in instead of inside out. That’s backwards. Therefore, when you believe the source of your life is outside of you, you’re living backwards, you’re going to produce all the things your human condition calls evil. The love of money is the root of all evil. The love of the symbols of wealth, abundance, power, security is the root of all evil. So, when you believe you’re separate from love, you go crazy. When you believe you’re separate from supply, you go crazy. Those are really kind of the two biggest things. Power will be the other one. If you believe you’re separate from power, and therefore there are other powers – powers of government, powers of parents, powers of spouses, powers of partners, powers of bullets and bombs and enemies and diseases, and then those are the bad powers. Maybe sometimes are bad and then other times, you think there’s good power outside of you – the power of other people to love you, the power of drugs and medicines, the power of even food. So, you believe that all these things outside of you are either a good power or a bad power. That’s what the fruit of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil is trying to tell us. The belief that there’s good and evil out there, that there’s even good in evil at all is the pair of opposites to duality. It creates a sense of separation that there’s God over here and the devil over there, good over here and evil over there.
Now, we’re in a constant rat race to try to get more of the good and get rid of the bad. This is also what Buddha meant when he taught fundamentally that freedom from suffering, not so much just releasing desire but releasing this pattern of craving and aversion meaning the incessant need to get or get rid of in order to ultimately be free. The get and get rid of, the pain-pleasure mechanism, the good-bad mechanism of the mind is what the false self is fundamentally made of. So, that gets created from this sense of being separate from God or from good. We then produce this duality of good and evil and then a false self that has to live constantly to try to be more good or get more good and be less bad and get rid of the bad. That, in a nut shell, describes the whole human drama. It’s all based on a sense of separation from the only reality that there is which is god or good which is within you. So, then, what’s the solution to that? Whenever we’re tempted to believe that our good is outside of us, that there’s something bad outside of us, that there’s something good outside of us, what we need to do is ultimately come back within us, find our ground and anchoring within us again and convince ourselves that everything we could ever need is within us because that’s the truth, which is remembering, literally putting the members back together into wholeness again.
Our oneness with god or good whether it’s love, peace, joy, wealth, health, happiness, harmony, it’s all within us. So, we need to remember that. Re-member it. Re-cognize it, recognize it. We need to get back in touch with it. Seek first the kingdom of heaven and its righteousness. We need to wake up again to the truth of who you really are, which is a unique expression of the only thing there is, which is god all good and as that happens progressively, we are waking up, we are becoming spiritually liberated and progressively, it shows up in our life as what we call improvement. The other side of that is whenever we’re tempted to believe there’s some bad out there, a disease, a war, a person, an ex-partner, whatever, an enemy, we have to now convince ourselves that that’s not true either. That’s an impossibility in God’s universe. There’s only God. There’s only good. There’s only love. There’s only oneness. You can’t have an infinite God plus. This is one party where there is not a plus one. Now, yes, it looks there’s bad and it’s scary, and in the human realm, bad can do bad to good but that’s only because you’re in that belief. If you dwell in the secret place of the Most High and the shadow of the Almighty, under the shadow, under the realization of this oneness, no hurt, no harm can come down your dwelling place. This is also why Jesus and many of the masters were constantly trying to tell us do not judge by appearances, forgive everybody over and over and over again, see through all these appearances, see the truth that we’re ultimately all innocent.
Now, that doesn’t mean you don’t render unto Caesar what is Caesar’s, that you don’t do what you got to do in the short term to make sure that if somebody is hurting themselves or others, they can’t do that. So, if somebody has to be put behind bars, fine so they don’t hurt themselves or others. Even though you close the door of the cell, you don’t close the door of your heart. Your main job is to keep working to see through the mask that they’re wearing, to the Christ of their being, to the Buddha of their being, to the lover and the innocent child of life of their real being. Not easy. That’s why Ralph Waldo Emerson said, God’s works will not be done to cowards.It’s not easy. What’s the alternative? To live in the constant round of pain and suffering, and war and conflict and all of that that is a part of.
How’s that working for you? How’s that working for us as a world? Constant endless wars, conflicts, us against them, partisanship. It will never ever end through our human means because that’s all part of the illusion of duality. That’s all part of the outside illusion. If you try to convince the world, you’re caught in the illusion. If you try to convince your spouse, you’re in the illusion; if you try to convince anybody that you’re good or that you’re not bad, or that they’re good, or that they’re not bad, or that…whatever the case maybe. Convincing and arguing has many levels. Sometimes, it’s just words but then it goes from there to fists, and then it goes from there to bullets, and then it goes from there to bombs. Those are all forms of arguments. Oh, yeah, you think you’re bigger than me. I’m going to convince you that I can destroy you by dropping a bomb on you, by killing you, by taking you to court, by firing you, by divorcing you, by whatever. These are all forms of an argument. You will never win that argument.
You may temporarily win it with one person by like cutting off the top of the weed; it will grow out in another area of your life because you’re still caught in the illusion. You’re trying to argue for a false premise. Even if you’re right, even if you prove that you’re right, you’re wrong. Do you see what I mean? If you could convince somebody that two plus two equals three until they agreed with you, they bow down, and said, You’re right. You’re right. You pop out your chest, Yes, I won the argument. No. You just lost. Now, you’re going to go around and keep spending money that two plus two equals three, and you’re going to go broke. So, every time you try to argue and convince anything outside of you, even if you win it, you’ve lost because the premise of that argument is already false. So, the only argument you ever need to win is the one within you. To bring it down, really down to the ground level… maybe you’ve had this experience. I know I have over and over again when I find myself arguing to convince somebody, let’s say it’s in my marriage or with my kids, that no, I’m not that guy you think I am. I’m not controlling or I’m not dominating or I’m not a boss, or I’m not a know-it-all, or whatever judgment they have of me, which in many cases, they’re actually correct.
What I’m trying to argue for that is that to understand that you’re not really in a relationship; the relationship is in you. Then, you project it onto the screen of your experience and you shadow dance with that person. So, the reason why I had to convince them that I wasn’t a bad guy is because inside of me, I actually believe that I was. I believe that I was controlling and I had shame around the controller. So, if I didn’t convince them, if I let them win that argument and I accepted that I was a controller, I will be in tremendous pain. Well, the ego won’t let that happen. So, it’s going to fight for its life to not feel that emotional pain because to the ego it’s equivalent to danger or death. So, I would fight and fight and fight. I remember one time, it finally just cracking open and I saw somehow, maybe because I’ve been a meditator, I suddenly got some spaciousness and I could see that I was arguing with myself, that I had so much judgment and guilt about this part of myself. I begin to work with that part of me.
This is the shadow work that I talk about and teach. I begin to just fall in love with the controller part of me, seek to understand him, see the gifts in him, to begin to release that resistance and judgment and shame. As that begin to happen, less and less that I have any need to defend myself because I discovered that the darkness and the light are both alike to thee as it says in the Bible and that this shadow part of me was just a wounded part of my divine self. When I really understood him and love him and gave him what he really needed, he came back into my wholeness again. He integrated. Whatever aberrated or destructive ways it was showing up began to show up less and less. It doesn’t mean sometimes people aren’t going to still call you that, but in those cases, if it’s not pushing your buttons, you don’t feel any need to defend and you have a spacious ability to really hear the feedback and potentially make changes if needed, you know that part of you has been healed now. Then, I would go a step further. Now that I wasn’t fighting to prove I wasn’t controlling, because I was controlling and in some cases, it’s really, really good to have use of your controller, and use of the selfish self and all these parts of us where they’re necessary, right? So, if I won the argument that I wasn’t controlling, not only was I going to continue to repress the pain, but I would lose the gift of that part of me. I would not integrate it back into me. If I won the argument that I wasn’t selfish, not only would I be repressing that pain and it would come out again, but I was losing the gift that the selfish shadow has for me. Do you see what I’m saying?
So, but then beyond that, I could then go deeper and see that once this was integrated, there was a deeper, purer, even more amazing, beautiful magnificent being sitting here in my underwear. I could start to affirm that part of me, even more completely and powerfully. I would win the argument because the other side of the argument, what I’m really trying to convince this person is I’m not a bad person, I’m a good person. I’m not unlovable; I am lovable. I’m not unworthy; I am worthy. As I heal the shadow, I could begin to really go deep into a communion and a contemplation of just how deeply and profoundly lovable and valuable and worthy I am. Now, I’m winning the real argument. I’m winning the argument within me that I do matter, that I am valuable, that I am worthy. Now, I don’t need to convince you of that. As I fall into that wholeness and rest into that wholeness, those outer conflicts and arguments start to go away because they were only showing up so that I could have an inner contemplation, an inner argument for lack of a better word. So, I could have a deeper, inner realization and win the argument within me. Now, this is true for other areas. Let’s say I look at my bank account and it appears to be broke or I don’t seem to have enough, I have more month at the end of my money. Well, what’s the lie there? The lie is that I don’t have enough. The lie is that I’m short. I don’t have a lot of abundance that this is the world of lack and limitation. Now, I might go out and argue with that by struggling and striving to make more, by struggling and striving to create more wealth. That’s arguing with those particular facts. Do you see that? I will never win that argument because it’s a false premise.
The false premise I’m trying to prove against is that the world isn’t lacking. The belief is that the world is lacking. My bank account is lacking. I’m lacking. Now, I’m going to prove that I can have more and earn more. So, what I’m trying to prove is already based on a lie. The truth is that I am one with this life of infinite abundance. I’m one with the source of all creation. Infinite supply is within me. So, instead of struggling and striving to manipulate conditions, to basically rearrange deck chairs on the Titanic, I go within. I seek first this inner kingdom, this inner reality of wholeness. I begin to research and apprentice under the truth principles of abundance. I begin to pray and meditate and affirm my oneness with god, with good, with life, with abundance. I begin to pray and affirm because I’m one with the one, that all that the Father has is mine, that the cattle on a thousand hills are mine, that all the riches of life are within me. I’m one. I have a divine inheritance and it’s infinite. It’s exhaustible. All that I could ever need is within me. All of my needs are met abundantly. Everything is working together for my good because the only thing going on is God. I start to feel that. It activates a frequency that is now congruent with Reality. Reality with capital R. So, God responds to you by corresponding to its own nature in you. Life doesn’t happen to you; it happens through you and as you, but it can only happen at the level of consciousness you have discovered.
t can’t force you because there is no life separate from you. Do you understand? So, it wants to be all of itself as you but it can only be as much of itself as you as you have realized it’s true about yourself. So, every one of these challenges and crises, this outer conflict is asking you to make a case for what’s true. Don’t make the case out there whether it’s verbal arguing or physical action that is really a physical argument – struggling, striving, trying to prove yourself, whatever. Make the case within you. Win the argument of truth within you, the truth that you’re one with the one and therefore you’re one with all the power and the presence, and the love, and the life, and the wisdom, and the truth, and the wealth, and the health, and the happiness of the infinite spirit itself that what is true about anyone, anywhere is true about everyone everywhere because there is only one of us here, that all the riches and wonders, and magnificence of the universe are not really out there; they’re all in consciousness. You’re not in the world; the world is in you. The whole kingdom of heaven, the kingdom of God, the realm of the real is in your consciousness. It’s unfolding as an individual experience called your life, creating your own unique expression of the universe. Like a movie projector, what’s on the screen is what’s in the projector. If you don’t like it, you can’t go up and fight with the screen, and twist the screen around and yell at the characters and think they’re going to suddenly become different. It will never work. You have to go back into the projector and change the film. You got to put a new story in there. So, we have to go within. We have to win the argument within.
All issues of life stem from our consciousness. Nothing can come into our life except as the activity of our consciousness. That’s a bitter pill to swallow sometimes, but it’s not a blame the victim statement. There’s no blame or judgment at all, but it is a statement of principle. The fact that you don’t like it is sort of beside the point. The fact that you don’t like the truth that there’s a law of gravity, and if you walk up a cliff, you’re going to fall to your death. The principle of gravity is like… it doesn’t have any personal relationship to you. It doesn’t care what you think about it. It is what it is. The fact that youdon’t like that, if you go in the water and don’t know the principle of buoyancy, you’re going to sink. It’s too bad. You’re going to sink if you don’t live your life in alignment with the principle. If you stick your finger in a light socket, you’re going to get electrocuted because that’s the principle of electricity. If you understand and align with the right principles and don’t do that or wire your house correctly, it’s not going to burn down in a fire from an electrical fire because you’re in alignment with the principle. It’s not personal. It’s principle. The principle is that everything is in your consciousness. Nothing can come to you. It has to come out of you. If you want your life to be better, stop arguing with everyone and everything outside of you and win the argument of truth within you.
Convince yourself by whatever means necessary of what is true about you, of the highest possible truth, that you are a unique, infinite, indescribable and inexhaustible expression of all the power and the presence and the love of god, of life, that all the infinite wisdom and beauty, and abundance, and boldness, and courage, and strength, and commitment, and power, and confidence, and glory, everything you could ever want, hope for, desire to be all you were created to be is all within you. You brought it all with you and it’s all conspiring for your freedom and fulfillment. Everything is for you. Nothing is against you. You’re in your right place, right work, right relationships, right now maxing out to your full potential, living a destiny of greatness and shining your lights so brightly the people have to wear sunglasses around you and you’re living your dream and giving your gifts and making an impact, and you’re totally supported and loved every step of the way. This, my friends, is the truth. Guess what? As powerful as that may sound, you ain’t seen nothing yet. Who and what you are and what’s possible for us is beyond imagination, but you have to stop arguing with the world and win the argument within.
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