by sublimity-001-main | Jan 7, 2024 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance
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In the principle of Emergence, we learn that life doesn’t happen to us, it happens through us. All of life is trying to express as us, but it can only do so according to our level of receptivity and alignment with it. Because of this we don’t experience life directly, we experience it through our perceptions or filters.
The bad news is that, even though life is totally on your side, you can only experience it to the extend that you’re on your own side. The good news is that there’s a divine destiny, an emerging impulse, always seeking to bring you into harmony with your true purpose — so that life can fulfill itself through you.
The challenge is that the same mechanism that allows us to manifest a more expansive life as we embody more expansive perceptions, also causes a more limited life when our beliefs are limited.
The reason is that this inner mechanism is always trying to make us congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that we’ve accepted about ourselves or the world. It doesn’t know good or bad, right or wrong, it just knows what you believe deep down — and then it works 24/7 to bring your life into integrity with that belief system.
Like the principle of homeostasis, it’s always trying to bring us back to a state of balance or congruent. For example, if you have a self-concept that says, “I’m not good with money” or, “Money is hard”, when it comes to money, even if you do all the right things to make money, it will beat a path out your door as fast as possible. Why? Because this mechanism is trying to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint.
This is the meaning of the saying, “To he or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, to he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, and it will turn out wrong.” Whatever your inner blueprint is, if you’re trying to do a bunch of actions that aren’t in integrity with it and you’re not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into alignment with it.
Even when you have what the world would call success, if you’re not happy and fulfilled it’s because, on some level, your outer life does t match your inner blueprint of true happiness. This can cause successful people to self sabotage, or become addicted to quell the pain and confusion of being so unhappy when everything says they should be overjoyed with their life.
The work we must do is to get clear about what our inner blueprint for success and happiness is, then either change it if it’s not constructive and supportive, or begin the process of bribing our whole life into congruence with it. This includes the people, places, activities, and objects we fill our life with — and the things we take out of our life.
You’ll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if your blueprint doesn’t match, or isn’t increasingly coming into alignment with the grand blueprint.
“True joy and happiness comes from living on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase, and progress.”
The first step is to look at your own inner self-concept, your own inner blueprint and see if it is in alignment with your highest and greatest desires or if you have acquiesced to limiting conditioning.
Are you merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are you just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others, when internally you believe you’re not worthy, capable, or unable?
That’s like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint.
When you do that, you don’t have to make it happen, you are making it welcome. Then the law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity or congruence with it.
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
To Your Emergence!
Stay inspired!
Derek
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Derek Rydall here, and welcome to Emergence, this powerful journey of discovering our true hidden potential and our Divine purpose, and creating a life that allows it to unfold naturally and even effortlessly. It’s great to be with you again, and we’re talking today about the crisis of incongruence, or the hidden cause of unhappiness. This is such a powerful concept, because you know that by now, ideally, that life doesn’t happen to you, it happens through you. All of life is pouring through and as you, or at least trying according to a Divine pattern. You don’t experience life directly. You experience your perception of life, or experience life through your filters. Think of it like a pasta maker. You put all this pasta in one end and what comes out the other end is based on the filter that’s there. This is how life is happening. It’s not happening to us. Never is there a life outside happening to us, although that is the illusion. It’s happening through us and as us. If we want something more different to come into our life, we have to let something more or different come out of us. This is the foundational principle behind Emergence.
The second foundational principle is that once we are clear what it is we really truly want to emerge in our life, or even more accurately what is trying to emerge in our life, because there is a Divine pattern and Divine idea, a real purpose and destiny. We now have to organize our life to be congruent with that, to be in alignment, to be in integrity with that, not just one and done, not just here and there. We have to literally design a way of life inside and out that is congruent with our Divine pattern or plan or purpose. A subset of that, or an aspect of that, to understand is that therefore there’s a mechanism in the mind that is always seeking to make us congruent. Here me now. It’s always seeking to make you congruent. It’s always seeking to make you congruent to the blueprint or the self-concept that you have accepted, that is a part of your consciousness, that is the fundamental blueprint or concept or self-concept that is active in your consciousness. This mechanism is always working. It’s always striving to make us congruent. Like the principle of homeostasis, it’s always trying to bring us back to a state of balance. This mechanism within you is always trying to make you congruent.
For example, if you see yourself as a wealthy person, that your blueprint includes I’m wealthy and wealth easily flows through me, to me, and around me, etc. If that’s your blueprint, whether because of upbringing, conditioning, societal ideas, concepts or just your own inner work, then you will sort and you will delete or distort. You will have a cognitive dissonance around anything that could make you poor or broke or not congruent with that. If a challenge arises, like a downturn in the economy, or your money gets embezzled, or something happened, this mechanism will automatically start to drive you and draw things to you – drive and draw experiences to bring you back into integrity, alignment or congruence with that blueprint of I am wealthy. Likewise, if you have a blueprint or self-concept that, I’m not good with money, that I come from a long line of people that aren’t good with money, my parents weren’t good with money, I’m not good with money, money is hard, there’s a shortage of it, there’s not enough of it to go around, so your blueprint and your self-concept is that I never have enough; I don’t know enough. When it comes to money, I’m not good enough. Then even if you do all the right things to make money, that money will be on the path out your doorway as fast as possible. Even if you’re given money, even if you win the lottery as we’ve seen many times. We will follow up with you in a year or two or three, and you’ll not only have lost all the money or spent it all, but probably be in even greater debt. Why? Because that’s same mechanism is working 24/7 to bring you back into congruence with that self-concept or blueprint.
TranscriptionIt’s the same thing if you come from a family of overeaters and people that are overweight, and you find yourself constantly dieting and dieting and trying all these things to lose weight, maybe lose it temporarily, or you never can get it off, or if you do get it off, you just find it comes back on. You probably heard the statement, Once a fat person always a fat person. Well, that’s not meant to be derogatory. You get the point, because the blueprint, the self-concept, that hasn’t been changed in a fundamental level. This mechanism is always going to be working to bring you back into congruence with that. That’s one of the reasons why we are on this yo-yo diets, or money goes up and down, or weight goes up and down, or opportunities go up and down. It’s because there’s this inner conflict where we consciously want more or better or different, but the self-concept or the blueprint is the same. That’s because we are primarily working on the surface level where you’re working on strategies and tactics and to-dos. We’re trying to change the world, while we internally, fundamentally remain the same. That’s also by the way why you may lose weight but feel uncomfortable as a thin person, if you still have this underlying blueprint of an overweight person. When you finally come back to being overweight, or you might get a lot of money, you actually feel nervous or uncomfortable with it and find as you’re spending it and it’s burning a hole in your pocket and that actually when you come back to not having money, there’s this strange sense of relief. I wouldn’t quite call it happiness, but, ironically, you tend to be unhappy or nervous or anxious or uncomfortable until your inner pattern matches that. This is why that saying says, He or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, it will turn out wrong. Why? What that means is whatever your self-concept or blueprint is, if you’re trying to do a bunch of actions that aren’t in integrity with that and you’re not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into integrity with that. It’s like pulling a rubber band and it snaps back, right? Also, if you’re doing all these things and maybe even in the case where you have all kinds of what the world would say good things – you have money, you have family, you have opportunity – but you’re still unhappy, there’s something in your blueprint, there’s something in your self-concept that you’re not pursuing or that you’re not fulfilling.
This is why that saying says, He or she who is right in mind, they can do all the wrong things and it will turn out right; but, he or she who is wrong in mind, they can do all the right things, it will turn out wrong. Why? What that means is whatever your self-concept or blueprint is, if you’re trying to do a bunch of actions that aren’t in integrity with that and you’re not changing the blueprint, your life is going to come back into integrity with that. It’s like pulling a rubber band and it snaps back, right? Also, if you’re doing all these things and maybe even in the case where you have all kinds of what the world would say good things – you have money, you have family, you have opportunity – but you’re still unhappy, there’s something in your blueprint, there’s something in your self-concept that you’re not pursuing or that you’re not fulfilling.
I remember hearing one story about a person who had all this money and all fame and fortune and was depressed. No amount of anti-depressants or anything was pulling her out of it. Through discussion, she discovered that what she always really wanted was children, was to have a man that loved her and to have a real family and to have children. She was well-beyond that particular prime. Nothing, no amount of worldly fame, fortune, success or acquisition could make her happy, because this unconscious blueprint and self-concept was that she would someday be a person with a family of her own. No amount of friends and all of that could even help. Upon deeper introspection, when the idea came that well, she could just adopt and have children, that didn’t work either. She did dig deeper and deeper. She should find out what’s the quality, what would she get, what’s the feeling she would get if she had children of her own, why did it have to be children of her own? She ultimately discovered that it was because she would feel loved. Because if it was just adopted children, they wouldn’t owe her any real debt of love, and so it had to be her own children or there wouldn’t be real lasting unconditional love there. When she understood that what she really needed was more love, then she could begin to organize her life to focus on that, to get the love.
There are certain things that we may have self-concepts of that we will never get in the world, but it’s not the thing that we want. It’s the way it makes us feel. It’s not the money. It’s the way it makes us feel. It’s not the fame. It’s the way it makes us feel. It’s not the child of our own or a gene, but it’s the way it makes us feel. In any case, she had to dig through the layers. What is it she really wanted? Ultimately, discovered it was this. She was able to arrange her life and see how much love was in her life and how many people loved her, and then she could even potentially adopt and she could bring the love and receive the love and be fulfilled. That’s an important little distinction, if whatever the thing is can never be achieved. If you always wanted to be an NBA basketball player, and you’re well passed the prime where you could actually be a player, maybe you could be a coach. Maybe you could do something in that field or complementary or supplementary or side by side, or maybe it’s something else about it, a quality that you could begin to design into your life through other means that would give you the same level of congruence.
The key is that we have to find congruence. If you have a blueprint or a self-concept that’s limiting or destructive like I’m just a person who can’t make a lot of money. I wasn’t wired for that. I’m just big bones. I’m never going to be thin, or whatever the case may be, you have to do one of two things. You have to either, again, find the quality that you really want, independent of the change. I highly recommend that. As a rule of thumb, just always go for the quality, because the quality of feeling is what we’re always really after. If there’s still the possibility of obtaining the form, then you want to align your life and organize your life around that, and then you need to change your blueprint. You need to change your self-concept. You need to do the inner work to discover some principle. Let’s say around abundance, that there’s no such thing as a person that’s not capable of being abundant. Even though it may be a condition that that was your experience, you can recondition yourself. You can understand the principles. You can apprentice under the laws of wealth and abundance and begin to develop a consciousness of wealth and abundance, and therefore a consciousness or a self-concept that you are a wealthy and abundant person. You can begin to let go of those limited self-concepts and redesign your blueprint around abundance. As that gets established, that same mechanism that is always moving you towards congruence, it’s always operating anyways. It’s now operating on that blueprint.
This is another very important distinction. This is why ultimately the way we’re meant to grow is not to forcing or pushing or making things happened but making what’s already true welcome that when we become internally congruent, meaning we develop a blueprint or self-concept and condition ourselves to feel and believe and be in alignment with what we really want, then the law of life does the heavy lifting, right? The law of gravity is always pulling. If I pick up a pen, and I drop it, it’s going to get pulled down by the law of gravity. I don’t have to do the work and force the pen down. Likewise, I don’t have to do the work of forcing my life to be wealthy and abundant, but I do have to do the work of developing an inner blueprint that I am a wealthy abundant person, which is in alignment with the greater truth. Ultimately, we’re not just seeking to make ourselves congruent with our own personal blueprint. We’re seeking to make ourselves congruent with the truth of all being, with the great truth –the great truths that we are one with God, one with life, that we are unique emanations of infinite love, power, joy, abundance, power, joy, abundance, health, wealth, harmony, order, brilliance, genius, etc. That’s always pulling on us and pushing on us, but, again, as I said in the beginning, it’s moving through our own filter, our own blueprint, and our own self-concept. So, we want to align ourselves ultimately with the grand blueprint. There’s a unique way the grand blueprint of truth is trying to express as us. When we talk about our highest destiny or purpose, we’re talking about our unique expression of the grand blueprint. Our work is to come into ever increasing and inner alignment to condition ourselves, so that we feel and believe and see ourselves with a blueprint that matches our highest good and our highest desire. The law of life operates automatically on that to bring our experience into congruence with it. Just as I said before, if our inner blueprint is that I’m fat and I’m big-boned, and I don’t have the abilities to really make much of myself, then that same principle
So, we want to align ourselves ultimately with the grand blueprint. There’s a unique way the grand blueprint of truth is trying to express as us. When we talk about our highest destiny or purpose, we’re talking about our unique expression of the grand blueprint. Our work is to come into ever increasing and inner alignment to condition ourselves, so that we feel and believe and see ourselves with a blueprint that matches our highest good and our highest desire. The law of life operates automatically on that to bring our experience into congruence with it. Just as I said before, if our inner blueprint is that I’m fat and I’m big-boned, and I don’t have the abilities to really make much of myself, then that same principle is operating to bring us into integrity with that. It doesn’t make us feel good ultimately. It makes us feel sad or depressed or frustrated or angry because that blueprint is ultimately not in alignment with the grand blueprint.
I know I’m giving you a lot here, and I really invite you to really listen to this more than once, but, again, I want you to get the levels here. Whenever we’re out of alignment with our self-concept or blueprint, our life will never feel right, and it will always be working to bring us back in alignment with that blueprint, even if the blueprint is limited. We have to recondition ourselves to have a very big self-concept and to be a blueprint or self-concept that is what we truly want, so that that love, life, is operating upon that. However, we’ll never be truly satisfied or fulfilled if our blueprint doesn’t match, or isn’t increasingly coming into alignment with, the grand blueprint. If you settle for something less than your best or settle for something less than your unique greatness and excellence, even if it’s what the world would call a pretty good life, you’re never going to be truly satisfied or fulfilled, because there’s a much bigger blueprint trying to emerge through you. Ultimately, you realize that safety and well-being and true happiness is never found in any static situation. I wanted to say the static quo, not just the status quo. Why? Because it’s always found in progress. Why? Because the Universe is progressive. Why? Because it’s infinite. There’s an infinite blueprint forever trying to emerge through and as you, so there’s no stopping point as Jesus said, Foxes have holes and birds have nests, but there is no place for man to rest his weary head. I shall not rest until I rest in thee, meaning our only resting place is in the divine, in the infinite eternal nature of our being.
That true joy and happiness is on that emerging edge of ever-expanding, ever-evolving increase and progress. The first step is to look at our own inner self-concept, our own inner blueprint and see is it in alignment with our highest desires, our greatest desires or have we acquiesced to limiting conditioning? Are we merely trying to change the outer world while remaining the same? Are we just trying to lose weight or make money or win friends and influence others when internally we believe we’re not worthy, we’re not capable and we’re not able? Understand that’s like rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. The ship is going down no matter what you do externally. You need to plug the holes internally. You need to redesign your inner self-concept and blueprint. Finally, when you do that, you don’t have to make it happen. You are making it welcome in the law of life. The law of mind operates upon that newly-enhanced blueprint and brings your life into integrity, into congruence with it.
Just one final reminder, when the thing you think you want in your life seems to be something that’s out of your reach, beyond the stage of your life that you’re in, I don’t want to say as a disclaimer or a caveat, be careful to jump to that right away, because when you think it might be too late for or you might be too old, too tall, too short, too this, too that for, you might be wrong. So, before you decide it’s too late or you’re not enough and it’s just never going to happen, really investigate it, because there are many, many, many stories of people that have done the thing they truly wanted far beyond the time and what the world says is the capacity to achieve it. Like the 98-year-old man that runs up the flight of the Empire State Building, runs the stairs along with 20 something’s and 30 something’s. He’s 98 years old and that’s just his warm-up to run a marathon – or a 70-some-year-old woman who gets started running like in her 50s and ends up running multiple marathons and Ironman’s, or the woman that becomes a doctor in her 70s – or Grandma Moses becomes a world famous painter in her 80s. So, be very careful to accept any form of limitation. The basketball player who’s short, I forget the exact height, maybe five-foot something and becomes like an NBA player – or the story of the football player, Notre Dame, where he has this little runt. They made a movie about it – Rudy, and he’s just like it’s impossible, and he keeps getting rejected and failing and rejected and failing and he never gives up. Ultimately, he proves that if you don’t have a talent but you have the heart, you can do it – or Seabiscuit, the horse that defied all odds.
So, be very careful to jump any limitation. If in fact you ultimately get to the place where it really seems by all investigation, all research, that you’re 60 and you wanted to have children naturally – although, I think there are some stories for that has happened – perhaps that’s just not going to be the way you go. You’re 50 or 60 and you’ve always want to play in the NBA, and that’s probably not going to happen, then you break it down like I said before, and you discover what are some of the other ways you can have that feeling, that experience. What is the feeling you’re after if you were to be doing that? Then, you start to design a life that gives you those feelings and gets you as close to the heat as possible, and you can make yourself congruent, and you can experience a life of fulfillment and happiness and fulfill your true destiny and purpose, because there is no shelf life on your destiny. There is no Use by this datestamp on the back of your neck. Again, it may not be that you do the thing you think you should but from a soul level, the soul is not so much concerned about the quantity or the form. The soul’s fulfillment has to do with the blossoming of its qualities. So, like I said, if you can’t be an NBA player, that’s not so much what the soul cares about. Your true purpose and fulfillment is about the full blossoming of your character and the qualities of your being. You break it down and find what those are, you redesign your life around that, you condition your blueprints so that it’s congruent and then your life continues to flourish and bring itself into alignment with that. Even when you stumble and fall and things seem to go wrong, once your blueprint is established, that mechanism of your mind will keep moving you back on track, back on track, back on track.
I hope this has served you. Again, it’s a little bit of a complex concept so please listen to this more thanonce if you need to, and then do the work. Design your blueprint, your self-concept and recondition yourself so it is congruent with the larger blueprint of life and with the life you really want to live and then organize your life around that. I hope this has served you. If you want to get more training, please make sure to sign up, register for this podcast, Emergence on iTunes. Go to derekrydall.com/blogs and get the latest blog post. Register for that so you never miss a powerful training or any powerful material, because there’s new and unique stuff that’s only delivered in these channels. You can also go to the resource section at derekrydall.com and get some powerful downloads and additional training and support material. If this is adding value to you, if you like what you’re hearing, please share it with a friend, a loved one. Even try to teach it to somebody. The more you teach it or the more you share it, the more you activate and accelerate the learning in your own life. Until next time, remember to live authentically, love unconditionally and follow your destiny.
by sublimity-001-main | Jan 1, 2024 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance
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Whether you’re on a spiritual path or not, it’s very easy to get into magical thinking. It’s easy to think life operates based on personality or emotion, or based on just being “good people”.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t do good. Doing good is one component of being in harmony with the principle of life, but it’s only one. If you’re doing good deeds, but emotionally you feel unworthy, or mentally you have beliefs and patterns of lack, you’re actually living out of alignment.
It’s important to understand this piece – it doesn’t matter how much you wish for or how nice of a person you are – that’s not enough. There are good people suffering everywhere, every day. You must begin to release that wishbone, release the magical thinking, and begin to have a backbone.
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You can have an open heart, a heart as big as the world, the heart of God, but you need to have a soul that is strong, that has stamina, that is rooted in the principle of Truth. You want to begin to learn how to have a deeper understanding and embodiment of the principle, in order to stand stronger.
If you’re not experiencing abundance, for example, do not merely wish, pray or hope for abundance, but learn to understand and apprentice under the principle of abundance. Allow your conversations be unwavering in speaking it, your actions to become undaunted in walking it – regardless of conditions.
When you make knowing the truth, owning the truth, and embodying the truth your number one priority over your feelings, over your hopes, wishes and conditions, that’s having a backbone instead of a wishbone.
Remember, from the Emergence model, whatever you’re waiting for, you’re waiting with, and you’re weighing it down. So you must get on the ultimate wait loss program and let go of all the wait, because it’s already happening.
Jesus, one of the great master teachers, taught this principle, “When you pray, pray believing that you already have that you may receive.” That wasn’t a metaphysical trick to attract it. It was a mystical truth – that you already have it. Elsewhere it says in the Bible, “To he who has, more will be given, and it will be multiplied, but to he who has not, even that which he has will be taken away.” It’s talking about a state of consciousness – the state of having.
If any part of you is waiting for something to happen, you are creating a sense of lag time and separation that doesn’t exist in truth, but that now must become part of your experience. Your job as a spiritual warrior, with a backbone and not a wishbone, is to stand in the truth, the vibration and the mindset, and even the action that “I already am. I already have. It’s already done.”
Do not give yourself the luxury of putting your good in the future. You’re not waiting for your miracle. A miracle is an instant demonstration of what’s already true in reality and you can never experience it until you become fully present. This present moment is the only moment where all good exists. All good, all wealth, health, happiness, love, peace, joy, beauty, abundance, wisdom, genius – all of it only exists now.
It doesn’t exist in the past, which is just a memory. It doesn’t exist in the future, which is just a fantasy. It doesn’t even exist in the temporal present, which is imagination. It exists in the eternal now, fully, completely. It cannot be improved upon, it cannot be diminished – you must come into vibrational alignment and into integrity with it.
The key is to understand is that whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. If you want more to come into your life, you must let more life come out of you. If you want something different to come into your life, you must let something different come out of you. It’s all within you. Release all futurizing. Release all waiting. Release all magical thinking.
Take your stand in it, for it and as it, and then step by step engineer your mind, emotions, actions and environment to be in integrity with it. Then watch as you start to feel and live in the finished result even before it manifests, and discover what it really means to be free.
This is what it means to have a backbone and not a wishbone, to have a heart of gold and a soul of steel. I invite you to this journey. I invite you to take one thing you’re trying to create in your life and put it through this process.
Let everybody and everything outside of you off the hook. Take full responsibility and take a stand for it today!
To support you in mastering this, listen to the in-depth podcast on the subject, where we break it down and put it into real-life practice TODAY. This will be a real game-changer.
To Your Emergence!
Stay inspired!
Derek
Other powerful free trainings in the podcast library:
The Crisis of Incongruence – The Hidden Cause of Unhappiness
The Mighty Mo: How to Create Real Momentum
ASK DEREK-How Do You Deal With the Haters (The Gift of Criticism)
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Full Transcript
[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to another episode of Emergence. This is Derek Rydall, your guide on the side, instead of the sage on the stage, and I’m just here to support you in this journey of emergence, which is about understanding the fundamental principles to living and growing in integrity with your emerging soul, in integrity with the evolutionary impulse of the Universe, and really understanding that it’s principle, not personal. It’s not about being a good person or a bad person. It’s not a moral choice. To live a successful life is not a moral choice, it is a principled one, and this is what the ancient scripture means when it says, God is no respecter of persons. He shines his light on the just and unjust, pours his rain on the saint and sinner.It’s talking about that the Universe, that life isn’t personal; it’s principle. It’s not luck, it’s law. Life doesn’t just happen, it happens just. This is such an important distinction to have, because so often we are frustrated and confused why good things are happening to bad people, and bad things are happening to good people, namely us, and we don’t understand, because we don’t understand that life is principle. Life is not airy-fairy and wishy washy, and there is no such Universal presence or power that has good days and bad days, and you have to convince to be good. All of that is a false understanding, a human projection, and the Emergence path is understanding that there is a perfect spiritual Universe, a Universe of wholeness and harmony, order and abundance. It’s everywhere present, expressing in its fullness and perfection. It’s right where you are expressing in its fullness and perfection. Nothing is lacking. Nothing is missing. Nothing is broken. Nothing is wrong. It’s already complete. It’s already perfect.
This is such an important distinction to have, because so often we are frustrated and confused why good things are happening to bad people, and bad things are happening to good people, namely us, and we don’t understand, because we don’t understand that life is principle. Life is not airy-fairy and wishy washy, and there is no such Universal presence or power that has good days and bad days, and you have to convince to be good. All of that is a false understanding, a human projection, and the Emergence path is understanding that there is a perfect spiritual Universe, a Universe of wholeness and harmony, order and abundance. It’s everywhere present, expressing in its fullness and perfection. It’s right where you are expressing in its fullness and perfection. Nothing is lacking. Nothing is missing. Nothing is broken. Nothing is wrong. It’s already complete. It’s already perfect.
Just as 2+2 already equals 4, nobody made it that way. It’s always been so, and always will. Electricity is everywhere. Nobody made it that way. It’s what it is, but it doesn’t do you any good if you don’t understand the principles of electricity, and you don’t understand how to construct a transmitter or a transponder, whatever the word is, in order to access and harness the energy. It does no good that 2+2=4, if you’ve incorrectly learned that it equals 3 and wonder why you go around in life being short changed. You see what I mean? There is an order and a harmony and a perfection that already is, that cannot be improved upon. Emergence is the path of understand this, understanding these principles, and learning how to bring your entire life and being into integrity with it, and when you do that, this perfection that is everywhere becomes manifest where you are. Now, in this particular episode we’re talking about have a backbone, not a wishbone, and this is very much connected to this. It’s fun, and it’s catchy, but I really want you to get this. Whether you’re on a spiritual path or not, and I assume you’re on some kind of path if you’re listening to this, it’s very easy to get into magical thinking. Like I said, even if you’re not, it’s very easy just humanly to think life operates based on personality or emotion or based on just good people. So you have really good people who have really good hopes and expectations that others are going to be good, and there’s a naiveté that there’s just kind of a hopefulness that life’s going to work out, and a hopefulness that if I do good stuff, good things are going to happen.
Now, I’m not saying you shouldn’t do good. Doing good is one component of being in harmony with the principle of life, but it’s only one. If you’re doing good deeds, but emotionally you feel unworthy, or mentally you have beliefs and patterns of lack, you’re cancelling out a lot of the good of those good deeds. If you have a very powerful mindset of abundance and an emotionality vibrationally of abundance, but your deeds are not always in integrity with that, it might still work out for you. It’s very important to understand this piece, that it doesn’t matter how much you wish for or how nice you are, or how much of a good person you are. That’s not enough. There are good people suffering everywhere every day. So you must begin to release that wishbone, release the magical thinking, and begin to have a backbone. This is part of my larger series, Heart of Gold, Soul of Steel, which is that you can have an open heart, a heart as big as the world, the heart of God, but you need to have a soul that is iron, that is strong, that has stamina, that is rooted in truth principle. You need to begin to understand
This is part of my larger series, Heart of Gold, Soul of Steel, which is that you can have an open heart, a heart as big as the world, the heart of God, but you need to have a soul that is iron, that is strong, that has stamina, that is rooted in truth principle. You need to begin to understand principle, and when things aren’t working, you don’t take it personally. You look at, let me have a deeper understanding of the principle. Let me have a deeper embodiment of the principle. Let me get stronger in the principle. If I’m not experiencing abundance, let me not merely wish and pray and hope for abundance, but let me understand and apprentice under the principle of abundance, and let me know the truth of it, until my mind and my heart is so rock solid in knowing it, my conversation is so unwavering in speaking it, my actions become so undaunted in walking it, regardless of conditions. My back is straight. My spine is strong, because I’m anchored in the truth. I’m committed to the truth, and I do not let my emotions and conditions determine what I think and feel and do. That’s having a backbone, instead of a wishbone. Making knowing the truth, owning the truth, embodying the truth, your number one priority over your feelings, over your hopes and wishes and conditions. That’s having a backbone instead of a wishbone.
Sometimes this is subtle, because there’s certain vocabulary that enters into our dialogue, the way we talk about things, and we might be talking about I’m doing all this prayer work; I’m doing my affirmations, visualizations, my inner work, etc. and I’m just waiting for my miracle. Remember, from the Emergence model, whatever you’re waiting for, you’re waiting with, and you’re weighing it down. So you must get on the ultimate wait loss program and let go of all the wait, because it’s already happening. Jesus taught, one of the great master teachers taught, and this is principle, not religion, When you pray, pray believing that you already have that you may receive. That wasn’t a metaphysical trick to attract it. It was a mystical truth that you have it. Elsewhere it says in the Bible, To he who has, more will be given, and it will be multiplied, but to he who has not, even that which he has will be taken away.It’s talking about a state of have consciousness. It’s a state of having. Jesus didn’t say, I was the way, or I’m going to be the way and the truth. He said, I am. By the way, he wasn’t talking about the physical man. The I am is the spiritual individual, that is the archetype of God as individual, whether it’s called the Christ or the Buddha. It is the I am principle. That’s why when Moses was talking to the burning bush the burning bush said, Tell them I am that I am sent you. It didn’t say, tell them I will be sent you, or I was sent you. It’s I am. I am. I have. It’s already done. It’s a state of being which is in integrity with the truth, which is that it is already here. It is already done.
If any part of you is waiting for something to happen, you are creating a sense of lag time and separation that doesn’t exist in truth, but now must become part of your experience, and you may be waiting forever. That doesn’t mean that there may not sometimes be a gestation period in time and space where the seed that’s been planted and cultivated takes time to create roots and eventually to break through the surface and bear fruits, but your job as a spiritual warrior with a heart of gold and a soul of steel, with a backbone and not a wishbone, is to stand pat in the truth and the vibration and the mindset, and even the action that I already am. I already have. It’s already done.
Do not give yourself the luxury of putting your good in the future. You’re not waiting for your miracle. A miracle is an instant demonstration of what’s already true in reality. You can never experience it until you become fully present, because in this present moment is the only moment where all good exists. All good, all wealth, health, happiness, love, peace, joy, beauty, abundance, wisdom, genius, all of it only exists now. It doesn’t exist then. It doesn’t exist in the past, which is just a memory. It doesn’t exist in the future, which is just a fantasy. It doesn’t even exist in the temporal present, which is imagination. It exists in the eternal now, fully, completely. Cannot be improved upon. Cannot be diminished, but we must come into vibrational alignment with it. We must come into integrity with it. We cannot have a house that is divided, serving two masters. We have to serve one and only, and that is the master of now, the master of is, the master of I am, I have, it is done. A backbone, not a wishbone.
We’re not waiting for any miracle. One of the other things that connotes, when we think about that, is we actually have a projection that there’s some kind of force or power out there in the Universe that’s eventually going to hear our prayer or catch up to us, or give us something good. We’ve incorrectly turned God into Santa Clause. There is no such God, and I’m sorry to break it, there is no such Santa either. Hope no children are listening. All the power, all the resource, all the Source, everything is within you. You are the one you’ve been waiting for. You are your own salvation. Not you, the personality construct, but You, the I am of your being. Jesus said the Kingdom of Heaven was within you. If we had only gotten just that part right with the Christian religion, we’d be a lot further along. Buddha said the same thing. He just called it Nirvana.
Whatever you want to call it, the key is to understand it’s within you and call it forth from you, and to remember whatever’s missing is what you’re not giving. If you want more to come into your life, you must let more life come out of you. If you want something different to come into your life, you must let something different come out of you. It’s all within you. Release all futurizing. Release all waiting. Release all magical thinking. It’s all here now, happening in you, as you, everywhere present. Own it. Claim it. Take your stand in it and for it and as it, and then step by step engineer your mind and emotions and actions and environment to be in integrity with it, and watch as you start to feel and live in the finished result even before it manifests, and discover what it really means to be free. Then from that place of freedom, watch as the new world begins to manifest, but as it does, you’re already there. You’re already home. You’re already whole, and now you’re free to play in it, but never get lost to it. This is what it means to have a backbone and not a wishbone, to have a heart of gold and a soul of steel. I invite you to this journey. I invite you to take one thing you’re trying to create in your life and put it through this process, this test. Release all waiting, all magical thinking, all futurizing, all projecting. Let everybody and everything outside of you off the hook. Take full responsibility and take a stand for it today.
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by sublimity-001-main | Dec 28, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Relationships, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance, Work and Business
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First it’s important to understand the true nature of manifestation.
Manifesting, from the Emergence model – from the truth principle, is not about making something happen or appear that does not yet exist. To make something manifest to is to make that which is already happening, (but is invisible, intangible, or inaudible) tangible, audible – manifest.
I like to use the analogy of the radio station to help explain this… Your favorite music is playing right now on some station, but it’s not manifest until you tune your dial into the frequency where that music is broadcasting. When your dial matches the dial where the station is and where the broadcast is happening, that music becomes manifest.
You didn’t make it happen. You made it welcome. It wasn’t in the future. It wasn’t in the distance. The music was broadcasting right where you are, but you needed to come into vibrational alignment or attunement with it. The minute that alignment happened, that station became manifest, or as I like to say, you had a “manifest-station”, a manifestation.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to another episode of Ask Derek. This is Derek Rydall. Not the sage on the stage, but your guide on the side for this journey of emergence, and with these episodes we’re dealing with core questions that have either been specifically asked, or that are most commonly asked, and this a very common question, how do I manifest more money, or just how do I manifest more, or how do I manifest period? It’s a very common question, and there’s a few things that are important to understand. The first thing is to understand what really is manifestation? Manifesting, from the Emergence model, really from the truth principle, is not about making something happen or appear that does not yet exist. To make something manifest to is to make that which is already happening, but is invisible or intangible or inaudible tangible, audible, manifest.
For example, when I’ve used the analogy of the radio station. Your favorite music is playing on some station, but it’s not manifest until you tune your dial into the frequency where that music is broadcasting. When your dial matches the dial where the station is, where the broadcast is happening, that music becomes manifest. Now, you didn’t make it happen. You made it welcome. It wasn’t in the future. It wasn’t in the distance. The music was broadcasting right where you are, but you needed to come into vibrational alignment or attunement with it. The minute that alignment happened, that station became manifest, or as I like to say, you had a manifest-station, a manifestation.
The same thing is true, all manifestation is making that which is invisible visible, making an invisible idea or activity or quality visible. Now, why is that important? Because even just beginning to know that and coming from that place you understand why it’s so important that you are in the feeling tone and the vibration of the thing you want to manifest, even before it’s manifest. Right? You have to be tuned into the radio station before the radio station becomes manifest, just as you’re tuning in. It’s not going to come manifest before you get to that alignment. You have to be in alignment, right? It’s important when you don’t understand this context you’re often trying to manifest from a sense of separation and limitation, from a premise that something’s missing, something’s broken, something’s lacking, something’s wrong. You don’t have it. It’s not happening. It’s in the distance, in the future. They have it, and now you’re going to try to attract it, achieve it, manipulate it, etc. That’s a recipe for resistance, struggle, stress, suffering, and even greater limitation ultimately. Even if you manifest a bigger paycheck on that level, you will just find yourself broke at a higher income bracket. Okay?
The second thing is to really, I’m just going to say right out of the gate, we have to get out of magical thinking. This isn’t magic. It’s not like say a prayer, say an affirmation, do nothing, and poof, your life changes. Now, is it possible that you come into such alignment with the truth of your being that a miracle can happen, which is simply the instant demonstration or instant manifestation of that which is always going on? Absolutely it can. As I say, plan your life as if you’re doing all the work, then live your life as if God is. So you’re open to the miracle. You’re open to the spontaneous breakthrough and insight. You’re open to the spontaneous acceleration, but you can’t plan for that. You can’t make a plan to have a miracle. Right? You have to live your life or plan your life and be going about your life in a very real and practical way, but in the consciousness and the context of the vibration that it’s already done, that it’s already happening, that you’re already enough, that you’ve already arrived, and that miracles and spontaneous revelation is breaking out everywhere all the time. You live in that context, but you don’t wait for that to happen, and you don’t plan for that to happen. You do your practice and your prayer work and your inner work to become the consciousness and the context for that to happen, but then you get busy. You get to work. Right? You till that field, and you cultivate that soil, and you plant those seeds, and you water and weed and feed them, whether it’s the seeds of a literal garden or the seeds of creating financial abundance, or the seeds of a relationship, or wherever you want a great bountiful harvest in your life, in your work, in your relationships, with your clientele, with your practice, with your body. You live in the context and the consciousness that it’s already done, it’s already whole, complete, perfect, fulfilled, abundant, but then you absolutely have to get to work.
So we have to let go of magical thinking. It’s not like in the movie The Secret where you just dream and visualize a red bicycle, and it literally shows up at your front door. Again, I’m not saying that can’t happen. I’m saying that is really not how it normally occurs. There’s a reason for that. One of the reasons is that the process of doing the work play on a daily basis, of doing whatever it takes to get the result, in the context of truth, causes you to bump into thresholds, causes you to discover unconscious limited beliefs and patterns, causes you to develop your character and to build and embody qualities and activities of your soul in a permanent way, so that you actually are evolving. The real reason for goals is the evolution of your soul. If you just merely manifest more stuff, but you have not evolved in any way, that’s not real growth. There’s no real evolution there. There’s just manipulation of material.
Sometimes we don’t get the red bike appearing at our door. Sometimes, and most times, things don’t just poof, manifest out of thin air, because we are in a process of evolution, of discovering and uncovering more of our real self and anchoring and integrating and embodying it. So you’ve got to get to work, and you bring the joy and the peace and the gratitude and the celebration as if it’s already done to bear on whatever you’re doing. While you’re tilling that field, you bring the joy of the bountiful harvestto it. As the old Indian prayer is, you don’t just pray for rain, you pray rain. You pray and affirm from the consciousness as if the rain is falling and soaking you and soaking the ground and the harvest comes, and you eat the bounty, and everybody’s full and happy. From that place, now you pray. It’s from that place you get to work, and you write that book, or you go out and get that job, or you deliver that value to your clients, whatever it is.
I just want to make sure I’m disavowing you of any magical thinking, and this comes down to sometimes in this work we really just need to do some very basic, very practical things, and we’re avoiding the most obvious practical things. Like if you don’t have enough money, it’s amazing how many times I’ve seen people that don’t have enough money, and I say, do you have a job? They’re like, no. I’m like, that might be a good place to start. They’re like, but that’s not my mission and my purpose. My purpose is to be a bestselling author or create a thriving healing practice. I’m like, that’s great. That’s wonderful, and get a job, because there’s something in you needing to get that job and how it’s going to develop you. You’re not going to succeed in spite of the job, but because of it. I speak from very personal experiences around this. If you have to get a job to pay your bills, or you have to get two jobs to not only pay your bills, but have enough money to invest in your business and your education, then you get two jobs.
I don’t know if you heard the story about that woman that was on Oprah that lived in Africa in a little hut and ultimately wanted to be a doctor, and eventually ended up finding a way to America, New York. I think she had three or five kids, and ultimately kicked her husband out, because he was no good bum, and ended up working somewhere in the neighborhood of three jobs, raising three to five kids, while going to school full time and getting her doctorate. After I heard that, I was like I’ve just got no excuses. I’m not saying you have to be raising five kids, working three jobs, and going to full time school to become a doctor to prove that you’re really in this game, but when you look at that you have to look at yourself and go, am I really doing everything I can? If I need more money to invest in my growth and education, am I going and getting a job or two? If I really want to get more clients, am I really doing everything I can, or am I just doing a few things here and there? Am I making five calls a day? Am I going to events? Really.
Then that brings us to a very powerful but deceptively simple process called the 25 ways to manifest more. It’s as simple and as difficult as taking out a sheet of paper or your journal and writing down 25 ways you can manifest that result you want. If it’s more money, write 25 ways you can manifest more money. There are no ridiculous ways, but start with all the ways that you can think of that are real and practical. It could be getting a job, getting two jobs, asking for more hours at your current job, looking for additional projects at your current job. It can be selling things that you don’t need. It can be going out and getting new clients, offering your services at a deep discount for a short period to get a bunch of new clients or new opportunities. It can be going back to previous clients or opportunities and revitalizing them, going to existing clients and looking to add more value, upsell, side sell, downsell, supplementary, complementary offers and opportunities.
Like I’ve told the story of the gardener who mowed and blowed, the mow and blow model like most gardeners, but he began to look around and notice, really get to know the family and what their needs were and what their interests were, and he began to come up with a list of possible projects that could add more value to their life, their yard, their landscape, hardscape, different aspects around the house, building projects that he maybe could do, ways to do the garden differently or trim the hedges in the shapes of animals or whatever. He began to make these proposals to his clients, and one by one clients would accept one or more of these proposals, and he ended up doubling and tripling and really rapidly growing a business. Whereas all the other gardeners had the same opportunities, but they weren’t doing it. They weren’t looking for the opportunities. They weren’t becoming an opportunity machine. They didn’t realize that they were the Divine power plant, and a power plant doesn’t receive energy, it generates it.
You’re a power plant. You can generate opportunity. Remember, from the Emergence model whatever is missing is what you’re not giving. Life doesn’t happen to you. It happens through you and as you. You’re a storehouse of infinite riches, but you have to start circulating it by asking and by giving. So doing the 25 ways to manifest more is a very powerful practical way to begin to unlock possibilities and get the creative juices flowing, so that you’re not just thinking there’s one or two ways here, but there’s literally infinite organizing power. That means there is infinite ways that the Universe can manifest your need, infinite. So if you think there’s only one or two or 10, you haven’t even begun. As you start to come up with more and more ideas, the ideas start to mate with each other, and new ideas get born. It becomes this plus this equals this. So now the ideas on your list start to create a whole new level, other levels of possibility, insights, opportunities. It’s a very powerful practice, and if it’s hard to do 25, then do 30. If it’s easy to do 25, do 50. You want to stretch yourself. You want to get past the obvious and begin to really open up, and that doesn’t mean the obvious ideas aren’t great ones. It’s just you want to really let this be a process to activate your creative thinking mechanism.
Now you have a list of ideas, and then you want to look for the ones that you can begin to embrace right away, the low hanging fruit. I already mentioned some of those. If you’ve got clients, going back to old clients and revitalizing them is one of the fastest ways to get new business. Going to existing clients and looking for new ways to add value to them, or your existing clients or list, family, friends, etc. and offering a really great deal. Just offering your services to family and friends at a really great deal, or even offering it for free for the first time in order to enroll them into more, a bigger package or ongoing support or service, or whatever your talents, gifts, and abilities are. Beginning to look at all the possible areas that they could serve.
This is the very practical and pragmatic approach to manifesting more. Now, once you come up with a list, you want to create a plan, so that you’re actually going to do these things. You’re going to live on purpose, not on accident. You’re not going to wake up and hope. You’re going to trade in your wishbone for a backbone, and you’re going to actually have a plan and put it on your schedule, and then do it whether you feel like it or not. This is what builds character. This is what builds self-esteem. You’re also going to have a practice, a daily practice. Remember, this is part of the core Emergence work, what I call the LIFT practice, Living In the Feeling Tone. If you haven’t listened to that podcast yet, please listen to it. You want to have a practice through meditation, prayer, affirmation, and just the activities you do in your day and the people you hang out with, and the things you consume in terms of media, etc.
You want to begin to design a way of life that activates a feeling tone as if this thing you want to manifest is already done. Visualization, vibration, radiation process, you get a free download of that at my site, DerekRydall.com in the free resources. I invite you to do that on a daily basis, and even more than once a day. You can use the LIFT practice to begin to refine and design your life and your relationships and your conversations so that you are eliminating things that bring your vibration down and put you in a state of lack, limitation, fear, doubt, and worry, which are not congruent with where you want to be. That’s tuning you into station K-LACK, instead of K-RICH. Then designing things into your life that do tune you into K-RICH, movies, music, TV, magazines, conversations, friends, environments that make you feel connected, abundant, successful, expanded, joyful, peaceful, grateful, etc. So that you’re building a way of life that begins to automatically lift you into the vibrational field where your dreams already are playing, that beat of abundance is broadcasting.
This is how you manifest more, more money, or more of anything. You understand the true nature of manifestation. It’s not making something happen that isn’t already there. It’s making that which is always happening tangible, visible, audible, manifest. You’re letting go of magical thinking, and you’re stepping into conscious action. You’re planning your life as if you’re doing all the work, then living in the context as if God is. You’re creating the 25 ways to manifest more. If 25 is hard, you do 30. If 25 is easy, you do 50. Then you’re developing the LIFT practice, so that on a daily basis through visualization, vibration, radiation, prayer, affirmation, and the design of your way of life, you’re creating an activation of the qualities of being that you’d be feeling if you were already living in the manifestation. So that you’re already there before it manifests, and then you begin to discover the true nature of freedom.
This is how you manifest more. Remember, that feeling tone, that sense of connection to the peace, the love, the joy, the gratitude, the inner sense of abundance, that is ultimately the real goal here. In all of your getting, get understanding. In all of your seeking, seek first the Kingdom of Heaven within, this Nirvana state, this state of peace, so that as you have this outer goal of manifesting more, which is fine, you have your real soul goal, your real evolutionary goal of in this moment being in peace, in joy, in gratitude, and for the next 30 minutes. Every 30 minutes or so you just check in again. Where am I? What’s my big success goal? How would I feel if I was living that? My goal now is just to be in that feeling tone, to be a state of peace.
As you do that, you build a subjective vibration. You attain the real goal of your soul, which is always a greater flowering of its own quality, its own nature. It doesn’t really care whether you have more money or more whatever. It only cares is more of it blossoming, and as that happens, that quality of consciousness clothes itself in form, as the more that you are now manifesting.
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by sublimity-001-main | Dec 27, 2023 | 2023, Emergence, Podcast, Spiritual Growth, Wealth and Abundance
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Some people think that life is largely against us, that life is the roll of the dice. As Einstein said, “The dice of God are always loaded.” It means that life doesn’t just happen, but life happens just. There is order. There is a certain pattern and lawfulness to life.
Chaos theory says if you step back far enough from what appears to be random chaos, you will see a pattern. You will see order. The Universe is not chaotic. It is chaortic.
What I really mean by ‘why life is set up to fail you’ is something I call the great betrayal, or the big betrayal. I talk about it in my Awakened Wealth work. It’s best to tell you by means of a story…
The basic story is how years ago when I was first on a spiritual path, and I had pulled out of society for the most part to go on this inward journey. I was doing all of the right things. I was doing so much deep inner work, and there was a lot of great benefits for it, a level of peace and joy and creativity that was emerging. At the same time, as that was emerging my bank balance was submerging. It was collapsing. It was going away, and eventually I found myself broke, literally living on a prayer, and sitting in my meditation chair in the middle of the room with a bill collector knocking at the back door and the landlord knocking at the front door, on the verge of being evicted. Having no human means to support myself anymore.
I was, to be quite honest, pissed off at God. I had what I call my Gary Sinise moment. I don’t think Forest Gump was even out at that point, but I know call it my Gary Sinise moment. Where he’s in Forest Gump, and he’s on the mast of the ship, and shaking his fist at the heavens and the storm and saying, “Bring it on, God.” I didn’t understand. How did all my efforts get me back to this place again where I was once again broke? I remember saying, “This stuff is either a bunch of BS, or there’s something real here. One way or the other I’m not getting up from this chair until I know. I’m not going to go through this cycle again and again anymore. I’m done.”
I sat in that meditation chair, and I sat and sat. Daylight turned to dusk. The crickets come out for their nightly chorus, and I began to wrestle my demons and get pinned to the floor.
At some point in the middle of the night this awareness broke through, and I don’t know if it was a voice or a thought, but it was definitely Divine awareness of guidance. It said, essentially, “You made your savings account your God.”
I had basically had a savings account, a nest egg, and I was leaving that alone as a form of security, but then putting all my extra things or whatever I was doing beyond any money that was coming in, if I needed more money I was just putting it on credit cards. I had built up this credit card debt, but I wasn’t touching the next egg. Little bit by little bit it dwindled until it was pretty much nothing. It said, “You made that savings account your God, your Source.” Essentially, thou shalt have no other gods before me. I half expected to turn around and see Moses there holding a tablet up, looking strangely like Charlton Heston!
As soon as that awareness broke through this peace came over me. It was like this pressure valve released, and all the stress drained away. The insight that came was that it’s literally designed this way – that you don’t put anything outside of you as your God, as your Source. When you make anything outside of you your Source of safety, supply, security, or support, it’s designed to fail you.
The reason is because when you make something outside of you your source what starts to happen? You start to give away your power to that thing or person you think is your Source.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to Emergence, the revolutionary path for radical life change. This is Derek Rydall, founder of the Law of Emergence, bestselling author of the book Emergence, and your guide on the side for this journey of awakening the full potential in every area of your life through this process and model of emergence. Today were going to be talking about why life is set up to fail you. Isnt that just a crazy title? Why would life be set up to fail us? Now some people think that life is largely against us, that life is a crap shoot, that life is the roll of the dice. As Einstein said, The dice of God are always loaded. It means that life doesnt just happen, but life happens just. There is order. There is a certain pattern and lawfulness to life. Chaos theory says if you step back far enough from what appears to be random chaos you will see a pattern. You will see order. The Universe is not chaotic. It is chaortic.
Why life is set up to fail you, and what I really mean by that its something I call the great betrayal, or the big betrayal. I talk about it in my Awakened Wealth work. Its best to tell you by means of a story. The basic story is how years ago when I was first on a spiritual path, and I had pulled out of society for the most part to go on this inward journey. I was doing all of the right things. I was doing so much deep inner work, and there was a lot of great benefits for it, a level of peace and joy and creativity that was emerging. At the same time, as that was emerging my bank balance was submerging. It was collapsing. It was going away, and eventually I found myself broke, literally living on a prayer, and sitting in my meditation chair in the middle of the room with a bill collector knocking at the back door and the landlord knocking at the front door, on the verge of being evicted. Having no human means to support myself anymore.
I was, to be quite honest, pissed off at God. I had what I call my Gary Sinise moment. I dont think Forest Gump was even out at that point, but I know call it my Gary Sinise moment. Where hes in Forest Gump, and hes on the mast of the ship, and hes shaking his fist at the heavens and the storm and saying, Bring it on, God. I didnt understand. How did all my efforts get me back to this place again where I was once again broke? I remember saying, This stuff is either a bunch of BS, or theres something real here. One way or the other Im not getting up from this chair until I know. Im not going to go through this cycle again and again anymore. Im done. I sat in that meditation chair, and I sat and sat. Daylight turned to dusk. The crickets come out for their nightly chorus, and I began to wrestle my demons and get pinned to the floor.
At some point in the middle of the night this awareness broke through, and I dont know if it was a voice or a thought, but it was definitely Divine awareness of guidance. It said, essentially, You made your savings account your God. I had basically had a savings account, a nest egg, and I was leaving that alone as a form of security, but then putting all my extra things or whatever I was doing beyond any money that was coming in, if I needed more money I was just putting it on credit cards. I had built up this credit card debt, but I wasnt touching the next egg. Little bit by little bit it dwindled until it was pretty much nothing. It said, You made that savings account your God, your Source. Essentially, thou shalt have no other gods before me. I half expected to turn around and see Moses there holding a tablet up, looking strangely like Charlton Heston.
As soon as that awareness broke through this peace came over me. It was like this pressure valve released, and all the stress drained away. The insight that came was that its literally designed this way that you dont put anything outside of you as your God, as your Source. Just think of it that way. Whatever language you like. If you dont like the word God thats fine. Think of it as Source, as the source of your life, as the source of your supply, your safety, your security, and your support. I basically said, When you make anything outside of you your Source of safety, supply, security, or support, its designed to fail you. The reason is because when you make something outside of you your source whatstarts to happen? You start to give away your power to that thing or person you think is your Source. If its a job you start to be less and less who you really are, or if theres something you really want to say or do you maybe dont, because youre afraid youll lose your source of employment.
You might be going right now, duh, Derek. My job is my source of employment. No. its actually not. If youve been following these teachings for some time, or any time, you know that thats true. Theres only one Source of everything, and that is God, or Divine Spirit, or whatever you want to call it, Uncle Joe if thats what you want to call it. Whatever you call it, you have to understand that its within you. This is what all the great teachers and teachings have ever said. The Kingdom of Heaven, the Nirvanic Realm, the Tao, whatever name, its within you. Within you is the center and the Source of all of creation. Not within your ego, not within your body, not within your personality, but within your consciousness, within your soul, which is your true nature and being. It is the Source of everything. Thats why the word for man in Sanskrit means the dispenser of Divine gifts. You are literally an opening, an instrument of the Universe, of Heaven. You are literally the opening, the portal through which all of infinity gets to pour forth. Nothing comes into this world unless it comes through us. Thats why from the Emergence model whatever is missing is what youre not giving, and whatever youre waiting for youre waiting with, and often weighing it down. This is ultimately the greatest wait loss program.
Heres what happens. When you make something outside of you your Source, whether its a bank account, a boss, a business, a client, you have to start manipulating and controlling and cajoling and twisting yourself into a pretzel to do and be whatever you think is necessary to get what you think you dont have, or to hold on to what you think someone can take away. Right? If you think its the government, or you think its your partner, your spouse, family members, whatever it is, you cannot truly be in a place of power, because you have to keep adjusting to something outside of you. If the economy starts to take a dive, you will panic, and you will start to withdrawal and shrink and constrict and adapt, which is the worst thing to do. To constrict and shrink in the face of contraction is exactly the opposite of what you need to do. You need to expand in the face of it. You cant expand if you think thats your Source. If you think the economy is your Source, and when it shrinks youre obviously going to shrink. Youre going to adjust. Youre going to cut back, cut down.
I remember years ago when I had this awareness. I had already had this official awareness, but it was one of the recessions, and my initial fearful response was to cut back, cut down, reduce my charitable giving, maybe even stop it for a time. What came through was, No. Were going to double it. I was like, What? What do you mean double it? It was the remembrance, you are the Source of infinite supply. Youre not beholden on whats going on out there. Nows a chance to prove it. I dont know if I doubled it, perhaps I did, but I definitely greatly increased it and began to give even more. On the other side of that so-called recession where so many people I knew their savings accounts, their income had shrunk. Some of them were even losing their homes. Mine had greatly expanded, perhaps even doubled or more. There was so much potential on the horizon, because I recognized and I practiced the truth that I was the Source, not I, Derek, but this I that I am, the same I that you are.
As you notice where youre giving your power away, you also begin to resent that Source, if its a person, if its a partner, a spouse, a boss, and you start to feel guilty or ashamed within yourself. You start to resent yourself. You start to feel cheated, betrayed. Just notice that. Notice wherever you feel someone is your Source. Notice your relationship to that person. Notice how you can feel used or cheated or betrayed so easily. Notice how theres elements of resentment. Notice how theres a part of you that wants to break away and perhaps even has from a rebellious standpoint. Notice the times where you have made something your Source, and its gotten worse and worse until eventually that source did fail you, did cheat you, did betray you. You may still be really hurting from that, like they really did cheat you, betray you, but no. They played their part exactly as they were supposed to.
The Universe is designed to fail you. Life is set up to fail you when you put your power, your source of safety, security, supply, or support in anyone or anything outside of you, so that ultimately you will come back home again to realize that everything you could ever need is within you. When you get hooked up with the Source within you, and really understand that it is everything you could ever need, now you begin to free yourself from these power plays. You begin to free yourself from all the resentment and feeling like a victim. You begin to heal those relationships. You begin to forgive others, release others, forgive them their debts. You realize nobody owes you anything. Nobody. Not even God. Its all within you.
Likewise, you begin to realize you dont owe anybody anything either, because its all within them too. That doesnt mean that you dont ask for help and that you dont help others. Its quite the opposite. Once you realize youre the Source, you know that you dont owe anybody anything, but because you know youre the Source of infinite good, you start thrilling in all the opportunities to give. Giving starts to be your greatest joy. Its like more and more all you want to do is give. You live to give. Then you start to look around and realize thats what all of life is doing. Look at nature. Its so abundant. Its so lavish. Its so opulent. This invisible presence of nature, it doesnt just give enough to get by. Are there just enough leaves to get by on the trees? Are there just enough stars to get by? Just enough grains of sand? Just enough species, just enough anything? No. Theres more than enough. Theres abundance. As the scriptural passage says, I have come that ye may have life and have it more abundantly. You start to realize that you play the same role. Its all that you can do to just keep giving and sharing and shining and circulating this infinite storehouse of good within you. Then you start to notice that you cant out give God. The more you give, the more life seems to give back to you, pressed down and overflowing. You cast your bread upon the waters of life by giving and giving, and it circulates around back to you multiplied.
Whats really happening is that the more you know youre Source, and you give from that consciousness that you are Source, you expand the portals of your consciousness. You become a bigger place. The Universe goes, Theres someone who knows who they are. Theres someone through which I can completely shine. The Universe pours more and more and more through you, because it wants to put itself on display. It says, You are my beloved, in whom now I am well pleased, and all that I have is yours. It just pours and pours through you, as you. That consciousness then manifests as what appears to be more and more situations where you are blessed, where you are rewarded, where you are given to.
In order to get to that state you have to begin the practice of fasting from getting, from seeking to get. You have to begin to notice all these places where life has seemed to fail you its because youve made something or someone outside of you your Source. You need to begin the practice of what I call the giving challenge where you begin to practice as if its actually true that everything is within you, because truth doesnt do you any good if you dont know it and if you dont live it. Thats why it says, You shall know the truth, and then the truth shall make you free. The truth doesnt just make you free, like electricity knowing that its everywhere doesnt do you any good unless youre plugged in.
Likewise faith without works is dead. You must act upon the good you know. You must live from it, live into it. It doesnt mean you have to start walking on water or give all that you have away to the poor. It does mean you have to begin to take steps in living and acting as if. Just start with those places where its a little uncomfortable, like when you go to work out for the first time you dont go and lift weights so heavy that it rips your muscles, because then you end up in the hospital and cant work out for the next month or longer. Heres my challenge to you. I want to invite you to take the giving challenge. Lets just say for the next seven days. You begin to write down all the places youve been looking to get something, to get love, validation, approval, support, supply. Anyone or anything youre trying to get something from or believe that they should be giving it to you, maybe youve even stopped trying, because youre resigned or resentful, write it all down. Then I want you to reverse the flow and become a giver.
Heres how the giving works. Its based on the Law of Circulation. You cannot give what you dont have. The first step is wherever youve been trying to get something you have to give it to yourself, whether its love, validation, appreciation, respect. You ask, what would it look like if I really loved or validated or appreciated myself? How would I act today or in this relationship or at the job or in this moment if I really, and then fill in the quality, loved myself, validated myself, approved or appreciated myself? How would I be today or in this situation? What would I do? What would I say? What would I stop doing? What would I do more of or less of? Thats the first step. You have to give it to yourself.
If its money youre trying to generate more in your life, if its something physical, you can do it a couple ways. One is you can look for ways to spend money on yourself in a way that you have withheld from yourself in the past or currently. It doesnt have to be major. Maybe its like you just wanted to get some organic apples, because theyre high in pesticides, but you find yourself going, I just cant do that. Its $0.99 extra. Youve wanted to get a massage, and maybe youre better at giving to others, but you just dont give it to yourself in those areas. Find some area like that. The other way you can work with money or physical things that youre trying to generate is ask, how would I feel about myself if I had more money, or if I had more of that thing? Maybe you would say, Id feel more confident, more powerful, more worthy. Then you can ask, if I truly treated myself as a person who is more worthy, if Ireally believed I was worthy, how would I show up today? If I really believed or felt confident, how might I show up today? Thats the first step. You cannot give what you dont have, so you begin to practice giving to yourself.
The second step is you cannot keep what you dont give away. So you have to now look to those places youve been trying to get and start to find ways to give the thing you were trying to get. If its a boss, youre looking for more respect, look for legitimate ways to give that boss more respect. You dont have to limit it there. You can try to give it in other places too. That would be the main focus. Youre giving it to yourself, you cannot give what you dont have. Youre giving it away, because you cannot keep what you dont give.
Then finally you cannot sustain what you dont receiver. You notice, just be aware where life or others are trying to give you something, love, validation, appreciation, respect, even if its in their own awkward way. Its actually love coming at you, and you can look in the area where youre struggling, but you can also be open to it anywhere. You start to notice how much is coming to you that you dont notice, that you take for granted, that you misinterpret. Not just from people, but just look around you and notice the chair youre sitting on. Its supporting you. Its giving you support. That sun thats shining is giving you Vitamin D and other nutrients, warmth. Just look around and begin to catalog and inventory all the things that are coming, and breathe it in. Somebody compliments you, they say, That dress is great. You notice how you might normally go, This old thing? Thats you deflecting that love. They mention something. They try to do something nice for you, and you want to immediately give it back to them. They give you a gift. You want to immediately give them a gift. Thats you not letting it in. When somebody compliments you, take it in, say thank you, and be quiet. Dont have to give them one back. They give you a gift. Thank you. Really take it in. You dont have to give it back.
Thats the Law of Circulation. Youre write down all the places youre trying to get. Youre going to fast for the next seven days from trying to get anything, and youre going to feast on the Law of Circulation and the giving, giving to yourself, giving to others, and then receiving. Its like one complete breath cycle. Breathing in, breathing out, and once you exhale all that out from your lungs naturally receiving the air back in again.
Now when I say youre fasting from getting that doesnt mean you dont get to keep doing stuff in life, that you dont get to keep going out there and trying and doing good work. Lets say you have a book, and you want to get it published. That doesnt mean you stop sending out query letters. Thats not what I mean. I mean you look at those areas where you believe theyre your Source, and you shift that dynamic. If you shift that dynamic you can still be asking for help, asking for a promotion, asking for a book deal, seeking out a new client, but its from an energy of knowing theyre not your source. Your good does not come from them, although it may come through them. Theyre a channel. Theyre not the Source. You, and you alone, are the source. You got it?
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Nowhere in the Universe is anything stuck. Energy is always moving – always flowing. Even when it’s stuck, it’s moving; it’s just moving in a very constricted spot.
No matter what situation you’re in, the reason why you think you’re stuck – the reason you feel stuck is that you have (A) an expectation of what the outcome should look like, (B) an expectation of what you should be like, of what you should be able to do, be, have, or create in that moment or under those circumstances.
Because of your expectations or perception that something or someone outside of you has to change in order for things to happen in the way that you want, you feel stuck. We hear things like, “I don’t have the money right now so I’m stuck”, “I can’t feel happy and joyful and grateful when I’m at a job that I dislike, so I’m stuck”, etc…
On it goes, where you’re putting the locus of power outside of you – in people, places, things, and conditions, even putting it in your current mental-emotional patterns – as if the current energy level, emotional pattern, or mental pattern is power over you: “I can’t write today because I’m uninspired”, “I don’t have the energy to exercise, so I’m stuck”.
At whatever point you feel stuck, there’s always something you can do to get the energy flowing in the direction that you want to be going. Whether it’s taking some action, having a conversation, acting regardless of how you feel, or doing some prayer or meditation around it, you can always do something.
Begin to activate the qualities of what it is you want to do or who you want to be. You are a Divine power plant – and a power plant doesn’t receive energy, it generates it. So, you don’t wait for inspiration, you generate it. How? By acting like a person who is inspired. You want to act from the point of knowing that you are the source of it, and then it generates.
Feeling stuck is an opportunity to discover just how powerful you are, how resourceful you are, and to develop your own wings so that you can fly into a much larger reality.
Listen to the audio to receive quantum healing around getting unstuck in any area of your own life – no matter what
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How to Get Unstuck No Matter What Welcome to Emergence, a revolutionary path for radical life change. This is Derek Rydall, the founder of the Law of Emergence, author of the best-selling book, Emergence, and your guide on the side for this powerful journey of awakening into our full potential through this model of Emergence, which is in many cases the complete reversal of so many of the ways weve learned that life operates. Its not something I made up. This is the perennial truth teaching. This is what all the great masters taught, even though its been often misunderstood and misinterpreted, that is the fundamental premise that everything you could ever want, hope or desire, or need is within you. Therefore, the world has nothing to give you, and the world cant take anything away. The world is a mirror, a canvas, and a feedback system. You are the dispenser of the Divine gifts of the Universe. You have come as a portal, an opening, an instrument of all of infinite good, here to shine it in the unique and unprecedented way. The more and more you realize this, the more you are freed from being a victim, the more you are freed from being at the whim of anything or anyone outside of you. You become a true catalyst for transformation, a powerful leader in whatever area you endeavor.
So, what were talking about in this particular session is how to get unstuck no matter what. This isnt so much about all the different specific things you can do in specific situations, like youre stuck on the side of the road, how do you get out of that? Youre stuck writing your book, how do you get out of that? Its more first and foremost a philosophical shift in understanding that stuckness is a state of mind. Its an illusion. Nowhere in the Universe is anything stuck. Energy is always moving, always flowing. Even when its stuck, its moving. Its just moving in a very constricted spot. The other thing is that no matter what situation youre in, the reason why we think were stuck– and I want you to follow along with the situation that you may be feeling stuck in. The reason we feel stuck is that we have (A) an expectation of what the outcome should look like, (B) an expectation of what we should be like, of what we should be able to do or be, or have, or create in that moment or under those circumstances.
We have some expectation. Because things arent appearing like that, were feeling stuck or afraid, or were not able to take action. Because of that expectation, or because of the false perception that we think that something or someone outside of us has to change in order for us to do, be, have, create or contribute in the way that we want; therefore, were waiting for that thing to change, and so we feel stuck. I dont have the money right now to do whatever, and so Im stuck. Im in a relationship, and this person pays all my bills, so Im stuck in this relationship. Im at a job that I hate, but I need to make a living, so Im stuck. I cant feel happy and joyful and grateful when Im at a job that I hate, so Im stuck. On and on it goes, where were putting the locus of power outside of us in people, places, things, and conditions, even putting it in our current mental emotional patterns. Well, I just feel depressed, so Im stuck. I just dont feel inspired, so Im stuck. I cant write today or do whatever my creative action is. I dont have the energy in my body, so Im stuck. I cant exercise today – as if the current energy level or emotional pattern, or mental pattern is power over us.
When you really step back and realize the thoughts, the feelings, and the sensations – all of that is part of the content of your consciousness. You, the witness, are the only point of power. Your thoughts arent power. Your feelings arent power, not even your body is a power. You, the Divine consciousness, the I am’ that you are, is the only point of power onto your life. As it says in some of the ancient scriptures, Youve been given dominion over everything. The I that you are, the witness, is the point of infinitepower and infinite resource. Theres never a lack of resource, theres only a lack of resourcefulness. If you look at the word resourceful, it means to be full of source again, to be resourced, reconnected to source. It doesnt mean to go out and get more stuff. So, no matter how many resources appear to be lacking outside of you, or even inside of you, because all thats just content, you have the power to be resourceful at any moment you choose.
As it says in the Bible that Gods manna falls fresh from heavy every day, and metaphysically or esoterically speaking, that means that the substance of life falls fresh over and over and over in this moment. It talks about if you try to hold on to it, it will rot in your hands. If you try to save it for tomorrow, it will rot, and you wont be able to eat it. So, always in this moment, there is fresh manna, fresh supply, fresh insight, fresh energy, but you have to reclaim dominion. You have to look at the thoughts and the patterns that you bought into, that this thought or this emotion or this body, or this person, or this condition, or this economy, or this job, or this family has to change before I can be unstuck. That is fundamentally false. In any moment, you can choose again. In any moment, you can start moving your attention, which moves your energy. Energy flows where your attention goes. Remember, from the Emergence model, if youre waiting on anything or anyone, whatever youre waiting for, youre waiting with and youre weighing it down. So, as I say, this is the ultimate wait loss program.
Just look at an area right now where you feel youre stuck. Ill give you some examples. For example, if you feel like you really want to write that book, but youre stuck because you dont know what to write about, then you want to ask the question, What could I do to move towards this vision? If you do the Night Pages where its talking about what I have, what I have accomplished, what I can do, what Im grateful for, and thats to begin to reverse the condition where we tend to look at life and say – Why dont I have? What havent I done? Why cant I do and whats missing for my life and therefore Im ungrateful and unhappy about. That becomes a habit from a place of survival, but you can reverse that. When you find yourself going, Well, I dont have this ability or this resource right now; I dont know what to write about, in the example of the book, you can say, Well, what do I know? What could I do? Sincerely ask that, and you might begin to hear – What I could research? How to come up with good ideas for a book? I could journal about what matters to me most, or I could take something Im interested in and just start free writing about it now. I dont have inspiration. Okay. So, remember you are a Divine power plant. A power plant doesnt receive energy, it generates it. So, you dont wait for inspiration, you generate it. How? By acting like a person whos inspired.
Same with if you dont feel like you have the energy to go exercise. You dont wait for energy. You go exercise, and you activate the energy, because its infinite, but it must be activated obviously, because if all of infinite energy was just to manifest within you it would completely annihilate you. It would annihilate all sense of your personality structures, right? It will annihilate the entire universe around you, too, right? It will just destroy everything. The energy has to unfold. It has to emerge. The governor on that, or the mechanism for that, is your activation of it based on your attention. So, youre never waiting for energy or inspiration. You are acting from the point of knowing you are the source of it, and then it generates.
So, maybe youre feeling like, Well, I cant even come up with an idea for the book, so just keep stepping it back. I cant write because Im just not inspired. I dont have any ideas. Okay. So, you ask, What do I have or what could I do? Youre like, Well, I cant even come up with an idea for the book. Im still stuck. Im even more stuck now. Then, I could say, Well, just start writing. You go, Oh, myhand is paralyzed. Im just giving you the worst case scenario. I cant even write. I cant even move and lift my hand. Im stuck. Okay, What can I do? What can I do? What can I do? You keep asking. You start to go, well, I could visualize the life of my dreams as a published writer, writing, publish, impacting people. I could spend the next 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes really getting into that vision and really feeling it, really seeing myself writing in the books, piling up impact in the world and the financial remuneration and whatever. Now, you notice whats happening? Youre not feeling stuck. Youre starting to feel inspired. Youre starting to feel juices flowing, and maybe you even get inspired with an idea of what to write. You could be in that visualization, take it to the end, and then look down and see, What are the kinds of books Ive written? You might notice a title or an idea popped in, and suddenly youre off to the races.
The point is at whatever point you feel stuck, theres always something you can do to get the energy flowing in the direction that you want to be going, whether its taking some action, whether its having a conversation, whether its acting regardless of how you feel, which is very, very critical, whether its imagining it, whether its doing some prayer or meditation around it. You can always do something. Youre in a relationship, and you feel like my story where I felt completely stuck at my waiters job. I needed the money. I thought I needed the job. I thought there was no other better job that I could have found at that time. The place was making me miserable and all. I thought it was making me miserable. On and on and on, I just felt so stuck, but as I begin to ask, what can I do, I begin to realize, well, I can begin to cultivate the feelings and the sense of if I was living my ideal life and my ideal dream job. I can start to activate those feelings in me through the various tools that we teach.
As I begin to do that, I begin to feel a little better, and I thought what else can I do? I can begin to show up and be more like the person I really want to be regardless of the situation. I can be more loving, more kind, more generous, more of service, more excellent. I begin to do that, and I was like, Wow! Look at that. I can do that. I began to feel even better, and I thought, I can begin to really look at myself and take responsibility for all the places Im blaming or projecting.I begin to do that and I begin to feel more empowered, and then I got fired, and I came back, and I did it again, and I got fired. I came back, and I did it again. What it was is every time I felt like I was up against the wall, I felt like I was stuck, I went back to: What can I do so that I can show up more fully for my life, and I begin to activate the feelings, the being, take a more productive action, be more the person I really wanted to be, do the inner healing work and step by step, I grew so big that that place could no longer hold me. So, I came from a place where I felt completely stuck to outgrowing it into a whole new world of possibilities.
Its like the example of the chicken and the egg. The chicken eventually grows to a point where its completely run out of room. It’s cramped and stuck in a small egg shell, nowhere to go, no way out, or so it seems. It runs out of food, so now it’s hungry, and theres nowhere to get more resources, or so it seems, and then it’s surrounded by its own waste matter. So, it smells, it stinks, it’s hungry and it’s cramped. It’s completely stuck. Now, to that self-consciousness like some of us, you might have started to complain, Oh, God, why have you forsaken me? Why did my parents abandon me? Why did they put me to such terrible situation? Whats my karma, my past life, my astrology, my numerology, picture-ology? It would have spun around and around, exhausted itself, eventually given out and maybe even died, but instead, what did that chicken do, that little baby chick? It starts to focus on where might there be some nourishment? It goes on a journey of searching for whatever little bit of nourishment there is. It doesnt focus on whats missing. It focuses on what is. It begins to find a little nourishment there, a little nourishment there, enough to get it by.
As its doing that, its also pecking, because thats how it looks for nourishment. As its pecking, its strengthening its neck muscles and its lung muscles. Its cracking the shell until eventually it sets free into a much larger life, and its no longer stuck. Because sometimes when were stuck, we just wish and pray that somebody would come and save us – God or a family member or a partner or whoever. If that chicken was just saved, somebody just cracked it open and let it free, Oh, you poor thing, youre so stuck,it would have died, because it wouldnt have gone through the transformational trial to build the strength and the muscles and its lungs and wings to survive in a larger world. The same is true for you. Where youre feeling stuck, not only that youre now stuck, but its an opportunity to discover just how powerful you are, how resourceful you and to develop your own wings so that you can fly into a much larger reality.
So, this is your invitation, this is your challenge to look at that area where youre feeling stuck and go to this process and discover how you can begin to get yourself unstuck. Start to make a game of it, start to look for other places where you feel stuck, and do this process and get unstuck. Please come share your insights, your breakthroughs, even your miracles in our Facebook page. If you want more tools to support you, go to derekrydall.com and go to the blog and get free tools there as well and the latest show notes for the podcasts. You can also, if you havent already done so, register for this podcast on iTunes so that you make sure you get them while theyre hot and not miss any of them and not lose out on all the archives before we archive them. So, go ahead and do that now. Please leave a review and share it with a friend if you think it can help. Thank you so much for being here and being part of this community of Emergineers. Until next time. Remember to live authentically, love unconditionally and follow your destiny.
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As you begin to grow in this awareness of the Emergence principles and how life really operates, you start to discover that what you do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes you get.
Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, “You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.”
We understand in metaphysics and quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at is what actually determines the outcome. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest-station. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem.
Problem, when you understand it means emblem – it’s a symbol. A problem or challenge is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency.
If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, or it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So, how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency.
When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH, the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there! That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists; 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hot water on it, but what’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice.
That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, or in a community, in the government, a corporation or a culture, etc., don’t often work, because we are still at the same frequency, and just moving things around at that level.
We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, or separation. We may try to cover over all of that by controlling or manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, or by having stricter rules… All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice – the ice dissolves.
When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem or change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, “Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.”
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At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. It’s also why you can’t fight fire with fire (except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works.) The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because we’re still operating, in many cases, at the same level of the problem. What you resist persists, what you fight you fuel.
So, to move into the solution state of mind, you must understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or circle of the problem, and you want to, as quickly and easily as possible, move yourself into the frequency of the solution. You want to bring yourself back into a congruent, receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are, where evolution, real healing and growth happens.
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[The following is the full transcript of this episode of the Emergence, A Revolutionary Path for Radical Life Change, with Derek Rydall Podcast]
Welcome to Emergence, this is Derek Rydall, your guide on the side instead of the sage on the stage, author of the bestselling book Emergence, and founder of the process the Law of Emergence. It’s just so great to have you here, as we take another deep dive on this journey of engineering the full emergence of our life, our potential, and our deeper purpose. Today we’re talking about the solution state of mind, and this is really a powerful thing to understand, because, as you begin to grow in this awareness of these principles and how life really operates, we start to discover that what we do, although it’s very important to take action, it’s an extension of consciousness, it’s a dimension of consciousness, that was we do in and of itself is not going to determine the outcomes we get. Ultimately, as the old metaphysical axiom says, to he or she who is right in mind they can do all the wrong things, and it will often still turn out right, but to he or she who is wrong in mind they can do all the right things, and it will still turn out wrong. We see that even as Einstein said, You cannot solve a problem at the level of thinking that created it.
We understand in metaphysics, quantum physics, that the frequency or the vibration that you’re at, that’s actually what’s determining the outcome. I’ve used the analogy often that it’s already happening. The good that you want, the answer, the solution, the opportunity, the abundance, etc. it’s already here. Much like you are inundated with radio broadcasts right now, and in the midst of those broadcast somewhere your favorite music is playing, but it’s not yet a manifest part of your experience. When you tune the dial of your frequency so that that receiver or frequency matches the frequency where that music is playing, that station becomes manifest. You have what I like to say a manifest station. Now, where was the music before you tuned into it? It wasn’t in the distance. You didn’t have to take your radio and run down the street and catch it. It wasn’t in the future. You didn’t have to sit there and wait for it to show up, and when you tuned into that station you didn’t have to make the music happen. The music was already happening, but you had to make it welcome. You had to dial into that same frequency. The distance between you and your music is a distance in frequency.
The same is true for your solutions. For whatever challenge you face, the solution is a reality that already exists, but it exists, hear this, at a higher or different frequency than the frequency of the problem. Problem, when you understand it means emblem, it’s a symbol. A problem, a challenge, is a symbol of a state of consciousness, a particular frequency, and you can never solve a problem, any more than you can solve a frequency. Right? I mean, that’s just a frequency. If you’re turned into station K-LACK, and it’s playing the blues all day, and it’s gossiping and complaining and talking about all this negative stuff in the world, and it’s making you feel horrible, that’s a problem. You can’t solve that problem at that frequency. You can’t solve that frequency. That’s what’s playing on that station. So how do you solve it? You have to tune up the dial to station K-RICH, to a higher frequency. When you tune out of K-LACK into K-RICH the problems you are experiencing on K-LACK they’re no longer there, right? That particular music becomes unmanifest. It goes back into the invisible, inaudible state that it was to begin with, and the music that you really want to hear, that beat of abundance, that symphony of success, now that you’re tuned into that, it becomes manifest. It becomes a part of your experience.
So a problem cannot be solved. It exists. It’s a frequency. Just like ice cannot be solved at the level of temperature where ice exists. 32 degrees Fahrenheit or below, you have ice. No matter what you do to get rid of that problem, you’ll still have the problem if you’re still living at 32 degrees. You can pour hotwater on it. What’s going to happen? It’s going to become more ice. You can chip it away. What’s going to happen? Condensation will produce more ice. So no matter what you do you’ve always got the problem, the proclivity of the problem, the propensity of the problem, the worry, doubt, and fear of the problem, because you’re living at the level of the problem, at the frequency. As Einstein said, at the level of thinking that created it.That’s why so many of our attempts to solve problems individually, in a community, and in the world, in the government, etc., in a corporation or a culture, the reason why they don’t work often is we are still at the same frequency, at the same level, but we’re just moving things around. We’re reorganizing the people, places, and conditions, but it’s still coming from that level of thinking, from that perception of lack, limitation, fear, separation, whatever, and now we’re going to try to cover over all of that by controlling more, by manipulating more, by adding more on top of it, by having stricter rules. All of that is this substructure of coping, survival, and defense mechanisms we put on top off this vibration or frequency that’s creating the problem. What we find is that the same problem breaks out in new ways. It’s another reason why for the common prisoner the recidivism rate is so high. The problem itself hasn’t been solved, because it never can be.
So how do you deal with it then? You must rise above that temperature. When you rise above 32 degrees, what happens to the ice? You don’t solve the ice. The ice dissolves. When you tune to a higher frequency on the station you don’t solve the problem and actually change the station of K-LACK. That’s still broadcasting, but it dissolves out of your experience, and what manifests is that higher frequency you’re now tuned into. That’s also why Einstein said, Arrows of hate have been shot in my direction many times, but they no longer can touch me or hurt me, because they come from a world I no longer inhabit.At a frequency there are manifestations, condensations, coagulations, formations, and they exit at that frequency. At 32 degrees and below you have ice. At other degrees you have steam. You have gases. You have solids. You have different expressions at different levels. Right? That’s just the way it is. So you cannot solve it. The problems don’t get solved, they dissolve as you evolve. So the only way to solveour problems is to actually take our attention off the problem long enough to rise in conscious, vibration, or frequency to rise outside of the circumstance or the circle of the problem, and as we evolve the problems dissolve. They literally cannot exist at that new higher or different frequency. They cannot exist there. That’s not where they live. Ice doesn’t live at 50 degrees. It lives at 32 degrees and below. So if you start living at 50 degrees, you’re not going to have ice. You’re not going to have the problem of ice.
At the vibration of love, hatred doesn’t exist there. It’s not that love solves hatred. It’s that hatred is an expression. Now, I could go down the rabbit hole and explain to you that really hatred is actually on the spectrum of love, but let’s not go there right now. Rather to understand that hatred is an expression or manifestation or formation of a certain vibration or frequency. You can’t solve hatred at the level of hatred, which is why two wrongs don’t make a right. Which is why you can’t fight fire with fire, except in the forest, which actually in that case fire works, but, again, that’s a different physics issue. The key is that that’s why so many of our attempts to go to war and try to crush terrorism doesn’t work, because the actual problem, we’re still operating in many cases at that same level. We’re still killing and fighting and hating and having a justified reason for killing, fighting, and hating. There is no justification. Justifying it doesn’t change the frequency. In many cases it keeps you stuck at the lower frequency.
It’s also why when we’re trying to solve our own problems, our own challenges, but we’re stuck at the level of the problem, we are struggling to figure it out, to make it better, to improve it, to fix it, and we find that either it gets worse, which is often the case, or we solve what appears to be this problem of lack in one area, and it breaks out in another area. We finally solve our problem of lack, and we get a job, and then our plumbing goes wrong, and we have to use all that money we just made to pay for the plumbing. We finally solve our problem of not having enough and get a check for $500, and then our car breaks down, and it costs us $500. How many of you have experienced that? It’s because you’re just rearranging deck chairs on the Titanic. You’ve manipulated conditions. You’ve manipulated mentally, emotionally, and physically, but fundamentally you’re still living at the same level of consciousness, the same core pattern of your heart or mindset, which is then producing another version of that same frequency. Now it’s just showing up in your bank account, and then next month it shows up in your body, and next month is shows up at your business, and the next month it shows up in your relationship. You’re just rearranging, moving it from one place to the next, but the problem persists. Ultimately it tends to magnify and get worse. So how do you solve a problem? You have to rise above it. you have to get outside of it. I often use the analogy of a racecar driver. A racecar driver, they learn that when you’re spinning out of control towards a wall, which is the problem, if you focus on the problem, aka the wall, you’re going to hit it. It seems very counterintuitive. You feel like, I’ve got to look at that wall to make sure I don’t hit it, but if you do, you will, because the hands follow the eyes, and you turn right into it. So instead you’re trained to look away from the wall and to look towards the road, look towards the finish line, look towards the next turn. Look to where you want to go, not what you are spiraling out of control towards. Look to the solution, the opportunity, the vision, not towards the problem. Sometimes when you’re learning this the trainer that’s training you how to drive has to literally grab your head and force you to look, because everything in your instincts has been conditioned to focus on the problem, to focus on the wall. It feels utterly unnatural to not look at that wall, because otherwise you’re going to crash. Of course, again, the irony is if you do, you are going to crash.
So you look away, and as you look away your hands follow your eyes, and you start to turn out of the spin and pull out of the spin. Interestingly, even when you do that, depending on the momentum you’ve got in that spin, you’re still sliding towards the wall. You have to be aware of that, because you’re turning, you’re focusing on the solution, on the road, but you’re still sliding towards the problem, and there’s a great temptation. It’s a very precarious moment where you might go, it’s not working, it’s not working, and then you look back to the wall, and you get to observe as you crash into it. It takes a degree of courage, degree of trust, and ultimately discipline to become solution focused, not problemfocused, to be a vision holder, not a problem solver.
That doesn’t mean you aren’t aware of the challenge and the problem. It doesn’t mean you’re not aware that there’s a wall there. You are aware of it, but your focus, your attention is on the road, on the solution. So this moves us into a solution state of mind is where the solutions exist. I know that sounds obvious, but it’s not obviously seen or understood when we’re in the moment. Again, it seems counterintuitive to not focus on the problem. It seems from our defensive nature that if we take our eye off the problem it’s going to get us. It’s going to sneak attack us. It’s going to take advantage of us. That’s an old artifact of our evolution where we were trained to see the problems very quickly in any new environment. The rustling of the branches means there could be a sabretooth cat there, or particular elements left behind could show that there was an enemy encampment before, etc. So we’ve been trained and conditioned as a matter of survival, but what helped us survive as a human experiment is now the very mechanism that puts us on the brink of extinction. If not total human extinction, it stagnates us and keeps us stuck at the level we are in our own individual lives, our own individual businesses. So to move into the solution state of mind we have to understand that all solutions exist outside of the frequency or energy or circle of the problem, and that we want to as quickly and easily as possible move ourselves into the frequency of the solution. Again, I’m going to say that. What we want to do when we encounter a problem is instead of reacting to it and resisting it, what you resist persists, what you fight you fuel. If you fall into quicksand and you fight it, it pulls you down, and you die. If you are in a problem, and you wrestle it, fight it, resist it, it pulls you down. It anchors you to that energy of the problem and makes it more easy to get stuck there, and then most, if not all, of the things you try to do to solve it, first off all, we’ll most likely not solve it, but if it seems to temporarily create a solution it’s almost always a stopgap solution. The problem almost always returns, and in many cases it returns with even more velocity and more ferocity, because all of that resistance. Think of it like holding a beach ball underwater. You’re using all this energy now to hold the problem down and create this solution on top of it, and the minute you relax, that ball flies up and hits you in the face. You’ve all had that experience.
This is not a game of Whack-a-Mole. You just keep hitting the mole, and another one pops up, another one pops up. That’s not how to really solve problems. As Gandhi said, We must be or become the change we want to see in the world, and that includes our own individual world. So when you’re in a problem, you want to as soon as possible shift your awareness and attention to asking the question, not how do I solve the problem, but what is the change I want to see in the world? What’s the change I want to see in my world? Let’s say suddenly you get a bill, and it’s this huge bill, and you can’t afford it, or something like that. You get worried, or you get frustrated. You get angry. Then you try to make calls and complain. This isn’t right. There’s a mistake, or frantically try to scrounge up new opportunities or clients or whatever the case may be. You’re operating at the level of the problem, and energetically and vibrationally you’re tuning and staying tuned in, and even creating a preset on the dial of station K-LACK. Instead you want to go take a breath, and ask, what is the change I want to see in my life? You might immediately go, I want to see this bill paid, and that’s okay. That’s a start. Then go another step further. What is the change I would want to see and need to see in my life in order to pay the bill? Then you sense into that. What you hear is, I have more money. You keep asking, how much more money? If somebody gave you a dollar, that would be more money. How much more? Let’s say the bill is $500. I have at least an extra $1,000. You just sit with that, and you go, is that all the change I really want? What other real change is this challenge inviting me to open up to? As you breathe and sink into it, you kind of hear or feel, I really want to have a level of financial freedom. I don’t want to have to worry about money anymore. Notice that little subtle shift. I don’t want to have to worry about money. You’ve just turned your head back towards the wall again about what you don’t want. That’s the problem. So you go, but what do I want? I want to have enough that I can joyfully express my life, I can have more time with my family, or I can have more time to do creative stuff. Now you’re getting back to the solution. You’re turning back towards the road, towards the finish line.
I want to have enough money that I can spend time doing the things I really want, being with the people I really want, being the person I want to be. As you keep unpacking that, you ask specifying questions. If I got to be the person I wanted to be, who would that person be? As you sense into that, you hear, I’d want to be a person of peace. I’d want to have more joy. I want to be more playful, creative, spontaneous. Brilliant. Write that down. You go, who are the people you’d want to spend more time with? I want to spend more time with my kids, with my husband, with my friends. What would that look like? I would go on that vacation, or we would have a date night. You start to describe and articulate that. What else? I’d want to be doing more of the things that I really want to do with my heart and my art. What specifically? I really want to write that book, or paint that painting, or put on that art show, or start that business. Great. Write it all down.
Now stop for a minute and notice, what have you just discovered? This problem called this unexpected bill was really carrying a message. Your problems are your prophets. They’re bringing you a prophecy, a message of the vision that’s trying to unfold. So this problem is really trying to open you up to discover there’s a larger life that you’re being called to live, that you’re aching to live, that’s seeking to emerge, but all your coping mechanisms have kept you playing small. So now this problem shows up to crack you back open and say, there’s a bigger vision here. There’s a bigger possibility. Your heart has a deeper desire. You’re meant for more. You’re capable of more.
Now you articulate that vision, and even notice as you start to move your energy and think about the bigger vision and dwell on it and imagine it, how do you feel? When the bill came in you constricted. Your heart closed. Your mind clamped down. Your body felt constricted. As you start to move and ask these emergence questions, these solution focused questions, these vision based questions, you feel your heart start to open again, your mind start to expand, your body relax. Energetically, vibrationally, you’ve just moved up a few degrees. You’re maybe not at 32 anymore. Maybe you were at 10, and now you’re at 20. You might still be in the realm of ice, but you’re moving up the scale. You might not be on K-LACK anymore, but you might be still in static, but at least you’re not hearing the blues and all the gossip. It’s just static. It’s not entirely tuned into K-RICH yet, but it’s still an improvement. You follow? Now we take it the next step. Now you really feel into that vision. You give yourself the time to really visualize it, to really feel what it feels like to live that vision, to be that person, and then you do the visualization-vibration process, where you breathe into that energy, and as you exhale you let it expand to fill your body, and then breathe and exhale again and radiate it into your life, radiate it to this seemingly challenge, and just feel yourself as a radiant being of this energy. Now we move. We are now in what’s called a more receptive, available, congruent state of mind, and we can now ask the question, from this place, what am I called to do, to do more of, to do less of, or to do differently, to bring about a solution with ease and grace and dignity? From that place it’s like you’ve now tuned into a higher quality station, and there are higher quality answers. First of all, you don’t just merely receive the answer, but vibrationally you are now becoming the answer. From that place you might be inspired with an idea, a bit of guidance, direction. So that’s the next stage.
The first stage is you’ve hit the problem, breathe, turn your attention toward asking those solution based, vision based questions. Then as you do that you continue to ask specifying questions until you’ve unpacked a vision for your life, the change you want to see in the world, in your world, or beyond. Now you start to have a sense of a vision. You write it down, and then Step 3, you visualize. You use the angel of your imagination to activate the visionary vibration, to feel what it feels like to already be the answer, to be living the solution, and even beyond a mere solution. Notice, it’s no longer just pay the bill. It’s a vision of a life of so much more joy and abundance and possibility. That expands your energy, and then the fourth step you radiate it, really that’s still part of the third step. You radiate it. You fill yourself with it. The fourth step is you now ask from that new state of mind, that solution state, what activity, what am I called to do or not do, to do more of or less of or different, in order to bring about a solution to this with ease and with grace, even with peace and joy? Then you sit with that, and you allow it to bubble up.
At any point in this you might get snagged and pulled back, because you’re still sliding towards that wall to some extent, because the problem has not yet been solved. The temptation will be to get frustrated and go, I just got to solve this problem now, and you just turn back to the wall. When that happens, you breathe again. You come back. You breathe again. You turn your attention back to the road. You keep doing that and asking that question, and then journaling what comes up. Okay?
The fifth stage is you want to ultimately and eventually design a way of life so that this is where you live from on a regular basis. So you’re not just waiting for problems to activate this process, but you take the great vision of your life, and you start to design a way of life around that visionary vibration, around the qualities of feeling and being, and the proactive actions of doing. So that you are now thinking and feeling, walking and talking, in a way that is integrity with this larger vision. In other words, most of your attention is focused on the finish line and racing around that track, versus more and more of your attention focused on the wall that is always just out of your periphery that you could crash into any moment. Most of your attention is focused on the road, on the way, on the finish line, on the vision. That becomes the way of life, and you’re just going around and around and growing and winning the race of your life on a regular daily basis. That becomes a way of life, and if you want to have more in depth understanding of how to do that, I highly encourage you to check out the podcast in here that talks about the LIFT practice, which stands for Living In the Feeling Tone of your vision. That allows you to really take this to the next level.
There’s another level to which this is very valuable. If you’re a coach, a healer, a teacher, or a parent, even a friend of someone, when a friend or a child or a client comes to you, and they’re stuck in the problem, or a spouse, one of the worst things to do is immediately try to solve it and give them answers and solutions at that level. They’re not yet receptive or available or congruent. So instead what you want to begin to tease out of them in a subtle way is to move their attention toward a higher, more congruent, more quality state of being. So they might come to you, a child, like, That jerk Steve at school; he’s such a jerk. Maybe the child comes to you who’s had a fight with a sibling, Bobby is such a mean brother. I hate him.It’s like, What did Bobby do? Tell me what Bobby did, or What did that jerk at school do?You can’t judge people. Don’t talk about those people like that. All of those are adding fuel to the fire. It’s resistance, and they won’t be able to hear it, or they’ll just feel unseen, unheard, unloved, and they’ll rebel. Instead, you move them slowly, and sometimes creatively and dramatically, into being solution oriented or being receptive. You start with, Wow. You’re really upset, aren’t you? So now they feel seen or acknowledged. That’s a step towards them feeling a more positive feeling tone. Do you see that? Then you might say, Tell me what happened. That does bring them back into the problem, but it’s part of them feeling heard, which is like oxygen to a person who’s struggling. So you really listen. That must have been really hard or really scary, or that must really hurt you when they did that.Yeah. It really did. They kind of take a breath, and you’re like, Honey, I’m so sorry you experienced that. I’m so sorry you’re feeling that. You embrace them, or whatever seems appropriate that they’re available for, and now that’s the next level. Now they feel seen, they feel validated, they feel understood, heard, maybe even loved, and you’ll notice they start to calm down a little bit. They might even say, What do you think we should do about it?
Now, it depends on the situation, but let’s say they’re complaining. Let’s say your child comes to you, or a client, and they’re struggling with some issue, like Look at my report card. Look at, I got a C on there or a D, or I lost a client. I lost one of these people in my business, or I didn’t make enough money this month, or whatever the problem is. You might go, That’s really rough. That’s really hard. I really understand that. Then you might say, Tell me more about your business. You’re just expanding the conversation. They might be like, It’s this kind of a business. We do these kind of things.That’s really interesting. Remind me again, why are you doing this business? What is it about it you love?I mean, it’s my mission, my purpose, to help people or create this kind of product, or make this kind of difference.That’s beautiful. What really inspires you about that? Where did that come from?When I was a kid,or I see people suffering, and I just feel like I can make a difference.Have you made a difference sometimes? Tell me about some of the moments you have.Of course, I’ve got a lot of people that are happy clients.Tell me about it. When’s the last time you really felt like you made a positive difference?You just keep teasing it out. Tell me about what’s working in your business. Whatever. You begin to get their attention focused on, I mean, this is great, and I love this, and I’m passionate about this. You notice them start to breathe, start to relax, start to expand. You feel the energy. You’ve now put them in a more receptive solution state of mind. They are more congruent now energetically, emotionally, mentally, with the place they want to live in, with the place they want their life to go. Do you see? Then you can even go a little further and say, What would be your ultimate vision of this business or of your clientele? Now you extend them to even a grander vision and really get them pumped up and on fire with it. Now from that place you go, So from this place, notice how you’re feeling right now. What’s one thing you could do to grow your revenue this month, or to get a new client? Now from that more receptive place they’re actually more available to their innate wisdom, to their innate genius, to that perfect plan within them. You see that?
Same thing with a child. They’re focusing on that C or that D on their report card, and they’re beating themselves up, or they’re scared of what dad’s going to think, and you’re like, Tell me. Do you like that math class?No. I hate it. It sucks.What about these other classes? Do you like any of your classes?I really like art, or I really like English. I love reading.Tell me more about that. What do you love about that? I’d love to hear. They might resist. They might go, I don’t care about that. What am I going to do about this C?I totally agree. We’re going to figure that out, but I’m just really curious, because I’m trying to help see what else is going on in your school, because there might be a clue there for us to help you discover why that C happened. So I’d just love to know what class you love.I really love English.What do you love about it?I love reading.Tell me about something you’ve read lately that you really love.We just read Tom Sawyer, and Tom Sawyer is so cool. I wish I could be like Tom.Wouldn’t that be fun? How would you be in your life now if you could be more like Tom?I certainly wouldn’t let people tell me what to do, and I would really honor my vision, or I would create something or go on a great adventure.What kind of adventure would you like to go on?It’d be kind of cool if we could go on river trip or something.That would be really fun, wouldn’t it?
You start to get them excited, and then you can expand it. If you could bring this kind of adventurous spirit to your school, to your classes, what would you want to do?I don’t know. I’ve been thinking I’d like to do this or do that. You are growing their awareness of what’s possible. You’re making them connected, more congruent, and now you say, What do you think you could bring that we’ve been talking about, like this Tom Sawyer adventurous? How would Tom Sawyer think about this C on his report card? Tom Sawyer wouldn’t care. He wouldn’t let that C get him down.Tom does sound pretty cool.He’s really cool.So maybe that’s great place you could play and act like you’re Tom Sawyer, and not let it get you down. What else would Tom Sawyer do if he knew that he wanted to bring that grade up? It’s not that big of a deal, but what else might he do?Tom Sawyer would find some creative or adventurous way to deal with it, and on and on and on, until you help the child discover their more receptive congruent place, or the client, or the friend, etc.
Now, if it’s a spouse, a person that is truly your equal, or a friend, and you’re not their parent or authority, and their not your client, it’s a little different in the sense that you’re not teaching them. You’re not there to be their coach or their teacher. You’re there to be their friend or their lover. So you just want to be mindful of that. You can still ask questions that open up and really listen and let them express themselves and feel heard and seen and valued and loved, and sometimes that is enough. If you’re a man, and you’re talking to a woman, most of the time the woman doesn’t even want you to solve the problem. The woman just wants to feel heard and seen and held and loved. Then she’s fine, and she’ll go solve it. There might come a moment where she’s feeling better, she’s feeling loved, and you say, Is there anything else I can do to support you? Anything else you want to talk about to try to solve this? If not, that’s fine, but just want you to know I’m here. She might say, Thanks, I’m really good now. It’s not that big of a deal after all, or I don’t know. If you have any ideas, I’d love to hear them. Whereas if you start right out of the gate with that she’s not going to be able to hear it, because she’s gasping for air, and she needs oxygen. With a man, even though men like to solve things, and I know I’m being somewhat stereotypical, the masculine likes to, the man still wants to feel seen and valued, appreciated and respected. So you really listening to him and validating him and understanding him, and then noticing within the story the things he’s doing good and right and absolutely validating those. That’s going to make him feel back in his power again. That’s going to make him feel good about himself again. It’s going to make him feel good about his relationship, and then there might be an opening. You want to wait for the opening. You might say, Is there anything else I can do to help you? I’m here. I just want you to know that. You might get, Thanks, but I’m good. I got it. He might say, I don’t know. If you have any ideas, sure. Then you can share. Unless that opening comes, you don’t want to be advice giving and counseling and coaching your spouse. A word to the wise. I learned the hard way, because I did so much coaching it was just natural, and also being a man it’s natural for my masculinity to want to solve problems.
You can see how this same idea of bringing yourself or bringing a loved one or a client into a solution state of mind. If you’re a minister or whatever, a manager of a team, the same thing applies. You want to bring people back into a congruent receptive solution state of mind. That’s where the answers are. that’s where evolution happens. That’s where real healing and growth happens. That’s where we have the greatest most resourceful presence of being, and when you bring the attention back there, whatever is truly meant to unfold next now has an opening to do that.
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